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There are also many people who divorce because their mother-in-law is very hateful. There are several examples of this around me. The most important thing is whether the husband has a backbone and understands the reason.
If you don't have the right ideas and don't know how to be considerate, it's really hard to live.
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It is very difficult for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along with each other, and 90% of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have contradictions between them, and the contradictions between living together are greater, and it doesn't matter if they don't live together. Bear with me, and when you become a mother-in-law, you will realize it.
I'll give you an article to see.
When the post-80s and post-90s became mothers-in-law, ......
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What does your husband do, will he listen to the fuck and quarrel with you? Anyway, what I want to say is that if your husband is good to you, then be together. If it's not good......I don't think you have much hope at home......Divorce may be a good ......
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Think clearly, don't wait for a child to say that divorce hurts the child. For the mother-in-law, let it, and don't let it if she shouldn't.
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If you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer in front of you. Should! Deserve!!!
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Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, try to understand each other.
Communicate more.
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The problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has existed since ancient times, and it is a difficult problem to deal with, its existence, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law directly affects the relationship of the whole family, making the family become a miasma, making many families have headaches, not only the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are unhappy, but the other members of the family are also more uncomfortable in the middle.
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law compete for the love of men, for the mother-in-law, the child she raised with hard work, with a partner, she will not be able to give up, and even think that the daughter-in-law will take her son away.
For a daughter-in-law, if she marries away from home, she is closest to her husband, and she will be very dependent on her husband, and her husband needs to listen to her.
Men and women are equal, feminist assertiveness is valued, and many people will abuse feminism. In the hearts of many mothers-in-law, they think that their daughter-in-law is married, and the daughter-in-law should listen to her own words, and the most prudent thing is to be a cow and a horse to serve herself.
As for the daughter-in-law, she has not suffered at home, so why should she suffer in her mother-in-law's house.
Concept generation gap: The difference in ideology leads to a poor relationship between the old and the young. In the eyes of her mother-in-law, Hannan understands her daughter-in-law's approach, and her daughter-in-law also has difficulty understanding her mother-in-law's thoughts.
There are many different ways of communicating and doing things in daily life, so the two of them don't like each other, and no one is convinced, and contradictions naturally appear.
Man's hesitation.
In many families, the attitude of the elders towards the daughter-in-law depends on the attitude of the son, if the son does not attach much importance to the woman, then as a mother-in-law, she naturally does not attach importance to the woman, and even thinks that the woman has climbed her son.
If the son cares about the woman very much, thinks about the woman in everything, and actively introduces him to his family, and listens to the woman's opinion in everything, then as a mother-in-law, she will naturally value her daughter-in-law.
In fact, if you want to solve the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, women need to improve a lot, and they can avoid many contradictions.
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The root cause of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law not getting along well lies in the competition between each other, most mothers-in-law think that their son marries the bride and forgets the mother, and the son who has been raised with hard work has to give love and care to another woman, and it is easy to lose a sense of security and dependence in the heart, feeling that they are ignored and have a sense of gap; And some daughters-in-law will feel that their husbands should spoil themselves and put themselves first, after all, husband and wife are the ones who accompany each other for a lifetime, and in addition, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will unconsciously compete for the dominance, discourse and dominance of a family.
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The first leakage, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have different ideas and concepts, and the original family and the small family have become a competitive relationship.
The mother-in-law has lived with her son for more than 20 or even 30 years, and after her son gets married, she will unconsciously think that her daughter-in-law has robbed her son. This is especially true for single mothers-in-law, or mothers-in-law who were originally unsatisfactory in their marriage.
And the daughter-in-law will think that she is the mistress of the new family, and the husband's love should belong to her, and it is psychologically difficult to accept that the husband still belongs to the mother-in-law.
2 women compete for 1 man at the same time, over time, there are many contradictions, how can they live in harmony?
Second, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lack empathy.
Some mothers-in-law complain about the high consumption of their daughters-in-law, and perhaps, the daughter-in-law is also working hard and running the family together. Some daughters-in-law are not used to eating the meals cooked by their mother-in-law, perhaps, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are people from different regions.
Dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law requires being honest with each other, and speaking up is the best way to communicate.
In the decision of things, the mother-in-law tried not to interfere in the affairs of the small family, and lived separately from her son and daughter-in-law, so as to be less financially involved. The daughter-in-law respects her mother-in-law's habits for decades, which makes her mother-in-law feel that she has one more family member psychologically.
Mother-in-law, think about what I would do if my daughter-in-law were my daughter. How much should I think about my mother-in-law if she were my mother? Empathize with each other.
Thirdly, the role played by the common man.
How the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is handled depends on the emotional intelligence of this common man.
Some men are like throwing their hands in charge and evading responsibility.
Some men say to each other that their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not good, can they be good?
There are also men who have a high EQ! The new clothes I bought for my mother said that my wife bought them; The birthday gift for my wife was given by my mother-in-law, even if I bought it myself, I just told my mother that I was like a mother.
If the family members are attentive to maintaining the family relationship and hope that the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will develop in a good way, it is necessary to do the following 3 points:
1.Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live independently.
2.Mutual understanding.
3.Give full play to the role of the common man.
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The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult relationship between family members, if you want to maintain the harmony of family relations, you must deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, in which both parties will think that they are the weak party, but in fact, this problem can not be generalized, specifically to judge, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law must be analyzed from the three aspects of the family status of both parties, the right to speak in the families of both sides and how many supporters there are on both sides.
First, judging the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law needs to be analyzed from the family status of both parties. Judging who is stronger in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law needs to be analyzed from the respective status of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the family, between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Relatively speaking, the party in a higher position is bound to occupy a stronger position in the relationship with each other, and the Lingshen is placed on the other side and becomes the side of Stanley Platinum, thus being in a weak position in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Second, the right of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to speak in the family determines the relationship between each other. The key factor that determines a person's status in the family is that the party with a higher right to speak will be more dominant in their interactions with each other, and the other party will become the weaker party, once the two sides have a contradiction, the weak party will be more harmed, in real life, the mother-in-law has a higher right to speak, so most daughters-in-law will be in a relatively weak position, but there are also some daughters-in-law who are very strong, so that the mother-in-law is in a weak position.
Third, the number of supporters of each mother-in-law and daughter-in-law ultimately determines the status of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Between family members, although the overall relationship is close, but there will also exist between each other for various reasons, differences in support, relatively speaking, the party who can get more support will be more dominant, when there is a conflict between two people, it will be more powerful, and the other party will, because of support, morning, and become a thin existence. When there is a conflict, it is easier to be hurt, and as for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is no fixed answer to who will be the weaker party?
It all depends on the individual's specific situation.
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A: Of course, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult relationship to deal with!
The most difficult thing to deal with in China is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, because the Chinese habit is that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law belong to a family, and strangers insist on getting it together. Especially the mother-in-law, she will feel that her son has been taken away by a new woman, and that feeling is empty and nagging, very uncomfortable, and fierce, so he is always full of hatred for his daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law is called the bride, which has a certain reason.
Relatively speaking, if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live separately, it is still easier to get along, but no matter how you get along with Yantara? The relationship between them is still more difficult.
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The most common is to treat the other person as an imaginary enemy. Many mothers-in-law feel that the existence of their daughter-in-law is to rob their son of love and care for themselves, so they are always hostile to their daughter-in-law, and feel that their daughter-in-law is here to collect debts. Once the mother-in-law of the Yunju has such an idea, she will naturally treat her daughter-in-law with no good face, but she ignores that love and family affection are not the same thing.
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Because two people have different positions, they will consider their own interests, have different concepts, and have different ways of getting along, so it is difficult to deal with it.
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<>I think that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a very important part of the family, which involves the family, kinship and the way husband and wife get along with each other. The quality of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is directly related to the relationship between husband and wife and the stability of marriage.
In traditional Chinese culture, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been regarded as a special relationship. The way mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along with each other will not only affect the relationship between husband and wife, but also the degree of harmony of the whole family. A bad mother-in-law relationship can lead to conflicts and disagreements between husband and wife, which is one of the important reasons why many marriages fail.
