What would you choose to do in the face of patriarchal parents in your life?

I'll probably go with the flow, after all, this can't be changed, and I think patriarchy is a common problem for many parents, but I will honor my parents no matter what.

I will choose to accept the reality and silently strengthen myself, and only through my own ability can I make up for my heart.

I may choose to put up with it, because it is very difficult for us to change the concept of our parents, this is something engraved in their bones, and I only hope that one day we can get rid of it as soon as possible.

I may choose to swallow my anger because this is the perception of many Chinese parents, and my parents being one of them are no exception, and I can't resist the results.

I may choose to put up with it, because my parents' attitudes are very difficult to change, or think about how to perform better and strive for a better life.

I'm an only child and haven't experienced this. But if it had happened to me, I would have worked hard and married myself, out of sight and out of mind.

There are too many manifestations of patriarchal preference for parents, so let me talk about a few aspects.

The first is that in the family, the distribution of material materials is always shown to be unfair, giving more to sons and less or not to daughters at all.

Many patriarchal families are like this, there are things for their sons, even if everyone eats together, they also put the delicious food close to the boys, and some are too much to give the girls at all, whether it is food or use, they are particularly biased towards boys, ignoring the needs of girls, and sometimes sacrificing the interests of girls to meet the boys in the family.

Some family girls work for them, so that the companion does not treat her as a messy person at all, but the status of the son is supreme, when the ancestors are favored, this is a typical patriarchal family.

The second manifestation is that when you enjoy the results, there is no girl's share, but when you need to pay for it, the girl must go first.

Many patriarchal families, especially in some rural areas, when the old people are old and need to be supported, the old people are sick and so on, and the boys and girls share them equally, but after the old man dies, all the inheritance and property are all left to the sons and daughters, and the daughters have nothing, which is a typical patriarchal preference, and the girls can only dedicate themselves but do not enjoy the fruits of their labor.

The third point is that if there are some situations in the family that require the sacrifice of the interests of some people, the girl is the first to be sacrificed.

In the past, when the economic conditions were not good, there were often some families for the education of their children, when only one son and daughter could receive education, then it was the girl who was generally sacrificed, because in the concept of parents, the son can inherit his own family business, and the daughter will marry sooner or later and become another family, and the cultural education they receive is of little significance to the parents.

In fact, there are still a lot of family performances from patriarchy, anyway, there are good things to give to the son, and only the daughter has to pay when the money is contributed.

Admit that my parents don't love me, and in the face of this fact, don't always have expectations of my parents and keep your distance from them. Generally, in patriarchal families, daughters will go to please their parents and give the money they earn to their parents, and their parents will go to subsidize their sons, but they are living very badly. As for the parents, because they didn't want to see their daughters in the first place, and their daughters came to please them, they naturally did the dirty work and tired daughters, and the benefits were given to their sons, after all, the sons were their own, and their daughters would have to marry sooner or later.

Because the parents are partial to their son, they don't feel distressed when they call their daughter. To change this situation, there are the following:

1. Women must face the fact that their parents don't love you and accept it. I know it's hard to admit that your parents don't love you, and who doesn't want others to love you. But only if you admit this fact, can you get out of the net of your original family and not be exploited by your parents.

If you don't realize this all the time, no matter how much you give, your parents will feel that you have not done enough and are not satisfied. Fan Shengmei is a good example.

Second, it is not easy to often talk about yourself in front of your parents. The daughter who is not welcomed is often the most filial. They hope to be loved by their parents with their own efforts.

It's a pity, under normal circumstances, the more a daughter pays, the less her parents treat her. Therefore, when your daughter comes home, don't pretend to be generous in front of her parents, but talk about how difficult it is for you, so that your parents can dispel the idea of exploiting you.

3. If possible, try not to live with your parents. The parents are eccentric and still live together, and the daughter's psychology will be very unbalanced and easy to resent. At this time, if you are an adult, move out and live, out of sight is clean, as long as you promise not to be exploited by your parents.

During the New Year's holidays, as long as you buy them some gifts and do your filial piety, you can only fulfill your daughter's part of the responsibility.

Therefore, in a patriarchal family, women must understand a truth, they must work hard in this life, otherwise in the end, your parents will step on you and exploit you, and the man you meet in the future will not respect you when they see your parents so unkind to you, and feel that you have no one to support.

Parents are patriarchal, and it is difficult to change their minds by saying or doing something.

There may be people who are required by their parents to work to earn money for their younger brother or elder brother to go to school, the cost of attending tutoring classes, the cost of finding a relationship with others, and the requirement to earn money to buy a house for their younger brother or elder brother when they are working, marry a wife, and ask for money to be given to their grandson when their parents have grandchildren, and the flow is unlimited.

If it were me, find a reason to move out of the hukou, and then tear my face if necessary, and then pay back the money that my parents have raised me in the past few years, and finally according to the law, at what age I will pay the elderly child support every year, and go to the notary office for notarization.

You have to communicate more with your parents and prove to your parents that girls can be better than boys.

I will try to communicate with my parents to get them to change this patriarchal mentality. In this way, the family atmosphere will be happier.

There is no way to solve it, I have made a lot of efforts, it is useless, you ignore them, they bully you have no temper, you ignore them, they will say that you don't love them and they are not good, in short, it is a nightmare to meet such parents.

If parents prefer sons over daughters, in fact, it is difficult to change their mindset, and all we can do is to make ourselves better and make our lives more perfect.

If my parents were patriarchal, I would change their mindset and make them understand that every child is equal.

I talk to parents and try to use words to change their minds and make them realize that in this day and age, boys and girls are the same.

