My child is disobedient and can t learn consciously, how can I solve it?

What should I do if my child is disobedient?

1. Take children to experience different jobs, children will experience the difficulties of parents, and they will also realize that learning is the easiest. If the child is disobedient, parents can carry out appropriate frustration education, although it is said that the work is not expensive, but some work is very hard. For example, you can take your child to experience the cleaning work, no matter whether it is windy or rainy, you should let your child stick to it, and after a period of time, the child will also have some introspection.

You will realize that every kind of work is not easy, parents work outside to earn money to support the family, pay a lot, you should listen to your parents, is the best reward for your parents. After experiencing different jobs, children can also understand that learning is the easiest compared to these jobs, as long as they are practical and willing to work hard, they will gain something. If such an effect can be achieved, the parent's education method will be successful.

Second, parents should work with their children to formulate learning rules, with binding force, children's learning will be on the right track. Children are reluctant to learn, probably because they have not developed good study habits and do not have a certain binding force, and they always go their own way. At this time, parents should not beat and scold the child, should be patient and reasonable with him, after the child listens, the parent should proceed to the next step, that is, to develop a perfect learning plan with the child.

For example, when you wake up in the morning, you have to read English or texts for 10 minutes. Every night after school, you can play after finishing your homework; If your child behaves well, he will be rewarded accordingly. When children receive rewards, they will definitely have a sense of accomplishment and will be more willing to arrange their own learning according to their learning plan. 3. Parents must communicate more with their children and establish a harmonious parent-child relationship, so that children are willing to listen to their parents.

Parents must find ways to become their children's friends, communicate with their children more, talk to their children about their worries, and listen to their children's voices. It is also necessary to know that only by spending more time with children can a harmonious parent-child relationship be built, then children will definitely listen to their parents.

First, the parents are not right.

Solution: Parents need to learn to change their mindsets.

Valuing intelligence over morality is the most common problem for many parents after their children enter primary school. Parents can order several copies of home education.

of newspapers, buy a few books on homeschooling. Family education cannot cross the river by feeling the stones, because "family education is only once, and it cannot be repeated".

First of all, we should study our own children, and we should combine the child's age, psychological characteristics, personality characteristics, and the subjective and objective conditions of a certain problem.

Second, the method said by the parents is wrong.

Solution: Research methods.

1. Psychological suggestion:

Example: The child did not do well in the exam, and when he got home from school, he went into the house, and the parents beat and scolded him as soon as he opened the door, and then chattered endlessly. After the beating, the child became indifferent, and the child wanted to be beaten anyway, so the parents nagged a lot later, but he didn't listen at all.

When the child grows up, the education should not be straightforward, but be clever. When the child closes the door, he doesn't let you in and doesn't want to hear you. So how to educate?

The specific method is as follows: the father does not enter the door, but says to the child's mother outside the door: "Don't let the child hear what we say."

In fact, the sound is just right for children to hear. When the child hears this, he thinks, "Don't let me listen, I want to listen." So he lay down at the door and listened.

The father said, "The child didn't do well in the exam, but our child has ambition, this time we will definitely learn a lesson, and we will definitely work hard next time!" Guess what our kids are doing in the house? I make up my mind secretly.

In fact, the child did not make up his mind at all, and began to make up his mind as soon as he heard this. Then the mother said, "The child didn't do well in the exam, and it can't be all thanks to the child, we are also responsible, we usually don't catch him studying, and we play mahjong when we have some time." If you want to check, don't let the child check, let's do the test first.

This is done using psychological suggestion.

2. Teach without teaching.

Case: The child is very poor in mathematics, physics and chemistry, and is not good at studying, but he especially likes to read books about war and **, and buys a lot of toys such as guns, cannons, and tanks. The mother was in a hurry, confiscated the child's books, and smashed the toys. As a result, the child became angry and did not talk to his mother for several weeks.

Correctly you can understand why your child loves to read war books, parents read books that their children like, mother and child have a common language, encourage him to know so many things about the war, you can be a military strategist. When the child heard this, he became more energetic, and continued to reverie and continue to brag. Guide your child to think that if you can't get into a military academy, your dream of being a military family will be over.

Help the child analyze, "Today's military strategists are not the Tubalu of the past, they have to graduate from military academies, and they can't command wars without scientific and cultural knowledge." In this way, the child will secretly make up his mind to study hard.

