There is a classical saying that a dog bites Lu Dongbin, and he doesn t know the hearts of good peop

The dog bites Lu Dongbin, and he doesn't know the good heart, which is used to describe people who don't know how to be good or bad.

The dog bites Lü Dongbin, and does not know good people's hearts [gǒu yǎo lǚ dòng bīn,bù shí hǎo rén xīn].

Basic interpretation: Lu Dongbin: One of the eight immortals in the legend of the slow sedan chair. It is used to scold people and do not know what to do.

Source: Qing Cao Xueqin's "Dream of Red Mansions" Chapter 25: Mrs. Wang asked Jia Huan to copy "The Vajra Mantra", and Jia Huan came to Mrs. Wang to sit on the kang, and made people light candles and copy them in a gesture.

The maid Caixia asked him to transcribe, and Jia Huan insisted that Caixia and Baoyu were good and not good to him. Caixia scolded him for biting Lu Dongbin - he didn't know the hearts of good people. At this time, Baoyu and Wang Xifeng walked in, and Jia Huan had to sulk secretly.

The dog bites Lu Dongbin, and he doesn't know the hearts of good people" is an idiom, which means that he doesn't know how to be grateful, but he will take revenge. The allusion chain of this sentence originates from a story in "Dream of Red Mansions". In this story, Jia Huan spoke ill of Caixia because he was jealous of the relationship between Caixia and Baoyu, and Caixia scolded him for "dogs biting Lu Dongbin and not knowing good people's hearts".

Later, with the help of Baoyu, Jia Huan was appreciated by Mrs. Wang, and only then did Yipeng Town realize that he was wrong.

It means that he gives face to the other party too much, so that the other party thinks that he is a lion, that is, he is as powerful as a lion.

When Chinese interact with each other, especially when there are conflicts and contradictions, the most common sentence they say is "give face". If you don't give face, it will inevitably hurt both sides, and everyone will break up unhappily, and the gains outweigh the losses. If you give face, it is equivalent to giving others a ** level, and it is convenient for you to be convenient with others.

"Face" means a lot to Chinese, for example, when a person does something very thoughtfully and satisfactorily, when others praise him, he will feel very face. If he doesn't do a good job, he will feel very shameless when others talk about it.

So when he gave too much face, the other party gradually got used to it, he got cheap and behaved, he let him take a step, but he entered himself a foot. Slowly, they came to think that they were lions.

For such people, sometimes we can't say it directly because of the embarrassment, but everyone hates such people. In fact, sometimes we have to say that no matter how good our temper is, we still have to stick to our bottom line.

Whether it is in work or study, we can not avoid conflicts with others, no matter how well-behaved, how good-tempered, how much to give the other party, he will still have someone who will not be used to his own style, so he endures himself, and retreats.

Because he knew that he might take a step back and broaden the sky, Li accompanied but it didn't seem to be the case, and his approach did not get their understanding, but became a bargaining chip for them to gain an inch. If so, then our tolerance becomes cowardice in the eyes of others.

Therefore, there is nothing wrong with being soft-hearted and forbearing, it's just: those who have to make inches, don't get used to it; If you don't know how to reciprocate, don't keep it! Otherwise, there will be a lot of face, and the dogs will think that they are lions.