I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years, what should I do if I feel so uncomfortable?

Dear landlord.

Glad for your question.

Some things or some things, some people, when people have it, do not know how to cherish it, love it, once it is lost, they feel the preciousness of its existence and the value of use, but all regrets are irretrievable.

The cup is lonely, being poured boiling water, the feeling of being hot, so the cup thinks this is the feeling of love, when the water becomes warmer, the cup feels very comfortable, I think this is the feeling of life, the water is cold, the cup is very scared, I think maybe this is the feeling of being afraid of losing, the water becomes cold again, the feeling of the cup is also very uncomfortable, I don't want to have a tasteless feeling, so I want to pour the water out、、、 the water is finally poured out, at this time the cup feels very comfortable, but it is also poured to the ground at the same time, Broken into pieces, the cup found that on every fragment, there will be traces of water, it knows that it still loves water in its heart, it wants to love water again but it is impossible, is it only lost will know how to cherish? Only when everything has passed does you know the happiness of the past? The facts have warned us to cherish what we have now, and not to regret it until we lose it, but it's too late.

Reality is always cruel, it doesn't give us that chance, some things are missed and won't come back.

Please forgive me if my own is inaccurate!

Since you can still break up for such a long time, there is no room for maneuver, let's see why you broke up.

Method 1: Divert attention. Whether it's a breakup, a breakup, or some other bad mood, diverting attention is the most basic way. There are many ways to divert attention, such as making new friends, keeping yourself busy, learning new knowledge, and so on.

Try anything that allows you to calm down and stop drowning in out-of-control emotions. This method needs to be persistent, not to say that the effort diverts the attention of the day, and by the evening there will be no more cranky thoughts.

It's about persevering, and after you persevere, you will find that the broken love is nothing more than that. So the suggestion is to use something that takes a long time to divert your attention, such as signing up for an interest class.

Method two, try to change. Taking the opportunity of breaking up and falling out of love as an opportunity can actually do a lot of things, try some new changes, and maybe gain a different self. Whether it's changing your image or trying something you didn't dare to do before, it brings new experiences and emotions.

Even if you cut your hair, you can welcome a new beginning with your new self. In fact, changing a hairstyle is a very ritual thing, which is why many people will change their hairstyle to show their determination to start a new start after falling out of love.

Or learn something new, such as a hobby that you put aside before, and you will taste new things from new things, and then your emotions may no longer be affected by the pain of falling out of love. You might as well give it a try, there are so many possibilities in life.

Method three, go out. The so-called going out does not mean that you want to travel all over the country and travel to see the world. Instead, you should go out as much as possible, don't be bored at home, and let the discomfort of falling out of love surround you little by little.

As long as you are willing to go out, it is the first step to successfully get out of love. You can go out with three or five friends, or you can go out for a walk by yourself, maybe you will have a different experience. Or even take a walk in the small park around your home, or take a walk around the nearby tourist attractions.

The so-called distraction, you have to go out before you can disperse.

In short, the level of pain of falling out of love is related to each person's ability to accept and digest, which varies from person to person. You can choose the right method according to your actual situation, and it is a more common way to divert your attention, try to change, and go out.

Since we broke up, it will definitely be more uncomfortable. In this case, it should be your girlfriend who proposed to break up with you. Because if you were to break up, you shouldn't feel so uncomfortable.

So, if you're passive, there's nothing you can do. Only, as time drifts, slowly and slowly give up.

You look good at your description and break up.

I haven't come out for a month, and this time I mentioned reuniting because I heard the girl and her friend say that you broke up because of the incomprehension of both parties, and after a period of recovery, you can still be friends, in fact, you feel a little hopeful, and want to get back together with the girl, but after the girl mentions the reunion, the other party rejects you, in fact, you can think about what you have done in this month, the girl's window was really good at that time, but you haven't changed yourself yet, and you haven't let the girl see your change.

If you divide it, you will divide it, don't feel bad, there are many good girls, and there are better ones waiting for you ahead. Do something, read some books, make a few friends, don't put all your energy into the breakup, and it will come out slowly.

Since you have broken up, you should face up to the current situation, uncomfortable is the inevitable process of breaking up, if two people break up and are not even sad, then there is no breakup. Summarize the experience of the relationship, learn the lessons of this relationship failure, and cherish each other in the future emotional issues, whether it is to rebuild the old friendship or have a new love. I wish you to find your other half as soon as possible, and a lover will eventually become a family!!

It's normal to break up with your girlfriend, it's going to get better after a long time, now you can eat with food, play with play, you will slowly look away from many things when you get busy, don't think too much, you still have feelings when you are together, you can't look away, just go out to play.

First of all, I calmly want to invite the Chu girl, do you like it very much? Is she your dish? At the same time, you have to know in your heart, do girls like you?

Are you her dish? If so, you are in love. Then, you should calm down, think about the reasons for your separation, give each other a time and space for self-reflection, think clearly and then communicate with each other, speak clearly, do more self-criticism, and I think you will get back together.

But if you are wishful thinking, not both parties like each other, or you are not her cup of tea, then I suggest that you break up, otherwise if you continue, you can only hurt each other.

