What to do if a child does not trust his parents, and what to do when he is not trusted by his paren

I am twenty-two years old. I think it's time for us to endure some things at our age, and I also think there's nothing we can't bear when we all grow up. When our parents blocked all the problems, we felt very uncomfortable at the meeting.

In your present situation, I think you should tell him.

Also, if he doesn't let you ask, don't ask, and if he doesn't tell you, it doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't believe you.

In fact, every child is like this, and at this age, they will slowly talk less and less to their parents, because we find it difficult for us to understand the parents' thinking, and our parents can't understand our thoughts either.

There is no common language anymore, and this is the so-called generation gap.

To tell you a funny joke, when I was in middle school, I thought my mother was very wordy, so I thought that all women were wordy, and secretly decided not to take a wife.

In fact, although we have few words, we may be a little annoyed by you, but we still love you.

For us at this time, you just need to stand silently behind us and watch us; At a critical time in our lives, you just need a little reminder of us, and remember that it is just a little reminder, just a little reminder.

I don't know how long the child has been in this situation, how the communication between parents and children is usual, whether he is his stepson and heard some gossip from outsiders, or the question you ask happens to be a topic he doesn't want to talk about. Distrust of parents manifests itself mainly in those areas.

I think you should communicate more with your child! The human heart is made of flesh! The child is still immature in his heart!

Let's find out the reason first, whether the parents have ever broken their trust in their children.

When you are not trusted by your parents, you should try to communicate with your parents, and you must speak your own thoughts so that the other party can be aware of the problem.

Make changes and regain the trust of your parents through your own efforts, and you can also explain to them what the reasons are.

Start by communicating with your parents, then tell them what you think, and convince them to believe in yourself.

Generally, there are probably these reasons why parents do not trust their children: parents do not give their children enough trust, and they believe that their children will achieve nothing by doing anything; The child's own reasons, not taking things seriously, not considering things thoroughly, always doing wrong things or some bad deeds, etc., hurt the hearts of their parents, and gradually lost the trust of their parents. There are examples of this around me.

My third uncle's child, that is, my cousin, did things before he was involved in gambling, and my third uncle and aunt couldn't see my cousin talking and doing things, in short, they would be hit on any occasion. After borrowing loan sharks to gamble, the loan sharks were threatening their lives to collect debts, and the old couple took out all their savings to repay the money to help my cousin repay the debts, and since then, no matter what my cousin does, he is afraid that his son will go the old way again, and he doesn't dare to give his son money or anything to support him to do serious things, no matter how my cousin guarantees it, it will not be used. Fortunately, the prodigal son did not change his money, and the cousin went to work in other places in a fit of anger, and also sought help from his parents in terms of money, but he also ran into a wall.

Now I'm not bad at mixing, and I'm a contractor ......What I'm trying to say is that if you want your parents to trust you, you have to have the ability to make them trust! You must have a clear goal in everything you do, have enough self-confidence, a serious attitude to do things, the courage to say everything, and the ability to complete things independently before you talk about the trust of others.

With love, choosing to believe in a child requires courage and ability. Children may still make mistakes, but they need unlimited tolerance from parents and a heart that will always accept their children. Love covers all faults.

Judging and criticizing children will not make children grow up, but will make them more rebellious and unwilling to obey their parents.

As a parent, after the child makes a mistake, do not let the child feel the distrust of adults, you must know that the child's performance is inseparable from the daily behavior of the parents, so change yourself first, and take a good look at the child's mistakes.

If you don't believe in your child, your child will do something wrong. On the one hand, there is the invisible reinforcement of parents, and there is also something to do with the fact that the child has not been established with correct values since he was a child, and it has a lot to do with the people he usually comes into contact with, but this is based on the child's values. With clear and correct values, children will have choices in making friends on their own.

For example, a playful and cheating child, he regrets looking for the same kind of child to coexist, he hates serious children, he is afraid of being restrained.

It is believed that this child did not cheat, he listened to his mother's advice and truthfully tested his learning ability. He is more sure that if he does not do well in the exam, his mother will accept him and will not be punished for not doing well. The mother loves this child and gives him the greatest support and encouragement to face some things bravely, for the child, this is growth!

A small child has to take an exam one day, and her mother knows that many children in the class can cheat, so she originally planned to tell her child before she went out, "Don't secretly read books or copy cheat sheets during exams." But in the end, the mother held back. Because the night before she communicated with her child about the exam is a way to test what we have learned, if cheating is to deceive yourself, the success of opportunistic shortcuts is only temporary, and in the end you can't deceive yourself, and society will test you.

