Are there many people around you who don t choose to divorce because of their children?

We all know that divorce is particularly harmful to children, especially when children are young, they don't need their mother's love, and their father's love is also very important, but now most families are widowed education, this phenomenon is not only a full-time mother's family, many families where both parents work, and fathers do not want to participate in the education and training of their children, which reflects that our new generation of young people are under great pressure!

I just, in order to raise children, not to complain. I also learn from myself, my philosophy, to live and learn from old age. Now that the child is admitted to the ideal university, it is worth it! Regrets!

If the two really can't get by, the daily quarrels continue, the child will not be happy in such an environment, if the child is older and understands things, you can discuss it with her and listen to the child's thoughts, if the child is still young, he will not be happy when he grows up in such a family environment, and he will grow up with the shadows, I think it is a good way to make do with it, not to force a family. If you really want to be a child, listen to your child's voice.

My mother is, for me, not to divorce my father, she sighs all day long, her face is sad, I look uncomfortable ......I know that my mother doesn't divorce for my own good, I didn't divorce before because I want to take the college entrance examination or something, but now I don't divorce because of my marriageable age, I'm afraid that I will find a partner who will be looked down on by the other party because of family problems.

I don't want my child to have a missing family, I hope she grows up healthy, happy and safe. If the husband and wife really have no feelings, for the sake of the children, maybe even if they pretend, I will maintain the integrity of the family. When the child grows up, he can understand the pain of adults, and then choose to divorce at that time.

Crazy! If you've been being taken advantage of, why won't you get a divorce? Because I love you, I don't give you money, I give money to others, and I starve you to death without rent, should such a rotten person die?

No, although divorce is related to the children, but it is the happiness of their own life, and they will not choose an empty shell marriage for the children, which is not good for the physical and mental health of the children.

Getting married and having children is not impulsive, and getting along with each other in life is not a momentary confusion! From meeting and following each other to seeing each other and hating each other now, it will not be a whim, there are always various reasons!

Life is like a flower that is too old, what kind of seed bears what kind of flower, but some are delicate and some are withered. Peonies can never produce roses! Because the cost is too great!

What you have to think about now is the problem between the two of you, it won't change much, but it's up to you whether you can tolerate it or not!

Many people will always talk about children, and an unhappy life is the real misfortune for children, and not all children of single parents are unlucky! Maybe children can't understand it now, but they will always grow up, they will always know life, and they will always have their own thinking! The grievances of the husband and wife, the husband and wife solve it themselves, if they must be imposed on the child, whether they are separated or not, the child is a sorrow, because misfortune is an infectious disease, infecting the people around them who care about themselves!

Let's break down the situation in detail:

First, since you already have children, it means that your relationship foundation was still very good. If you can resolve the conflict reasonably, and the parents love their children, then I suggest that you relax your divorce thoughts before thinking about it. Giving a child a healthy and harmonious family is very beneficial to his growth.

Second, if you are meeting an irresponsible husband, then it is advisable to take the children to divorce decisively. Although it is not easy to raise children, it is a waste of time and life to continue to hesitate.

Third, if neither of the above two is the case. So I suggest that before the divorce, think clearly, whether the children can be properly settled, and the life after the divorce will definitely be better than before the divorce? If you can't be sure, I think it's better to cherish the present moment and live the present life seriously!

Will think about it for the sake of the child. In modern married life, if two people have no feelings, they will face the choice of whether to divorce, in the face of this problem, it is difficult for many people to make a choice, because they already have children in marriage, plus children, divorce has become a problem for several people.

1. Don't get a divorce within 2 years.

If you have been married for about two years, don't divorce for the time being, and the first two years of marriage are the run-in period for everyone. It is inevitable that parents who have just grown up to be responsible for their responsibilities will not be adaptable, it is normal to quarrel, and it is better to think twice about having children, and try to cultivate feelings. But if you have been married for many years, the two people have not been able to run in, the war at home continues, and no one will change for anyone, then you should consider divorce.

Second, the child's receptivity.

You can say that you want to keep the marriage alive for the sake of the children, but does it also hurt the children? Are your children happy because you are not divorced? Are you happy?

