What are the bad habits in marriage customs in different places?

Marriage is a great event. Paste window flowers and set up a wedding feast.

It is lively and lively, the bride and groom are red, and the atmosphere is rich.

There are all kinds of bad habits in marriage customs in various places, and all kinds of tricks are unexpected and strange.

For thousands of years, there have been various bad customs in traditional marriage customs, and local customs have been changed in various places. There are many tricks, but they all have one thing in common, that is, to make the bride and groom make a fool of themselves, and test the groom's endurance in this way.

Endure the calm for a while, take a step back and open the sky. If you can endure this day, it means that the groom can endure humiliation and bear the burden in the future marriage.

It seems to make a lot of sense, but what you do when you get married has become a kind of cold explosion (bad habit), which is shameful.

Locally, for example, the groom is required to wear one shoe on one bare foot on the wedding day. Half of the torn pants are like You Benchang.

A pointed cap and two spittoons are tied on the head.

Hang on your chest and swagger through the market like a parade. Friends and pedestrians throw rotten eggs at the bride.

Splash dirty water to test his or her endurance.

There are also online reports of tying the groom to a tree and pouring liquor. There are too many bad habits, and they should be changed.

1. Sky-high dowry.

Since ancient times, men have asked for a "dowry gift" when they get married, which is not only a marriage ceremony, but also a matter of face. Since its evolution, under the influence of the trend of extravagant comparison, the custom of wedding bride price in rural areas has gradually changed. Regardless of whether the family can afford it or not, it has to be done in a big way.

The bride price is even higher, and gold and silver jewelry is just the beginning, new houses, new cars"Indispensable"。The trend of sky-high bride prices is intensifying.

From a national point of view, sky-high bride price has been very common, such as Pingliang, Gansu, where the bride price ranges from 5 to 200,000 yuan; Shandong and Hunan cost about 100,000 yuan; In Xichuan, Henan, the starting price of engagement in some rural areas is 300,000. "After decades of hard work, he returned to the poverty line after marriage"。Many families get married and the whole family is in debt, and a wedding in the countryside makes more families"Sigh at the sight"。

Sky-high bride price"It has become an obstacle to the marriage of men and women in rural areas.

2. Compare each other with banquets.

It is very normal to hold a wedding banquet, but this also gives people a reason to compare with each other, from doing it themselves to going to the hotel, and then to the grade selection of the hotel, the wine and food of the wedding banquet to the amount of gift money have become the bargaining chips for everyone to compare with each other, originally everyone got together to send blessings to the two newlyweds, but in the end it became a place for everyone's vanity to compete, and gradually the wedding wine also changed its taste.

Although the emergence of such bad habits satisfies the vanity of some people, it also brings economic pressure to farmers, and many people say that they cannot afford to hurt them.

There are many places where there is a bad habit of asking for sky-high prices, especially in some remote rural areas where the daughter-in-law is eager to hollow out the man's house, and there are many places where people sell their property because they can't afford to marry their wives, just for this sky-high bride price.

Sky-high prices. It is a natural thing to get married and get married, but if it becomes an act of collecting money on the grounds that you are married, then the matter of marriage will change its taste.

Excessive trouble with the groom.

Nowadays, there is a bad habit of making too much trouble with the groom in many places, for example, one of the more famous incidents in the news some time ago is that on the wedding day, a groom was played with by his friends, and his spine was crushed, resulting in paralysis of the whole body. Watching the news and such events abound, such bad habits must not appear in today's society, especially not in the wedding scene that should be festive and lively, so that a good wedding becomes a farce, or even a funeral.

Excessive hole in the room.

Marriage should be a very festive thing, the bride and groom on the wedding day of the appropriate play can increase the festive atmosphere, but if too much play will lead to a lot of problems, the new house is our traditional custom, but there are many places this custom because of some people's excessive behavior and become unacceptable.

Desperately persuaded to drink. Drinking alcohol on your wedding day is an essential life event, and it is essential to drink a little alcohol to cheer up. But if you don't drink in moderation or don't care about the amount of alcohol the other person drinks, and try your best to persuade you to drink, this is a very bad behavior.

Excessive annoyance with bridesmaids.

There are many places where bridesmaids are made, and it has also become a custom. It's okay to have a proper amount of fun, but there are many places where bridesmaid messing has become a vice, and if that's the time, the behavior becomes very vulgar.

