Seeking, love expert psychologist. Help analyze his psychology. THX

She feels guilty, she's afraid you're gone, she doesn't want you to leave.

She asked you if you could still be friends, and she wanted to be friends with you because she thought you were good.

Girls are very fickle, and their hearts are very soft, although she flew you, I think if a friend pulls her in a difficult time, she will still throw herself into your arms, but whether you want it or not, it's two different things.

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I think she's afraid of embarrassing each other.

And if nothing else, everyone in your company should know that you used to be together, right?

If you stay, she won't know how to face you and will be embarrassed.

If you leave, she may be said by gossipy people to have forced you away.

So she's hesitant and embarrassed now.

If it's for emotional reasons.

If you are still friends after you break up, it means that she doesn't love you.

If you don't see each other again after breaking up, or even hate each other, then you once loved each other with all your heart's content.

You're such an emotional noob If you love her, you won't stay in that company after a breakup, because it will make you feel emotional, if you love her, you won't be friends again after a breakup, because you once loved each other, if you love her, you'll keep her, because she asks you because she still loves you, brother, go find her back.

When I read the last sentence of your question, I think you're going to break up.

Because you already thought in your heart that you were going to break up, didn't you?

You already know how many times you have thought about the problem in your heart, but it seems that you don't have the courage to face it. You just feel that the problem between you is a problem.

I can't say you can be together, or you can't be together.

I think your family conditions are better than this boy's family in all aspects, are you afraid that your parents will not look down on him, right?

Here's the problem. Are you going to get married soon, definitely not, because he's only 19 and he hasn't even graduated yet. Besides, he's graduated, will you get married? No, because he still has to look for a job, settle down first, and then, will he get married, not necessarily, because under the condition that he does not have a certain economic situation, can you get married, will you be comfortable with getting married, no.

How old was he when all this happened, 20? 21？How small, for a man, and you?

24？25？It's not small, isn't it?

And after all this, whether the boy's heart will change, I don't know. In short, it is not a good object to continue to be together.

Parted? Harm? How can it be less, after all, you have true feelings, and now it is not practical to say that the long pain is not as good as the short pain, you are divided now, it is really uncomfortable, but what can be done.

It is said that people do not destroy the heavens and the earth for themselves, although this sentence is too extreme, but there is still a certain amount of truth.

I think it's really going to be divided, as for the damage, how to say it, it's good to get together and disperse, and it's not impossible to talk to him well. used to be the one you loved, I hope in the end he can think more for you, after all, there is a little problem with your age.

Age is not a problem, the key is whether you really love each other.

First of all, the two fell in love with each other until they formed a family, and sibling love was not the main problem (my mom was 2 years older than my dad), but sibling love was not without problems. It mainly depends on whether the two of you can face and solve it together through communication.

1. Girls mature earlier than boys, so you are older than him, so do you accept that you are more mature than the other party, in other words, do you accept that you need to take care of him in many ways, rather than him taking care of you.

2. In later life, because his ideas or thoughts are less mature than yours, will you not be able to help but correct or hope that his thoughts will change? For him, will he not mind if he is under your fingers? (If you choose to be with someone, don't think about changing him, because when he changes, your relationship will also change).

3. He is still studying and has not been baptized by society. Does he really know now what kind of person he needs to be with him for the rest of his life?

4. His parents are divorced, can he still face and solve all kinds of difficulties in their future life together?

5. The economy is an important foundation for a family's happiness or family stability, and you should have no bottom for him now. Do you mind if you might face the pressure of being the breadwinner of your family later on? Can you guarantee that you can still maintain your current mindset and optimistic life in the face of these pressures?

If you can be sure that he is someone who can live. That's not actually a problem on your parents' side. Because you know your parents, you can talk to him first and help him deal with your parents.

In addition, in fact, as parents, they all want their children to live happily, as long as your parents are not too snobbish, as long as your parents believe that he is good to you, there is nothing to object.

Answer your question from psychology: Dreams belong to the unconscious mind, and dreams do not have continuity. Everyone dreams during their sleep (rapid eye movement after sleep is dreaming), but some dreams can be recalled, and some dreams have long been forgotten when they wake up.

The situation you are expressing is probably not a dream, but may be a further continuation of your problematic thinking with your boyfriend during the day when you are in a deep rest (close to the state before sleep). I thought that your love for your boyfriend was greater than his love for you, so you felt lost when you couldn't meet your boyfriend's needs, so that you thought that she would be more considerate of him than you, resulting in uneasiness and entanglement.

It is recommended to read Zhu Jianjun's book "How Many Souls Do You Have".

Because you care about him too much, I don't feel the need to be so nervous, just let it be, what should be yours is yours, and others can't take it away.

Half and half of it

First of all, I have faith in him

How can your boyfriend even quarrel when he sleeps Well, I dreamed of a divorce or divorce. I believe that you will have good things in the future, of course, not rhetoric, but really good.

This dream reminds you, what should I do?

Because the pressure is too much, you don't have to worry about it day and night, you just need to boost your self-confidence and you'll be fine.

Every time you ask her out, does she shirk it? If that's the case, she's deliberately avoiding you, and you can imagine how she feels about you.

If it's just occasional, it's because she's busy with work and study, tired, you can find time to see her, I've known her for three months, and I almost know it, so take care of the rhythm yourself.

It's better to confess directly, she's quite busy, maybe it's because she doesn't have time, since she thinks about it, she confesses directly. It also saves delays.

Send you a word, you can't eat hot tofu in a hurry.

If you like it, you can directly confess that a man must be able to afford it and put it down, just do it, if you can't do it, you can't do it.

Use time to prove that your relationship is what you have now, and they only like each other as you said, so love her as always! She is your girlfriend, treat her well, she will know that love is not just by imagination, and imagination is different from reality, she will understand one day I hope you can get through this "difficulty" as soon as possible

Netizens are right, if you love her, you will keep her. My message is that the first love is sweet, and the second love is sad. I mean re-love (old lovers). As long as you're happy, there's no reason to break up.

Women love and hate, and if they really fall in love with you, there will be no situation as you say. This is a different man, men will be nostalgic for their old lovers, and women are different, unless they haven't fallen in love with you yet.

Anyone will be uncomfortable when they encounter such a thing, depending on your situation, you love her very much, the key is whether her position is firm or not! But she told you so frankly, it proves that she loves you very much, at least she feels sorry for you! So now you have to be firm, the way to make you firm is not to think too much, it's hard to do this, but if you do it, you will definitely succeed! Go for it.

Feelings are something that cannot be forced

It's better for her, she dares to tell you to prove that she still cares about you, you are with her, she and the man are in a different place, and the distance advantage is enough for you to get rid of potential dangers.