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Occupy both angles right, but both are selfish.

From your wife's point of view,1 you still have foreign debts, and you are uneasy about asking for such a large sum of money to buy a house for your parents even though you have not paid your debts.

2You have children and children who are still young, and you have foreign debts, what will you do with such a large amount of money all of a sudden?

3 The money you take to buy a house for your parents is considered the joint property of the husband and wife, and there is half of him in law, if you buy a house for your parents and write the names of your parents, according to the current interpretation of the marriage law, if one day your parents die and leave a will, stating that the house is given to you, it will become your personal property, which is equivalent to her giving you 25w of her property for nothing, if you are divorcing for this thing in the future, dividing the property, first of all, she will lose 25w in vain, and your father-in-law and mother-in-law are thinking about the problem from the perspective of their daughter, Don't blame them, their arms are always bent inward.

However, I don't agree with your wife's sentence that it is not the obligation of children to buy a house for their parents, is it an obligation for parents to buy a house for their children?!

I'll give you a suggestion, if your parents don't plan to go back to their hometown to live, sell one set of houses in your hometown, and rent out the other one, rent to the second old man as a living allowance, in fact, you buy a house for your parents and don't buy a big house, about 60 square meters is about the same, two old people are tired to clean up, the main house is close to you, in fact, you can't buy a new house, second-hand housing is actually not bad, if you buy about 60 square meters, it is estimated that you can't give 50w so much, the insufficient part of you out, For example, the house is bought for 100w, the old man is out of 50w, you are out of 50w, the old man accounts for 50% of the property, you write your and your wife's names, you both account for 25%, or simply write the 50% of your children's names,

It's hard for a clean official to cut off family affairs. . . Husbands and wives quarrel not only because of sex, but also because of money... If your parents are in good health now, you don't have to rush to take it up, and when your health is not good, you can take it over and write your name right, or buy a house and write your names on it, and your parents will come to live in the future, because the 400,000 yuan you want to give is the joint property of your husband and wife, so it is understandable to write the names of all four of you.

Filial piety must be timely, and your decision is the right one. If your spouse disagrees, can you pay in installments without the family's money? Don't be an unreasonable person!

Everyone has parents, why is it bad to have a good living environment for their parents' old age? It is also convenient to take care of the elderly, and there is no need to divorce.

Don't buy it, just rent it to your parents for a long time.

If you have money, you will buy it, and if you don't have money, you won't buy it, and there is no need to get a divorce.

Just tell them directly, no matter what, only parents are the most concerned, so don't worry about anything, just tell them directly.

I'm leaving, too, and she wants me to go and tell her parents, I don't know how to get it here.

Property registered in the father's name is not part of the joint property of the husband and wife, and the husband and wife have no right to divide it in the event of divorce. In the event of a divorce, the joint property of the husband and wife shall be disposed of by mutual agreement; If the agreement is not reached, the people's court shall make a judgment based on the specific circumstances of the property and the principle of taking care of the rights and interests of the children and the woman.

After all, parents and us have crossed at least two generations, and their ideas may not be fashionable and the practice may not be the most correct, but no one can erase the parents' hearts for their children. I'm the same age as you, I'm a boy, and I had a rebellious psychology when I was young, but as I went to college, I slowly understood a lot of truths and understood them. My love life is not very smooth, I and my object are more than 1000 kilometers apart, his parents have not agreed, my object has no opinion is a filial daughter, put a lot of pressure on me, according to the requirements of my girlfriend's parents, our family has prepared the money to buy a house and get married, I got married on October 1 this year, but on August 25, her parents gave me ** regretted this family business, and the only condition for agreeing was to ask them to buy a house and work, I felt too much, I didn't agree, My girlfriend has no ideas and no opinions, and she is a good girl, so I would be very happy if I could be as emotional and decisive as you.

Landlord, are you much relieved when you see what happened to me! If you have something to discuss with your parents, if not, find a relative who understands you to accompany you to talk to your parents. Guard against arrogance and rashness at work and seek stability, after all, it is a man who will support the family in the future.

In your love life, if you and your boyfriend are truly in love, I don't think you should give up. I couldn't help but cry after writing this, how I wish my girlfriend could unswervingly insist on being with me. The landlord doesn't have to worry, you are a person with opinions and ideas, remember to discuss with your parents, arguing is not a solution, it can only become more and more intensified.

It's good to calm down for a while. Communicate sincerely first, after all, your parents will only care about you if they care about you.

Otherwise, you will look for them.

The genus will not pay attention to you. It is necessary to talk face-to-face like an adult, and if you are not financially independent, it is difficult to have equality in status. Even after getting married, they will still be ignored.

It is necessary to have the courage to take on everything alone, dependence will put pressure on people, and the reaction force is your current state. Think about what exactly you want? Give up!

You can't have it both ways. is not young, and your boyfriend will not be so entangled if you are worthy of trust, think about it carefully, don't be impulsive. Getting married and having children will also lead to divorce, so don't worry.