This is teaching without teaching. On the surface, it is not education, it is chatting and playing, but in fact it is education. ”

Children do not like to learn and are disobedient, parents should accompany their children more to tutor and study, and reason with their children more to tell him what to do and what not to do. In addition, get in touch with the school, so that the child can be educated together, and the child will gradually get better and better.

If the child is disobedient, the following methods should be used to adjust the symptoms:

1. Actively analyze why the child is disobedient, such as whether it is the instruction issued by the parents, the behavior itself is wrong, or the words are insincere, and do not set a good example for the child, or the child is rebellious, enters adolescence, and has a sense of independence.

2. Parents and children can be friends, but the premise is to respect each other and communicate actively, express their feelings to each other, express their thoughts about each other, parents have ideal child performance in their hearts, and children also have ideal parent images in their minds.

Parents' advice to the school.

Thanks to the school for the education and cultivation of children, the teachers have worked hard! My child is studying here, I am very relieved, if the child is not obedient, please be strict discipline, our parents must be strongly supportive!

As the child most of the time.

We don't know much about his performance in school, so I hope the teacher will connect with the parents more.

Department, reflect more about the child's situation, so that we can educate the child well.

Since now many children are comparing.

Lazy, I hope that teachers can arrange more voluntary work for them to do, and help them develop a good habit of loving labor.

Under the condition that it does not affect the normal teaching tasks, I hope that the school can organize more useful extracurricular or extracurricular activities.

activities to cultivate children's multi-faceted abilities to adapt to future social life.

It can also be combined with its own actual needs.

Make other suggestions in a tactful tone.

Remember: Don't ask questions that can't be solved, or sensitive topics such as.

fees, etc., so as not to leave a bad image for the teacher)

It is recommended that the school organize more social practice for students (of course, this is only applicable to the upper grades), and the school is okay.

Organize more art festivals or reading festivals to enrich students' extracurricular life.

In order to develop students' eloquence, also.

Speech contests can be held. Of course, sports meetings are also available. You can usually take a small test.

There is no child who loves to learn, and there is no child who is completely obedient, if you want the child to love learning, set goals for him, and with goals, the child will be motivated to learn.

As this situation is concerned, we should spend more time with him to care for and supervise him, so that it is too late to think about it later.

1. First of all, communicate more with your child. Many times, children make mistakes, it may be just unintentional, such as at school, accidentally broke the glasses of a classmate, knocked down a classmate while playing a game, and was sued by a classmate to the teacher. Some things are caused by the child's own reasons, such as not paying attention to class, not writing homework carefully, causing the teacher to criticize, and we should urge the child to change.

But in either case, you should communicate more with your child. If possible, you can also learn more about your child from the teacher.

2. Don't lose your temper with your child. Some parents, as soon as they see that there is something wrong with their children, regardless of 3721, they will loudly accuse their children. In this way, not only will it not help your child change, but it may also make your child more reluctant to listen to you.

When we come to the teacher to complain, we must first calm down and find a suitable solution after clarifying the cause of the problem. If it is because of the child's own problems, we should find a way to let the child change, and if the child is really unintentional, we should treat them with a tolerant attitude.

3. Work with your child to change. Sending the child to Duan Qimao School does not mean that you can "leave it alone", the child lives in the school and leaves us temporarily, but it needs our support more.

Children are disobedient in school, this is a common problem, parents should pay more for their children, to see if the child is because of active or because of disgust with school? Does a child disobey his parents, or does he not listen to his teacher? You have to prescribe the right medicine, combined with the teacher, you pay more attention to this child, correct some of his bad aspects, guide him to know that he is willing to go to school, go to school well, and listen more to the words of teachers and parents.

1. Autosuggestion: If a person keeps hinting that he likes to learn and will be able to learn it well, the child will really think that he likes to learn after a long time.

2. Reasonably arrange children's work and rest time, and combine work and rest: sufficient rest will make children energetic, which can allow children to maintain a high interest in learning, improve learning efficiency, reduce fatigue, and avoid school boredom.

3. Enhance confidence method: The confidence of the opponent is the greatest help to the success of the person, and parents should help the child to enhance the confidence of the child and have the courage to face the difficulties of learning. I remember when my child was in junior high school, he started to get bored with school, he had trouble paying attention and getting distracted in his homework, which caused his exam results to be very bad in all subjects.

