What kind of psychology is it to talk about being afraid of bothering others?

People who don't like to trouble others seem to take up little space, but in fact, **** has thorns, everywhere is a pain point, often when I was a child, I didn't get along well with my family and caused some kind of disorder, and I was uncomfortable with others. Furthermore, people who don't like trouble are often very stingy, and the other side of their dislike of trouble is that they hate others to trouble themselves.

People have helped you very politely, and I don't claim to be a benefactor, but I don't know how to face it, I'm especially afraid of owing others love, and I hope to settle it quickly.

You may get help from others, but you have to give something, for example, someone who helps you a little bit will think of yourself as a great benefactor, and people who are psychologically strong will laugh it off, but those who are psychologically weak like me will not know how to be good. Inside, I don't approve of it, but it's hard not to accept this hint when people make the atmosphere look like that, and that feeling is quite bad.

Don't bother others, it's to look "independent". Relying on incompetent people to refuse help from others, to avoid helping others, only to hope that they are "independent" in the eyes of others, and this "independence" will allow them to gain a positive evaluation of themselves - I can take care of myself, I don't need anyone. Even if they have a need for others and want to have more intimate relationships with others, they force themselves not to do so because that would undermine their independence. ‍‍

Being rejected by the other party seems very embarrassing to me, and at that moment, I will even feel denied by the whole world. Reluctance to ask for help is usually the primary reason for fear of rejection and poor self-healing ability.

It is very difficult to ask others for help, especially when you see the disdain on the face of the person who wants to help.

I don't want to trouble others because I don't trust others, I feel good about myself, and then I believe that I can. ‍‍

I am a person who never wants to trouble others, from childhood to adulthood, I can do everything, and I try my best to do it. If you don't know how to do it, learn to do it yourself. If you can not ask for others, you will not ask for others, and if you can not trouble others, you will not trouble others. ‍‍

Accepting help from others can make them feel inferior, and relying on incompetent people may have a fragile sense of self-esteem. ‍‍

It's a habit you've developed since childhood.

Are you a trouble-prone person? Because work is very tiring, I am very afraid of trouble in life, so I only pick the simplest and easiest option, only do the things that are easy to achieve, and give up as soon as there is the slightest trouble.

In fact, if you can't do it, you don't force it, and if you can't do it, it's perfunctory. How you live a perfunctory life will be perfunctory by life.

What kind of psychology do these people who are afraid of trouble have? A good life can never be afraid of trouble. Trouble is not the enemy of life, the lazy heart is. When you learn to overcome the trivialities of life, you are the master of life.

Clause. First, the goal is not clear.

If you are clear about what you need, you will work hard to achieve your goals. Open the mountain when you meet the mountain, and build a bridge when you meet the water.

Clause. Second, the willpower is not firm.

It is human nature to seek pleasure and avoid suffering. Because troublesome things generally require a lot of time and energy to deal with, and you will be irritable and depressed in the process. There is no patience to persevere.

In particular, some couples can be fine a few years before they get married, but after a long time of marriage, they can't stick to it. I can't stand each other anymore.

Clause. 3. Selfish and stubborn.

This kind of person is too narcissistic and thinks that he is the best. Self-centered, self-centered, does not want to be interfered with and controlled by others, does not want to lose freedom.

Clause. Fourth, the thinking mode lacks creativity.

In fact, there are many solutions to any problem in life, but people who are afraid of trouble basically use the simplest and crude methods. The mindset cannot break through the tradition and lacks creative thinking.

Clause. 5. Poor emotional management ability and low emotional intelligence.

For example, as long as there is a quarrel between lovers, they will directly say "break up", and as soon as the husband and wife quarrel, they will immediately blurt out the word "divorce". In fact, neither breakup nor divorce is the best way to resolve conflicts.

Clause. Sixth, there is no skill in interpersonal communication.

Some people can't do a lot of things by themselves, and they don't like to trouble others, so they would rather choose to retreat or give up. This kind of person is very face-loving. I don't like to trouble others, because I am afraid of being rejected or disliked by others.

In fact, everyone is eager to be needed, and some small things occasionally trouble others, and asking for the help of friends may also enhance mutual friendship.

Clause. 7. A common tragic fate.

If we are blindly afraid of trouble, we are afraid of trouble, and it is estimated that we will not do well in our work, and our interpersonal relationships will be messed up, our career will be a mess, and our family relationships will be messy, and in the end, because we are afraid of trouble, we will face even greater trouble in the end. If you continue to run away and retreat, your life will turn into a tragedy.

A good life can never be afraid of trouble. Trouble is not the enemy of life, the lazy heart is. When you learn to overcome the trivialities of life, you are the master of life.

May you and I be winners in life.

It must be annoying after a long time, I used to have a strong desire to talk to others, and I wanted to talk to someone, but I was also worried about whether the other party would be annoying to me, so this is really a worrying thing.

