Why do many families live unhappy lives despite being wealthy?

The reason is that the criterion of happiness is not the amount of money. It is unreasonable to judge the happiness index of a family by the wealth of the family, the wealth of the family can bring about a change in the mode of life, and can make the way of life more diverse, but the things brought by the material can only affect the content of a person's life, and cannot determine a person's emotional belonging. NopeAlthough there are some differences in happiness because of different people, they are similar in some aspects, and happiness is sometimes very simple, that is, the family lives in harmony in a warm house, and it does not need to be very warm in the end.

1.The criterion of happiness does not lie in the amount of money, basically no one will use the amount of money to measure the happiness index of the individual, if there is, it may exist in simple envy. Whether standing at the national level or at the individual level, the happiness index is not determined by money, happiness is the existence of the emotional level, and money is the existence of the material level, that is to say, the relationship between the two is rational and emotional, it is impossible to overlap, and mutual interference and influence is the norm.

2.There are various types of happiness that cause unhappiness, and there are many different types of happiness, and unhappiness is also multi-layered. For example, a person who is old and rich and rivals the country, has several children in the family, but the children compete with each other for the amount of inherited property, and even fight openly and secretly, whether the old man will be happy in this family, I am afraid that there is only numbness.

Some people are unhappy because of their figure, some are unhappy because they are poor, some are unhappy because they are dark, some are unhappy because they are short, and some people are unhappy because their parents are not compatible......

3.Happiness is diverse, but it is similar to the happiness that almost everyone understands, but if it is an ordinary family, the parents are in good marital status, have a stable job, the children are sensible and filial, family gatherings on holidays, and travel together. Such a family must not be said to be unhappy, happiness is much the same, it is simple.

Because rich families are not short of material things, they can buy all the money they want, so the rich are more spiritual, but being busy making money means that they lack time to contact feelings, so their wives and children and parents will be left out in the cold, which will cause all kinds of misfortunes.

The definition of happiness is very broad, not that you are very happy if you have money, like many people in the countryside feel that they are living a good and happy life, and there are many rich people in the city, but they feel tired every day and do not feel happy, happiness may be different for everyone, and it has little to do with more money and less money.

Happiness is not measured by money, although many people have money, but their parents have a bad relationship, no one cares about their children, and the family quarrels all day long over trivial things, I believe that no one will feel happy.

If your boss has been showing how happy his high-end life is in front of you, everyone in the company is red-eyed and hopes to have a longer salary, but he just doesn't want to give him a rise, is anyone willing to do it for him?

And selling miserably, claiming how difficult it is for him to live, how tired and unfortunate he is to live with money, etc., the psychology of his subordinates is instantly balanced, which is even more soothing than a salary increase.

The more this usage is used, people seem to think that this is indeed the case, and even many wealthy people become complaining and feel that they are really unhappy.

This kind of migrant worker should be content, do more to strive for a better life, and be content and happy (don't be afraid of low wages). The means by which the rich deceive the workers, and the workers cannot be so self-paralyzed.

Because the things I pursue are different, I used to be very easy to be satisfied when I didn't have money, but now that I have money, I have higher requirements for myself, so I am always not satisfied, and I feel unhappy.

Money is a very important indicator coefficient for happiness, people want to get a happy life is inseparable from money, so everyone should like money, willing to be a friend of money. But money is not the absolute only indicator of happiness, but money is the common sense of people, can not become a slave of money, once people become a slave of money, they will lose happiness because of money, work all their lives, and even be harmed by money. All you need to be alive is enough money, and you don't need to be particularly rich.

When I was young, because my family was poor, in fact, it was also because the conditions of all families at that time were not very good. One time, my mother went to pick me up from school, and there was a marshmallow seller at the door, and I really wanted to eat it, but my mother didn't buy it for me. The next day, the aunt at the door bought marshmallows again, and I told me that I wanted to eat marshmallows, and my mother couldn't bear it, so she bought them for me, and I remember that I ate that little marshmallow for two hours.

Now that I'm older, I can afford to buy what I like to eat and wear. Once I went shopping with my girlfriend, she had to eat marshmallows, so I bought one for her, I had to eat it too, I just took a bite and didn't want to eat it, so I gave her the marshmallow, she was very happy to eat, but I remembered the marshmallow that my mother bought for me when I was a child, and I felt a sense of loss in my heart, what I wanted when I was a child, I didn't have money, but now I have money, but I don't want it, maybe it's because I grew up.

People who lack the support of their souls will fall into the endless pursuit of "food" in the process of climbing to the upper end of the food chain. Those who are rich want to pursue more money, those who have power want to pursue greater power, and those who are famous want to pursue greater fame. You will fall into the pursuit of the ultimate pleasure.

Many people say that there is no New Year's flavor now, but in fact, it is not that there is no New Year's flavor, but the requirements for all aspects are not what they used to be. Money is a good thing, but it's not the best thing, and we can't sacrifice the best for the next best. It is to find one's own dimension of meaning, to find a way of life that suits oneself, so as to avoid the wandering of the soul.

I think that after having money, there are many things that I can't help myself, and it is difficult to make decisions. Even if they are billionaires, they need family affection, but when you become rich, some family affection can only be maintained with money, and it is no longer as simple as it used to be. Even your pillow person, after you become rich, his attitude towards you may have changed, and the change is very unreal, so you can't accept it.

There is no doubt that if you have money, you can have more material comforts and so on, and if you have money, you will be happier. Some rich people use it to persuade people who don't have money to work hard, do more things and get less money, saying that being rich is not necessarily happy, and they can't paralyze themselves and say that they are not happy if they are rich.