While being a good daughter, I will try my best to learn and improve myself, so that I can have the ability to live alone as much as possible, and then live alone.

Parents favor sons over daughters, and you can repay them yourself in the future. You can also have your own attitude towards them. Try to do as little as possible. If you don't do yourself, you can also not receive them.

Why is it always me who does wrong? They scolded me without seeing it.

For example, when I go home together, my father will take out the delicious food and then take it out after my brother comes back, instead of me getting home first.

One. In life, especially in the local rural areas, the source of patriarchal values is very obvious, after all, boys in the countryside are the top households, and it is the inheritance of blood, only boys at home feel that there is someone in this family can inherit. If it is a girl, then the countryside will definitely consider having another child, because boys are a very useful labor force in the countryside.

The food is mainly eaten by boys.

Two. In life, girls get married basically because the man asks for a bride price, and there are many girls, and there are very few girls to accompany them when they get married, but if a boy gets married, basically the boy's family will prepare a lot of bride price with the boy. Even if it is to buy a house for a boy, or to give a lot of money to the child, I feel very happy, because after all, the boy is taken from home, and the girl's family is imported by Tianding, so it can be seen that the importance of boys is valued.

Three. Even if it is also in life is looking for a job, it is mainly boys, and there are some jobs where girls go to interviews, and people don't want to accept them, because after all, there are many things for girls, especially after marriage, giving birth to children and taking marriage leave, which seriously affects this work efficiency, so most companies are willing to have boys. There are not so many troubles, and it is not because the family always asks for leave, so it can also be reflected in the work of the patriarchal situation is the same as my thoughts!

I didn't have a patriarchal situation. If you encounter it, you should also learn to be grateful and communicate more with your parents to solve the problem.

1. Always be grateful.

We can't choose our parents, but we can choose our own attitude towards life. Parents prefer sons over daughters is an idea, but the world is so big, without parents, there would be no us, and the grace of birth and nurturing is greater than the sky.

Compared to the life given by the parents, it is ideological"Imperfections"It seems insignificant. Even if your parents don't do well, you should always be grateful, because you often recall the warmth given by your parents, and you can help us resolve some of our dissatisfaction and resentment.

Second, you still need to rely on yourself on the road of life.

In the TV series "It's All Good", Su's mother can smash pots and sell iron for her son's schooling, and even sell her house, but Mingyu just wanted to spend money to enroll in a tutoring class, but was stopped by Su's mother, and finally Mingyu ran away from home with grief and anger.

Years later, Mingyu is already a gold collar in the workplace, and has walked out of a road on her own, achieving financial freedom, and when there is material abundance, the past grievances and hatreds will also be alleviated.

Third, the bell must be tied to the bell.

As the saying goes, the palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are full of meat, even if the parents have the idea of patriarchy, I believe that they also love their daughters.

Since you have a problem in your heart, it is better to sit down and talk with your parents, tell your parents your thoughts, and at the moment when you "release your suspicions" and hug your parents, all the complaints and hatred will be resolved.

My parents didn't have patriarchal behavior, and if my parents had patriarchal behavior, I would first respect their ideas, but at the same time, I would communicate with them and let them know the possible impact of such a practice. I will make them understand that it is very important for Zhou Liang to respect all children, whether boys or girls. I will also try to help them change their mindset so that they understand that every child should never be treated differently because of their gender.

If my parents have patriarchal behavior, I will communicate with them, tell them what I think and think, and respect their ideas. I will try to make them understand that all children deserve equal attention and that both boys and girls should be given equal opportunities and rights. I would also suggest that they participate in some family activities such as family trips, going to the park together, etc., so that they can get to know each other better and better understand the needs of the children.

If my parents have patriarchal behavior, I will first try to respect their ideas through communication and understanding, help them recognize the bad effects of this behavior, and advise them to make effective changes. In addition, I will try to communicate effectively with my family members to compensate for their unequal treatment of different genders and provide them with effective support.

In real life, the phenomenon of patriarchy has always existed. We should take the right approach to this problem, especially the patriarchal problem of our own parents. ......Specifically, we should take three measures to face the reality calmly, do our best to convince their parents, and girls should improve their own strength to ensure their own interests.

1. In the face of the problem of patriarchal preference for parents, you must face it calmly and recognize the reality.

The problem of patriarchy has been around for a long time and is present in many people. ......This is a very real problem that cannot be avoided and must be faced. ......Because of this, there is no need to avoid the problem of patriarchy in your parents, but you should recognize the reality and face it calmly.

Only when you adopt such an attitude can you solve the problem with a positive and peaceful attitude and get the best results.

2. I should try my best to persuade my parents to change the problem of preference for sons.

If parents have a patriarchal problem, they should try their best to persuade and educate them. ......You can use realistic facts to prove that both sons and daughters will have a chance to be successful, and they can honor their parents and make their parents live comfortably and raise their eyebrows. As soon as this shed is gone, the concept of preference for sons in the hearts of parents can be effectively alleviated and eventually eliminated.

Of course, this requires a relatively long process, and it takes a long time to work hard to achieve results.

3. As a girl, you should try your best to improve your own strength and ensure that your own interests are effectively safeguarded.

If Lian Zheng Naguo is a girl, he needs to focus on solving the problem from his own point of view in dealing with the problem of patriarchal preference for his parents. ......Specifically, you need to try your best to improve your strength, so that you can have a better performance in study, life and work, so that you can become the object of great attention, so that you will not be despised, and the problem of preference for sons over women will be completely solved. ......For girls, this is the key to solving the problem of patriarchy, and they must do it themselves.