Why are children so fragile nowadays

Because some children lack friends, the fast pace of modern life, the development of technology such as mobile phone networks gives them more opportunities to pay attention to the world, but they are more eager for the understanding and attention of those around them. However, modern examination-oriented education attaches too much importance to academic level and ignores the cultivation of students' social ability and social practice. Excessive spoiling by parents is also an important factor in leading to psychological vulnerability.

The environment in which he grew up was fragile.

Times have changed, and they have the troubles, sufferings, difficulties, and vulnerabilities of their time.

Their feelings have nowhere to be placed in the current era, and they don't seem strong enough, mature enough, not big enough, but this is exactly what they are all about their difficulties and troubles, just as people in the past worried about their problems. Maybe there is no livelihood distress, but they also have their own things that are different from those of the previous people.

1 Most of them are now only children, and they are pampered from an early age, and they are prone to develop bad habits, such as a lack of sharing, difficulty getting along with others, and jealousy.

2 He has lived a pampered life since he was a child. When difficulties come knocking on the door, they are often overwhelmed and difficult to bear,3 a considerable part of the time to spend time with the computer, with family, friends, relatives, less communication, and at the same time, there is also a negative impact of the Internet.

Since childhood, I have no experience in solving things independently, and when I encounter things, I will find my parents, I don't know how to be considerate, and I only blindly consider my own feelings, but fragile children are very sensitive, and the change in the attitude or tone of others will make them think a lot, and then become more vulnerable

1 parents are used to 2 grandparents and 3 are now living well, they have not suffered hardships, and they don't know how to cherish it.

People are inherently dead, but many people can't face it, and the word "death" has a lot of deep fear for most children.

The development and progress of society have allowed many children to grow up in a comfortable, relaxed and even smooth environment, and these have led to children's contempt for life, fragile psychological defense, and unable to resist a little setback. always put the radical words of "big deal and death" on his lips.

Now the case of Liangwang's suicide by pretending to be a student makes many people feel sorry, but the fragility of the student's psychology often takes simple things to the other extreme, and he hastily ends his otherwise brilliant life. Based on this phenomenon, a number of colleges and universities have opened"Life Education Lessons".

Many colleges and universities offer "life education courses".

The Qingming Festival is approaching, and the "death education courses" offered by major colleges and universities have attracted everyone's attention. According to incomplete statistics, more than 20 colleges and universities, including Peking University, Shandong University, and Guangzhou University, offer death education courses.

For 14 consecutive years, Shandong University has opened a professional elective course of "Death Culture and Life and Death Education" for clinical medicine students, and the lecturer Associate Professor Wang Yunling introduced that in the classroom, students can openly discuss the topic of death, and will also lead students to visit the funeral home to visit the complete funeral process.

It is necessary for students to learn to reflect on and plan their lives at the end of their lives, and to establish a correct outlook on life and death.

Homeschooling is also particularly important.

Many teenagers lack a certain degree of cognition in the face of things themselves, and their own thinking has to be mature, and their psychological construction is not comprehensive, which will have a bad impact, and they often use some extreme methods to deal with things.

For parents, it is necessary to correctly guide children to deal with things and methods, and not to excessively require children to excel in a certain professional study, and parents have their own work and their own things, which leads to children's efforts that parents cannot see.

And students relax to be caught by parents are countless, this kind of misunderstanding over time is huge pressure on children, often under this pathological pressure, students take extreme treatment of many people surprised, and when it comes to this step, parents regret it to no avail.

Therefore, parents should learn to communicate with their children and correctly guide their children's views on things.

Author's Note: Whenever I see the news on the Internet that some young people commit suicide or hurt others because of conflicts, I feel deeply sorry that they lack a sense of reverence for life, regard death as a kind of relief, do not correctly handle the relationship between life and death, and fail to appreciate the preciousness of life and the meaning of life.

When encountering things, we must learn to face them with a natural mentality, and we must learn and know how to cherish every day and everyone we meet in our lives.

We often hear that children nowadays are too fragile and this is because they can't seem to handle some of the setbacks and difficulties we experienced when we were younger. Actually, there are many reasons for this phenomenon, and here are a few of the possible explanations.

Lack of intimacy.

