I studied psychology and feel very troubled, what should I do?

Since you are studying psychology, you should know that psychology should make you accept others, because everyone's character formation has his life background, psychology teaches you to accept yourself in order to accept others, so, you can't accept others may be that you can't accept yourself... Well, I'm a little dizzy. In short, if you feel that their shortcomings are annoying you and make you choose not to associate with them, then you will find that you can see the shortcomings of everyone you come into contact with, and you will not be able to accept anyone.

Psychology is a discipline that allows you to see the shortcomings of others, and at the same time, it also tells you to accept the shortcomings of others.

Think about it, if you think they used to be pretending, if they can see from your behavior that you don't trust them, they will not trust you, and your relationship will only get worse and worse. I think happiness can't be disguised, even if he didn't have that deep feelings for you at that time, but he accepted you and liked you at that time, so don't bother too much.

Continue to live an optimistic and happy life, think when it's time to think, and learn to adjust yourself mentally after thinking about bad things, this is where psychology comes in.

Philistines disturb themselves. Now that I know, estrangement is, I think, as long as you are sincere and have good quality, everything else is fine. Why are they pretending to be in front of you?

What do you have to make a home improvement best friend? If you don't understand these, you will still fall into such distress, life in the world, friends are not expensive, and you are two or three enough, this is the legendary dead friend! And it's just that you haven't encountered it, it doesn't mean that you won't have it in the future, you won't have it now, concentrate on work and study, and when the time comes, friends will naturally appear.

Moreover, there are some things that always have to be taken by one person first. Take me as an example, there are three good ones in elementary school, they are inseparable, they graduated, they didn't fight each other, but they didn't break up. When I graduated from junior high school, I thought that the two friends in middle school were similar, but one day a friend suddenly called, asked me to go out to play and do homework, and I became familiar with it again after a few more times.

Have faith

Then you don't always look at other people's shortcomings, look at a little more. And let the past pass, don't live too tired. It's really not possible to project troublesome things onto other things, and to study psychology is to have to be yourself first and then others.

More than your own inner dialogue, to see if this is even what you need. And many times we can't help ourselves, how can you never pretend to change someone else? Hey hey .

If not, ask your psychology teacher for help!

Wow, you're so good at psychology, it seems like I didn't study it well. In fact, everyone has shortcomings, you can tolerate your own shortcomings, why can't you tolerate the shortcomings of others?

It's better to live your own life with less psychological involvement.

First of all, through taking psychology classes, I learned how to organize my time reasonably and how to use my time correctly. It makes my biological clock more rational and optimized, so that I can correct the wrong way of using time in the past, and make my current study more planned.

Before, I was a person who was not good at regulating my emotions, and I was often depressed for a long time because of some small things. Through taking psychology classes, I began to try to regulate my emotions when I was unhappy, and tried to make myself "not happy with things, not sad for myself." "As the so-called setbacks are the driving force to move forward, what is the use of always immersing oneself in excessive sadness, except to hurt oneself?

It's better to face it, it's better to live happily. Secondly, through taking psychology classes, I have learned some ways to interact with people, whether it is with relatives or friends, we must grasp the methods of communication, learn to empathize, and treat others with a tolerant heart, so that we can handle the relationship with relatives and friends, so that there will be less quarrels around me, and more love and warmth.

Thirdly, by taking psychology classes, I not only increase my knowledge, but also get new feelings. I learned a lot of knowledge and truths. I know that when we encounter misunderstandings with each other, we must empathize, be tolerant, understand others, and speak frankly about some of our own things.

Frustration in love.

Break up but don't understand the breakup -

The person I love doesn't love me", "Why does love disappear so quickly", "Is love hurting each other", "Love is really a fragile thing", "I don't believe in love anymore after falling out of love", ......The heartbreak of these frustrations, while heartbreaking, also makes us adults. We all become adults after learning to lose. When we say "break up", we are no longer afraid of falling out of love, and our love may be practiced.

Break up at will, I feel that I don't love it anyway, it doesn't matter. But in fact, breaking up is also a science that needs to be learned, dealing with sadness, summing up experience, people who are not frustrated in love do not know how to fall in love. Since everyone wants to solve this problem, please be bold.

