Is Eileen Chang s view of love worth learning for us today?

Sheer. Zhang Ailing's love is the purest love in my opinion. For example, when he met Hu Lancheng, he knew that Hu Lancheng was accused of being a traitor, but he still chose to accompany him to live an incognito life, all because of Hu Lancheng's evaluation of Zhang Ailing's work "Blockade": "Reading your article is like stepping on the piano, every step can be issued**."

Many people should have praised Zhang Ailing, but Hu Lancheng's praise came to Zhang Ailing's heart, that is, she understood Zhang Ailing, so they talked all night, so she was willing to do her best to love. At the same time, the same is true for Lai Ya, who is thirty years older than her, why does an old man who is not famous, poor, and frail win her heart, it is also because he understands, Lai Ya understands her, so he can communicate, and Lai Ya loves her. It's that pure, it's that simple.

But it's hard to do, and to do it, you need to be self-reliant, so it's worth learning.

Feelings are a very self-egoistic thing, and Zhang Ailing is indeed very humble in love. We can't go to the depths of her old man's heart, and besides, feelings are originally like clouds, and every moment and stage will have a different experience. Luckily, she left us so many great works.

Born in a lifetime, there is no relationship that is not full of holes. Don't force, don't be humble, love with all your might, don't love if you don't love, decide to withdraw, love with dignity and yourself. In love, it is not who is serious who loses, but who loses himself and is difficult to withdraw, who is the loser.

There are two men in Zhang Ailing's life, one is the great writer Hu Lancheng, and the other is the unknown writer Lai Ya, the former is promiscuous and the latter is old and frail, but they both won Zhang Ailing's love because they understand. Love for love's sake, pure and clean.

Tell us that women must be sober and independent, and don't be fooled by the love in front of you, which will affect your pace of progress.

Tell us that we must be strong and brave as a man, and we can't swallow our anger, otherwise we will be used by others and become a chess piece.

Tell us that the so-called love is just a person's wishful thinking, and sometimes when you fall in love with someone else, you have to see more of what the other person is thinking in their hearts.

Zhang Ailing's original words are: Meet the people you meet among thousands of people, in the endless wilderness of thousands of years, there is no earlier or one step later, just catch up, then there is nothing else to say, only to ask softly: "Oh, are you here too?" ”

Combined with sentences, when you meet a person you are destined to meet, such an encounter is already a kind of fate, and there is no need for more rendering, nor does it need to be overly explained, so there is no need to have an exaggerated reaction, just ask lightly "Oh, are you here too?" That's enough.

All in all, Zhang Ailing's love attitude may be cold, but that is just a secular influence, she just wants to live quietly.

I think her attitude towards love is worth learning, you have to learn to love bravely, and if you can't get it, you choose to give up.

Zhang Ailing's love in the dust, I don't agree, I personally think that while loving each other, we must have a self-respecting and self-reliant attitude, so that the other party respects you, instead of kneeling and licking, blindly paying will only make the other party look down on you, unscrupulously trample on your love for him, it is impossible to get true love.

Regarding the attitude towards love, I think such people can be said to be more sincere in their treatment of love, and they have a very emotional side, because I think they like it very much, and they are very distinctive.

Zhang Ailing's attitude towards love is very worldly, but the worldly makes people feel very exquisite, and it is also the attitude of most of us towards love.

I think this attitude is very good, she has a correct view of love, and she can live her own life in love.

It's more pragmatic, not pragmatic enough, and likes older people, but in fact, older boys are not necessarily more reliable than younger boys.

Zhang Ailing is a famous modern female writer who specializes in writing love stories. She has experienced three important relationships in her life. Only two loves have achieved positive results and entered marriage, and one of them has become a sigh of meeting the right person at the wrong time.

From Zhang Ailing falling in love and marrying Hu Lancheng, who was a traitor, under pressure, to giving up this humble love because Hu Lancheng got married, it can be seen that she is a true woman who dares to love and hate. can afford to take it in love, and it can also let go.

This is indeed a good point to learn. When you love the land, you dare to pursue the true love in your heart, and when you don't love, you can also get out of the humility and resolutely give up the love that is not worth sticking to. Instead of being submissive, in humble love.

Love that knows how to measure itself will not lose itself, right?