In the case that the child already has the ability to understand, you can ask for his opinion, whether it is divorced or not, it is very important to communicate with the child. If you have to divorce, the child is between the ages of 3 and 18, and let the child know before the divorce that the reason for the parent's divorce is not because they don't love him.

3. The degree of emotional breakdown.

If the husband and wife are just quarrelling, stumbling, and having incompatible personalities over some trivial matters, the marriage still has to continue, and since you choose this marriage, you must know how to be responsible. When you choose to start with this person, you must understand that you are going to grow old with this person. You have to be accountable to them, to be responsible for this marriage.

Fourth, for the sake of the children, two people should choose to maintain their marriage. Children in single-parent families may lack fatherly or maternal love. Although such a child is more independent and serious, but as a mother, he will never bear the lack of love for his child, the love that the father and the mother give to the child is different, if the love of the mother to the child is gentle and kind, then the father's love is tenacity and responsibility.

The child is in adolescence, is in a critical period of the formation of values and worldviews, and is also a bit rebellious, if he cannot accept the fact that his parents are going to divorce, then he may do something extreme.

In married life, if it is not to the point where you have to divorce, it is better not to choose which step, if it is just for some trivial things to stumble and there is some discord in the personality, then such a problem can be solved by changing. If two people are divorced, there will be some impact on the children to a greater or lesser extent.

Therefore, for the healthy growth of children and the harmony and happiness of the family, try to choose two people to solve problems, so that your life will be better. If we really come to the step of divorce, then no matter who it is for, we should handle it properly.

Everyone will have a different answer to this question. But in general, there are two answers. One is choosing not to divorce for the sake of the children.

And always keep a smile in front of your child. I want my child to always feel that he is living in a happy family. The other is for children.

Divorce is the choice. Or choose to divorce for your own sake. If you choose to divorce for the sake of your children, it may be that such a marriage is no longer possible.

Even if you insist on it, it can be a heavy injury to the child. Choose to divorce for your own sake. Why?

People have their own things to pursue in this life, and they can never pursue them in marriage. This will make your life feel very defeated. So I will also choose to divorce.

If the child is very fond of his mom and dad. I have always felt that my parents are also very harmonious. Every day when I come home, I see the smiles of my parents.

Every day after returning home, the family is living happily, so that the child feels particularly secure. So in such a situation, if there is a more serious conflict between mom and dad. Or irreconcilable contradictions.

And such a father and mother should also be a very mature Yuntong, father and mother. Therefore, they will not show such a contradiction and such an emotion in front of their children. In their minds, children may be very, very important.

One way or another. It doesn't matter what you do, as long as the child is happy as long as the child is safe. If it is such a family, parents are also thinking like this, and they are also such mature, so such a family, I think you can choose not to divorce for the sake of your children.

Because children are the future of the whole family. You are such a father and mother, the person who cherishes you the most on the tip of your heart. They will be willing to choose to sacrifice themselves for the sake of their children.

If it's the one I'll talk about later. Even if the family is not divorced, the children will not be able to gain security and happiness. Then such a family may divorce as soon as possible, which is still a good thing for the children.

Because the child is in such a family, he will always be the punching bag of the father and mother. It is impossible for a child to find happiness in such a father and mother. They also don't stop arguing because of their children.

It can even be more one-sided quarrels, which will hurt the child or affect the child because of the escalation of the emotional conflict between them. So what does such a family mean to children? Of course, such parents must be immature in such a family, because they will only think about themselves and only because of their own emotions.

And harming the child without taking care of the child. It is not a good thing for such a family to choose divorce.

So. Look at the problem from a different angle. The state of maturity is different. Whether to divorce or not depends on the quality of the whole family, the whole parents themselves, and the kind of family towards the children. Attitude.

Around me, the husband and wife often quarrel, and the two regrets of the two people have no feelings, but for the sake of the children, they don't want to let the children be hurt by the child, so they will choose not to divorce.

There are indeed couples around me who choose not to divorce for the sake of their children, they have a very painful life, often quarreling for 5 days and 10 days, and their chain hole behavior is also very huge damage to the children.

I have couples around me who choose not to divorce for the sake of their children, and they choose not to divorce because they are afraid that their children will be affected in the future.