First of all, children today may lack enough intimacy that can help children feel supported and encouraged when they are struggling. With parents busy with work and socializing**, it can be difficult for children to find someone they can trust and rely on. This makes them feel lonely and helpless in the face of setbacks and difficulties.

Pampered and overprotective.

Secondly, children nowadays may be affected by overprotection and pampering. Overprotection can cause a child to lose self-confidence and ability to cope with difficulties. In order to avoid frustration and failure, parents may obscure their experience of failure and provide excessive praise and reward.

This behavior can make children feel more vulnerable by making them feel unable to cope with failure once they face it.

Academic and social stress.

In addition, today's children may be under unprecedented academic and social pressure. As global competition intensifies, parents are likely to invest more time and money in their children's futures. This makes a child's life full of schoolwork, exams, and various extracurricular activities, which causes them great stress and anxiety.

In addition, socialization also creates new pressures for children, who must maintain a seemingly perfect image, which leads to psychological stress and insecurity.

Lack of opportunities to cope with setbacks.

Finally, today's children may lack the opportunity to cope with setbacks. Being overprotective and pampered can hinder children from learning how to cope with setbacks and failures. Children feel frustrated and hopeless in the face of setbacks and failures, and they lack the means to deal with these emotions and are unable to grow and improve from them.

In conclusion, there are many reasons why children are vulnerable nowadays, including lack of intimacy, pampering and overprotection, academic and social pressure, and lack of opportunities to cope with setbacks. We should focus on children's growth and development, build closer relationships, encourage them to learn to cope with setbacks and failures, and give them the opportunity to grow and improve their abilities. At the same time, it is also necessary to pay attention to reducing children's stress and anxiety, helping them establish a positive attitude, explore their own hobbies and reputations, and let them have a healthy and happy growth environment.

In today's society, the phenomenon of children's psychological fragility is becoming more and more serious. They can't seem to withstand any bit of criticism or negativity and rely too much on praise and positive feedback. Such a problem has attracted widespread attention and **.

This phenomenon will be analyzed from several perspectives below.

First of all, parental overprotection is one of the important reasons for children's psychological vulnerability. With the improvement of the family's economic conditions, parents are increasingly investing in their children, both materially and spiritually. However, some parents have gone beyond the scope of reasonable protection, and even resorted to various unhealthy and abnormal ways to avoid any mistakes or failures in their children, such as easily apologizing, perfunctory, and giving praise.

Secondly, the lack of school education is also one of the reasons for children's psychological vulnerability. Due to the complexity of the curriculum and the intensification of competition, many schools have adopted a strict evaluation system to improve students' academic performance, without fully considering students' feelings and mental health. If a child fails once in such an environment, (especially on a public platform) they may be attacked by their peers, which can cause extreme emotional stress to the child.

Thirdly, social networking is everywhere these days. While there are many benefits to living in the digital age, over-reliance on social** is also one of the reasons for a child's psychological vulnerability. Today's children are addicted to the online world for a long time, and are easily affected by the "perfect" life and appearance on the lack of social codes.

They see that they lack something different from others and give rise to the name"Worried"(fomo) phobia, which leads to mental stress, anxiety, and low self-esteem.

In response to this phenomenon, we need to take some measures to help children better cope with criticism and failure. First and foremost, parents should give their children appropriate freedom and independence and respect their choices. Educators should pay more attention to students' personality development and mental health, and improve students' ability to deal with negative emotions through various ways.

At the same time, we should also popularize public mental health knowledge through various social networks and advertisements to promote people's mental health and happiness.

In short, pretend selling can only find a more effective way to solve the problem while fully grasping the nature and cause of the problem. We should strongly support children to try new things, reflect on themselves, accept criticism and failure, and encourage them to find joy in growing up with growing pains.

The main reason for this phenomenon is that parents are too doting, so that children live a life of clothes to stretch their hands and food to open their mouths, naturally they will not know that life is not easy to do. Moreover, in schools, teachers are also required to educate happily and not to physically punish students, so no matter what mistakes children make, teachers can only communicate rationally. Why is it that the previous child, you beat and scolded him every day, and now the child is so emotionally fragile, prone to psychological problems and depression, in fact, it is very easy and simple, lack of emotional outlet, only the child from the snack bitter, the child's ability to resist pressure will be stronger, and the adverse quotient will be higher, which will play an important role in the child's study and work life.

