Why can t I go back to my parents house on the first day of the Lunar New Year?

Updated on culture 2024-03-04
18 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    The first day of the Lunar New Year is a festive day for family reunion, and according to traditional customs, many places prohibit married daughters from returning to their parents' homes on the first day of the Lunar New Year.

    Because in the concept of people in these areas, the married daughter is like water spilled out, and the husband's family needs to be reunited on the first day of the new year, and if she returns to her parents' house on the first day of the new year, it will cause the husband's family to not be reunited.

    But the implication is that the married daughter is already someone else's daughter-in-law, and there must be many people in the mother-in-law's family who come to pay New Year's greetings, and the daughter-in-law has to help serve tea, so she can't go back to her parents' house on the first day of the new year. On the first day of the Chinese New Year, if the married daughter returns to her parents' home, it means that her mother's family will be poor, so she can only return to her parents' home in the second or third year of junior high school.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    The eldest sister and sister-in-law each have a home, and they go back to their parents' house to let their younger siblings and sisters-in-law serve, and they feel that it is not right to serve the elderly, and the daughter-in-law serves her in-laws in place of her husband, but she is not obliged to serve her aunt and sister-in-law, one or two meals are okay, I am afraid of unconscious! Personally, I think that if you are not welcome to go back to your parents' house, either your family recognizes the old reason, and people just believe that you have a home, why do you have to go back to others in the past two days, and the other is that your usual performance is not good, you are not usually welcome, and don't look for awkwardness for the New Year! Since ancient times, the relationship between sister-in-law and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, in fact, they have lived in different environments for decades.

    There are a lot of sons-in-law and daughter-in-law's relatives who can't fight, life is just a few decades, don't punish yourself with other people's mistakes, anger is the biggest harm to yourself, no matter what you encounter, you want to think about it, the health and safety of yourself and your relatives is important!

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    First, if the woman's family has an older brother or younger brother, then she can't spend the New Year in her parents' house after getting married, and she can't go back to her parents' house to visit until the third year of junior high school; Second, if the woman's family only has daughters and no sons, then during the Chinese New Year, if your husband is willing to accompany you, it will also be possible.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    It is difficult for such a daughter-in-law to last long, not to mention the mother-in-law's family, have you considered the feelings of the mother-in-law's family? How does the husband feel? You are someone else's daughter-in-law. Thirty years home, that must be an incomplete family. How old is it and still ignorant, you should be scolded.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    When I go back on the first day of the new year, I have to clean up the mess and wash the dishes. The second is to eat leftovers. The third is that it is possible that many people have drunk too much, and no one will drink with you. Why bother?

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    I can't eat on the first day of the Lunar New Year!! Eat and go! And the time has come for another time!

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    It's pure fart, many people work outside all year round, and there can be a few days to go home for reunion during the New Year, we are here for Chinese New Year's Eve, and there are many relatives on the first day of the new year.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    This is superstition! My sister came home today on the first day of the new year (she is married), and she does this every year, just as fine!

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    My wife's house is far from my house, a ten-minute walk, and I go home at every turn, thirty, and the first day of junior high school, and now I don't pay so much attention to it!

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    I can't go back to my hometown for the New Year this year, and I miss my mother very much.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    I'm going to take the two children back to my parents' house today, what's wrong (you have to write 25 words before you can send it)!

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    The married daughter can't go back to her parents' house on the first day of the first month, which is completely a superstitious feudal idea。Now there are many daughters who return to their parents' homes in the thirtieth year of the Chinese New Year's Eve, and there are also two families who spend the New Year together, and there is not so much exquisiteness.

    In fact, in the past, I thought that the daughter who married was someone else's family, that is, an outsider. In one sentence, it is "the water spilled by the daughter who marries", and the daughter returns to her parents' house as an outsider returns. But the first day of the first lunar month is more special, that is, the first day of the new year, this day should be a day of family reunion, so only family members can get together.

    And the daughter who got married is no longer a member of the family, but an outsider.

    In particular, some old people are particularly superstitious, thinking that on the first day of the first lunar month, even if they are deceased relatives, they will bring Lu back to see on this day, so there can be no outsiders present. Therefore, it is not welcome for the married daughter to go home, and the married daughter is at home, and the deceased family members cannot come back to the group, which is very unlucky.

    Moreover, if the married daughter goes back to her parents' house to eat on the first day of the new year, it means that her husband's family has no food to eat, so she is likely to eat her mother's family poor. Therefore, the daughter is not allowed to return to her parents' home on the first day of the first lunar month, and it is generally after the first day of junior high school, and the second day of junior high school is the day when the married daughter returns to her parents' home.

