How can I be so that I don t care what other people think?

Other people's opinions are from other people's standpoints. Everyone has a different position and a different position. It's not the same way, and it's not possible for you to make anyone happy with you at all.

Even if you give your life for them, they may not appreciate it at all, but instead say, you are too extreme. People are different, and people must have enemies, whether you want them or not. If you are cute in the eyes of your enemies, you should never be proud of your abilities.

In the final analysis, it is to be frank and unrestrained in the heart, not moved by the words of others, but still in their own choices and actions. But since you have done it, don't be afraid of big things, the discussion is temporary, and when the storm passes, we will come to a long time. Of course, every such absolutist language in their mouths is something I refuse to admit and agree with.

I started to change three years ago, and now I basically don't care what other people think, if it's a stranger, it's best to do it, you think, I don't know you, you don't know me, I'll do my business; If it's someone you know, you have to think, what I do is for myself or for them, and I care about what they think. Every time you encounter this kind of problem, ask yourself again, and naturally you won't care too much about what others think.

It is better to say to yourself, "I care a lot about what so-and-so thinks" (affirm my own thoughts, don't deceive myself), "I'm very nervous and embarrassed now" (affirm my emotional feelings, emotions are not controlled by reason), and then do what to do, what to say, and what to say.

It is you who determine your actions, not your thoughts, nor your feelings. Then you will find that after a long time, you will naturally not care so much about what other people think. It's enough to care about the people you love and the people who love you.

Whether the shoes fit properly or not, only you know whether the road is good or not.

After half a lifetime, everyone has a different truth in everything. Life experience and social industry are different, and the level of cultivation and education is different. So I don't care what other people think.

I have experienced a lot, and I have experienced it to a certain extent, and my achievements have become simpler, except for my own relatives, I really have nothing to do with myself, let alone other people's thoughts!

In most people's minds, there are superficial thoughts and small thoughts; These people are narrow-sighted and have low sentiments; Their opinions are full of fallacies and reversals of right and wrong—and when we learn about them, we gradually become indifferent to what others are saying. - Schopenhauer.

If a person wants to be less concerned about what others say, first, constantly improve his own ability. Second, have a strong heart, and third, just be yourself.

The reason why you care so much about other people's words is that you feel that you have no self-confidence, low self-esteem, and sensitivity, so that you can't help but want to pay attention to everything they say about you, and want to know anything they think about you. What you hear or see does nothing other than put you in a worse mood and bring about a lack of self-confidence. And what can you do, do you have to be stuck with these words all the time, and you can't extricate yourself.

We can't control the mouths of others, so take care of ourselves, make ourselves strong, find what we want to do and keep ourselves busy, and then you will find that you don't have time to pay attention to these words that you once thought were hurtful, and you don't care at all

I've always envied people who have a strong heart and want to be that kind of person. It's just that my experience and life experience are not enough, and I can't reach this point yet. When your heart is strong enough, it is like a strong castle, and those words are not enough to violate, and you still have enough time to keep adding to this castle.

At that point, you'll find that those remarks aren't worth mentioning at all.

Last but not least, don't forget to be yourself at all times. This is true whether or not you can do it without caring so much about what other people say.

1.Stop blaming yourself.

2.Stop speculating on other people's opinions.

3.Stop taking other people's expectations as your own.

Hope it helps.

Can you try to think about what others say and what other people think about you that would have any practical consequences for you? If there is nothing to lose, then let him say okay, and not a piece of meat will be lost.

Learn to let go, and slowly stop caring.

Learn to acknowledge or accept other people's opinions so that judgment disappears, and the more you resist it, the more persistent the feeling will become.

Many times, I care a lot about the evaluation of the outside world, and to some extent, I am not very receptive to such a self. For example, you can't accept that you love to eat, you are fat, you are lazy, selfish, stupid, procrastinating, etc.; If we have a reaction or emotion to an evaluation, in fact, it is also because we don't want to see it, and we are afraid that we are really partly like the other person said.

If a person who often says that you are fat, you are very angry, and he ignores your anger, and will continue to say it next time, do you know what can be done to make him never talk about your desires next time? You can just say to the other person: thank you, chubby is very cute, I like myself like this.

Then the next conversation will not continue to talk about you, because you are no longer confrontational, you admit and accept. When we admit and accept, the other party will not be entangled with you energetically, and will not fight against you again. Behind the emotions, there is the part of yourself that you can't accept.

It's important not to judge yourself, and to judge yourself is also resisting, and the more you resist, the more persistent it will be.

In life, we accept all our imperfections. You can say to yourself: I accept that I am a little fat, accept that I love to eat, accept that I procrasticate, accept that I am selfish, accept that I am afraid of being told by the leader, and accept that I am afraid of not doing well.

You can also list all the evaluations you care about, and then accept yourself one by one. When we accept ourselves and affirm ourselves, we will do better and better in a virtuous circle, and when we are more critical, the less self-confidence we will have, and in the state of disconnection, it will be difficult to do better, or we will accumulate a lot of emotions, which is not good for the body.

You can make a list, all the people who made you very uncomfortable in the past, especially the people who always find fault with you, and his evaluation makes you the most emotional person, list them all, and then make a forgiveness.

Try to be considerate of other people's feelings, but don't be too concerned about what others think. Use wisdom and compassion.

People will always encounter different views, as long as the goal is accurate, self-questioning intentions are clear, should be persistent.

There are many people who have different opinions and disagree with everything; But at the same time, there must be a way to do things, get along with others and learn to empathize, such as learning Buddhism, starting from improving one's body, mouth and mind, and try not to affect the people around you.

If you don't care about other people's opinions, you can do the following.

The first thing is to build self-confidence. A person can only live with dignity if he lives confidently, and he doesn't care about other people's opinions.

