There are many rules for rural people to get married, but what are the more rules than those in the

Rural marriage involves everything such as the time of marriage, the place of marriage, the direction of marriage, etc., following the way left by the ancestors, blind dates, touching fate, and then witnessing, greeting, and receiving relatives. No matter how the man and woman know each other, there must be a matchmaker, an intermediary, to discuss marriage.

Of course, there are some places where there are some bad customs, such as marriage troubles, which are not advocated, and rural marriages are exquisite, and sometimes the whole village is invited to dinner.

Compared with people in the city, they have a house, a car, and three golds, and they don't live with their mother-in-law after marriage, and they have to have children immediately after marriage.

Nowadays, the rules for marriage are the same in cities and rural areas, perhaps because they will be different in different places, but in a city, the rules are mostly the same in rural areas and cities.

Rural marriage customs refer to the marriage customs of people getting married in rural areas of China. What I want to talk about here today is what kind of marriage customs are for people in rural areas.

Rural marriage customs are actually more interesting than those of urban people, because rural people follow the rules of their ancestors when they get married. Rural people still retain the traditional wedding customs of their ancestors, and they have to perform six ceremonies, including Nacai, asking for names, Najib, Nazheng, inviting dates, and greeting in person.

One: Nacai, if the woman in the man's family has a fancy to which family, he can directly ask the matchmaker to go to the woman's house to propose marriage.

Two: ask the name, the man asks the matchmaker to ask the woman's name and birthday, and the woman also asks the matchmaker to ask the man's name and birthday, the man wants to get the woman's name and the birth date after pressing it under the teacup in front of the statue of the stove king, if there is no abnormality within three days, it is okay.

Three: Najib: The man should ask a fortune teller to calculate whether the birthdays of the two people are compatible, and if so, he can ask the matchmaker to go to the woman's home to announce.

Four: recruitment, in fact, is that the man brings the dowry to the woman's home to give the dowry, the dowry includes gift money, three gold, clothing and cloth, auspicious food, etc.

Five: Please ask the fortune teller to calculate the auspicious day to get married, and the man should go to the woman's home to ask if it is okay.

Six: Welcome, welcome is that the groom official rides a horse with a sedan chair to the woman's house to pick up the bride. Nowadays, the Chaoshan people have changed their relatives to welcome relatives, that is, the man's family sends a blessed person to bring a sedan chair to the woman's house to pick up the relatives.

There is a suona team to welcome relatives, and there are two sedan chairs behind the bridal sedan chair, among which the blessed people and the nobles who greet the relatives are seated.

Seeing this, don't you think the marriage customs in Chaoshan countryside are very interesting? It can be said that this kind of wedding is the envy of many Chinese girls, and it can let everyone experience the fun of marriage in ancient times. In fact, the customs of marriage in rural areas are still very close to ancient weddings, and it is definitely recommended if you want to see it at a glance.

The customs of weddings in rural areas are not like those in big cities now, and what invitations need to be sent to be considered invitations. After the marriage, it was not over. There is also drinking, listening to the window, returning to the door, etc.

Choosing auspiciousness is the big day when both parties choose to get married, and they generally ask a fortune teller to calculate according to the eight characters of the birth dates of both parties, and choose a good day to write on red paper, which is handed over to the woman by the matchmaker. If both parties have no opinion, they can prepare for marriage.

will carry out marriage troubles, and will let the matchmaker come to propose, will also prepare the dowry prepared for the dowry, will make marriages, and will also make trouble.

In the countryside, when getting married, Mr. Yiyang will generally be asked to calculate the extreme, the south to build a new house to decorate the house, the woman should buy some dowry, the time to welcome the marriage should be selected in the early morning or early morning, the man should be married to the woman's home to pick up the relatives.

Generally, it is a haunted house, the groom has to pick up the bride, the bride has a bouquet of flowers in her hand, will distribute some candy, and set off firecrackers.

I am an authentic rural person, I still see a lot of such things, friends in the city are relatively low-key when they get married, and friends in the countryside often have to make a big feature when they get married, which requires a big pomp, and some places are exaggerated and even put on a running water table for a few days. It's as if they want to inform the world about their marriage, so that people from all over the world can share the joy of their marriage, but I think it's a lot of money and it's not worth it. So what are they doing with a lot of pomp and circumstance?

I think there are several reasons for this:

First, it may be the psychology of comparison. People like to compare with each other, hello I want to be better, as long as there is a family to do a lot of pomp at the wedding, after that, whether the family conditions are good or relatively poor, they must also make the wedding lively. All kinds of things that can highlight the happy event must be done sufficiently, such as driving the wedding car around the villages and so on.

In fact, this kind of psychology of comparison is not only in weddings, but even in funerals. They are afraid that if they don't do things properly at home, they may attract ridicule from others and be perceived as petty. In other words, such a thing is actually very helpless and is a common social phenomenon.

