Why do some couples always quarrel over trivial things in their marriage?

Have you ever been in this situation?

Because this kind of couple does not know how to tolerate each other, they are very concerned about the little things in life, and they are unwilling to admit their mistakes.

Because two people do not achieve mutual tolerance, they may care more about their own feelings and completely ignore each other, so they will continue to quarrel because of trivial things.

When I first started falling in love, I would think that marriage is so difficult, why do my parents always quarrel, how good it is to be with the person I love, and then when I start to think about marriage after I have been in love for a long time, I will understand, marriage and love are different, love is a little talk with a person, and marriage is with a person's shortcomings. Time can wear out love, making the vigorous become dull, and there are some small contradictions in the ordinary life. In my opinion, it is normal for husband and wife to always quarrel over some trivial things, and many marriages of elders in life are noisy.

There are contradictions that mean that two people are working the family Nowadays, many people's marriages in society are widowed marriages, that is, the big and small things in the family are worried about by one person in the family, and the other person is completely indifferent, and there are few contradictions in the marriage in such a state in the family, because only one person makes family decisions. If two people in the family continue to have conflicts about some things in the family, then I think it is also a good thing, indicating that both people are working hard to manage their marriage. Although these two are noisy, they will definitely not hold a grudge against each other, and after the quarrel, it will pass, and in such constant noise, the two will become better and better, so I think this is a relatively normal thing.

Quarreling can be replaced by a way of discussionQuarreling is not the best way for two people to deal with conflicts, it is not terrible for two people to have contradictions, it would be much better if two people could sit down and discuss. It is inevitable that there will be the possibility of emotions in the quarrel, on the one hand, it may hurt the feelings of two people, and on the other hand, it may not be able to solve the conflict. Two people in a marriage should be willing to regress for each other and listen to each other's words, so that not only can the conflict be resolved, but the two people will become more and more tacitly compatible.

It's normal to be noisy, the key is to be able to reconcile with the other party after the quarrel, which is the correct way to quarrel.

I think this is not normal, and husbands and wives should be more tolerant of each other, because a little thing is always quarrelsome, and it will definitely affect the relationship between husband and wife.

Husbands and wives will quarrel because they can't adapt to each other's living habits, because both partners see each other's advantages during the relationship, and both parties will ignore these problems because of the romance of love. When they get married, their respective shortcomings are exposed, which will lead to quarrels. Therefore, many couples live together first and then get married, and cohabitation can be used to adapt to each other's habits in life.

Another reason is each other's personality, leading to quarrels, husband and wife should be considerate and tolerant of each other, one is angry and the other is tolerant, if the two compete with each other, it will cause conflicts. The second is to quarrel over a trivial matter, and if you quarrel, you will quarrel, don't fight coldly because of the quarrel, and ignore each other. One thing is one thing, so that the relationship between husband and wife will slowly run in and progress.

Normally, couples will encounter all kinds of small conflicts in life, and they will quarrel over small things, almost every couple will be like this, just learn to understand each other.

This is the most normal thing, and husbands and wives will often quarrel over trivial matters, but they will only talk about things and joke about them, and they will not be angry again.

Normal. Because the husband and wife have different personalities and preferences, they maintain different ideas on some family trivial matters and are prone to disagreements.

Normally, it is inevitable that husbands and wives will quarrel and make unpleasant noises because of trivial matters, which is also a very common phenomenon in marriage today, and it is also a commonplace.

Husbands and wives always quarrel over some trivial things, which is certainly not normal, and a normal relationship between husband and wife should be harmonious, mutual understanding and tolerance.

This phenomenon is very normal, because there will inevitably be some stumbles between husband and wife, and there will be quarrels over some small things, if there is no quarrel, it means that there is a problem in the relationship between the two people.

This is not normal, but this is the status quo of many couples, and two people need to run in when they are together.

In fact, it is very normal, and it is very likely that the two people's concepts of life are not the same.

Because after marriage, two people will face a lot of things, not only firewood, rice, oil and salt in life, but also family disputes. If two people disagree, it will lead to a quarrel.

Because there are too many family trivialities to face after getting married, two people have different opinions, and there are contradictions and disagreements, so it is natural to quarrel.

Everyone's personality is different, and if you enter a marriage with your own old model, there will inevitably be a lot of conflicts.

A person's change often leads to a change in the relationship, first of all, you have to understand yourself, so as to sort out your own communication and reaction patterns in the relationship. See that your true needs are in conflict with the results of your old patterns, and push yourself to try new possibilities in the relationship and establish new modes of communication with the other person.

Because after all, in the family, there are some trivial things, and two people have different opinions, so they will often quarrel.

Because after marriage, husband and wife have to go through a run-in period, and many things are handled by two people in different ways and perspectives, so they often quarrel.

Personality incompatibility and living habits are incompatible. The two are together without running-in, after all, they live together after marriage, and their usual living habits will collide with each other.

No matter how loving a lover is, after entering marriage, it is also a chicken feather, and no matter how good the relationship is, it will be diluted by trivial things such as firewood, rice, oil and salt. Husbands and wives used to often quarrel over trivial things that were not at all in the eyes of outsiders, and it was really unnecessary.

In fact, the quarrel between husband and wife is not simply a quarrel over a trivial matter, but through this quarrel to vent the grievances, anger and neglect of the other party. From the perspective of subconscious roles, it can also be said that the desire for control is too strong, or too idealistic.

One party always hopes that the other party will do what he asks, if the other party can't do it or is beyond his control, the emotion will be unstable, for example, the wife wants her husband to put the changed shoes on the shoe rack first thing when she comes home, but the husband agrees every time, but still goes his own way, the wife can tolerate it once or twice, and it is inevitable that there will be emotions when time comes, so it will explode one day.

