No one can convince others to change, and if they can t change others, they can change themselves

From a distance, I thought there was a handsome man and a beautiful woman, but when I got closer, I found that there were a lot of acne on my face, which is very normal. For a life that you don't like, either flee or adapt, since you can't escape, then adapt well; If you quarrel all day long, there is certainly no time for peace of mind, if you want to alleviate such a contradiction, one party must make concessions, since you have realized that you can't stand this kind of life, you can't escape, and it seems that the other party has no intention of improving the relationship between the two parties at all, then you should give in; Try not to quarrel with her, quarrels and actions are the conflict is intensified to the point that no one can convince the other party before appearing, if there is a conflict, you can reason with her, tell her why you do this, and ask her to explain why you don't let you do it; If both sides make it clear and the contradiction is resolved, that's fine; If, although you have made it clear, the contradiction has not been resolved, and you have made concessions, it will also deepen the understanding of the other side and provide a relatively peaceful way to deal with the contradictions between the two sides in the future. If this continues, even if your relationship doesn't get particularly good, you'll at least maintain the politeness you deserve.

As for whether your classmates have to get along very well, of course not, there are all kinds of personalities in your classmates, and you can't guarantee that your classmates will get along with you, and it is entirely possible that one of them will not be compatible with you at all, which is normal; You can get closer to people with similar personalities, and keep a certain distance from those who don't have similar personalities.

A young boy guarding oak barrels at his father's winery. Every morning, he wiped the barrels clean with a rag and laid them out in neat rows. What made him angry was:

Overnight, the wind blew his neatly lined barrels toasted. The boy cried very aggrieved. The father stroked the boy's head and said

Don't be sad, kid, we can find a way to conquer the wind. So the little boy wiped away his tears, sat down beside the barrel and thought and thought and thought for a long time, and at last he came up with a solution, he went to the well and fetched buckets of water, and poured them into the empty oak barrels, and then he went home and went to sleep with trepidation. As soon as it was dawn the next day, the little boy hurried up, and ran to the place where the barrels were kept, and saw that the barrels were neatly arranged one by one, and that none of them had been blown down by the wind, and none of them had been blown crooked.

The little boy smiled happily and said to his father, "If you want the barrel not to be blown over by the wind, you have to increase the weight of the barrel itself." The boy's father smiled approvingly.

Insights:We can't control many things in this world, but we can change ourselves, our own abilities and thinking. Improving one's self-ability is the only way for a person not to be called or knocked down. Change.

One, everyone is an independent thinking being, conscious, sentient and so on. Different people have different things Back to you, you have your thoughts, you want to control whether others like you or not, that's your subjective ideology That's right, the question is what do you do to control others to like you according to your subjective standards? Unless you're charismatic enough to be special enough to make people like you, but it's only about influencing change, and you can't control it.

Second, two people are together, there are no prescribed conditions, no standard requirements, no restrictions of all kinds and that, what to meet in order to be together, sometimes two people go together without any reason, without a common language, just like liking and falling in love with someone does not need a reason. A lot of things often start to come out of those inexplicables, yes, just that inexplicable.

Third, how can you love someone without money and a proper job? It's very simple, then find a proper job for the person you love and earn more money. Doesn't loving someone mean that she has a better life?

Can I give her happiness? In that case, it's natural to work hard to create conditions for it, unless you don't love her.

Fourth, is it worth it to change yourself for the person you love so that it is completely different from your previous self? In fact, Jian Qing put it bluntly, this is the question of whether it is worth it or not, you shouldn't ask us, you can't get to you if you ask, after all, this is a matter for the two of you, pay attention to the question of pay and worthiness In fact, from the beginning of your change, you yourself are because you love her, change for her, it is worth it, and you change it yourself, and now you come to ask this question again, isn't it repetitive, and is it contradictory? Don't tell me, you're starting to regret it now, doubting whether you're worth it or not, seeing you so inconsistent, vacillating your position, and being so in love for you, I really want to think it's worth it for that woman first, follow you like this, so if you think it's worth it, do it, don't regret it, if you do it, it's worth it.

No matter how genuinely you want to help someone, no matter how close they are to you, no matter how much they need your help, you must understand that you can't change anyone.

Unless he wants to change himself from the bottom of his eyes, then you can also play a role in promoting or giving the other person a revelation, remember: a person can change himself, only he is.

Even your parents, your brothers and sisters, although they are under the same roof, when you want to change them, you are still powerless.

Unless the other party suddenly has a strong desire to change, you can carefully help them change, but in the matter of change, the person concerned is always the protagonist, we are only the supporting role.

If the other party is not aware of their problems at all, please do not take the initiative to help them change, because good intentions may not lead to good results, and good people may not be rewarded.

All you can do is to make them think that you are harmless, kind, and welcoming, and even you have to learn to go along with them, everyone has their own ambitions, everyone has their own path. You can't change other people's paths, but you can take your own paths. Si Nai Sui.

Last night, a friend sent me a message saying, "This class of students is too difficult to bring, and they are not active at all, so I am almost out of content." ”

I said that this is actually a very normal thing, after all, everyone's schedule is different, some students don't read the group message at all, and what we need to do is to do what we can, as for their reaction, another matter.

"You're right, but it's human nature to want to be recognized by others, to get feedback," she said.

In fact, she is right, everyone wants feedback for their efforts.

But what I don't want to say is that, in fact, many of the things we do, more important is to give feedback to ourselves, and learning to introspect seems to be more important.

Life is your own, don't pin your hopes on others. We must study hard, constantly improve ourselves, output in a timely manner, and submit a satisfactory answer to our life is the most important thing.

We can't ask others what to do, but we can change ourselves, and may we live in the rhythm of our own lives and become a better version of ourselves!

Don't change others, just be yourself! Writer Yang Daxia said that changing others is a foolish thing.

Everyone has their own independent personality, hobbies, specialties and so on. It is all naturally formed in a specific era and a specific environment, and it is difficult to change it for a while.

So, sometimes when you try to change someone, you have to be clear about the situation, there are some things that can never be changed! For example, a person is very lazy and never folds the quilt, and you tell him to fold the quilt neatly, but he says, no matter how good the fold is, he still has to stretch it out at night, isn't it laborious?

You said to pack up your things, but he said, "If you want to use it anyway, wouldn't it be better to take it as you like!" For such a person, you can't help it, you can't give him a 6S on-site management, right? He doesn't bird you!

Therefore, sometimes you don't need to work hard to change others, because you can't change either, it's better to try to change yourself! Do what you have to do well! No matter what others think or say, be self-disciplined!