It is not until the 'Tesla Potential Course' that awakens the latent energy that the child's condition can begin to transform after learning. My child's comprehension has improved, he has not been sleepy in school, and his academic performance has improved. May you succeed and have all the best sailing!

For this problem, you should communicate with your child patiently, and never think that you are a parent. What I said is absolutely true. If you can't change the macro at all, if you do, I will use a rough way to treat you.

You should patiently communicate with her about Jiang Ming's matter. Jiang Ming's merits. Let him know from an early age what things should be done and what things should not be done.

Cannot be taken by one parent. It is the practice of being an absolute authority figure in front of the child to treat your child.

Children go to school disobediently, that is also a big problem, we must strengthen the education of children, children's Jizheng education is not just a matter of teachers, parents must be good with Qi Song, to learn from foreigners in China's children's education, can not just blindly spoil, let him know from an early age that if he wants to get something, he must pay something.

It's good to beat the child when he doesn't obey him at school, hehe, just kidding, communicate with the child well. Talk about the heart and see what is on your mind.

Now that the child is in the rebellious period of adolescence, the parents' emotions should first be calm and not impatient. For children with problems, we must not be in a hurry, we must analyze the children's problems, understand the children, and empathize from the perspective of the children.

Discuss more and give less orders, such as when it's time to do homework, and tell him if it's time to do homework. Make sure your child feels that you respect him so that he is willing to be obedient.

Clause. It is necessary to help children to do self-evaluation, and help children to understand their academic performance, work attitude, and hard work degree correctly and objectively. Be able to objectively self-understand, constantly improve and improve yourself.

To discover children's strengths, the biggest contradiction between parents and children is learning. Even if the child does not study well, it is necessary to see that the child still has many strengths, and do not just complain, let alone blame.

In fact, no top student is born with a love of learning!

They just develop a behavior that seems to be "love to learn".

To put it simply, it's just that they work hard, can endure hardships, and have a lot of methods. If they have to say that they "love to learn", it only means that they love the results of learning, not the process of learning. They are willing to put in more effort and wait longer for the reward of learning.

How to make children fall in love with learning?

When Zhizihua Education broadcasts live every Tuesday night, in the comment area of the live broadcast room, there will be many parents asking "the question of children's learning motivation", which is heartbreaking for their children's education, but it does not play a real role.

A mother of a third-grade child asked the teacher for help in the live broadcast room with the following questions:

My child is in the third grade, and his academic performance is not only not good, but also very poor, and he has learned to deviate from the subject at such a young age. Especially mathematics, it seems that he doesn't love mathematics at all, the teacher said that he couldn't concentrate for a few minutes during class, I said him, and he resisted! How can we make children fall in love with learning?

I don't really know what to do anymore.

Children don't like to learn, often because they haven't found joy in learning and think that learning is a chore. But children will never like to learn because of punishment and criticism.

In the third grade, the self-awareness begins to increase and begins to resent the nagging of their parents. Please stop saying that your child doesn't like math and has a lack of concentration, and look for your child's strengths from a different perspective and encourage ...... more

There is a strange phenomenon that children who study well get better and better, and children who study poorly seem to get worse and worse. But it's really not that the child's intelligence is worse than that of other children.

A lot of times it's adults who like to label their children. Under the label of not liking learning for a long time, children will have doubts about learning and their own abilities, become inferior and believe that they are the poor students who cannot get better.

How to make children fall in love with learning? Method. One.

Parents themselves are interested in learning first.

Parents should often read books, read magazines, and learn what they are interested in, so as to show their children their love for learning; Talk about things that interest you often and tell your child about all kinds of new and interesting things you have learned......Always ask your child what new things they have learned in school. Let your child feel your interest in learning, and he will be infected himself. Method.

Two. Encourage your child to try something different.

Until you find out what interests you.

The cultivation of learning interests should first observe what the child's interests are, start with the things he is interested in, and then turn the interests into a part of his life. And for those children who don't know where their interests are, try different things until they discover what they are interested in. They'll also be learning along the way, and once they've discovered what they're interested in, they'll accelerate their progress.

Method. Three. Guide children to take the initiative to experience the joy of learning.

Only children experience the joy of learning