Why do I do something that others think is wrong?

Dear landlord.

Glad to analyze for you.

I've had your problem before.

The following is my hope to help the landlord.

In fact, there are many things that will always be understood after experiencing it, how to protect yourself after the emotional pain, how to persist and give up in a timely manner after being stupid, and we slowly understand ourselves in the gain and loss, and there are many things in the world that can only be seen clearly in the past. In fact, life does not need such indifferent attachments, there is nothing that cannot be abandoned. Learn to give up, and life will be easier; Learn to give up, turn away before crying, leaving a simple figure; Learn to give up and bury yesterday in your heart; Make good memories; Learn to give up, so that each other can have an easier start, the love that is bruised all over the body is not necessarily unforgettable, it is not easy to come over the deep and shallow love, gently pull out your hand to say goodbye, you don't have to let yourself be hurt more deeply, every gratitude is very beautiful, every companionship is very intoxicating.

Is it a pity that you can't have it, whether it is missing makes us feel more nostalgic, feelings are not the answer to the questionnaire, the hard pursuit can not make life more complete, maybe a little confused, a trace of sadness, will make this answer sheet longer, put away the mood and go, miss the flower you will harvest the rain, who said that if you like a thing, you must have, sometimes, some people in order to get what he wants, go to the extreme, maybe he got it, but in the process of chasing, What is lost is also incalculable, and the price paid is irreparable, perhaps those costs are heavy.

There are many things in the world that can only be seen clearly in the past. There is a kind of love, which is obviously deep love, but the expression is imperfect. There is a kind of love that knows that you want to give up, but you are not willing to leave.

There is a kind of love that I know is torment, but I can't hide it. There is a kind of love, knowing that there is no way forward, but the heart is not easy to take back. Love can be a momentary thing or a lifetime thing.

Leave because of love, give up because of love. It may sound great, but who can truly give up for love? A person is not lonely, but a person who thinks is lonely.

It's only when you care too much about someone that love becomes a burden. -

The landlord is welcome to continue to ask.

If there are any inaccuracies in my opinion, please forgive me!

Looking forward to your !!

First, this person's family education has a lot to do with since childhood, many exist in single-parent families, doting since childhood, not criticizing and educating well, there is no correct position on right and wrong, and he likes to follow his own emotions, and there are children who were fostered in his grandmother's house or aunt's house when he was a child, so he lacks parental love since he was a child, and he becomes very selfish over time.

Second, they are not well educated, do not understand the dialectic of things, cannot analyze problems, and cannot distinguish right from wrong from different angles. Going to school and studying is also a hasty end of school, going to mix in society, and you can't do anything well.

Third, personality problems, arrogant, may have superior family conditions, seem to be one level higher than others, always use an idea that is one level higher than others, even if they are wrong, they will never admit their mistakes, such people are terrible, and eventually they will lose friendship and even family affection and love.

2.Probably overconfidence. I feel that I am better than others in everything, I see too much of my own strengths, and rarely find my own shortcomings, thinking that I am always right.

3.may have been too tolerant of him since he was a child. Mistakes are rarely pointed out, leading to a view that others should do what he thinks.

4.His self-esteem is very strong, even if he knows in his heart that he is wrong, but he just refuses to bow his head. I don't want to admit it.

If a person never feels that he is wrong, it is not good for him to do so. After all, we are all constantly growing, learning lessons, and if we always think that we are right, it will also cause pressure on others when we get along.

People often have this problem, and they are all self-centered. As the saying goes, your own shortcomings are on your back, and you can't see them! The shortcomings of others are clear at a glance.

Take pride in reinforcing the shortcomings of others. But he never looks in the mirror to see his own shortcomings. Self-centered, everything you do is right, and what is not suitable for you is wrong.

Selfishness and self-deception!

If a person is caused by cognitive misunderstandings, there will be two reactions, one is that when others point out her mistakes, her face immediately changes suddenly, she is very unhappy, very angry, this is the reaction of a person who is not good at words, and the other is as you said, she is very eloquent, anti-customer-oriented, back-to-back, and behaves very strongly, you usually can't talk about her. In addition, you have no speaking skills when communicating, and you speak very bluntly, she is not strong and reasonable, and people with cognitive blind spots are very sensitive to the criticism of others, so when you work with this kind of person, you must put affirmation in the first place.

This kind of personality is related to his original family, personality genetics, and growth environment. The original family, such as divorced single parents, has been spent in suspicion, suspicion, and scolding since childhood, and there is no warmth and happiness at all, so he grew up with hatred, and he was hostile to anyone and suspicious, and he had to wrap himself in armor to feel safe. Parents were overly doting since childhood.

Say yes, respond to requests. In the long run, of course, I am high and used to being praised and coaxed. I have never been frustrated or criticized on the road to growth.

How can you stand the fingers and irresponsible remarks of others? Character determines behavior. It is selfishness and selfishness, and I dominate the martial arts.

The kind of person who thinks you reduce the amount of oxygen he takes when you take a breath of air.

