How to talk generously in an unfamiliar environment in a public place?

Oh, I used to be in a similar situation with you, that is, I felt that my communication skills were fine, and I didn't belong to the shy kind, but in a crowded place, it seemed unnatural, a little restrained, and easy to get nervous.

Actually, it's not very difficult to change, but the first thing to do is to change your mentality, because you always feel that you are afraid of public places, and over time you will form a psychological habit or a kind of psychological suggestion, so when you appear in this kind of situation, even if you are not nervous, you will make yourself nervous.

So the first thing to do is to get over this mentality and make yourself feel that being in a public place isn't a terrible problem.

The second thing is to relax yourself, especially in front of girls, and I have a friend who is like that, and he talks like a river in front of boys, but when he gets to girls, he doesn't speak.

In the face of girls, especially the girls you care about, try to make yourself natural, the more you deliberately talk more and want to talk, but you don't know what to say, your mind is blank, it's better to let yourself relax like at home, say when you want to talk like chatting with friends or family, talk about where you want to go, don't always worry about accidentally saying the wrong thing and making yourself ugly, there is no pressure, the spirit is relaxed, the speech is natural and smooth, and there will be more topics.

Also, you should practice more.

Take your time and make a difference.

Hope it will help you.

It's also a good idea to observe more and talk less. If you don't make a sound, it's a blockbuster. Huh

The charm of conversation is not only in words, on the surface, simply put, in order for your words to be attractive, you must have the value of being heard.

Saying what it is good often does not achieve the desired effect; Rhetoric, often the more you know, the more counterproductive it will be. Therefore, you must first learn to understand the "heart" of the listener, that is, to grasp his (her) state of mind from observing words and colors, and say words that can resonate at the right time, but don't deliberately say things that should not be said. Be interested in reading Dale Carnegie's The Weakness of Human Nature.

Be a caring person.

I'm also a blockbuster, and what I say is what others don't like to hear, so I don't dare to speak.

It's not your fault to talk less, but listen attentively to what others are saying, express your opinions appropriately, and don't let others think. Fitting into the group appropriately is a demonstration and "sales" for yourself

Short-term charm depends on packaging, and long-term charm depends on connotation.

First of all, you have to learn to dress, not too earthy, but also not too fashionable, let alone alternative. Simple, generous, more fashionable clothing with a hairstyle that fits your face shape, accessories should be few and delicate, underwear color, collar high soles, shoe color and shape, sock color and other overall effects must be coordinated. Makeup.

In short, at first glance, people feel: temperamental, simple, generous, and coordinated.

Secondly, you must learn to walk, hold your chest and abdomen straight, look at eye level, and have an expression that is neither humble nor arrogant.

Learn to speak again, and it is recommended to go to the bookstore to buy how to communicate with others and skills, so that your language and body language are in harmony. The most important thing is to communicate here, you have to leave a lasting impression of: respectful, enthusiastic, humble and confident, praise people just right, smile when you speak, look at each other, look very focused and serious, and what you want to express should be layered and coherent.

The tone should be cordial, and the speed of speech should be determined according to the listener's temper, but generally not too fast, not to give people the impression that you are speaking impatiently, nor to give people the feeling that you are talking too slowly, people are already in a hurry, and the feedback information is processed in time.

As long as you love to learn, apply and experience in practice, you will quickly be welcomed and appreciated by those around you.

Hold on to your beliefs – I can break through myself, I can change the tension in front of people. 1. Set aside half an hour every day to choose a topic and talk in front of the mirror. After a week, find family or friends to be your listener.

2. Find out one of your strengths, such as singing or what, call some friends to have fun together, express yourself more, let others know your strengths, and you will be sure of yourself. Gradually increase self-confidence.

Upbringing is not freewheeling, self-respecting; It's about being kind to others.

Be kind to yourself, pay serious attention to others, listen to others sincerely, and feel others authentically. To respect others is to respect oneself. True upbringing is a heart that loves oneself and others.

Do not do to others as you would have them do unto you" is the best interpretation of parenting. Zhang Xiaomei, president and general manager of China Beauty Fashion News, said, "I always believe that women's education is an important criterion for measuring social civilization, and women's education determines the cultivation and future of a country and nation." What I especially want to tell female friends is that women's cultivation and feminine charm need to be tasted and understood with heart, and it is the result of women's cultivation.

Through continuous cultivation, every woman can be more attractive today than yesterday and tomorrow than today. More importantly, whether you know the importance of charisma, whether you are willing to continue to learn how to improve charisma, and whether you can take charisma as an important part of your life and make long-term unremitting efforts to achieve this will have an important impact on a person's career and life. Cultivated is the expression of moral beauty, and it will show its brilliance more and more with the passage of time and the purification of the soul.

There is a saying: "Not being beautiful is something that women can never tolerate, but not being cultivated is definitely something that men cannot tolerate." "I agree with the view that many women look beautiful, but they behave rudely, and often discourage or disgust men; On the contrary, women who are ordinary in appearance but are well-cultivated in speech and demeanor often win the hearts of men.

A well-bred woman is as quiet as an orchid, and her fragrance is overflowing. Time can sweep away a woman's blush, but it can't sweep away the beauty that a woman has radiated through the accumulation of years. This beauty is the cultivation and wisdom that a woman has achieved through the baptism of the years, just like the fruity fragrance in autumn, which emanates from the inside out.

A well-bred woman is like a babbling stream, allowing the people around her to be infiltrated. Self-cultivation is a kind of life experience and understanding, and it is the peace of life experience, which is a simpler and purer state of mind. A well-bred woman will not lose her luster with the passage of time, but will become more dazzling and attractive.