Nowadays, some children can't endure one kind of hardship, that is, the hardship of learning, they prefer to hold their mobile phones all day long to play games, rather than pick up books and read hard.

Over-education and ingenuity bring high pressure.

With overprotection comes vulnerability.

Why do children seem to be more "vulnerable" when the material conditions are better? Liang Shungen analyzes that when material things are satisfied, people begin to pursue spiritual needs, which will raise expectations very high. But whether this expectation is appropriate and how to achieve the goal is easy to make people feel anxious.

Some people want to achieve it all at once, and if they can't do it, they will deny themselves completely.

Xiao Hao, who is in high school, admits that the competitive pressure faced by teenagers is increasing and becoming more and more "involuted", which he believes is also the reason why this generation is more sensitive and vulnerable. Especially in the context of social **, "rich information + comparison with others = chronic stress" is also one of the reasons why the whole society is becoming more and more "volume" Xiaoji.

Children are under certain environmental pressures, such as parents want their children to excel, and the existence of some evaluation systems brings more pressure to children. Ms. Wu, a parent in Jiangmen, said with feeling, "When our generation was studying, the most common thing that parents talked about was 'neighbor's children', and we ourselves were mainly limited to classes and schools, but now children and parents are in a sea of information, compared to 'cow babies' around the world." ”

When the water is full, it overflows, and when the moon is full, it loses. Over-education brings high pressure, and over-protection brings fragile bridging keys. Liang Shungen pointed out that today, when the abundant material conditions lead to the child's needs, it often does not need to put in too much effort, and even the parents will easily meet him, which makes the child's "sense of gain" not strong.

Through their own efforts to obtain a result, harvest a sense of hope, the psychological state will be good.

Listen patiently and accompany effectively.

Seek professional help if necessary.

Nowadays, the proportion of children and adolescents with psychological problems and depression is particularly high, many parents say that this is habitual, they have been beaten and scolded since childhood, they are all suffering, and now children can not scold, they are anxious and depressed at every turn.

Studies have found that the prevalence of depression in children and adolescents accounts for 5% to 80% in adolescence, and by the age of 13, the incidence of depressive symptoms in primary school students in grades 4 to 6 is about 40%, and the incidence of depressive symptoms in middle school students is about 40%. Actually, there is a reason for this:

First, most of the emotional communication in life has been lost. Why are today's children so vulnerable? Because of the influence of society and the spread of smart devices, there are already video games for children to entertain in the post-00s, resulting in many children never knowing how to take care of others and take care of themselves socially, which is immature in emotional intelligence.

In addition, as a parent, there is a lack of listening and understanding, and they always avoid and ignore. For example, my child suddenly asks me a question, "Mom, why did I die?" This is the question my son asked me when he was five years old, and it scared the hell out of me, what did it do to me?

But I know that we can't help but deal with the past, because the child understands the world by asking questions, if you always avoid it, slowly he will not communicate with you, and his problems will not be lifted in his heart. By adolescence, they will be even more confused.

Second, as soon as the emotions are out of control, they will vent to the child, and use the child as an emotional trash can. Nowadays, adults have been under the pressure of work for a long time, and once they get home, they may vent to their families, and even ** to the point that even they feel incredible. In particular, some parents think that their children are not sensible and take them out at will, which not only hurts the parent-child relationship, but also has a great impact on the child, and may cause psychological problems in serious cases.

For example, you keep chattering with your children and saying that your dad is so annoying, he doesn't even wash the dishes, and he really shouldn't marry him. The child is not a psychologist of his parents, and there is no way to do anything to solve the problems in his parents' marriage. Is it useful for you to complain to him?

For example, when I say to others in front of my child, this child is a burden to me, and since he was born, I have not left anything good. As a result, the child was stunned and embarrassed, and his eyes were full of tears. Obviously, for him, this implication was really the worst birthday experience.

Those children who are not listened to will not cry when they grow up, they can only bury their negative emotions in their hearts, and they will accumulate a lot of negative emotions and have nowhere to vent, and sooner or later they will be suppressed to the point that they want to create a little childhood shadow for their children.