After a blind date, I am very reluctant to interact with each other, why do I reject blind dates?

Hey, how is this so, you have to adjust your mentality, I used to have a similar psychology to you, and now after some training I have become more cheerful, and I communicate more with friends of the opposite sex, there is nothing to do, others can do it, you should also be confident to face it, so it will work!

Well, boys, as long as it's about the same, don't be too demanding, it's been a long time, no matter how many blind dates you have, those are not what you want, and there is no suitable one for you.

Hehe! Your subconscious wants to live a free and easy life alone!

Loneliness can also become a habit.

Never been in a relationship? It seems that your emotional world is dark, and you have been locking yourself off all the time? Try to accept others.

1.When introducing the blind date, some elders often stand in the perspective of their generation and pay too much attention to the dimensions they care about as the screening criteria. Individual elders want you to start a family as soon as possible, and rarely come to understand your feelings and needs.

They don't know, or don't agree with some of your ideas, and if you refuse, they'll find you too picky.

2.Excessive intervention and excessive concern have affected the communication between the two sides. Many elders will often stare at you and ask about the situation, so you are repeatedly interrogated, and you seem to have become a clown on the stage, making people watch and gossip.

They will also give you some completely unreliable advice. will persuade you that feelings can be cultivated slowly, urging you to get married.

In the process of interacting with two people, the "kind assistance" of several people is inserted, and between the elders, you have no privacy, and they often interfere in the interaction between you, and the scene becomes chaotic. So, you become a marionette.

3.The relationship between two people has become cold data, love needs feeling, and most blind dates, basically, are directly the data of height, occupation, and income, which seems to make the blind date person become a commodity. Elders attach too much importance to the "data" they care about, in fact, when two people are together, many times, they need to feel and get along, not just some gorgeous "data".

As a result, the blind date seems to have become an aunt who goes to the vegetable market to buy vegetables, picking and choosing. And he seems to be a green vegetable and a radish, waiting for others to choose.

4.A large part of the blind date is unreliable people. The blind date of the juniors, sometimes, may be the elders blindly mixed, and the other party does not want to participate at all, but due to the pressure of the elders, they have to "play on the spot", and as a result, both parties are very embarrassed.

On the other hand, in the process of blind date, there are some people you meet who may have some problems themselves.

Blind date itself is a low-probability thing, like a numbers game, after a certain amount, you may meet a person who is really suitable for you.

Popularization of the concept of free love: In the traditional concept, the introduction and arrangement of parents is very important. But in modern society, the concept of free love has become deeply rooted in people's hearts, and many people believe that they should choose their own partner, rather than being chosen by parents or intermediaries.

The rise of online dating: With the development of social networking and dating software, more and more people are looking for love online. Compared with traditional blind dates, online dating is more convenient and fast, allowing people to have more choices and autonomy.

Negative Impressions of Blind Dates: Blind dates are considered by many people to be an embarrassing and uncomfortable experience because it can be stressful and uncomfortable for people. Some people may feel that being forced to go on a blind date is a violation of their dignity because they believe that they should have the right to make their own choices.

The impact of economic pressure: Many people prefer to choose their favorite work and lifestyle in the case of better economic conditions, rather than accepting some blind dates they don't like in order to get married.

To sum up, people's attitudes and perceptions of blind dates are gradually changing, and although blind dates are still a way to find a partner, it may gradually be replaced by other ways as society develops.

First of all, the parents and elders introduced it, and they are really stressed to stare at it.

Mainly because the elders are also acquaintances of acquaintances, the object of their introduction has at least a basic understanding of the situation, and then you and the blind date are still in a state of confusion, and the parents hope that the two of you have become a matter of course, this pressure is unbearable for ordinary people, so it often forms the effect of the opposite of things.

Secondly, the vision of parents and elders is not the same as that of young people.

What parents see is that it is better to have a stable job and a house, and the aesthetic standards are even different, and young people hope to gradually understand each other in getting along, and it is important to be able to live together in the future, but this is exactly what parents cannot participate in, so the success rate of blind dates is even lower.

Clause. 3. Stage fright, or maybe it's embarrassing.

Everyone's personality is different, not everyone can talk eloquently in the face of a stranger, calm as if he is nothing, like facing an old friend for many years. Just like some people, since childhood, they are introverted, withdrawn, unsociable, and don't like strangers, so they resist the contact of strangers in their hearts.

It's like a person who is afraid of heights, and he can't see heights; It's like a person with a phobia of density who can't see dense things.

That fear comes from the deepest part of the heart, not to be controlled and changed. And many parents don't understand very well, thinking that blind dates are just a trivial matter, is it necessary to be so repulsive?

There are also some people who are not good at words, although they are usually very arrogant, but when they see strangers, they are immediately timid, unnatural, and do not know what to say or what to talk about. So it made the atmosphere very awkward, and I always wanted to find an excuse to escape, and after experiencing it once, I never wanted to experience it a second time.

As the saying goes, people are different, and what you can accept does not mean that others can accept it.

Clause. Fourth, the most important reason is that you will feel very shameless.

Men and women, sometimes vanity is at work. In the face of blind dates, many people will have this mentality: "It's not that I don't want it, why do I have to go on a blind date?" ”

As a result, many people think that only people who can't find a partner will go on a blind date. Why can't I find an object? It shows that he is not good enough, so everyone will think that if he goes on a blind date, he proves that he is not good enough.

Then I was worried that my relatives and friends around me would find out about it, and they would laugh at themselves, and I would feel very shameless after being passed on. Even if blind dates are already very common, even if many people can accept them, but in the deepest part of their hearts, there will be more or less such scruples and worries.

Especially young people, vanity and comparison are even stronger, and everyone is so good-looking, so no one wants to lose face.

I can understand your feelings, I don't like blind dates either, because blind dates are two people who don't know each other meeting and chatting, to be honest, it's really embarrassing, I don't know how to talk, plus the success rate is also very low, so young people rarely go on blind dates now!