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You're a sign of both gain and loss. You value your love very much, so you will worry that your love will go wrong because of this and that thing. I don't think you need to worry so much.
First of all, you have a job. Although it is not as high as your boyfriend, it is still a good income, so you can maintain your life. If you have an income, you are financially independent, and you don't depend on anyone.
Second, what to do with you in the future, then look at what you want your life to be like. Isn't it true that so many female college students in Japan are doing well as full-time wives? Live the life you want:
Husbands and children, studying and further education are good. To be independent or not to be independent is not decided by others, it is decided by oneself.
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It's not bad that you earn more than 3,000 yuan, it's very hard to be a man, you don't have to be too yourself, just be casual. Although money is necessary, it is not the most important thing, and when the two are together, the relationship is the most important.
If you're so nervous because he earns more, then think about it, maybe you're measuring your feelings with money? This is not right.
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Women don't have to be too independent, since you can't compare with your man in your career, then show yourself well in life! If you learn to cook seriously, men still prefer women who can run a house!
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Economically, it is explained as a sinking economy, and the love economy is a slaughter! If you don't do it, you will get a lover, and if you don't do it, you will cultivate a lover for others.
The risk is high and the rate of return is unknown.
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It's good to open a lot of things, why bother to make yourself backward for money, your own education shouldn't be too low, I think you still have to find a way to open your heart a little, so that it won't affect the love between the two of you.
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I can understand your feelings, you are nervous because you are a little self-contained, you feel that you don't earn as much money as him, and the gap is quite large, you feel that you are not worthy of him, and you feel pressure. It's normal to think this way, and most people think that way.
If he doesn't let you make money, it means that he still loves you more, don't think about it, love him well, don't be yourself, don't be too petty bourgeoisie, be a competent girlfriend, I believe you will be happy
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Women must not be too strong, real men will not like women who are too ambitious, he hopes that he can give his women happiness, and women are proud of him. Men want their women to be good wives and mothers, so just take your boyfriend seriously, care more about him, and be considerate of him is the happiest thing for him. That's how my husband is.
So I wish you happiness.
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In the workplace, everyone has a different job position and has a different salary. ......For couples who are in love, there will inevitably be a certain gap between each other in terms of salary, which will have a certain impact on the relationship and life of the couple, and both parties need to face up to it and deal with it properly. ......Specifically, the impact of the salary gap between couples on both parties includes the self-confidence and self-esteem of the two parties when they are late in the relationship, the life concepts and living habits of the two people will be different, and the relationship between couples will have a sense of distance due to the salary gap.
1. The salary gap can affect the self-confidence and self-esteem of couples when they interact with each other.
When a person interacts with others, his own personal conditions will have a great impact on himself, and the better his own conditions, the stronger his self-confidence will be when interacting with others. On the other hand, if your own conditions are poor, your self-esteem will be affected when interacting with others. ......Therefore, the salary gap does have a big impact on the relationship between couples.
2. Couples will have differences in life concepts and living habits because of the salary gap.
In daily life, we will be influenced by the living environment and form our own concepts and living habits. ......The difference in salary will directly lead to the difference in the living environment, so there will be a big difference in the life concept and living habits of people with different salaries. When such two people become a couple, their relationship with each other will be affected because of the differences in these two aspects.
3. Couples will have a sense of distance due to the difference in salary.
As a couple, you should be intimate with each other. ......However, in real life, the one with a higher salary and a relatively better living conditions will often be more active, while the other party with a relatively poor salary will be relatively passive, which will make the two parties feel a sense of distance. When this aspect of the problem accumulates to a certain extent, it will have an impact on the relationship and life of both Suihui.
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1. Economic problems in cohabitation.
Cohabitation is a way of getting along and a way of life, and its existence inevitably involves economic problems. In the process of cohabitation, both parties need to share the cost of living, including rent, utilities, grocery shopping, etc. However, there are often disagreements about how to bear these expenses due to factors such as the couple's financial strength, personality characteristics, and values.
In dealing with economic issues, it is necessary to follow the principles of "fairness, reasonableness, transparency, and mutual respect." Both sides should be honest with each other, tell each other about their economic situation, expenditures, budget plans, etc., and negotiate a reasonable way to bear the economy.
Second, whether the budget table is reasonable.
The cohabitation budget table given by her boyfriend, all expenses are AA system, including grocery shopping, rent, etc., and my girlfriend feels uncomfortable. So, is this kind of budget table reasonable?
First of all, the formulation of the budget table needs to be discussed by the two people, and it is not reasonable for the boyfriend to unilaterally make the budget table. Secondly, all expenses AA may not be suitable for every couple, and this is done on the premise that both parties are financially equal and both agree to this approach. If your girlfriend is financially weak, the financial burden on her will be greater, and it's not fair to do so.
Finally, the budget table should be flexible and can be adjusted as life changes, rather than being set in stone.
3. How to deal with the problem.
Since the girlfriend thinks that the budget table given by her boyfriend is unreasonable, how to deal with this problem?
1.Communication is key.
First of all, both parties should communicate adequately, express their thoughts and opinions, and listen to each other's opinions. The girlfriend can talk about her feelings, and the boyfriend can explain his thoughts and see if he can reach a consensus.
2.Determine the means of financial commitment.
On the basis of communication, the two sides can renegotiate the way of economic commitment and find a way that suits everyone. It can be weighed according to the economic situation, living habits, values and other factors of both parties, and a reasonable way of economic responsibility can be formulated.
3.Adhere to the principle of fairness.
When formulating the way of undertaking the economic hail, it is necessary to adhere to the principle of fairness, so that both parties feel fair and reasonable. If your girlfriend's financial ability is relatively weak, you can consider your boyfriend taking on some more expenses or sharing some of the expenses. If your girlfriend can afford some of the expenses, she should also be actively involved in the financial commitment.