Second, money is the main reason. If you want to put on a show, if you don't have money, it's in vain, and now the business behavior is basically focused on making women's money, especially the money when you get married, you can't even find a reason to bargain, for example, something that was originally only worth a hundred yuan, sold to you for six hundred and sixty, people say that this is an auspicious number, you think about it, it is indeed very auspicious, and you will gladly accept it. However, people who don't have money may not even hold a banquet when they get married, because they really don't have money, and it is impossible to slap a swollen face and become fat.

To sum up, I think that the reason for the big wedding pomp in rural areas is the psychology of comparison, and the other is money. That's all for me, hope it helps, bye.

This is a traditional custom, if you get married in the countryside, the number of relatives and friends is relatively large, and if the pomp is larger, it will also get a lot of attention in the village.

Mainly because I want everyone to know that I am married, and also to let the villagers know that I am living happily.

Because this is a kind of respect for feelings, and secondly, it is also to give the other party an explanation, so that the other party can marry into their own family in a beautiful manner.

The main reason is that marriage in the countryside is still very important, and it is more solemn.

Some big families still continue to have a more strict education method, family style, family education, family training, these things are actually very important, because there are still some big families that have lasted for a long time, and they pay more attention to this aspect of educationTheir education for future generations is still relatively strict, and of course, because of this strict education, their own quality is still quite excellent.

In rural areas, there are many particulars about weddings, funerals, and daily language, such as engagement before marriage, returning to the door, and holding a banquet across the brazier; The funeral needs to pick the day, orientation, etc.

There really is. For example, a pregnant person cannot attend a wedding and cannot sit in the couple's bed. When playing cards, you can't lend money to others, otherwise you will lose. Suddenly, the pain in the body will be drenched with chopsticks.

In fact, there are not many rules and exquisiteness in rural areas, because the pace of life in rural areas is relatively slower, and people are relatively simple.

There are indeed many rules in the countryside, such as funerals, weddings, building houses, and renovating ancestral halls.

In fact, there are not many rules and exquisiteness in rural areas, and rural people are relatively free in life.

We all know that in many rural areas, it is normal for you, as a neighbor, to borrow something from me and I will borrow something from you, but some things can be borrowed, some things are borrowed and you don't want to pay them back, and some things are not borrowed and borrowed, there are all sayings in this.

I'm afraid that many young people don't know the old rules now, so I'll take you to understand them today.

1. Incense is not borrowed.

In rural areas, when it comes to incense, it means passing on the ancestry.

Especially in the southern region, no matter what to worship, basically every household is to light incense and worship.

If you lend all the incense, it means that your own descendants are cut off, and the meaning is not good, so the incense will not be borrowed casually.

2. The guy who eats can't be borrowed.

The bowl for eating also means that it is a skill for individuals to make a living, so don't go to other people's houses to borrow a guy for eating, if you really don't have it, you can buy it yourself in the market, otherwise you will be scolded.

If you lend out all your skills to make a living, how will you live in the future?

3. The yeast is not borrowed.

Ferment is also called yeast, and some places are called primers, and rural areas like to use this yeast as an introduction to steamed buns.

When the noodles are awakened, a section will be left after each steamed bun as an introduction to the next steamed bun.

It is used in this way, so this kind of thing is rarely borrowed in the countryside.

Because the yeast is borrowed, it means that the food and clothing of the family has become a problem.

So, in the countryside, these are all exquisite.

However, with the development of society, these concepts have gradually faded.

1. Eat happy noodles.

After the groom arrives at the bride's house, the bride's parents will sit with the groom for a while, and then the bride's sister and sister-in-law will appear on the stage, start to ask for red envelopes, and agree on the price of the wedding noodles, which is generally negotiated in advance. When the wedding noodles begin, the groom should eat them quickly, and the bride's family will quickly grab them. The implication is to win the rich, so the two parties will try their best to grab the happy face.

Under normal circumstances, the groom can only eat one bite, and the noodles are robbed.

2. Door opening fee.

After eating the happy noodles, the groom came to the bride's door, and the bride did not open the door, and if she wanted to open the door, she had to take a red envelope. Of course, these red envelopes are all requested by the bride's family.

3. Door lock fee.

When the groom entered the brother's house, the bride's parents had already locked the door, and if they wanted to marry the bride back, they had to pay the door lock fee, not give red envelopes, and not open the door. Some smart grooms will arrange for someone to hold the door in advance and not let it be locked.

Fourth, three cannons.

When the groom has almost taken out the red envelope, it is time for the bride to get on the sedan chair, but the groom must put enough three cannons, and the firecrackers are longer than the other, so that the bride can get on the sedan chair.

Fifth, there is no turning back.

When you come back, you can't take the road when you get married, which means that the husband and wife will not go back.

Sixth, grab the red quilt after the hole room.

On the night of the cave room, the bride and groom will grab the only red quilt, and whoever grabs it means that the family will have the final say.

That's an interesting marriage custom in some of our rural villages.