I want to become a monk, but my parents don t agree and want me to get married, what should I do?

Friend, you have a dream in your heart, you don't have to leave home, getting married and having children is a major event in life, and the wish of your parents. As long as you have the realm of Buddha in your heart, it is very good to be friendly, at least a cut higher than us ordinary people, don't give up family and marriage because of ideals, I wish you well.

The foundation of Buddhism is also to be filial to your parents, it is a good thing that you can be enlightened, but the dust is not over, so the current problem is not to find someone to marry quickly, nor to become a monk immediately, spreading Buddhism does not necessarily mean to become a monk, you can do it now, as long as you have a Buddha in your heart, you can achieve Buddhism anytime and anywhere! So let's calm the hearts of your parents first! Let's work together!

Yes,,, this is a difficult choice to make,,, I personally believe that to the Buddha does not necessarily have to shave your hair and practice, the practice focuses on cultivating the mind, as long as you have the Buddha in your heart, you can still achieve positive results!

I don't dare to talk nonsense about this, hehe.

The monk is connected to the heart, and the Buddha has clouds: the Buddha is at ease in the heart. There is a Buddha in his heart, he is a monk, the gradient is just a form, and the Buddha became a Buddha by having an epiphany under the Bodhi tree, not because he abandoned the world, but because he saw through it after experiencing it.

Q: Do I need parental consent to become a monk? If not, do you forcibly leave?

A: This is a student's intention to become a monk. It is better to have parental consent, and it is best if parents agree that this is the best.

In the case of parents' disagreement, this should be considered, that is, not to cause too much trouble to the family. In other words, if you are a monk and they don't study Buddhism, it's a blow to them, and this blow has to be bearable, and you have to weigh it. If we give him too much pain, we can slow this time down a little bit, don't rush it, and let him slowly develop habits.

For example, you can learn Buddhism first, you can live in the temple first, don't shave your head, and slowly cultivate, and it will become a habit and live there.

After two or three years of becoming a monk, he is accustomed to it, and his striking power is not so great, which is skillful and convenient. When you become a monk, of course he knows the benefits, and he knows the benefits. The main thing is to let him understand the Dharma, understand the benefits of Dharma study, and understand the merits of being a monk, which must be done in advance.

Question: If the first article of the Three Blessings of Pure Karma, "filial piety to parents", is it not enough if you are willing to become a monk? How can we fulfill it?

Answer: It is a great filial piety to become a monk, and you should know it, so you must take care of your parents' lives when you become a monk. If our parents don't have someone to support us, we will be late in the monastic season.

If you have many siblings, have parents who are supportive, or have a wealthy family and don't need to take care of yourself, this is fine. If the family life is very poor and there are no brothers and sisters, this must be done filial piety, and learning Buddhism at home is the same, this must be considered. If your parents have someone to support you and you don't have to worry about the future, then you can become a monk, and you still have to do your filial piety, because as soon as you become a monk, if you are reborn in the Elysian World, your parents decide not to fall into the three evil realms.

If he commits sinful karma and dies and sees the king of Yama, the king of Yama sees that his children have gone to the Western Elysium to become Buddhas, and they all treat him very favorably, this is the family of the Bodhisattva, how can he be neglected? Don't slack off.