And after coming out of a failed marriage, Zhang Ailing met her male best friend Sang Arc, who understood her and could listen to her. Although her friends tried their best to match them, they were rejected by Zhang Ailing. It's not that she doesn't love it, but she doesn't want to affect Sang Arc's reputation because she used to be a traitor's wife, so that she will be scolded.

It can be seen that Zhang Ailing is also a person who can give up her best choice in order to achieve the happiness of others.

Zhang Ailing, who has experienced vigorous love, chose Lai Ya, a writer who is 29 years older than her, at the age of 65, and entered into marriage together and lived an ordinary life. But the good times didn't last long, Lai Ya finally died because of physical changes, leaving Zhang Ailing alone in the United States.

Why Zhang Ailing chose Lai Ya must be because she understands, there is love, and of course worship. Because she once said that a woman would never fall in love with a man whom she thought was pitiful. A woman's love for a man must always be a little worshipful. ＂

That's trueLove should not pity a person and choose to be with him, but should carry a little worship. Because of worship, love will have surprises and heartbeats. Love is not reluctant, but exciting, full of anticipation, and two people are together in a distant place and poetry, isn't it?

Zhang Ailing's concept of love has nothing worth learning, she is a comparatively good woman.

Zhang Ailing has a lot of ** rumors about love, which shows that many people still agree with her concept of love.

It's just that I took pity on Zhang Ailing and paid my feelings wrongly.

Her concept of love should dare to love and hate, and I don't think it is very applicable to me.

When you love the land, you dare to pursue the true love in your heart, and when you don't love, you can also walk out of humility.

Zhang Ailing's concept of love is more reasonable, and her ** is very good-looking.

I think Zhang Ailing's concept of love is actually very correct, and she dares to pursue her true love.

Her view of love is just her view of love, and it is not applicable to everyone.

Zhang Ailing's attitude towards life and love is reflected in her works, and she writes about the concept of love and the things that happen in life in her works, which are more real.

embodied. She put her love and her life into her words. It can be seen from her words that she is a romantic woman to the core.

Because we know each other, we understand. Because we understand, we are compassionate.

Like a person, you will be humbled to the dust, and then blossom.

Do something for others, and a little resentful, it's interesting to live, otherwise the space is empty.

There is always time and opportunity to do something; There's always an excuse for not doing what you don't want to do.

For those who can't speak, clothes are a language, a pocket drama to carry with them – from Eileen Chang's essay "Changing Clothes".

For young people, three or five years can be a lifetime.

Zhang Ailing may be a somewhat indifferent and lonely and proud woman in life. She shows disdain for many things, and certain tear-jerking everyday movie stories don't move her. She is a very individual and thoughtful woman, with her own view of the world, not bad, independent.

It's as if you're just standing in a corner, coldly watching everything that happens in the world, and recording it with a special brushstroke. But she is not a cold person in her bones, and all the characters in her pen finally gained her understanding, even the cowardly and incompetent Shen Shijun, she finally forgave her. It can be seen that her attitude towards feelings is actually infinitely relenting, she longs for warmth and love, and under her cold and arrogant appearance is a warm and soft heart.

Feelings are a very self-egoistic thing, and Zhang Ailing is indeed very humble in love. We can't go to the depths of her heart, and besides, feelings are like clouds, and every moment and stage will have a different experience. Luckily, she left us so many great works.

She is probably too lacking in love, she is grateful when she meets someone who appreciates herself, and she has no hesitation when she meets someone she likes, Hu Lancheng is like this, and then Lai Ya, who is thirty years older than her, is it called having no ego, has she ever regretted it, if she did it again, would she still choose like this, is it worth it.

The twists and turns of feelings may have something to do with her own writing, Hu Lancheng still has a little bit of a role to promote Zhang Ailing in writing, but it is more about her own talent, Hu Lancheng also loves Zhang Ailing, from reading her article and out of control, Zhang Ailing's mistake is to know too much what she wants? and refused to grieve her soul, she was like a straight thread, not woven into clothes or pants, blankets, just silently burning tepidly on the side.

When she saw him, she became very low, low into the dust, but her heart rejoiced, and flowers bloomed out of the dust. "I think that's her view of love. She sees people so clearly. For Hu Lancheng, I really don't know if I can see it too clearly or I can't see it clearly in the game.