If you feel unhappy, this has nothing to do with the fact that you are richer, you just connect two unrelated things together to find the reason, and the result is naturally that you can't find the reason, or draw the wrong conclusion.

As a simple example, it's easy to understand that if your academic performance drops from 10th to 6th from the bottom in your class, you must be frustrated. This ranking is the reason why you are unhappy, and it has nothing to do with your academic performance, even if your academic performance has improved, but the grades of other classmates have improved greatly, resulting in your ranking not advancing but retreating, you will be unhappy.

And if you study very hard, but your grades are still not as good as other students, you will be super unhappy. It's like if you work overtime and save money in order to make money or save money, but you still can't afford to buy expensive things, and others can easily buy them, and you will be super unhappy.

And if you help your classmates with their homework, although you yourself are proficient and your grades have improved a little bit, but your classmates have improved a lot, you will be very sour, super super super unhappy. It's like if you work overtime and increase a lot of income for the company, but your own salary only increases a little bit. Or you spend a fortune on something expensive, but the person who sells your stuff also makes you a lot of money.

That is, if you do a lot of things that make others richer (working overtime, buying expensive goods, etc.), but these things only benefit you, you are particularly prone to unhappiness.

When we become rich, we quickly adapt to this rich life. When there is no money, a designer bag can make us happy for a long time, and when there is money, the positive experience of buying a designer bag may become a neutral event, at least not as strong as the happiness experienced before.

Except for the rich second generation, all rich people can be obtained through hard work, and naturally, these people are never satisfied with the status quo. The goal of 100 million has been completed, and there is still the next 100 million, the next 100 million, it is difficult for people who are so dissatisfied to get a sense of happiness! If you succeed, you will have a great sense of accomplishment, but you will have less happiness.

Happiness depends on your inner satisfaction, if you can never be satisfied, ** to happiness?

Human desires are not singular, and with the expansion of subjective desires, monetary wealth is primary. When some people's money develops to a certain point, their subjective desire is shifted to engage in other directions of survival. And some people's desire for money and wealth is endless, but when money and wealth are saturated to a certain extent, he begins to use wealth to construct power and inherit offspring.

I thought about it day and night, and I had a lot of worries.

Nowadays, people are indeed rich, but this wealth is only from the material point of view, in fact, people's happiness is decreasing. Nowadays, the pace of life has become faster, and people are not in the mood to spend a lot of time actually doing something. They began to pursue efficiency and speed, fame and money, and forgot about happiness and companionship.

I can't be quiet in my heart, and I want to find things to do, but I won't calm down to do it. I used to live in the countryside, every day was easy, sometimes I spent a day fishing for lobsters, sometimes I spent a day planting, sometimes I spent a day fishing, and sometimes I was in a daze for a day. But I was very happy at that time.

Now that I have moved into the city and have my own job, my living standard has improved, but I am forced to start living, and I can't live as simple as before, and I can't find the happy feeling I used to have. Affluence and happiness are not equivalent, if you want to be happy, go and live the life you want, if you can do it.

When I met my husband, it was when he started his business, there was no money at that time, the two of them ate instant noodles in the basement, and went to the market to buy vegetables at four or five o'clock in the morning, just to get the freshest dishes, and they were busy until more than eleven o'clock at noon to eat a mouthful of food, at that time I was really reluctant to spend money, at that time I had never bought new clothes at all, and finally closed the stall at night, and I had to calculate how much money I made today, although it was very hard at that time, but I felt that I had a very fulfilling life. After so many years of hard work, it can be regarded as a small achievement, I have opened several restaurants, and I have money, but I am really unhappy, the two of us often quarrel now, and quarrel because of money at every turn, and sometimes I am angry because I came back late today, and he will go out to socialize tomorrow. If we weren't very rich now, wouldn't there be so many contradictions?

The root of this unhappiness does not lie in the superficial change in money.

For example, if you spend a lot of time teaching your child, and your child is studying very hard, after a while, your child's test scores have improved slightly, but the ranking has dropped from the middle to the bottom.

Do you feel that your child has improved a little bit and feel very happy, or do you feel unhappy because your child's grades have dropped a lot?

Not only that, you and your children work so hard. And other children still have a lot of fun when they should play, but they just take a little bit seriously in class, and then the grades dump your child, and you will definitely feel very discouraged, and feel that the effort is not worth it.

Now the gap is bigger, maybe a little richer than in the past, but relative to the people around him, his income level has become the lower class. That's not all, I may have chosen a job that is more tiring and more overtime and has fewer holidays for the sake of higher wages. Or you have been sacrificing your rest time to learn on your own or something.

At this time, it is inevitable to feel discouraged, etc.

In fact, to live happily, it is not about drinking so much inspirational chicken soup, and it is not about working hard and desperately to think about counterattacking. Because these will make people unhappy.

Happiness is not measured by money or not, the meaning of happiness is the meaning of life, and finding the meaning of life will be happy, and now people in society are under great pressure, and people's hearts are far away.

Because people have the rise of material conditions, they will have a greater need for spiritual emotions, but they will not feel happy when they can't get sincere feelings.

Now people's happiness has declined, because after enough money, people have no spiritual pursuit, they will feel that life is becoming more and more boring, there is no goal, and the sense of happiness is getting less and less.

Although the material life is abundant now, people's demand for spiritual life is higher than before, and the happiness of life does not lie in being well fed and clothed.