What should I do if my child is retaliated against and excluded by my friends after complaining?

You have to find a way to make your child stronger.

1. Check the injury of the child who was beaten (bullied).

When a child is beaten, the first thing to do is to check the child's injuries, especially some of the child's squeaky and whining areas. In addition to examining the child for obvious external injuries, it is also important to check for internal injuries. For parents who feel more serious, they must take their children to the hospital for examination and make corresponding preparations for rights protection.

At the same time, pay attention to whether the child has left psychological damage or shadow in the process of being bullied, and if so, be sure to let the child come out in time.

2. Find out why the child was beaten?

There is always a reason for everything, and the result of analyzing the cause is nothing more than two kinds: the main thing is that the child himself has shortcomings; Mainly the other party's reasons. If it is the former, the shortcomings must be corrected first, and on the other hand, it should be noted that after all, it is the child who was beaten, and the beater must be at fault first.

If the latter is the case, the right to pursue liability is reserved and handled according to the actual situation.

3. How to protect your child from being bullied again?

To find out what kind of rights protection method is to take as a reference, there are several ways to find out: if you know the other party, in addition to communicating directly with the other party, you should also communicate with the teacher and the other party's parents, and show the attitude of the parents, and it is best to be able to reconcile; If you don't know each other, you can ask teachers and school leaders to report and clearly ask the school to follow up and pay attention to the relevant results; If it is beyond the scope of the school's management, according to the specific situation, such as the severity of the matter, see whether it is necessary to call the police to let the relevant departments intervene, and if it touches the law, you must learn to use legal tools.

4. Teach children the appropriate self-protection skills.

Usually, the child being bullied reflects the child's lack of self-protection awareness and ability, so it is necessary to learn some necessary self-protection methods. For example, on the way to school, you can try to walk in a group or take a place with a lot of people on the avenue, so as to avoid giving those bad people an opportunity to take advantage of because of being alone; Try to be familiar with the road to and from school and the surrounding conditions; Learn some coping speaking skills; Learn to ask for help from the people around ......Finally, it is more important to learn to tell your children to tell their parents as soon as possible after being bullied, and not to be intimidated by the threats of the abuser.

5. Miscellaneous. Some parents have a lot of concerns about this problem, such as worrying that the perpetrator will become more serious after reporting to the school, and they are worried that their children will continue to be bullied if they do not respond. It is true that there are abusers who will not only not restrain but intensify after knowing that they have been denounced by their parents, and there will indeed be people who pick soft persimmons and pinch them, and if they hit once and see that there are no serious consequences, there will be a second time.

So what to do? All I can say is that there really isn't such a perfect way in this world, because children may meet different people, and there is no one way that works for all situations. It is important to take steps rather than ignore them, and choose what parents think is most effective, but must not allow children to continue to be bullied!