Confusion in the choice of employment. I don't know what I really want-

Young people are very impulsive at work, and the words "I'm not doing it anymore" are blurted out very casually, and they are impatient and have no strong willpower, which seems to be our problem. But it's not the problem of willpower that causes confusion in choosing a career, it's that we don't know what we want.

I can't stand the 9-to-5 job", "My boss can't see my difference", "I'm aggrieved and can't show my strength", "I've changed 9 jobs and want to quit again", ......Life and career development are in "don't want" against "need", there is no active planning, take a step by step, of course, there is no patience and perseverance.

If they are asked to find what they want most, it will be very confusing for them. Start by getting to know yourself. First understand your past self, and then ask your future self, career planning, to start with life planning.

Social phobia. Is introversion the sin or extroverted? -

Some people have already stepped into society, and the protection of their families and the sense of superiority of "I am the boss" are all gone. A lot of people find interpersonal problems: "How can I get my colleagues to like me?" , "I inadvertently upset my boss", "I have no sense of belonging in the company", ......Introverts feel unsociable and don't talk to others; Extroverts feel that their flamboyance makes people jealous, and someone will secretly harm them - they can't guess other people's hearts, as if it's all their own fault.

Social problems are not the problems that young talents begin to face, the key is how you give yourself a workplace positioning, social networking is a purposeful workplace activity, find your own position, say what you need to say, no need to watch people cook, just do your best, is the right way.

1.Look at the world with another eye, not everyone in this world is very smooth, just look at how you solve it, for example, you were hit by someone when you were walking, others apologized to you, sometimes you still feel very angry, but you didn't expect that the person who hit you was actually more uncomfortable than you, or think about the sentence "Happy is also a day, unhappy is also a day, why not be happy every day". 2.

If you think that you are in a bad mood, you will be in a bad mood, then you don't need to think about it, if you still want to, then keep yourself busy, let yourself have no time to think about it, let yourself live every minute to the fullest, and then don't fall in love with the bed after waking up in the morning, get up when you wake up, get busy, open the window, breathe in the fresh morning air, relax your whole body, and let yourself imagine a happy little angel ...... 3.Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, undisturbed and free movement, and take a position that you feel comfortable in, standing, sitting or lying down. 4.

Move some large joints and muscles of the body, the speed should be even and slow when doing it, and the action does not need to have a certain format, as long as you feel the joints let go and the muscles relax. 5.Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and exhale slowly, saying "relax" in your mind whenever you exhale.

6.Focus your attention on some everyday objects. For example, look at a flower, a little candlelight, or anything soft and beautiful, and look closely at its subtleties.

Light some spices and inhale the aroma of it. 7.Close your eyes and try to imagine some tranquil and beautiful scenes, such as blue waters, golden sandy beaches, white clouds, mountains and water.

8.Do activities that you enjoy that have nothing to do with the specific things at hand. For example, swimming, taking a hot bath, shopping, listening, watching TV, etc.

What are some of your psychological confusions? I don't have any confusion now, I used to. In fact, no matter who you are, you have always had or have been confused, so when we are faced with confusion, as long as we have enough self-confidence, we can learn to release and liberate.

In this world, every step we take is accompanied by confusion, and the further society goes, the more things will impact our hearts and minds. If there is an unsolvable confusion in a person's heart, the whole person's thinking is chaotic, and the inner turmoil is the most energy-consuming.

Everyone has psychological confusion, and some people have some psychological confusion, so they should ask a psychiatrist, and when they are light, they can go to science and technology to adjust it.

In addition to the interest relationship between husband and wife that can be maintained for a long time, there is no pure affection that can be maintained for a long time.

I have a lot of psychological puzzles, why I don't work so hard, why I don't study hard in such good conditions, I don't study seriously, and I can't be motivated.

A lifetime of insecurity and self-confidence?

You can study psychology at university, in a taught or self-study exam, which is more systematic and has a diploma, or you can read books about psychology on your own.

1. If you want to systematically study psychology (college textbook): "General Psychology" (the most basic, it is also an introductory book to psychology), "Developmental Psychology" (child psychology), "Social Psychology", "Educational Psychology", "Psychological Counseling and Counseling", "Personality Psychology", "Abnormal Psychology", "Experimental Psychology", "Psychostatistics", "Psychometrics", etc.

