Who are the people who are dragged down by their families of origin?

beFamily of originIt's really helpless to drag it down, and the influence of the original family may be with you for a lifetimeFor example, when I was a child, my parents always quarreled at home, and I was always beaten and scolded for no reason. Then this child's childhood is very unhappy, and he will force himself to become a sensible person, learn to read words and feelings, and make adults happy. This kind of sensitivity and sensibility also made him insecure.

Even in intimate relationships, it is difficult for him to rely on others.

Ways to save yourself.

1. Try to reveal yourself, don't hide it. The misfortune given by the family of origin is not something we can decide. In this case, don't let yourself go, don't dwell on the past, and blindly indulge in pain and anxiety.

Because, when people grow up slowly, from the perspective of the living environment, they have slowly escaped from their original family. You can choose friends, close lovers, a happy life, and have a relatively independent private space and life. Like an unhappy childhood, let it stay in the past, and don't let it stay with you for a lifetime.

2. Understand more, think more, and let go of unnecessary anger and hatred. Some people will subconsciously blame their parents, haunting their unhappy childhood, but in fact, doing so will only bring deeper resentment. So, try to understand and think about what happened in your childhood, and find a way to resolve it.

3. If necessary, seek help from a psychologist.

Sometimes, the family of origin brings psychological trauma to a person.

It is very profound, and it is impossible to resolve and come out of it by relying on the strength of oneself alone. Therefore, if conditions permit, people who are unhappy in their original families should learn to find a professional psychologist, ask professionals for help, express their confusion and feelings, let people understand their thoughts and positions, and resolve the pain in their hearts as soon as possible, and start anew.

You are not alone, at least hundreds of millions of people feel this way.

Why? Two scenarios:

The first is that your family doesn't have much money, and you can't give you a good education since you were a child, and you are more inferior and introverted in school, but your family doesn't care about you, just let you study, study hard, and follow their will, if you have ideas, they will suppress you, and even fists and kicks.

Moreover, parents who have no money, the most terrible thing is that they have great flaws in their own character, and they don't know it, teach you with wrong concepts, and then they don't have any ability to make money, so that when you grow up, you won't know anything, you will only go to work, and even the part-time job can't do well, and finally your parents can't help you with anything, and finally, when you're old, you have to take care of it, at this time, you can't even take care of yourself. And then I have to urge you to get married, urge you to have a baby, it's even more difficult, don't you know that you need a lot of money to get married now?

The second is that your family is still relatively rich, but rich parents are generally assertive and stronger, and they have already planned a development route for you.

Many people have this feeling, because they have already seen more of the world in the times or in the world, and the state of the original family is still after the times, the more you look at it, the more unpleasant it will be, and the more you feel bad. In fact, it doesn't matter, no matter how bad the original family is, you are also an independent individual, you will have your own new family in the future, just build a good one in your new family, after all, the older generation cannot change.

In fact, your situation is not a special case, there is such a phenomenon in many families, the reason is that there are great differences between yourself and the older generation of people in terms of ideology and living habits, these are the main reasons for the contradiction, but also the reason for feeling tired, if you are financially independent, then separate, so that each other has distance and space, so that it will be better.

Everyone's family of origin is different, according to your words, it may be from the pressure from your parents, or it may be from the state of your parents that makes you wrong, or try to adjust yourself and improve the situation.

Yes. An unhappy family will make people feel tired, because it is a drag.

When you feel tired, it means that you have grown up, otherwise, you will not feel tired, uh, think of a way, it's time to change.

No matter what kind of family it is, we must think about the benefits, and we must look at the benefits and happiness brought to you by the family, and do not always look at how much burden the family brings to you. How tired, how bitter. No matter what kind of family it is, as long as we work hard, there will definitely be opportunities for change.

A person's family relationship can really determine his life, if the family relationship is happier, then these children will be more confident, and they will also be more courageous to express themselves. If a child's family relationship is not happy, then the child must be very unconfident, and he will be timid when there are many people. As parents, you must know that when your child makes some mistakes, you generally teach your child in the right way, instead of yelling at your child.

Children's personality is directly related to their parents, and now many parents attach great importance to their children's education, so they begin to enroll their children in various tutoring classes when they are in the first grade. It is also very inappropriate to make children burn out. The starting point of parents is good, but the foothold is also to have the correct whole process.

There are also some children whose parents divorced when they were born, and if they don't think clearly about spending their lives with each other, don't choose to have children at this time, which is also a very irresponsible situation for children.

Happy family relationship will make children more and more generous, many children are looking forward to parents can be happy together, if everyone is divorced when the child is born, then the child will be teased by others when he goes to school, in the long run, the child's character will become more cowardly, and will become more autistic. There are also some parents who often make a lot of noise in front of their children, which is also incorrect. In contrast, children will be very angry and helpless when their parents are making a big noise.

Parents must understand the importance of family relationships to their children, and there are some children whose parents often quarrel, so that until they grow up, they will not choose to trust others at will, so it is very difficult to talk about a partner or get married. I hope that all parents can understand the importance of family relationships for their children, and they must give their children a happy and colorful childhood at this time. As parents, we not only need to let our children learn well, but also take care of their children's emotions.

I think that a person's family of origin has a very great impact on life, and some people will even suffer from the pain of their family of origin, and even affect their own life.

I think some people will really be trapped by their original family for a lifetime, the main reason is that they can't get rid of their original family, and the original family will also be attached to these people, like parasites that keep eating their flesh and drinking their blood, so that their lives will not be able to get rid of the shadow brought by the original family for the rest of their lives.

Yes, many people will be trapped by their original family for a lifetime, because we grew up in our original family, and those influences have been deeply ingrained in us and have been rooted in our bones, so they will affect us for a lifetime.

Yes, the family of origin may directly affect a person's character. will also follow for a lifetime, these things are destined, and I deeply understand it.