Wisdom is an indispensable nutrient for beauty, wisdom for women is fraternity and benevolence, is full of self-confidence and ability, is emotional abundance and independence, is not harsh to judge all things, but also knows how to balance between gain and loss. A woman who cultivates and commands makes beauty present different states at different moments, and exudes infinite charm throughout her life. A woman should be an eternally beautiful landscape, smiling at the years, and the beauty is still .......

Ahem... First of all, you should read more books, increase your self-cultivation, only full of poetry and books will be self-decent, giving people a different feeling, is that people think that this person is very talented, and naturally willing to associate with you Second, to fully understand the psychology of others, some people like shy people because they feel that this kind of person is not public, not pretentious. Some people like to be lively.

You should behave differently in front of different people, and you can't keep talking and talking to increase the atmosphere, which will also make people feel bad. Third, think more, think about what the other party likes at this age, talk more about this topic, and don't say this and say that the other party doesn't know any of them. If you find that the other party likes it, you have to say more to that side, and the other party will naturally talk about it, and fourth, increase self-confidence through some sports.

Don't dare to educate people to speak, there must be some psychological things that worry you, you must be confident and generous, and some dresses will also increase your impression points. Makes people think you're a good boy, that's all. fgw

If you want to make yourself talk generous, cheerful and lively in front of strangers, you must first have confidence in yourself, not everyone is born to talk generously in front of strangers, as the saying goes, practice makes perfect, or rely on yourself to participate in more activities to exercise yourself!

Love is always more beautiful than reality.

If you want to elaborate on this question, you can write a book.

Talking well without stage fright, like the one I have seen, there are two types:

1.Accumulate steadily. Maybe congenital eloquence is insufficient, if you read more books, contact more with other people, and experience more things, when you accumulate a certain amount, you will open your mind, and you will flexibly use the knowledge and body language in the book to make people look at you with admiration, so, if you are this type, it is recommended that you read more books, and then use the knowledge in your book to chat with others (it is best to use the knowledge in the book to teach people, first, you have trained your expression ability, and secondly, you will speed up the thinking in your mind in the process of expression, will also have a deeper understanding of the knowledge in the book,)

2.Lack of guts. I don't know if you have noticed, some people usually can't chat with people, but as soon as they drink, they become a person, chatting about a set of days, like this kind of people accumulate enough, but they are just less guts, and there is a set of special training methods like this method:

You can go to the station, shopping mall and pretend to be someone else, and you can take the initiative to talk to someone who is good at being alone (usually people with a good face are easier to talk) (design your own opening line) The other party may suspect that you are **ignore you and then you talk to you a few more words, or ignore you and leave directly (you don't have to be afraid of losing face, the world is very big, and not so many people know you). If the other party is willing to talk to you, but you can't talk anymore and feel embarrassed, you can just say, my friend is here, I'll go first and goodbye. Then continue to talk to someone, over time, you will be less nervous, feel that in front of you is a robot, just like the principle of Zhuangzi Ding to solve the cow, at the beginning it is a cow, and then what you see is a skeleton, which is the truth.

If you have other questions, click to ask me for help after this question, it is not easy to answer the question, please understand, thank you.

Good luck with your studies.

If you want to improve in this area, you can read the etiquette books first. There is also a knowledge about social and humanistic aspects to recharge, after all, the improvement of inner cultivation is the most practical. The second is to join a high-quality circle of friends, such as some calligraphy or photography or some similar associations can try to participate, because these members are people with a relatively high level of education, their quality is relatively high, and their conversation is generally more generous, and you will make progress under the influence of these people.

In the end, it is to make more money and improve your social status, which is what people say about making a fortune.

First of all, you have to have a good literary talent.

The casual outpouring of personal knowledge and insight.

When you go out to run errands and come into contact with people, you will feel nervous, which is a matter of self-confidence, mainly because you are afraid that you will be embarrassed if you say the wrong thing. And self-confidence is ** in their own strength, when they feel that they don't know whether what they say is right or wrong, it is difficult to be calm and generous. Therefore:

1. You must first improve your business ability, try to understand the causes and consequences of what you want to do, and ensure that there will be no things that you don't know;

2. Put yourself in the right position. You are able to speak well among your classmates because you see them as equal in power. At work, it is easy for people to unconsciously regard their clients or bosses as more powerful and superior to themselves, and they have already fallen behind before they can speak.

In fact, there is no need, the things we want to do, no matter the level of the position, the size of the power, the purpose is to do things well, the problem is clear, everyone has a good interest is the main basis for doing things, getting things done.

3. To learn to be a man, I told my friend that doing things is right and wrong, and being a man is about benefits and disadvantages (good or harmful). To stress interests and disadvantages means that we must not regard what we think is right or wrong as supreme, but should proceed from the favorable overall situation. Hehe, I'm afraid you have to be over 30 years old to understand this, so listen to it.

4. I don't understand two-faced people, isn't it good to be an excellent self?

There may be a little bit of social phobia syndrome, and there are many people who suffer from this disease now, but your performance is relatively high in social status, boss leadership, and elders. Are you very eloquent in conversation? Well, the first thing to do is to overcome your psychological barriers, all you need to do is to encourage yourself and improve your self-confidence.

Now the more scared you are, the more you have to go to crowded places! You have to hone yourself and deal with people more! The second is to do simulation exercises, simulate in your mind the problems you may face when talking to people, prepare for the best and the worst, and be prepared, so that you will be confident!

I don't think you're confident enough to say the wrong thing or feel embarrassed in front of others. Just give yourself a little more self-confidence. You can usually speak loudly to boost your confidence.