2. I just want to know about psychology: "Psychology of Interpersonal Relations" (by Zheng Quanquan of People's Education), "Mental Health" (by Li Danchangsui of Guangxi Education), "Social Psychology" by Xianxunqiao (Hou Yubo of Peking University), "Personality Psychology" (by Gao Yuxiang of Beijing Normal University), "Cognitive Psychology" (by Gao Yuxiang of Liaoning University), "Psychological Counseling and Psychology" (by Qian Mingyi of Peking University).

3. If you want to read some psychological works instead of textbooks, you can choose more if you are interested: "Body Language Argument Code" (Aaron Pease), "Moral Admonition" (Sade), "Totem and Taboo" (Freud), "Unraveling the Secret of Your Personality" (Zhang Tongyan, Zhang Hanshi), "A Heart to Find Yourself" (Clifford Beals), "The Night of the Soul" (Thomas Moore), "Psychology and Life".

4. Books that want to understand some mental illnesses: "Psychological Counseling and Counseling" (edited by Tao Laiheng), "Psychometrics", "Clinical Manual of Psychological Disorders", "Abnormal Psychology", etc.

Staying for a long time is cheap, frequent relatives are also sparse, wine is slightly drunk, and when the flower is half-opened, the distance produces beauty.

Sometimes, we are "grateful" to others for giving Xiaohui, but we are "blind" to the lifelong kindness of our relatives and parents.

But my brother and I respect each other like guests I have never told him the truth I feel like he can understand himself I don't need to say too much I don't know each other I feel like I know each other like new People from different worlds have lived together since I was a child But it's really familiar and strange.

The more familiar you are, the stranger you are, and your neighbors, classmates, and friends seem to be even more acquaintances, and you don't know each other, and there is no psychologist who has come to understand yourself.

In fact, no matter who it is, as long as you are very familiar with it, it will be the same after you are afraid that it is an international superstar **** who has shortcomings.

There are flowers to pour wine, no moon does not go upstairs, cherish flowers must be checked, love the moon does not comb hair.

Mortals, after all, have a discriminating mind, a give-and-go heart, a love and hate heart, a gain and a loss heart, and they are not like the Bodhisattva who loves the Bodhisattva, who can't stop the color, sound, fragrance, and touch the Dharma and give birth to the heart. If the mind is oriented to me, it is the result of attachment to the self, which is also the source of trouble.

It is about having the heart of gain and loss, having joys and sorrows, and should transcend the gains and losses of good and evil, and following fate is happiness.

I can't do it.

Is that okay?

I think you have set some unrealistic goals, and to be precise, the goals set are not in line with your actual situation! You are still a child, you are a child, you should have more fantasies, dreams, or according to your hobbies, ambitions to imagine your own life ideals, the direction of struggle, not very specific goals. When you look at the essays assigned to you by your Chinese teacher, don't you just ask "what is your ideal"?

What do you want to do when you grow up?" Without asking what your goals are?

What is the rationale for this? I really can't say a word. It's just that the goal is not easy to set!

It's not easy to implement even if it's set! Why is it hard to set up? Not easy to implement?

Because you're still a kid, you're not set yet. You can't control your life yet! Can't arrange it yourself yet!

So you're not sure of your ability to achieve your goals. Did I make it clear?

You just have to follow the teacher and learn the lessons set by the school now. If you have any questions, opinions, requests, or even suggestions, you can ask the teacher. I believe that the teachers and the school will consider it.

In the process of learning, you will show your own strengths and specialties, and you can slowly consider which advantages to carry forward and which disadvantages need to be made up and strengthened, which revolve around your life design, life path, and your ideal life. Reading biographies of successful people and learning more about the history and current state of the areas you are interested in will help you succeed.

If there is no foresight, there will be near-term worries. Don't you always hear the older generation encourage young people to have high ideals and aspirations? This is all about the fact that people have recognized the significance, role and benefits of setting lofty goals since ancient times.

There's so much to say, I won't go into it. I wish you progress in your studies, excellent grades, and a successful career and a happy life in the future. Also, be healthy!