However, since you have such concerns, it means that there is still such a possibility, so when you are chatting with someone, according to the content you want to chat, you need to find the right person for the right stool.

First of all, chatting this kind of thing, it's all mutual, if you want to complain to others about your experience, if the other party is not a particularly good relationship, you are more likely to find you annoying, if you have a good relationship with the other party, if you know each other better, you should not have such concerns.

Secondly, if you talk to others, the content of the chat is mainly when you are talking about your own affairs, others may be difficult to empathize, if you chat, both parties can talk about their own things, rather than just listening to one person's speech, this kind of two-person chat has a stronger sense of participation, and the chat is easier to continue, that is, in the process of chatting, don't just think about your own feelings, and ignore the other party's feelings, after all, others don't have to chat with you, Listen to your spit or complain about Yiwu.

Moreover, for the other party to take the initiative to chat with themselves, it really depends on the quality of the relationship, if the relationship is good, there will be no problem at all, if the relationship is average, then you should learn to be indifferent, after all, everyone has their own life, have their own circle of friends, this kind of thing is really normal.

Finally, if you really want to talk to someone about something, if you really can't find someone, you can also choose other ways. For example, if you write down what you want to say, maybe you have a strong desire to talk at first, maybe in the process of writing, your mood will slowly calm down, and then your desire to talk may be reduced, and you may also be full of things in the process. This writing can be handwritten, or it can be an electronic version, such as posting it on Weibo, etc., if you don't want to be known by others, you can also choose some platforms that you don't know to confide in.

Summary. First of all, you have to ** your deep beliefs, why are you afraid of this? This one is especially important to you.

Because your actions are determined by your beliefs. Dig out this belief in yourself first, and then it is possible to change your behavior.

Afraid to communicate with people and dare not talk to others, very irritable, afraid of troublesome things, what is going on, afraid of talking to strangers, nervous and afraid of saying the wrong thing when talking to strangers, sometimes I will be very irritable and want to lose my temper, always feel that I am not good at anything, I am afraid that others will stare at me when I go out, what is going on?

First of all, you have to ** your deep beliefs, why are you afraid of this? This one is especially important to you. Because your actions are determined by your beliefs. Dig out this belief in yourself first, and then it is possible to change your behavior.

It feels like I've asked in vain, and the questions have not been solved, and it has to be very slow.

It's not for nothing, it's to take you to **, you can think about it. You can look up the iceberg theory of psychology to know if it is in vain? Or am I helping you grow? Break through your piece of faith.

This has a lot to do with your family of origin and past experience, I ask you to think about it, it is to let you recall whether there have been some experiences in your life experience that have had a great impact on you, and make you become afraid of what you said above, if you don't recall and think about this, how can you know why you are like this.

Afraid of bothering others.

Are you also such a person, others can trouble you, and even you are looking forward to others bothering you, expecting yourself to help others, but you are afraid of bothering others, in fact, such people live very tired, and these people's hearts are very kind, great and selfless.

But this is a manifestation of low emotional intelligence, the so-called low emotional intelligence, is to do one thing that makes others feel uncomfortable at the same time, this is low emotional intelligence, maybe you feel that you have done a lot, very selfless, but this does not change the fact that this is low emotional intelligence.

Sometimes bothering others is also an important step to promote the development of the relationship between two people, so that two people will be very chatty, and both parties can ask the other party for help if they have problems, don't be afraid to trouble others, and don't rush to repay others, otherwise it will give people a very strange feeling.

It refers to the psychology of low self-esteem or arrogance, and it is easy to be unsociable. In short, it is better to ask for help from friends when you have difficulties. In the future, we can help our friends appropriately and deepen our friendships. If it helps you, please adopt. Thank you.

I don't like to trouble others, but I am happy to be troubled by others, in fact, it is a manifestation of low self-worth, worrying that I am not worthy of others' pay, worrying about being rejected, and feeling that only by paying by myself can I be worthy of being loved and liked.

This low sense of self-worth and low self-esteem is very closely related to the experience of being raised in childhood, the core of which is the conditionalization of values.

Value conditionalization is a concept proposed by humanistic psychology, which refers to the fact that a person bases his or her own value on the evaluation of others. Only when you are appreciated by others can you feel self-esteem, and your behavior is out of wanting to be praised by others.

Most of these people grew up under their parents' inappropriate reward and punishment mechanisms.

1. In the final analysis, it is the psychology of not trusting others enough. There is generally a certain amount of self-defense.

2. I also have the psychology of not being confident enough in myself, worrying that I will not be able to repay others.

3. Relative to oneself, thinking that one's own affairs have nothing to do with others.

4. Relatively introverted personality, not accustomed to seeking external strength, accustomed to exploring the inner self.