How to be true to yourself, how to find your true self?

Hello! From your question, I can feel the taste of confusion, and I think you should also want to know what "true self" looks like, right? In fact, to borrow a very popular saying: if you see or can't see, you are there, not true or false.

That is to say, the real you is not found, but you are aware of it, aware of your own heart. You mention that you value affection, friendship, or that there will be love to join, and as you realize, this importance can become a burden to you: you should value them better in the first place, not for the sake of the state of attention.

In other words, if a good intention makes you feel sad, miserable, or tired, then there may be some problems with that intention, such as: Do you value family and friendship, or do you want to be valued in family and friendship? In the former, your actions are more important, and in the latter, the way others treat you dominates your emotions.

A thing itself is meaningless about good or bad, right or wrong, what affects us is its touch on our latent consciousness, which in turn produces emotions. Sometimes, the mask may not really be what we like, but we also have to treat it with gratitude: it is our subconscious self-preservation, and because of its existence, we feel safer at that time.

If you have lost your true self and are already in a lot of pain, or you can't bear it anymore, then you might as well try to follow your "heart", be more emotional, and pay more attention to your emotions, which may help.

Quick Facts: Ruoling is a top student of a famous school. After graduating, she had a good job that was the envy of her peers, but her true heart was not happy.

Helpless, Ruoling only feels that she is struggling between life, marriage and work, and cannot find a way out of life. On a cold rainy night, Ruoling was fortunate to meet an elder, and in a conversation with him, Ruoling gradually found her true and happy true self, and bravely marched towards a new life......

The language is easy to understand, and the truth is profound and practical. 2.In the four years since the publication of "Meet the Unknown Self", it has been selling well.

It is still firmly in the top ten of the life book list, and it has to be said that it is a good book that is applauded and acclaimed.

Psychology distinguishes between the "social self", the "material self" and the "spiritual self" from a professional point of view. If the "social self" and the "material self" are my external self, then the spiritual self is my inner self, which represents my feelings about myself, my living soul, my rich spirit, and my vivid mind.

So, should my life be aimed at success or financial freedom? whether happiness in the narrow sense or happiness in the broad sense should be the goal; It is the goal to gain meaning in life; or with the goal of constant "self-realization";

I think this is a question that needs to be constantly thought about and practiced. I just want to be myself and be what I like.

Listen to your heart: listen to your true inner voice, don't wronged yourself, and learn to refuse people and things you don't like; Don't get in the way of unnecessary gatherings, socializing, and not pleasing others.

Accept yourself: accept your imperfect self, don't be self-harsh, don't complain about yourself, do your best in everything, don't force yourself.

Love yourself: Invest in yourself, become a better version of yourself, be aware of your heart, and go in the direction you like. Read your favorite books, meet your favorite people, eat healthy food, wear comfortable clothes, go to bed early and wake up early, exercise well, and keep your mood happy and peaceful when your fingers are sleepy.

What kind of life do you want to live? What kind of meaning do you want to give to your life? What is the purpose of life? It's all about how to become the course you choose.

Focus on the goal, walk and cherish on the road to becoming yourself.

I often hear a lot of chicken soup texts encouraging everyone: be true to yourself. But what is your true self? Have you really seen your true self?

When I was young, I was ignorant and ignorant, I only treated people and things according to my own preferences, my mouth was often faster than my head, I didn't think too much about other people's feelings, and I lived a carefree life.

Now, after the experience of society, sometimes I become "glass-hearted", or I think about what others say repeatedly, and I always worry that I don't understand what others are saying, or I misunderstand what others mean, and I don't like them.

Is this true to yourself? On the contrary, I feel less and less like myself. What to do and what not to do is becoming less and less clear and more and more confused.

When we don't know what our true selves are, how can we be our true selves?

Shakespeare said: People can control their own destiny, and if we are controlled by others, it is not our destiny that is at fault, but in ourselves.

True self is to embrace your heart, be clear about your decisions, and take responsibility for your choices.

Drag off the disguise, take off the mask, don't be bothered by other people's gossip, won't be touched by a sentence or two, understand your true feelings, be brave enough to say no to uncomfortable things, follow your heart, and no longer wronged yourself.

Now I am still slowly looking for my true self, the child who needs warmth and care in my heart, and the self who was injured when I was a child and needs to grow up.

He pops up from time to time, and suddenly he can't find him, playing hide and seek with me, but I believe that as long as I keep trying, I will eventually find him, hug him, and love him.