Ask for help from a psychologist for analysis, thank you

It feels like the third floor hit the nail on the head! That's where your illness lies! Of course, to find the root cause of the problem, you have to find a solution!

Based on these descriptions alone, we can only get a general idea of the whole picture! They are people who you see a lot but don't know each other, and when these people seem to be talking behind your back, you feel that they are talking about you and feel unhappy, and over time, they have a very bad impression in your heart (we say it's an automatic association of the nervous system)!It is conceivable that when these people gather to discuss, there have been one or more times when you hear that they are really talking about you, and it also leads to the fact that once they gather to discuss, your nervous system will automatically associate them with talking about you, and even if you hear that they are not talking about you, you will feel disgusted by their gathering, and develop to the point that you hate them as soon as you see them!

The most terrible thing is that they are downstairs from you, and they have to meet almost every day, so that over time your psychology will produce depressed emotions, and the problem will not be solved for a day, it will become more and more serious, maybe one day there will be an outbreak of major events To solve such psychological problems, professional psychologists need counseling to relieve the demons! But I think that hard counseling can only solve the problem temporarily, because it is inevitable to meet every day, and maybe one day it will happen again, so it is not a way to see a psychiatrist for a long time! However, I personally have a suggestion that I believe can get rid of this demon forever, but it's too difficult for you to do, and I won't say it, because it's very difficult for ordinary people to do, and it's even harder for you, and once you say it, you can't do it, and it will affect your self-confidence!

I can only say that face everything calmly, nothing can be said to others, relax your heart, the road will be wider, since you don't do bad things, why be afraid of people talking, since others are of poor quality, do you want to be the same as him? If there were a group of beggars on the side of the road who were talking about your poor quality, would you bother with them? Think for yourself!

I'm not an expert, but I'm going to be a good friend to help you!! o(∩_o...

The first thing to remember is that everyone is a good person, but in a different way. Maybe they just want to care about the next generation! The next time you see them, you can try to nod and smile, say hello, and say hello!

Maybe they're just gossiping, or they're not used to the current décor and think you're a bad boy. People are still good. Don't get too caught up in what others think of you!! Didn't Dante say that? "Go your own way and let others say go! ”

Maybe it's because of your age, you have some ambiguity about your clothes and your life. But as long as the neighbors help each other in ordinary life, everyone will get along!

You said that this situation only happened after graduation, is it that you don't have the energy left to pay attention to these problems when you are in school, think about these problems, and think about these problems to get worse and worse, and the more you think about such a terrible problem, the more annoying you become, and push yourself into the horns!

Don't worry about these trivial things, find more meaningful things to enrich your life!

The days will go on, how can a day without waves be called a day??? Don't get so much trouble because of a little thing. You see: the sky is still so blue, the grass is still so green!

The lifestyle of the residents you meet downstairs is different from yours, it can be said that they have different values, aesthetics, ways of survival, concerns, etc., as for you, you may be quite exclusive of their way of life, there will be a confrontation and contempt for the mentality, but for them, things that are different from their concepts also need to be pointed out and discussed, this situation is normal, don't care too much.

Unless you are extremely unwilling to accept the existence of people with different self-concepts, then when you meet and hear such people, it will definitely cause your own inner unhappiness.

It is recommended that you learn to accept social things with different self-concepts, to understand that things with different selfs also have their affirmative existence value, just understand and accept the people who do exist, don't avoid or exclude too much, and your confusion will be solved naturally.

Hello, I saw the message you sent me.

Your situation is similar to your own feelings, and there are a lot of assumptions. The reason for the assumption has to do with your state of mind. If possible, it is best to consult with a psychologist nearby, as it is necessary to talk carefully to help you change your appearance and feelings.

If there is no condition, check on the Internet if there is a counselor who can do online counseling, do formal counseling, of course, you need financial support from your parents, probably tell them your situation, it is possible that they do not understand, then say that the psychologist said. If you really don't have the conditions, you can communicate with netizens, or communicate with you on the forum of the Xinli Consultation Network and listen to everyone's thoughts. Communication is important.

How can I put it, there are basically two parts to your question.

One is to socialize with friends; The second is family communication.

Let's talk about friends first, in fact, the most important things between friends are three aspects, 1 trust, 2 harmony, 3 tolerance. Trust between friends and friends is very important, you must believe in each other, have confidence in each other, so that you can really have a reliance, even with a friend who is completely inconsistent with their own personality and completely different from each other, only trust is the first step to understand each other and open their hearts to each other.

Harmonious. The meaning of harmony is wide-ranging. Simply speaking, it can be said to be a kind of concession, to develop strengths and avoid weaknesses, to get to know each other silently, to explore each other, and then use these understandings to consolidate the relationship between everyone in the future getting along and interacting.

Then everyone worked hard to maintain a harmonious coexistence and life.

Tolerance. Hehe, this teacher said again, I won't explain much here. Be forgiving and forgiving, that's my advice, and it's important to treat your friends with your heart.

As for family communication, I don't think there is any need to force it, after all, you will eventually grow up, and when you really grow up, how much can your parents' words influence you? All your choices and decisions in the future will be faced by you alone. Be yourself, because your parents won't be with you forever, learn to be strong alone, it's very effective, and it's also something you must get on the road in the future.

As for the betrayal of your friend, you said. In my understanding, it's not that much of a betrayal, sometimes people exaggerate and magnify their feelings, but in fact, in the end, it's just a trivial matter, give them a punch and laugh it off.

It's a normal behavior, and you don't need to use this diagnostic criterion, you just need to correct your learning attitude, and you don't have to take it so seriously.

Of course not.

First of all, the standard is very clear, to fit three, you only found two.

In addition, the understanding of these two articles may be a little different from what you described. It is human nature for two parties A and B to have a competitive relationship, and it is human nature for one party to conceal or cover up information in the field of competition. And A thinks that the other party is "deliberate", which is also a normal reflection.

Even if B tells A the true information and A thinks it is false, it can be understood that the "suspicion" is too heavy or "not enough" to perceive the other party as "hostile". And the sixth doesn't seem to have anything to do with them.

Article 1: If A and B do not have a good relationship, when A sees B talking to someone from a distance, as a result, as soon as A approaches, B breaks up with the person who is talking, and A thinks that B is saying bad things about him behind his back. When B goes to the teacher's office to talk to the teacher, A will think that B will go to the teacher again to tell him what is wrong.

And after confirming with the relevant personnel that it has nothing to do with A, A is not convinced, and is convinced of his own determination.