What are the characteristics of pathological nostalgia?

There are some people in society who believe that the present is not as good as the past and live in the present, while their interests are stuck in the past. His words and deeds are always incompatible with real life, such as Don Quixote's life in the contemporary era, who wants to consider himself an ancient warrior and act in the world, but he runs into walls everywhere. This nostalgia is called the phenomenon of pathological nostalgia.

1) Out of place and out of fashion;

2) There is a prejudice against society. Extremely conservative in their understanding, advocating tradition, and especially opposing any form of change;

3) Avoiding reality. Pathological nostalgists, dissatisfied with the status quo and powerless, are often opponents of social change and inadapters to social life;

4) Universality and difference. Morbid nostalgia exists at all ages, but manifests itself in different forms. Children's nostalgia is mostly seen in the lag of personality development, although they have reached the age of going to school, they are still attached to their mother's arms and cradle, longing for the protection of their parents everywhere, and lack initiative and independence; Most of the nostalgia of teenagers is due to the drastic changes in their living environment, they could have enjoyed more freedom, but they are afraid and uneasy about this sudden freedom; Middle-aged and elderly nostalgia is to avoid reality, to be prejudiced against society, and to be out of place.

1.People like you are very emotional, very affectionate, and will know how to be grateful.

2.It's not a pathology, it's just a depression when you meditate.

3.You need the people who care about you the most, to relieve your feelings or troubles.

Nostalgia is an emotional nostalgia for past experiences, which psychologists define as a self-conscious emotion that is sometimes bittersweet but mostly positive. Nostalgia is a very common emotion, and people have several nostalgic experiences every week. Nostalgia is also very easy to trigger in daily life, such as songs, videos, childhood objects, sudden memories, etc., can make people experience nostalgia.

Live an active and happy life. Through effective ways such as reading, reading newspapers, watching electricity, and watching TV programs, we can understand and contact the new orange spring things, and look at problems in a dialectical way. Actively participate in social activities and constantly accept new things in the process of social activities.

Look for a breakthrough. Learn to find the best combination between the past and the present. If you can find a gap between the old and the new, then there will be less fear and discomfort when accepting the new.

For example, you can summarize and think about how to create brilliance from the experience of past achievements, and you can keep in touch with old friends while constantly developing new friends.

Get nostalgia right. Nostalgia is a normal psychological state of human beings, and pathological nostalgia is contrary to the progress of life, but if you can give full play to the positive functions of normal nostalgia and look for positive components such as tranquility and peace of mind, then the pathological and negative mentality will be reduced.

(1) Attachment to things from the past. Preserve a large number of old **, old clothes, old books, old newspapers.

2) Friends who are in love with the past. Now some people are very keen to hold hometown associations and classmates associations.

3) Attachment to past experiences. Some people attach great importance to their past achievements and often recall the glorious experiences of those years. In contrast, the aura of honor is now gradually disappearing, and there is often a sense of psychological loss, as do some people who were doted on as children or had a rich early life.

There is nothing wrong with looking for childishness and tranquility in nostalgia, but it is harmful to feel that the present is not as good as the past because of nostalgia. Pathological nostalgic behaviors hinder individuals from adapting to the environment, create resistance to social change, and can "not forget old friends" in interpersonal communication, but it is difficult to "meet new friends", and the personal social circle is greatly reduced. People with pathological nostalgia find it difficult to keep up with the times, which hinders their own progress and development.

There is a saying that "heroes don't mention the courage of the year". However, in real life, there are always some elderly friends who like to mention the courage of the past, and like to tell people about their past achievements and how they are capable. Psychologists refer to this psychological phenomenon as "regression psychology", that is, obsessed with the past, like to immerse themselves in the memories of the past, and think that the past is better than the present.

Nostalgia doesn't have to be pejorative, it can have both normal and healthy connotations and negative, morbid connotations.

Patients are often a contradictory combination of excessive self-esteem, excessive conceit, and excessive low self-esteem. Correct the one-sidedness of looking at problems, guide you to participate in real life, and feel self-worth. Psychological adjustment.

Dialectical point of view. Therefore, the key is to enhance self-confidence and psychological endurance, and eliminate discomfort.

Cognition**. Let the patient know the details and harms of this mental illness, and ask the patient to actively accept it**.

Nervous**. Moderate tension keeps the patient from escaping.

Expectation**. It's a way to build faith. Goal decomposition. "A mirage is nowhere near a banana in front of you".

Family**. It is essential to get the support of the family. Remind.

Learn**. It is not enough to simply deny that the behavior is wrong, and the patient must be taught how to adapt. By learning adaptation skills, you can quickly fill in the gaps and gradually change your mindset.

If the psychologist is unfamiliar with the object of nostalgia, the patient can look for books and materials about it.

Plan**. Put the plan clearly on paper. Strictly follow the plan during the process.

Not me**. Gains and losses are mainly due to excessive attention to oneself and what once belonged to oneself.