What is the reason behind the misfit of children?

The child's personality is more withdrawn, and the child is insecure, the child will not take the initiative to greet others, and the child is very timid, and the child is also very low-spirited, etc., these are the reasons why the child is not social.

It may be because the child is too autistic, and does not like to make friends, and at the same time does not like a particularly lively atmosphere, the child is insecure and lacks communication expression, so he will often be alone.

It is likely that the child is very introverted, or because the child has low self-esteem, or because the child does not like to play with others, or because the child is very selfish, or because the child's social skills are very poor.

It may be because there is something wrong with the child when he communicates with others in school, which has caused a certain psychological shadow, and the child will not dare to socialize in the future, so this situation will happen.

The reason is that the child is naturally more withdrawn, unwilling to talk to others, more timid, and more introverted, so he is not social.

Manifestations of the child's misfits:

1. Abnormal language and cognition: after the age of 2, he does not like to speak, does not like to approach and interact with other people, does not respond to the shouts of others, and does not greet others. In response to this performance, parents should guide their children to learn and play with children, and cultivate their children's ability to get along with the group.

2. Abnormal social communication ability and behavior: manifested as no sense of closeness to relatives and friends, lack of interest and response in social interaction, and do not like to play with partners. In order to correct this behavior, parents should often train their children to speak more on appropriate occasions, let their children sing nursery rhymes, dance and other programs for guests, and create conditions for children to have extensive contact with various people.

3. Not caring about others: Psychologists believe that the development of children's personality and the realization of the socialization process are inseparable from the interaction between people. Let children learn to care about others, and let children experience the normal relationship between people in a subtle way, which is conducive to the formation of a good personality and the overcoming of withdrawn temperament.

There are many reasons why children are not social, first of all, as parents, we need to ask ourselves a few questions, is the child really unsocial, or is it a label we put on him? Is there a factor of our own that children are not social, such as parents who are more introverted and not good at interacting with others, and they don't have them themselves, so why should they ask their children? Can we accept that our child is not social, can we accept that our child is such a person, what impact will this have on his future life, and why do we think this is a problem?

When we think about these questions, I don't think we need to know the reason, we can figure it out a lot ourselves. Before my child went to kindergarten, I always thought of him as an introvert and not very gregarious. For example, when I go out and don't call people, I like to play at home, and I talk a lot at home, but I hardly talk when I go to an unfamiliar environment.

In the playground, I like to play alone and never play with other children. Before, I was a little worried, afraid that he would be bullied or uncomfortable if he didn't fit in in kindergarten.

When I saw that the reason why I care so much about this matter is that my husband and I are relatively introverted people, not very good at expressing their own thoughts, so they will live a more tired life, I hope my child is not like us, I hope he is a lively and cheerful person, live a more relaxed life. I told myself that the child has his own life, and I can't impose my expectations on him, I have to accept him as he is, and at the same time give him time, proper guidance, and wait for him to blossom slowly. It turns out that I had labeled my child as unsociable, and it was my own inner anxiety that magnified the problem.

After my child goes to kindergarten, he will tell me every day on the way from school that he has made new friends today, he likes to go to kindergarten very much, and he will take the initiative to greet children in the same class when he meets them on the road.

Of course, the reason why the child is not social, excluding the child's own personality, is also affected by the family environment. If the child has always been unsociable and has special behaviors, we need to take the child to a regular medical institution to rule out the possibility of autism. Everyone is different, some children are naturally more sensitive, what we can do is to accept and give the child enough companionship and support, give him time, let him come at his own pace, sometimes we rush to push, it may be counterproductive.

If it is the influence of the family environment, then we need to change our behavior. For example, in some families, parents are busy with work and rarely accompany their children, so they entrust their children to the elderly. The elderly do not take their children out, play in their own homes, or overly protective and spoil their children, making them overly dependent on adults, which will lead to children being unsociable.

Parents are the best nurturers for their children, we should spend as much time as possible with our children, and take them to play with other children, I believe that children will change slowly.

Unsociable children can be broadly divided into two categories: one is taciturn, withdrawn, and afraid of strangers; The other type is manifested as crying, troublemaking, recklessness, and troublemaking. Principal Tan said that there are many reasons why children are not social, but one of the most important reasons is the improper education method of parents.

Over-indulgence is the most common ill of current family education. Many parents regard their children as "little emperors" and "little princesses", which makes them easy to be self-centered and unwilling to obey others. After these children enter primary school, they are unwilling to obey the wishes of their classmates, and once some classmates go against their wishes, they will be psychologically unbearable.

Parents dote on their children, but also reflected in the over-protection and care of children, they do not let children associate with other "bad children", everything is arranged, so that the children who are educated are often impatient, poor self-control, or timid, cowardly, not popular with their peers. On the other hand, excessive appreciation by parents can also lead to children being unsociable. Principal Tan said:

Nowadays, some parents pay special attention to praising their children, and sometimes the praise is excessive, and some children with strong self-esteem will have a feeling of pride and complacency. They look down on other children, and after a long time, it is difficult for them to integrate into their classmates, and even if they are reluctant to be together, they often break up unhappily. ”

Parents who are too serious are also the cause of their children's misfits. Some first-time parents, due to their lack of experience in educating their children, are too eager to see their children become successful and often have too strict discipline. These parents rarely approach their children with a kind and friendly attitude, and it is difficult for children to learn to treat others with a friendly attitude and win the liking of others.