There are fewer bad habits in weddings in various places, but there is one more famous, that is, the so-called marriage trouble, and the marriage is also called the hole room, the earliest we can trace back to the Han Dynasty, this custom has been passed down to this day, but the marriage in ancient times is not the same as now. In ancient times, marriage was more traditional and conservative, and the etiquette and dogma at that time were very strict, and the men and women who married generally did not have too much affection, and they did not even meet before they got married. It is generally the order of the parents, and the words of the matchmaker are far less free than modern marriage.

Marriage can promote the relationship between the two parties and allow the couple to rely on each other.

In ancient times, the marriage was just to set off the atmosphere of marriage, and it was also a blessing to the newlyweds. At that time, the marriage was said to be able to pray for blessings and drive away trouble, and some people said that if the husband could be beaten on the day of marriage, it meant that he was very powerful and could be the pillar of the family. Nowadays, the marriage has completely changed, and the current marriage is more of a mischief, doing vulgar things under the banner of marriage.

It is said that there is no size in the wedding for three days, if someone makes a marriage, both the bride and groom will be teased, not only that, but of course the groom's parents can't run, they will also be tricked, and they can't be angry and can only laugh if they are tricked, otherwise the wedding will not be festive. I don't know where the rules come from, there are really people who have been abiding by them for so many years, and they have to accompany the smiling face when they are ridden on the head, and I really can't find any other words except pedantic.

In recent years, on the Internet and on TV, I will always see people making trouble with the bridesmaids and attacking the bridesmaids. It is common to see the parents of a certain groom with big hats on their heads, plastered on their faces, and signs on their chests with unsightly words. The groom was sprayed with a fire extinguisher, and this kind of uncivilized thing often happens.

It's not a blessing, it's an insult.

1. Hide wedding shoes.

In many places, there is a custom of hiding wedding shoes. The bride's shoes were hidden by the bride's family in a place, so that the groom's side could go to find them, and if they couldn't find the shoes, they couldn't marry the bride, and if they couldn't find the shoes, they would take a red envelope to solve the problem.

One of the more impressive: it was a buddy's wedding, we rummaged through the cabinets, and the bride's skirt was stunned to find the wedding shoes, seeing that the time was about to be missed, and the groom was anxious, and the final result ended in failure. The groom solved the matter with a red envelope of 6666 yuan, and it turned out that the wedding shoe was hidden in the lantern hanging in the yard, which was really ruthless!

4. Eat dumplings.

On the wedding day, when the groom walks into the door of the bride's house, there are two sisters-in-law standing in the aisle, one of the sisters-in-law holding 6 dumplings in her hand, and the sister-in-law will feed the groom the dumplings. This is not for nothing, it still needs to be solved by red envelopes.

A buddy in our village experienced this link when he married his daughter-in-law, eating one dumpling for 1,000 yuan and 6,000 yuan for 6 dumplings. Because the two sisters-in-law each held 6 dumplings, they got 10,002, and later through the coordination and communication of the groom's elders, the two sisters-in-law were solved with a total of 6,000 yuan.

2. Put cigarettes.

From the entrance of the bridal village to the door of the bride's house, there are large and small benches along the way, what is the use? The groom's side should put a box of cigarettes on each bench, and not leave one bench empty. The bench is divided into three types: large, medium and small, respectively, with different cigarettes, which does require a lot of energy and costs a lot of money.

3. Get off the sedan money.

As the saying goes: there is nothing that money can't solve. When the wedding car arrives at the groom's village, the bride needs to give a red envelope when she gets off the car, which is not a casual drop-off, as for how much to give, it depends on the local customs.

I remember that when my cousin in our village got married, the bride didn't know much about these customs and got off the bus directly, but was driven back by her mother's family to get on the bus again, telling her: How can you get off the bus casually without a red envelope? It seems that the amount of money asked for at that time was relatively large, and I embarrassed my cousin's family, and in the end it was quite stiff, and I didn't know how to solve it.

A lot, a lot! However, with the development of the times, some of the old customs of 20 years ago were gradually abandoned, but then some rural marriage customs and bad customs in the new era followed.

Hello. The main customs of marriage here are:

1. The exquisiteness and taboo of marriage.

Clause. 1. On the wedding day, the bride's dress is forbidden to have pockets.

Since ancient times, women have the custom of wearing red dresses when they get married, in the past when people's economic conditions were not good, girls would also wear red clothes when they got married, and now with the development of society, girls are generally wearing white wedding dresses when they get married. Whether it is a red dress or a wedding dress, one thing to note is that the dress worn by the bride on the day must not have pockets, so as not to take away the wealth of the bride's family when she gets married.

Clause. 2. On the wedding day, the bride is forbidden to fan the fan.