Then there is the need to improve one's ability in all aspects and make oneself stronger, and only when oneself is strong will one not mind the opinions of others.

It is impossible to completely ignore other people's opinions, because we live in a large social environment, but we can do the following.

1.Listen to others.

First of all, you have to learn to listen to other people's opinions, and this person is very important.

2.If there is a change, if there is none, it will be ignored.

After listening, if it is a correct opinion, it will be corrected, and if it is a wrong method, it can be ignored, that is, it can be ignored.

Therefore, after listening, you can completely ignore those wrong opinions. But on the contrary, we must face it squarely.

Be true to yourself, observe society for yourself, draw your own conclusions, and accept your own personality.

Read more. Only by reading more can we be freed from this state, books are the ladder of human progress, and only by reading more can we know that the outside world is very big.

Figure] 2 6 more tourism. Tourism can broaden our horizons and enrich our spiritual life, so that we can know that there are more than these things in the original world.

Fig] 3 6 Learning Knowledge. Only by learning knowledge can we enrich our spiritual world and know that there are not only others in the world.

Fig]4 6 Do more things in reality that can give you a sense of accomplishment. Because you care about other people's opinions, it means that you are sensitive and have a fragile self-esteem.

Fig]5 6 And the more fragile your self-esteem, the more you care about these thoughts, so you have to admit the reality that you are cowardly.

If you want to be unconcerned about what others think, then you must first learn to accept it, no matter what others think of you. You have a very good mentality, so to accept other people's opinions of you, you will not care about other people's opinions, if you are very serious about everything, and in one, then you can't not care about other people's opinions, so we have to do not care about other people's opinions, you have to accept everything, accept anything others say about you.

Enlarge the belly, humbly accept the opinions of others, right, accept, and improve yourself. If you don't agree, take it as a suggestion, you can refer to it, and stick to your own path.

Don't care about other people's opinions, first of all, you have to have a clear goal of your own, which doesn't need to be too ambitious or too ideal! You can complete a small goal by yourself, and then set a small goal, and you won't feel the interference of the outside world when you focus on your goal! But there is a saying that still tells you that not caring about other people's opinions is what you should do, but not what you have to do!

After all, people live in groups, don't be too rash in order to achieve the goal, don't be too cowardly, other people's views and opinions, sometimes you need to avoid, sometimes you have to be brave and positive!

Even if you don't care about what others think, you should think about whether what others say is right or wrong.

If it's a groundless accusation, you don't need to pay attention to it, do what you have to do, let him say go, and have enough confidence and confidence in yourself.

Make yourself strong enough inside, learn more to make yourself better and more confident. Only people who are strong enough in their hearts do not care what others think.

Be yourself, be worthy of heaven and earth, worthy of conscience, recognize yourself, identify the direction, so-called, go your own way, let others say go!

Always be sensible and know what you're really doing.

This has to be thick-skinned, and don't go to anything others say.

Argue, ignore it, and slowly you will get used to it. In fact, he said you, if you don't care, he won't provoke you anymore. This is the highest state of forbearance.

In fact, what others think of you has nothing to do with you, especially strangers, so don't be too attached to other people's opinions, and it's enough to be worthy of yourself.

How to do it not care about other people's opinions and learn to ignore them.

After you have the certainty of success, you will not care about the opinions of others. You can't succeed on your own. Then it is inevitable that others will make irresponsible remarks.

You want to make yourself better so that you can be more confident.

The best way to do it is to be self-centered, let go of yourself, don't care too much about other people's opinions, just do yourself, and don't forget your original intention to stick to yourself.

Paying too much attention to other people's thoughts and evaluations is a sensitivity caused by a lack of self-identity, a lack of inner integration, and a lack of psychological strength.

People have two evaluation systems, one is self-evaluation and the other is the evaluation system of others. When they are minors, they rely more on the evaluation of others; After psychological maturity, they believe in self-evaluation more. Ideally, the two evaluations will eventually be unified.

A person who cares too much about other people's thoughts and evaluations is a person who is psychologically immature and has a weak self-evaluation system and relies too much on the evaluation system of others.

If you want to change this situation, you must first learn to accept yourself completely, admit and allow yourself to have shortcomings, shortcomings, and even dark sides, be kind to yourself, and don't use a rigid concept to strangle your neck and get along with yourself; Don't stick to some kind of contradiction between people in the past, can't let go, can't get along with others; Don't be arrogant and vain in your struggle against nature and the law, so that you complain about God and can't get along with God.

Only by fully accepting oneself can one integrate one's heart, dilute and eliminate the inner contradictions, entanglements and pains, minimize internal friction, and become stronger and stronger.

Second, it is necessary to speed up psychological growth and achieve ideological, psychological, and emotional maturity and independence. Learn to think independently, dare to take responsibility, have a clear sense of boundaries, be able to distinguish that you are yourself, others are others, and other people's thoughts and evaluations are only aimed at me in his heart, not necessarily the real me, so since the mouth grows on other people's faces, I can't stop it, I can only let others think and say, and I don't have to care too much.

Third, we must be brave and diligent, constantly accumulate positive experience and sense of success, consolidate our psychological foundation, and constantly enhance our strength. Human psychology and reality are mutually causal. The strength of reality (hard power) will lead to rapid psychological growth, and psychological maturity and mental strength (soft power) will also contribute to the success and growth of reality.

Take positive action, dare to challenge, be fearless of hardships and dangers, strive for victory, and strengthen yourself from both practical and psychological aspects.

If one day, you are no longer sensitive to other people's thoughts and evaluations, and you can be "sensitive" but not "sensitive", that is, you can be keenly aware of other people's thoughts and evaluations, and you will not be emotionally moved by this, it means that your heart is strong enough! Confidence, optimism, strength, and certainty will be with you!