How to help children fit inChildren who don't fit in will find it difficult to adapt to school life after entering school. Over time, children will also develop a withdrawn, weak and fearful personality, or a personality of pursuing perfection and drilling "horns".

Parents keep their children at home all day long, use the TV as a nanny, and keep their children accompanied by toys, game consoles, and little books, etc., and do not let their children go out to play with other children, fearing that they will have conflicts with other children, and even get into bad habits.

One child wrote in his diary: "I have no siblings, and my parents don't let me play with other children, so I have to keep two little parrots in a cage as my companions." "If this continues, the child will become a caged bird for a long time.

The reason why children are not good at socializing is their parents.

The causes of a child's misfit are related to the parents' attitude towards the child and the family environment.

1. Parents' excessive concern for their children and arranging everything for them often deprives children of the opportunity to develop gregariousness.

For example, when a child is learning to play on his own (about 6 months old), parents often pay too much attention to him, give him things and hug him, so that the child cannot fully and freely develop his own interests. Such a child rarely greets people, because it is always the parents who speak first and teach him to call him Uncle X or Aunt X.

Parents often like to show him off to others, and too many times it will embarrass their children. When a child is sick, parents always work tirelessly to take care of them, and similarly, when a child is naughty, parents often take things too seriously and make a big fuss.

As a result, children are too little to practice the way of speaking for pleasure and do not know how to be gregarious and likable.

After entering school, it is also difficult for such children to adapt to school life and make friends. When playing with peers of the same age, they can't get along peacefully, either arguing and fighting, or cowering, and finally being isolated by the group. It is precisely because of these reasons that the social adaptability of only children generally develops slowly.

If you can't tutor in time, the child will gradually develop a withdrawn, introverted, weak and fearful personality, and a taciturn personality, without the innocent and lively atmosphere of ordinary children.

On the other hand, it will also cause people to be very serious in their work and pursue perfection, so that it is easy to get into the "tip of the horns".

2 Another reason why children are unsociable is that their parents are too serious.

In particular, some first-time parents often have too strict discipline due to their lack of experience in educating their children and their desire for their children to become successful children.

The main manifestation of children's unsociability is that they do not like to talk, are unwilling to share their toys with other children, and always like to sit alone in the corner in a daze.

I don't like to play with any child, I don't greet people, I always have trouble with others, I don't communicate with others, similar to autistic children, today's children lack playmates, and I have to create opportunities for children to communicate with others.

Many parents are very afraid that their children will not fit in after sending their children to kindergarten, so they often teach their children to communicate more with other children. However, sometimes no matter how much parents remind their children, children still don't like to take the initiative to communicate with other people at school. In fact, the real reason why children are not social is the parents, parents must use the right way when teaching their children, don't be too spoiled, and children who are too spoiled by parents are basically unsociable.

Don't be too spoiled, for example, a group of friends play games together, if a child accidentally falls, parents come up and tell the child that you have already told you not to play such a game, this time fall. And take the child away so that the child does not continue to participate in this group game. On the surface, it seems that parents are protecting their children, but they directly make their children lose the joy of playing games, and they will not continue to play with other friends in the future.

It is normal to fall, in fact, it is very normal for children to be injured or fall in the process of growing up, and there is no need for parents to worry too much at this time, because this is something that every child will experience. Many netizens said that a childhood without wrestling is an incomplete childhood, so parents should treat this sudden situation of children with the right attitude. As long as the child does not fight with other friends or does something bad, then parents should support the child to communicate with other friends.

Let the child face the parents on their own, don't always act as a complete umbrella in the child's growth process, and occasionally let the child face some other things on his own. If parents always hold their children in the palm of their hands and put their children in a high position, then children will naturally show such a personality when communicating with other people. This kind of personality is not popular with everyone, so parents must not always be too spoiled when educating their children.

The child is introverted, has poor academic performance, etc. The child is introverted and can't play with cheerful children; Poor academic performance, playing with excellent children has an inferiority complex.

It may be because children are naturally autistic, do not like to make friends, and are more insecure, so they will not fit in.

It is likely to be caused by a lack of personality, or because the child has very low self-esteem, or because of the problems of the family of origin, or because the child has a very strong personality, or the child does not know how to get along with others, or because the child's social skills are very weak.

1. Excessive protection of parents. When the child is young, the parents are afraid that the child will be hurt outside, so they do not take the child out to play, and the child always plays at home. Suddenly, one day when the child goes out, he will feel uncomfortable and unwilling to communicate with other children, which will cause the child to be unsociable.

2. Parents spoil their children too much. When the child is at home, the parents follow the child in everything, and when the other children do not follow him, he loses his temper and is naturally rejected by the other children.

3. Children lack family warmth. If the family atmosphere is not good, the child's personality will gradually become withdrawn, and the character development will not be sound, and he will close his heart, be unwilling to communicate with others, and become more and more unsociable.