The first may not feel that he is wrong. Such people are a little proud and grow up slowly. Lack of awareness of oneself Confucius said:

Three times a day, I save my body. "If a person wants to grow quickly, he must learn to reflect on himself. Second, there is a mentality of dying to save face and suffer sin.

If you make a mistake, you can't pull your face down to admit your mistake. Such a person is also terrible, when a person does not succeed, no one will give you a face, and the face is earned by yourself.

Selfish, because what you love most is yourself, so the first thing to do is to make yourself comfortable, the first thing to consider is your own interests, this kind of person, only care about their own grievances, only accept but not give, the world has to revolve around their own feelings, never consider others, how can they review themselves.

People are selfish, this is human nature, many people think that their way of doing things is right, even if they are wrong, they will not find the reason for themselves, and this kind of person's character is self-oriented, in their eyes, they will only see the shortcomings of others, and will not pay attention to whether their words and deeds will cause other disgust, the best way to treat this kind of person is not to go to the heart, treat him as a passerby.

Kindness also needs to be a little sharp.

This kind of person is a person who does not empathize and care about other people's emotions in life, in other words, he is more selfish, self-centered in everything, judges others by his own likes and dislikes, and thinks that others should accommodate and take care of her. There is a type of service personality in psychology, that is, the kind of personality that takes special care of others in everything and accommodates others, and she is the opposite here.

I don't know what type of thing I'm talking about, but no matter how big or small, I must communicate with her, even if I say it, both parties will be embarrassed, but we must communicate. Don't hide your dissatisfaction when you feel dissatisfied, wait until your anger is gone, explain to her what you can't accept and your principles, and keep a certain distance from even your best friends. Of course, if it's a friend you don't care about, you can slowly distance yourself from it.

Most people know right from wrong and never feel like they're wrong:

Some are extremely self-centered or very face-loving;

Some are pretended, because they are afraid that admitting mistakes will pay a price;

There are a very small number of people, who may be born (genetic) or may be influenced by the acquired environment, have no view of right and wrong, and do not know whether what they are doing is right or wrong.

In fact, they don't feel that they have never done wrong, they just don't admit that they have done wrong, because in their view, admitting that they have done wrong is admitting that they have failed. Or admit that what you do is not perfect and flawed. This is a very big blow to them.

Because they are psychologically very strong and have a tendency towards perfectionism. is unwilling to admit that he has failed a little bit, or he refuses to admit his shortcomings. They may also hate their stubbornness, but their pride won't let them bow their heads.

They will find self-satisfaction in this self-deception.

Summary. There are two reasons, one is that the standards of right and wrong of cognition things are different, or two standards, one for oneself and one for others. The second reason is emotionally driven, that is, intentional.

Why do people think they are right when they do something wrong? And what others do is wrong, in their hearts they are all wrong, and others are sorry for themselves?

There are two reasons, one is that the standards of right and wrong of cognition things are different, or two standards, one for oneself and one for others. The second reason is emotionally driven, that is, intentional.

Hello, I hope mine can be recognized by you.

Of the two reasons, the former is a problem of cognitive ability and the latter is a problem of self-centeredness.

My problem is that my ex-husband played disappearing and blocked everyone for a while, and now it's just not right for me to block him.

Isn't it robber logic to say that you don't talk about what you did before?

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Why don't you speak.

This is the first reason, especially the traditional habit of patriarchy, which leads your ex-husband to think that he is doing the right thing, and you can't do it, and the standards of right and wrong are different.

Now that you're divorced, why do you want to contact again? Do you have children? The reason why he needs to be contacted.

How should I do him.

Yes, child support is not given.

You can do that, as long as you fulfill your responsibilities as a father, these problems will not happen.

If you don't recognize your ex-husband's problems and refuse to fulfill your responsibility for child support, you can still do this: since you don't listen to what I say, and you don't fulfill your obligations and responsibilities for child support, then we will solve it through the law.

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I hope mine can help you a little.

Summary. Seeing your question, what should the wrong person do? Everyone will do something wrong, in their hearts are unwilling to happen, there will always be some misunderstandings of this or that, let yourself do something wrong, hurt some people, if you do something wrong, we can try, don't want to say that the other party apologizes, sincerely express your apologies, try to minimize the damage to him, you can also buy some small gifts for the other party, to show their apologies for what they have done, of course, the other party also has the right not to forgive you.

Seeing your question, what should the wrong person do? Everyone will do something wrong, in their hearts are unwilling to happen, there will always be some misunderstandings of this or that, let yourself do something wrong, hurt some people, if you do something wrong, we can try, don't want to say that the other party apologizes, sincerely express your apologies, try to minimize the damage to him, you can also buy some small gifts for the other party, to show their apologies for what they have done, of course, the other party also has the right not to forgive you.

Good afternoon, I am a co-teacher who asks a question, Peaches running on the road, I am a psychological counselor, good at adolescent and marriage and family counseling, I have been engaged in the psychological industry for 8 years now, I am very happy to serve you, I hope to help you with my professionalism. If you sincerely apologize, your friends will definitely forgive you, so can you tell us what happened between you? What caused the misunderstanding between you?