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Definitely! Because of the large income gap between the two, one of the most direct problems will be the inability to reach empathy.
The other party feels that you are not paying enough, and you feel that the other party is asking too much, and eventually the problem will shift from economic problems to cognitive problems, and the two people will transform from a community to a state of confrontation, which will inevitably affect the feelings of both parties.
For example, in a relationship, the woman's income is much higher than the man's, and the girl is usually very willing to spend money on the boy.
But because the other party's income is relatively low, the girl always feels that she can help in her career, and over time, the relationship between the two people becomes very unequal, and the girl's desire to control is getting stronger and stronger....
In the same way, a man with a high income, in the face of his low-income girlfriend, will naturally have a sense of superiority, and he will regard himself as a supporter, and he will become more and more disrespectful to his girlfriend.
It is easy to have conflicts due to consumption habits.
In a relationship, if the income gap is too large, then it is naturally difficult for both parties to understand each other's spending habits. Because the income level of couples corresponds to different consumption habits.
For the high-income party, the usual consumption habits have been determined by their own income level, and no matter what they do, they are not likely to consider the question of more money and less money; For the low-income side, because their own income is not high, their daily consumption will generally be more frugal, and they will be very concerned about the expenditure of money.
It's normal for couples to have income disparities, and the key is to balance the two. Mentality is very important, don't make more money and think that you are very powerful, as a blessing, look down on each other, and don't feel inferior to the party with less income.
Income disparities can exist, and one party cannot completely rely on the other, such a love will be unbalanced and not easy to last. And as the saying goes, "the right door" also makes sense.
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Because there are many factors involved in economic issues, such as different personal backgrounds, values, etc. Therefore, I don't think it is possible to judge whether or not to break up based on economic issues alone.
First of all, you need to understand your boyfriend's financial situation and whether the conditions are more difficult, causing him to be more sensitive to money. If it is caused by economic conditions, then you need to think about whether you can accept his way of thinking and doing things. If your boyfriend has a habit of saving money, then it is a good habit to live and help him better plan for the future, which is worth affirming.
Secondly, you can communicate with your boyfriend to understand his value and see if he thinks money is everything. If that's the case, you need to think about whether you can grow with him and understand your own needs and those of the other person.
Finally, you need to sort out your motivations for the relationship and see if you really want to spend your life with him and face the future life together. If you feel that he is not getting enough support and help, then you can also see if you can give him better help, and suggest more communication and solve the problem together.
In short, it is normal to encounter orange problems in love, as long as both parties can communicate well, respect each other's ideas, understand each other, and solve problems together, then this kind of problem can be overcome. If you're still struggling on top of that, then you may want to think twice about whether or not to call for Woodtown to break up.
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The wage gap between couples may affect the lives of two people to a certain extent, but how much of an impact it will have depends on the couple's actual situation and how they deal with it.
If one person's salary is significantly higher than that of another, they may face difficulties such as the difficulty of sharing the cost of daily living, the feeling of unequal contributions, or the psychological stress caused by income differences. If not addressed in time, these issues may gradually intensify, bringing more negative effects to the relationship between the two.
To avoid this, couples can honestly exchange information on salary, finances, and spending habits as soon as they start dating. This helps two people better understand each other's finances to establish a fair and equal financial plan and budget. In addition, couples can discuss how to fairly contribute to their daily living expenses, such as prorating bills, shopping and travel.
In this way, they can build a just and long-lasting stable economic system, thereby reducing economic misunderstandings and feelings of inequality.
In conclusion, the wage gap between couples can have an impact on life to some extent, but it can be addressed with fair and prudent financial planning and budgeting. Through honest and open communication, couples can maintain a healthy, long-lasting relationship.
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1. Establish a common account.
After the two parties confirm the relationship, it is clear how the two will distribute the money in the future, and it is best to establish a joint account to be responsible for the daily expenses of the two.
2. Allocate expenses according to the proportion of income.
Couples with income disparities should determine the proportion of their expenses according to the proportion of their income, and do what they can, so that both of them can have surplus money at their disposal, which is also fairer than the AA system.
3. Respect the other party's right to dispose of money freely.
Most women believe that men's salaries should be managed by themselves because they feel that they are careful and have the ability to manage their money well. However, at this time, all women should consider the feelings of men, they also have their own ideas, so women should not interfere too much with their own right to dispose of money, respect each other, in order to get along better.
4. Appropriate cross-checkout.
In the process of dating between men and women, the principle of spending money between men and women must not be unilaterally paid by one party, and girls also have to pay out of their pockets to a certain extent. For example, after one party pays for a meal, then the other party can pay for a movie, a drink, or something else.
It is not recommended to spend money on the square front sedan
1. AA system.
In the case of the AA system, it is also a kind of equal relationship between men and women in terms of money, and they do not owe each other. Although the AA system is a better way to spend money, the income of both parties is different, and the party with less income has more or less complained in the heart of the long-term AA. And some people think that since two people are in love, it is too impersonal to carry out the AA system in each specific consumption event, and it is extremely easy to have a sense of distance.
2. One person bears all the expenses.
If you bear the financial pressure alone for a long time, it will make one party psychologically heavy, very unhappy, anxious and irritable, and feel very unfair in the face of the other party's carefreeness.
The above is the sharing, I hope it can help everyone.
I think your idea is correct, before getting married, the income of two people should be separated, and it is also an opportunity for your girlfriend to exercise, otherwise how can she know the hardships of working to make money, what festival can you get, give her some gifts and the like, but do not support giving her money every month. I'm also a girl, and I think it's better to make money by my own efforts, or students who have just come out of school wouldn't know.
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