In some places, conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law are very common. These contradictions are often rooted in cultural, economic and educational differences. For example, in some places, the mother-in-law may think that the daughter-in-law has a lower status in the family and needs to obey the mother-in-law's arrangements and orders.
The daughter-in-law, on the other hand, believes that she should be treated equally and has her own opinions and rights. This cultural difference often leads to conflicts and frictions in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, affecting the relationship between husband and wife and the stability of marriage.
In addition to cultural differences, economic problems are also another important reason for the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In some places, mothers-in-law often expect their daughter-in-law to contribute to the family, taking on most of the housework and caring for the elderly. However, with the development of modern society, many daughters-in-law have chosen to work outside the home, and this economic contradiction will also cause contradictions in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
In addition, differences in education levels can also lead to conflicts in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In some families, there is a large gap in the level of education between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, which can lead to poor communication and insufficient mutual understanding. And this kind of incomprehension and poor communication will lead to contradictions and contradictions in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which in turn will affect the relationship between husband and wife and the stability of marriage.
In short, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has an important impact on the direction of marriage. A good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can promote family harmony, enhance the relationship between husband and wife, and make marriage more stable. On the contrary, if the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, conflicts and disputes often break out, and the relationship between the husband and wife will also be seriously affected, and may even lead to divorce.
Therefore, when a couple chooses a marriage partner, they should also take into account the other party's family situation and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If there is a serious conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the other family, then the harmony of the family may be affected, which may also have a negative impact on the husband and wife later in life.
At the same time, husband and wife should strive to establish a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage to enhance mutual understanding and respect. The daughter-in-law should respect her mother-in-law's opinions and habits, and strive to adapt and integrate into her mother-in-law's lifestyle. And the mother-in-law should also understand and support the work and life of the daughter-in-law, and give enough respect and trust.
In short, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a very important part of marriage, which is directly related to the relationship between husband and wife and the stability of marriage. For both husband and wife, establishing a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an important guarantee for maintaining the stability of marriage, and it is also the key to achieving family harmony.
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The relationship between daughter-in-law and in-laws is the most difficult to get along with. ......However, in many families. The daughter-in-law and in-laws get along harmoniously and have a very harmonious relationship.
The reason why this is so is because the daughter-in-law and in-laws can respect each other, tolerate each other while reserving differences, and can resolve conflicts through negotiation and communication.
1. The harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law comes from mutual respect.
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were not originally a family, and it was indeed difficult to get along like a biological mother and daughter. ......However, this does not mean that it is impossible for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along well. In fact, as long as the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can respect each other, they can achieve a state of harmony.
In real life, those mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law who respect each other and respect each other can get along like biological mothers and daughters and achieve a harmonious relationship.
2. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can tolerate each other and seek common ground while reserving differences, so that they can live in harmony.
It is very normal for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to have a gap in age and a difference in their concept of life. ......However, if not properly addressed, this difference can affect the relationship between the two parties. ......Therefore, if we want to achieve the goal of harmonious coexistence between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we must tolerate each other and seek common ground while reserving differences.
This requires both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to respect each other's differences and retain their own opinions, so as to achieve the goal of a harmonious and intimate relationship.
3. Resolving conflicts through negotiation and communication is the key to harmonious coexistence between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
For mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is normal for some conflicts to occur between each other, but if the conflicts cannot be properly resolved, it may cause disharmony in the relationship between them. ......Therefore, the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should be resolved through communication and consultation, so as to effectively resolve the contradictions, so as to achieve a harmonious relationship and a state of harmonious coexistence. ......This is a key factor in getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and it must be done if you want to get along with each other like a biological mother and daughter.
Look at your wife is also a college student, the quality is too low, you are the same as me, she followed you when she was not married, it doesn't matter what happens, we will have everything when we slowly struggle, and then hurt you and your family again and again, forcing an old mother to die, sad or yourself, the old mother said that you married your wife and forgot your mother, and the wife said that you are not capable, he will keep saying that you are dead, I don't believe you try, there will be more and more, and finally you will only have a shell left, you can get by, Husbands and wives are eating together, so why not understand their husbands. Brother, sympathize.
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