In some small things, the wife hopes that the husband can do what he asks, but the husband is always perfunctory, and the wife feels that the fruits of her labor are not respected, so she will blame the husband, and the husband will feel that everything is wrong, and everything is not a matter when he is in a good mood, but when he is in a bad mood, these become fuses.

Whether it is a wife or a husband, it is easy to idealize each other, especially when they are first together, they will mistakenly think that the other party is the ideal they want, once the other party does something that does not meet the ideal, the parties will feel unacceptable, and they will be prone to emotions.

Two people in a marriage should establish an independent personality, always want to change each other or the other party is out of their control, largely because of the lack of independent personality, not confident in themselves, so it will become worse, but make life a mess, waste time on these little things, it is better to imagine how to change yourself.

I think it is necessary, because the husband and wife are two independent individuals in life, have their own living and working habits, often quarrel over some small things, and are also running in with each other.

Of course it is necessary, it is normal for husband and wife to quarrel and quarrel, which can make the relationship between husband and wife stronger, which is like the spice of life, it must exist.

I don't think it's necessary, because if you quarrel a lot over small things, it will affect the relationship between two people.

I don't think it's necessary. Husbands and wives must help each other, communicate with each other, and solve problems in a timely manner without quarrels.

As the saying goes: it's the husband and wife who are noisy.

It is normal for couples to quarrel over trivial matters of life after marriage, and there are not many such marriages.

Case-by-case analysis:

First, a habitual quarrel marriage is as stable as a rockThe so-called habitual quarrel marriage is that the husband and wife often quarrel over trivial matters in life, and over time it becomes a habit of life. Every family has a difficult experience, and every family has its own way of life. For example, Mei Qi's husband and wife have their own happiness, and the husband and wife who quarrel every day also have their own happiness.

Although the lifestyles are different, the end result is the same. In real life, many couples quarrel for three days and five days because of trivial things. Not only does quarrels not create family conflicts and break up families, but marriages are also as stable as a rock.

There are also many couples who seem to be kind and uncontroversial on the surface, but they are tired of each other and this family in their hearts, but the marriage is full of crises.

Second, the marriage feelings of inclusive quarrels are getting louder and deeper.

The so-called tolerant quarrel marriage means that when there is a misunderstanding or contradiction between husband and wife, one party will always tolerate the shortcomings and mistakes of the other party, and the final result will always be weak to the other party. Inclusive quarrelsome marriages are the majority in real life, and they are full of joie de vivre, happiness, and happiness. The tolerant party does not quarrel with each other, does not ignore each other, but tolerates because of love, because love makes each other; The included party didn't really quarrel with the other person, nor did they really love the other person.

Quarrels seem to be "vexatious". In fact, it is full of love skills and art.

Third, marriages that maliciously quarrel should be stopped in time.

The so-called malicious quarrel marriage refers to a marriage in which husband and wife quarrel every day due to domestic violence, cold violence or emotional migration. There are irreconcilable contradictions between husband and wife, because taking into account the so-called common interests of the elderly, children and others, there is no suitable solution for the time being, and quarrels are used to vent personal anger. Maliciously quarrels and marry, the more noisy the contradictions between the husband and wife, the less noisy the feelings between the husband and wife.

The best way to resolve a malicious marital quarrel is to stop the loss in time with serious mediation to prevent both parties from losing money.

For a hundred years, we must be in the same boat, and for a thousand years, we must share the same bed.

In the vast sea of people, two people who don't know each other can know each other and fall in love with each other, which is a great fate.

We must cherish the rare fate, respect each other, understand each other, and live a happy life.

Belong to a normal couple. Because husband and wife live together, they can't avoid stumbling, it's normal for me to quarrel over some trivial things, and when we encounter problems, we must first learn to communicate with each other.

Belong. Because husband and wife live together, it is inevitable that they will quarrel, and my wife and I often quarrel over some trivial things, so I think it's normal.

I think it is normal for husband and wife to quarrel because of some trivial things, because many couples will get angry and quarrel because of ordinary trivial things.

Belong, now this phenomenon will appear in many couples, and after the quarrel, the two people will still become very good friends and husband and wife relationships.

Belongs, because quarrels between husband and wife cannot be avoided, and the way of quarreling between husband and wife is to quarrel at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed, and such couples are normal couples.

belongs to a normal couple, there is no husband and wife who do not quarrel, there will always be some stumbles in life, which means that they will quarrel if they care about each other.

This is also very normal, if two people know how to solve problems, then it will also make the relationship between two people better because of these small things, so husband and wife should not be afraid of quarrels.

In fact, it is normal, because many couples are like this, because some small frictions in life are quarreling, which is actually fireworks.

This is normal. Because there will inevitably be some small conflicts between husband and wife, but they are still very friendly with each other, they will understand each other, and it is often just a second after a dispute occurs.

It belongs to a normal couple, because normal couples will also quarrel with each other because of some trivial things.

This is normal because it is inevitable that couples will stumble over small things, but couples must improve such situations because a long quarrel can ruin the relationship between two people.

Of course, it's a normal couple, because husbands and wives will quarrel with each other, so it's very normal.

Yes, we will always face a lot of arguments in life, and sometimes the quarrels are to promote the relationship between the two parties.

Of course, it is normal, if the husband and wife do not quarrel, it is abnormal, because there will definitely be some problems in the process of husband and wife life, so that the other party is not satisfied, it is normal to quarrel, as long as the quarrel is reasonably resolved.

belongs to normal couples, because many couples will have some small conflicts in their lives, and there are no couples who do not quarrel.