    In addition, after the daughter gets married, she will be a member of someone else's family, and in the New Year, someone else's family must also have a lot of things to help with, and there are also many people who want to go to visit the New Year. Therefore, the married daughter must help at home, if she goes back to her parents' house, it will definitely mean that the married daughter is not sensible, and she is not at home to help her in-laws serve relatives who come to visit the New Year, and the daughter who comes home at this time must be an incompetent daughter-in-law. These statements are all superstitious and untrustworthy, and now they don't pay attention to them, they are all nonsense.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Reading guide]: Some people say that the daughter who marries spills the water, and once the daughter gets married, the relationship with her mother's family is getting farther and farther away. But now it's the 21st century, and there is no such thing as male superiority and inferiority to women, so why can't you go back to your parents' home on the first day of the Lunar New Year in Feng Shui?

    In ancient China, when a woman marries her husband and has few opportunities to return to her parents' home, she cannot return to her parents' home on the first day of the Lunar New Year, which is said to take away the good luck of her husband's family. But now that we are the 21st century, the times are different, and women are also independent individuals, and this statement can only be viewed dialectically.

    Eat up the fortune

    On the first day of the new year on the first day of the new year, if you eat too much on this day, it means that we will be in deficit this year, and generally there will be no guests on this day except for people who greet the New Year. Even his own daughter has already started a new family, a lover, and even his own children. If you go back to your parents' house, you will eat up your mother's good luck.

    The more people you bring, the more it means that your mother's luck is not.

    Take away good luck

    After all, we don't live in the same family anymore, we each have our own nests. The household registration book is not even together, so if you go to your mother's house, it is possible to bring the wealth of the Lu family back to your own home. Although his family's good fortune has improved, after all, it is stolen wealth, which harms others and is not beneficial to himself.

    There may be physical losses, and if the mother's family has a sister-in-law, it will be even more annoying.

    Bring bad luck

    On the first day of the Lunar New Year, there are many ghosts and gods, and we will welcome our ancestors to our homes for the New Year, so the yin and yang are particularly unbalanced. If you go far away, it is very likely that an accident will happen, and there are many lonely souls and wild ghosts outside, and it is easy to be attacked by evil spirits and evil spirits. Then we'll bring bad luck to our parents' house.

    If there are elderly people and children in the mother's family, their bodies will not be able to bear it, and the New Year should be jubilant.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    In fact, the custom of not returning to the Niangsen Sakura family on the first day of the first month mainly includes the following reasons.

    First, there should be no outsiders in the first year of junior high school. Superstitious beliefs dictate that the deceased ancestor should return home from heaven at the end of the year to enjoy the offerings, and that there should be no outsiders in the house at this time. The so-called "married daughter splashes the water out of this bush", the married daughter and her mother's family are no longer a family.

    After her daughter got married, she became a member of her mother-in-law's family, and she has become an "outsider" to her mother's family. If the female Xiangming'er lives in her mother's house after marriage, the ancestor will be unhappy.

    Second, it will bring disadvantages to the mother's family. Superstition believes that a daughter's stay at her mother's house on the first day of the first lunar month will have a bad impact on the health and financial fortune of her brother. Therefore, if there is an older brother and younger brother in the mother's family, it is very annoying to go back to the parents' house in the first year, and people do not want to see them.

    At the same time, the mother loves her daughter, and when the daughter leaves, she will take a large bag, as an elder brother and brother, she may not say anything, but her sister-in-law and sister-in-law will definitely not be happy. This creates conflict in the family.

    Third, it will eat the poor of the mother's family. Superstition believes that when a daughter returns to her parents' house in the first year, she will eat her parents' family poor. In the past, the economy was underdeveloped, and almost every household was very poor.

    If the daughter goes back to her parents' house for the New Year, the son-in-law is a distinguished guest, and in order to make the son-in-law treat her daughter better, the mother-in-law will try her best to please her, so she will do everything she can to entertain her. In this way, poor families will be made even poorer. If the daughter drags her children and daughters again, the burden on her mother's family will be heavier.

    Fourth, it is a traditional filial piety culture. When a daughter gets married, she becomes a family member of her mother-in-law, and her parents-in-law are her own family, and she becomes a relative with her mother's family. The first day of Chinese New Year's Eve is a time for family reunion, and the daughter and her mother-in-law's family are a family, so naturally they have to get together with their mother-in-law's family first.

    The purpose of this is also to remind her daughter that she knows that she is already a member of her mother-in-law's family, and that she should be virtuous and virtuous in her mother-in-law's family, respect the old and love the young.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    The first day of the Lunar New Year as the first day of the new year of prudence, there are many taboo matters, and on the first day of the new year, the folk custom of not being able to go back to the mother's house has long been recorded in the history of our country, the folk believe that on the first day of the new year, the daughter who has married will go home for the New Year will eat the family poor, and the daughter is not allowed to spend the New Year at home. In fact, according to the analysis of the social situation at the time, the reason why the married daughter was not allowed to go home on the first day of the Lunar New Year was to warn the daughter that since she was married, she should put her husband's family first. In addition, there will be many relatives in the mother-in-law's house during the Chinese New Year, and as a daughter-in-law, she will accompany her husband and in-laws to entertain.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    As we all know, the first day of the first lunar month of each year is the first day of the Spring Festival for people, which day is also very lively, and there are many activities going on. On this day, there are also many precautions worth understanding, some things that should not be done are not allowed to be done, only in this way can we have a smooth New Year.