In love, suddenly his girlfriend proposed to break up, to be honest, everyone was very uncomfortable, and she must have paid a lot for her, and it was really unacceptable for her to break up in the end. No matter what you should cheer up, as the saying goes, "the Tao is not the same", people have their own ambitions, give up when they should give up, men should have the determination to overcome difficulties, and strive to make friends, and a village, don't be discouraged and believe in yourself, true love is not far away from you.

It's nothing to break up with your girlfriend, you start over, work hard, do as much as you can, learn more skills, and make your own abilities stronger, let's find a girlfriend later, as long as you are stronger, you will find your beloved girl in the future, right, believe in yourself.

Falling in love is the process of understanding each other, when you don't get along well, there is no common language that is not suitable for each other, there is no need to force yourself, and continuing to maintain it can only be tiring and tiring yourself. Don't get too tangled. I really can't do it, and I can only say:

People have their own aspirations, and different ways do not conspire with each other. Knowing oneself and knowing one's opponent, life is constantly choosing, choosing what you pursue, choosing what you like, and choosing the right one. If it's really not suitable, giving up is good for everyone, giving up is really painful, everyone will go through this process, and when it gets through, the future will be better!

If you are happy, you will always find a true love that belongs to you. Believe that what is due will come.

Falling out of love is indeed an uncomfortable thing, but since you have broken up, it means that your fate has not yet arrived, you are not a family, and you will not enter a family. There is no grass at the end of the world, it is not your insistence, it is your natural coming. As the saying goes, the best way to fall out of love is time and new love, if you can't** your lovelorn, it can only mean that the time is not long enough, or the new love is not good enough.

I've also experienced breaking up with my girlfriend, and it's very troublesome at first, but as long as you treat it very sunny, work hard or study hard to forget unhappy memories, as time goes by, it will be fine, I wish you find true love.

It's understandable that you've paid for a relationship, but it's over now, but you can't go on like this, it's not worth getting along with yourself for a person who can't go with you all your life! Since everyone has accepted the breakup, there is no need for you to be nostalgic. There are many visitors in a person's life, but it is not worth nostalgia, what you have to do is to find someone who can accompany you for a lifetime!

Good luck!

If it doesn't work, go find her and talk to her.

It is often said that the first month after a breakup is very happy, because you can finally get rid of that woman, but after a month, you will find that you are tired of this single life, and you will regret endless regrets, which may even last for years. After the woman's breakup, in the first three months, she cried and cried and cried, and she wanted to die and live, but after three months, she ate Ma Ma Xiang and all kinds of hi, and finally forgot about her ex. This is the difference between men and women who break up, I advise you to find another way, even if you get back together, after a long time you will go back to the old way and continue to break up, unless you are both willing to make a major change.

Learn to self-reject bad emotions, discomfort is certain, and how to alleviate it is the beginning of what you have to do.

This is when you should come out on your own and allow yourself to grow. When a man and a woman break up, it is certain that both parties have inappropriate places and shortcomings. At this time, you first admit your shortcomings and keep correcting them. Every day makes yourself a little better than yesterday. That's good.

There is always the first time in life.

There is always the first time in life that I fell out of love.

There are always things that don't go well in life.

Life is always accompanied by pain and joy.

Looking back, all this is a floating cloud, time will be smoothed out, find someone to talk to when you fall out of love, and then find someone you like, be happy and wait for you again, look away, lost love is just a life experience, and it is a beautiful memory in retrospect.

It's yours that you can't lose, it's not yours that no matter how hard you fight, you can't do anything. If you don't have the opportunity to come together, let it go. Letting go is also a relief. Let's go and find the next fate.

First you have to step out of the shadows and get the sun up. Breaking up with your girlfriend means that the two of you must have emotional problems that are not suitable for continuation, which is normal. As long as you maintain a positive, healthy and uplifting mood, divert your attention, study more, travel, all aspects of physical activities, etc., you will gradually get better.

I've broken up, it's me who let you, don't feel bad, it may not be fate, marriage was arranged in the previous life, it is inseparable from the two mouths, maybe true love is by your side, side, believe in yourself, don't give up the whole forest because of 1 big tree, a man wants to take it and put it down, that is a real man.

Your girlfriend is empathetic. If a woman's heart is not with you anymore. It's useless to be doing anything. Let her go. How are you struggling with her, she won't come back. You just can't think about it for a while; It's good to be busy at work.

Basically, this situation is that you have already had an affair or a situation with another man before you break up, so you don't have to struggle anymore, imagine what the man can't bear the most, and try to get her away from you as soon as possible.

Since you want to reconcile with her, you will quarrel with **, you can go to her, so you can make it clearer

Brother, let it be, there's nothing to be nostalgic about.

Once a woman changes her mind, it is difficult to pull it back, and even if she pulls it back, she will not be happy, so say goodbye to her in style, and the best way to forget the pain is to devote herself to another relationship. The more you cling to her, the more she will think you are unmanly, and the more she will look down on you. Men should be more able to take it and put it down, shouldn't they?

It's yours and yours Even if you're gone, you'll come back Tell her directly Explain the problem clearly and it will be easy to deal with It has been five years and no one will give up and give up and forget if you forget Maybe she is testing you or she has no feelings for you anymore Talk to her Speak plainly I hope to help you I wish you a speedy reunion.

Go with the flow, if she really loves you (she won't do that when you redeem her, maybe she has something hard to say). Make a statement to her, and if you still insist on doing so, you should have made a decision sooner.