On the day of the wedding, whether it is the groom or the bride, remember not to fan the fan, because "fan" and "scatter" are the same sound, there is the meaning of breaking up, marriage is a long and lifelong thing, if on the wedding day to imply the breakup, it is too "touching" unlucky. Therefore, on the wedding day, even if the weather is hot, you can't fan the wind with a fan.

Clause. 3. The bride should cry on the wedding day.

After a woman marries, it means that she has to leave her own home, and she will be a member of her husband's family in the future, and after marrying into her husband's family, she must serve her in-laws, and she can no longer be as willful as before, and it is inevitable to be sentimental when she thinks about leaving her parents and siblings. In some places in the countryside, the marriage of a woman is called "crying marriage", and the more the bride cries, the better, because crying represents the meaning of "the more you cry, the more you get rich".

Clause. Fourth, the bride's sister-in-law should be avoided on the wedding day.

On the day of the woman's wedding, all relatives and friends can send the bride out, but the bride's sister-in-law should avoid it, because "aunt" and "lonely" have the same sound, and "sister-in-law" has the same sound as "sweep". Lonely is lonely, and everyone knows that there is a word "sweeping the floor and going out", which represents the meaning of bad luck, so the bride's sister-in-law should avoid it on the wedding day.

Scratching the bride's feet, although everyone says it's a bad habit, I think it's okay.

Are there a lot of them going to be illegal?

Wedding banquet is an important ceremony to celebrate the wedding, but there are often some strange phenomena in the wedding banquet. Here are some of the oddities that happen in almost every wedding reception.

1.The phone rings non-stop.

At the wedding banquet, people often use their mobile phones to take pictures, make ** calls or send and receive text messages during the ceremony, and these behaviors will destroy the festive atmosphere and sacred sense of ceremony of the wedding.

2.Spitting, playing profanity in mobile games.

Some guests will spit at the wedding banquet, which not only destroys the public health image, but also affects the taste of the food. At the same time, playing games and watching ** at the banquet, this barbaric behavior will also affect the appetite of the people at the same table, and it will also destroy the atmosphere of the festival and the cave day.

3.Bring your own drinks and food.

It is strictly forbidden to bring out food and drinks in wedding venues, but there are still many people who ignore the regulations and bring their own drinks, food and even alcohol, resulting in unnecessary waste and unhygienic behavior.

4.Feel free to occupy a seat.

Some guests will occupy other people's seats at the wedding banquet at will, and are unwilling to give up their seats, causing a certain degree of embarrassment and conflict.

5.Bringing children with them without supervision.

At the wedding banquet, some parents will bring their children into the venue, but they do not arrange their children's activities and meals properly, resulting in noisy children, which seriously affects the effect of the banquet.

The wedding is a sacred ceremony, and the wedding banquet should also respect the paichun and abide by the corresponding rules and regulations, so the guests should pay attention to their own behavior when attending the wedding banquet and do not let the phenomenon affect the wedding. Only by following the rules and respecting each other can you add to the joy of your wedding reception and create unforgettable memories.

In China, the customs are different in every place, and marriage customs are one of them. In the case of Guangdong, where I live, there are also many interesting marriage customs.

The first is the wedding venue. In Guangdong, weddings are usually held in hotels, but many people also prefer to have their weddings in their own homes. It is common to set up a door frame in front of the house, which is the traditional custom"Build a door frame"。

The door frame is generally decorated with bamboo and flowers, symbolizing the happy marriage and prosperity of the couple.

The second is the wedding attire. In Guangdong, brides usually wear red dragon and phoenix dresses, which are made of red silk with patterns embroidered with gold thread. The groom, on the other hand, wears a black or dark suit with a top hat.

Let's talk about wedding food. Cantonese cuisine is mainly light, refreshing, and delicious. At weddings, the bride's family usually prepares bridal cakes and chicken soup, which symbolize fertility, reunion, and living a good life.

The groom's family will prepare braised lion's head and wedding cakes, which also symbolize good luck and good luck.

Finally, let's talk about wedding customs. In Guangdong, brides must put a piece on the soles of their feet before going out"Caiye", symbolizing the need to earn enough wealth after marriage. And the bride has to do it after she arrives at her new home"Pick up the door"In the ceremony, the bride must step over a pile of charcoal fire in front of the new home, indicating that she has stepped through the obstacles and successfully entered the new family.

In short, each place has its own unique marriage customs, which all imply good luck and happiness. No matter where the wedding is held, I hope that every couple can have a beautiful and happy married life.