    How about going back to my parents' house on the first day of junior high school?

    I can't go back to my parents' house on the first day of the Lunar New Year, because if the daughter who marries out goes back to my parents' house on the first day of the New Year, it means that her mother's family will be poor, so she can only go back to her parents' house on the second or third day of the new year, but the implication is that the married daughter is already someone else's daughter-in-law, and there must be many people in the mother-in-law's family to pay New Year's greetings, and the daughter-in-law has to help serve tea and serve, so she can't go back to her parents' house on the first day of the new year.

    The best time to go back to your parents' home.

    On the second day of the first month, it is a good time for the God of Wealth to return to his parents' home. On the second day of the first lunar month, many parts of China have a custom of returning to their parents' homes with gifts for married daughters. A: This reflects the concept of equality between men and women.

    In ancient China, there was a proverb "the girl who married out splashed the water", which means that the married woman must not return to her parents' home for no reason, and more time is to serve her in-laws and husbands.

    New Year's Day taboo inventory.

    Do not break bowls, mirrors and other glass, ceramic items, in case of ruin, if you really accidentally break, you can wrap the pants with red paper, put them on the table first, silently recite the auspicious words of "peace and security", and wait for five days to be broken and then discarded. Do not shave your head, wash your hair, take a bath, wash your clothes, use a broom, and do not shave your head on the morning of the first day of the new year, and do not bathe, wash your hair, or wash your clothes, which means washing away your wealth and fortune, so avoid washing. In the same way, you can't use a broom to clean the house, otherwise you will sweep away your luck and wealth, attract broom stars, and cause bad luck.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    The first day of junior high school is the beginning of the year, if returning to her parents' home indicates that the girl will meet friends at home and eat for a year, it is generally unlucky to marry out and return to her parents' home.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    On the second or third day of the first lunar month, the married daughter should bring the prepared gifts and go home with her husband and children. So, do you know what to avoid when a married girl returns to her parents' home? Let's take a look at what the old yellow calendar says!

    The Chinese New Year's Eve does not stay overnight.

    Generally speaking, a married woman should stay at her husband's house in the thirtieth year of the Chinese New Year's Eve. There is a saying: "The fire of the thirtieth year of the Chinese New Year's Eve, the lamp of the fifteenth day of the first month."

    It means that the girl who marries cannot see the fire of her mother's Chinese New Year's Eve, and if she sees her mother's family, she will not be rich and prosperous in the coming year. Married girls can go home to have a reunion dinner with their parents, but they cannot stay overnight, let alone attend the ceremony of leaving heaven in the early morning of the first day of the first day of the new year.

    On the first day of the first lunar month, I can't go back to my parents' home.

    In people's minds, the married daughter is already an outsider, so on the first day of the new year, the festive day of family reunion, they should stay with their husband's family, otherwise it will cause the situation that the husband's family cannot be reunited. At the same time, when a married girl goes home on this day, it will also make her mother's family poorer and poorer, reduce their money, and break their wealth.

    You can't go back to your parents' house on the day of the stove.

    During the Spring Festival, every family wants to sacrifice the stove, China has a saying that women do not sacrifice to the stove since ancient times, in order to prevent the ancestors of the mother's family from being unhappy when they go home to receive incense offerings, generally married women can not pretend to be stoves to go home on this day, otherwise it will affect the fortune of the mother's family for a year, and the mother's family will be more and more bad.

    When I go back to my parents' house, I can't touch the pot or spoon.

    People have sayings such as "touching the spoon and not dying father-in-law, dead mother-in-law", "taking the pillar of fire and not dying father-in-law, dead son-in-law", etc., people believe that the married girl goes back to her parents' house to touch the pot and spoon, which may make her mother's family unlucky for a year, so the married girl should take the initiative to follow these customs when returning to her parents' home, and do not touch these taboo things.

    It is taboo for a daughter to spend the New Year at her mother's house.

    I can't sweep the floor in my mother's house, and I can't sleep in the same bed with my husband.

    If you can't live in your mother's house for a long time, it will affect your brother's fortune.

    You can't eat dinner at your mother's house, and you have to go back to your mother-in-law's house before lighting the lamp at night, otherwise you will eat at your poor mother's house.

    You can't confinement at your mother's house, or go back to your parents' house before confinement, otherwise you will be unlucky.

    Gifts for honoring parents should come in pairs, not odd numbers.

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