When the child went out, the mother said, "Mommy believes in you!" The child nodded, waved goodbye to his mother, and went to take the test.

Trust between people is crucial. The same is true for the relationship between parents and children, because he is his own child, he cannot use the authority of his parents to govern his children for no reason, if he has too much control, the children will lie, and besides, there are many things that he is unwilling to tell his parents.

Where do children's values come from? School education is equal for every child, why are some children good and others bad? The key is that the values of how to behave are still influenced by the family situation, and the most important thing is the parents of the children.

As parents do to their children, children will do too. The child's behavior and habits are the shadow of the parents, because they are too familiar. The number of times the education is strengthened is not as good as the practice that parents have in front of their children over time.

Parents don't trust their children? Originated from children, cowardly, unmotivated, unmotivated, no future, no motivation, no action. There is no plastic talent, no heart to learn, no brain, no endurance, no vitality, no aspiration.

Preamble: When parents educate their children, they must pay attention to the way they speak, often the parents' unintentional words will hurt the children. The world of parents and children is completely different, and if children no longer trust their parents and no longer like their parents, it will be very harmful to their parents.

It is suggested that we should express our love to our children in a timely manner, so that they can accept it. Let's share with you what are the reasons why children no longer like their parents.

Many parents do not pay attention to their own influence on their children when educating their children. They often easily make promises to their children, hoping to encourage them to study hard in this way, but when the children fulfill their promises, the parents will regret it, and this behavior is very harmful to the children. The child will feel that the parent is an untrustworthy person, and if the parent does not correct it, then the child's trust will be lost.

Therefore, it is suggested that when we educate our children, we must fulfill the promises we have made.

If the child no longer likes his parents, then the parents must reflect on themselves. We should not think that because children do not express love, we do not like their parents. Because parents do not give their children enough love, children will feel that their parents do not love them.

Some families like to belittle their children when educating them, which will make them feel that their parents do not love them at all. Children who live in this kind of family environment for a long time will gradually lose their love for their parents.

For parents, when we educate our children, we must surround them with love. Some parents like to belittle their children, they feel that their children are worthless, and if their children accept this kind of thinking, they will lose their love for their parents. Because children feel that their parents don't love themselves at all and always like to hit themselves, it will also make children form a certain inferiority complex.

It may be because parents often demand their children strictly, or it may be because parents often beat and scold their children, or parents give their children a certain sense of distance, and then they will make children distrust and dislike their parents.

If the child does not like and distrusts his parents, it is caused by the fact that the parents do not set a good image for him in daily life, which makes him suspicious.

It may be that there is a conflict with your parents, or you are disgusted with your parents' behavior of disciplining you, or you may hate your parents for nagging often, so this phenomenon occurs.

In life, parents will always deceive their children and will always say things that cannot be done, so parents have left such an image for their children in life.

1. Always talk the opposite. Parents should talk the opposite, which is a manifestation of thinking about the education method with their hearts, but they must grasp the scale. On the contrary, it is a kind of pressure, but this pressure should not crush the child, and should turn this pressure into a motivation to learn and move forward.

In addition, parents often talk back, which may give children the impression that parents often deceive themselves, which affects the child's trust in his parents, the child's self-confidence and normal social interaction.

2. Parents don't care about their children. In fact, children most want their parents to understand them, understand their interests, joys and sorrows, and give them support. However, many parents do not understand this, and focus all their eyes on their children's grades or daily life, and once their children's grades decline, they will blame them.

As everyone knows, if the average child's academic performance declines, there must be some kind of confusion in the psychology, such as learning difficulties, self-confidence frustration, etc., at this time the child needs the help and understanding of parents the most. And some parents do not have good grades to accuse their children of being greedy for play, this practice is easy for children to have hatred for parents, thinking that parents only care about grades, not about themselves, slowly children and parents will become more and more estranged, and gradually lose trust in parents.

1. Learn to abide by the agreement with your child.

Don't be a parent who doesn't talk in the eyes of your child, and accompany your child with bad words, which not only makes your child have a sense of trust in his parents, but also cultivates a good habit for children to fulfill their promises.

2. Be cautious and committed.

If you can't make promises to your children, if you can't fulfill them, it is easy for your parents to greatly reduce their status in their children's hearts, and of course it will also dampen your children's enthusiasm.

3. Give more spiritual commitment.

For example, you can promise to buy books for your child, take your child to climb a mountain, invite your child's friends to visit your home, etc.

4. When the promise cannot be fulfilled.

If there are some reasons that affect the fulfillment of promises, then we must take the initiative to sincerely apologize to our children and obtain their understanding and understanding, but we must look for opportunities to fulfill our promises.