The child is too honest, how to change his personality

Q]: My son is 4 and a half years old this year, he has been more honest since he was a child, he will always be beaten by children in kindergarten, but he is a guy who fights and does not fight back, how should I guide a good way to make him courageous, and I don't like to take the initiative to greet strange children, and always love to watch cartoons at home, I don't like to go out, and recently I fell in love with Superman, no matter dressing, shoes, toys, learning posture, questioning is Superman, a little uncomfortable, just cry, Until we transfer to his hobby will be in a better mood according to him, I don't know if this hobby will be transferred for a period of time, if there is no thing he likes in the mall, he will always be unhappy or cry or read it for a long time, good explanation has no effect, angry at him plays a role but is afraid of hurting his self-esteem, it has a bad effect on him, I don't want to be angry with him from time to time, it looks strange and pitiful, and he has a sense of fear of me. What should I do?

Sometimes when I do something wrong, I murder him to make him stand still, he really doesn't move (as long as you can), and it is useless for others to persuade him, until I say that you are liberated, he is finished, but afterwards he is always a little afraid of me (like a mouse seeing a cat). It feels like this and I already have a fear of him in his mind, right, how should I educate him? [A]:

For the so-called honest personality, from the premature care of parents, your evaluation of the child, but also contributed to the child's weakness, from now on tell the child is a brave and strong man, from your heart to the child's understanding must also change, he is not a timid child, is a strong child, in the face of such a child, you don't want to be fierce, you have to play the weak body to let him protect.

Children are too honest, what should parents do?

Before changing your honest personality, you must first change your own mentality, because only when you realize the shortcomings of your existing personality and have "the idea of changing" can you start the next behavior. The next step is to reposition your personality, just like going to the mall to buy clothes, you have to find what you like and what fits.

The choice of personality can be outward-looking, so that you can gradually become enthusiastic and lively, and if you don't like it, you can also make yourself a person who "has a city". Don't disdain to become a person with a city, an honest person can become a city, it can be regarded as a success, this kind of person is similar to an honest person in the past, they often suffer losses, are calculated, and then fall more times, and have seen any routines, so they have the means to protect themselves and calculate others.

You know, people will change, honest this kind of character, if you always let yourself go badly, you must learn to change, otherwise you will always be the one who suffers, generally speaking, people to adolescence, personality traits are basically stable, to adulthood to change, it is also very difficult, but if your willpower is firm enough, you can still change.

The personality is too real, and the way to change it is to make yourself a little more mellow and at the same time make yourself a little deeper.

Character is really good. The key is the question of the mouth. I don't know how to speak good words.

That is, if you are wronged and you say something nice, others will be happy, and you will be happy. And then I said that. Consider how to speak, and at the same time speak good language without lying.

The type that is too real is not necessarily a bad thing, stick to your own bottom line, stick to your own principles. Try to talk as little as possible.

As the saying goes, the country is easy to change, and if you feel that your character is not good, change slowly, everything has a process.

There is nothing bad about real people, if you make friends with people with flower intestines and real people, you will choose the one with more flower intestines? Or is it a real person?

It shouldn't change, it's good, and I'm really helping you look forward to it.

If the child's personality is cowardly and too honest, it will make the child feel inferior and introverted, which is caused by family factors. No matter what they do, they are usually weak and don't know how to reject others. In many cases, I don't want to do it at all, but I don't know how to refuse, and when I have an argument with others, I am very reasonable, and I don't dare to argue with others.

Therefore, this kind of cowardly child is often silent, almost without any friends, and speaks in a relatively low voice.

Most children have a cowardly personality, and the reason behind it must be related to the relationship between their parents. If the family environment is very discordant, it will lead to the child's cowardly character. Therefore, the feelings of parents are also very important, if parents are usually too strict, do not know how to get along with their children, and behave more roughly, it will also make children feel very afraid of their families, and dare not express their words in front of their parents, and after a long time, they will form inferiority complex, and they are more cowardly, this relationship is very embarrassing, and I hope that parents have such a cognition.

Especially when the child is naughty, parents also want to stop the child's nonsense, and often choose intimidating things to scare the child. If you don't obey, you may call the police uncle, maybe you will let the big tiger come and eat you, or you will lock the child in a small black room. Although this level allows the child to calm down instantly, it is not known that this effect will bring great psychological hidden dangers to the child.

It will also lead to a more timid and cowardly personality, parents must pay attention to their own education methods, after all, in the process of children's growth, the company of parents is the most important.

Some parents are too spoiled in their children's education methods, and do all the things for their children, but they don't know how to let their children take care of themselves, including dressing, washing or eating, all of which are borne by parents. As a result, children have no way of life in life, so parents must educate their children correctly, after all, a character problem will cause great hidden dangers in the future in and out of society.

Because of the family's education, because the parents are too strong, it has something to do with the child's genes, the child's living environment, and the surrounding environment.

This is due to the child's personality factors, family factors, educational factors, learning factors, interpersonal factors.

Honest people are good at honest people, and they don't have to care about these details.