It's not best I don't. That's the most important person in life, and choosing the wrong one will waste too much energy and time. Find a safe place and think quietly alone, and it may only take two or three days to understand.

There are many people in this world who care about you, just like we just met by chance, and more people just don't have a chance, but there are still many bad people, be careful. The so-called bad people are just selfish people who hurt others for themselves. Good people can also become bad people.

Of course, bad guys also become good guys.

Alas. I don't know what this bai boyfriend is doing in du now? Your parents are not worried about the distance between you and your boyfriend, but they are worried that they will be wronged and have nothing to complain about after marrying a former member, and their parents will not be able to help.

There is nothing to help you at work, only to work hard and study hard.

The relationship between the two of you is your boyfriend's chance to show it. During the holidays, take your parents on a trip or find a way to behave, so that your parents feel at ease that they will hand over their daughter to him.

Or you take your parents to your boyfriend's city in the name of tourism and let him behave well.

Tell your parents when you go out.

copy,The girl goes out to pay attention to the safety of the person,What is not to escape can solve du,I want to do it first.。

Zhi knows why your parents blame you, things will develop to a certain extent, there will be an outburst of soothing emotions, then you might as well be honest with your parents, listen to their opinions, you are already old, have your own opinions, don't let them think that you are still a child.

It's not too much, I had a fight with my parents that year, and I walked for two years, and when I came back, I saw that my mother had lost a lot of weight, and I realized that there was a communication problem.

It's too much, and your parents will be very worried that you might think you're making it.

If you lose it, you will be strictly for your good, why don't you want to sit down and have a good talk, they are your parents will think about things for your good, but if you want they will accept it, so it is good for the family, the most good for yourself, family unity is the most important.

You are essentially running away from home, they don't agree to be in love or don't continue, even though you are in love, parents will look at people, all for the good of their children, they will worry about you like this....You're going to lose out like that....How old are you???

Female donor, are you going to find a boyfriend to fit in? When you go out, you have to leave a letter to your parents.

Parents will not harm you, be more considerate of their good intentions, communicate more, quarrel less, even if you go out, you can't solve the fundamental problem. Your parents will always be the people who love you the most in the world.

You're an adult, you can make your own decisions, and of course your parents love you very much and don't want to let go, so understand their intentions.

Make the decisions you want to make.

Alas, tell your boyfriend to work harder, now is the time to test him, don't get dizzy in love,

Family matters, your difficulties are the same as mine, let it be.

Sometimes you have to listen to your parents too.

Both of you have just joined the workforce, and you have taken out a loan to buy a house, and you have to get married, the pressure is already great enough, if you bring the man's parents again, and take care of their daily life, even if you have children a few years later, it is difficult enough. In terms of emotions: Feelings are selfish, who wants others to share their boyfriend's love, even parents.

Now is not only the time to test the relationship between the two of you, but also the time to test your ability to handle family relationships and family affairs. If handled properly, your hearts will be closer, and your family will be more harmonious and happy, which will also play a good role in promoting your work and career.

I'm going to talk to you about my thoughts on this matter, and I hope it will be helpful to you.

1. Communication: Tell your boyfriend openly and honestly about your thoughts and ask for his understanding; Talk to your boyfriend's parents and sister, listen to their opinions, they are all reasonable, and then everyone works together to find a solution to the problem.

2 Understanding: You should understand your boyfriend's current thoughts from your boyfriend's point of view, whether his thoughts are practical or not, but his filial piety to his parents is enough to move the heavens and the earth, because he knows that now is the time when his parents need to take care of him, and if he is not filial now, he will not be able to make up for it; He also knew that if he brought his parents to his side, it would mean a huge price for him. Even so, he was willing and did not hesitate.

This is exactly what you love, and it shows that you are not mistaken. Think about it, is a person who is unwilling to pay for his parents still worthy of your love?

3. Help: Now is the time to need your full help, and your efforts will be unforgettable. This is the foundation for the sublimation of your feelings, and it is also a valuable spiritual wealth in your life.

I think that if you don't have the ability, it will backfire, not only will you not take good care of your parents, but it will hurt their feelings. Is there a better way, such as hiring a nanny, or letting your boyfriend's sister take care of the food and daily life first, or considering sending your parents to a welfare home ...... first?

You have to cherish your relationship with your boyfriend, learn to understand and be tolerant, and there will always be a way. Bless you all!

Well, Shanghai girls are more delicate and have higher requirements for the quality of life.

However, men's requirements for quality of life are much lower than those of women, because they are inherently rude.

He said that you are selfish, but in fact, the key lies in the difference between male and female personalities, and your value judgment of things is different.

For example, you wrote everything you wanted, and you wrote it out in detail.

But for him, not to mention that he is very filial, just say that many men may think that the world of two people, the mood and everything is empty, because men are originally rougher than women, so you don't let his parents come for this kind of quality of life that he can't figure out (and he lives in his dormitory, he just went to take care of it, not to live with you), he thinks you are selfish, because what you said he doesn't understand, and he doesn't think it's important, and you don't let his mother come, This seemed to him to be a fatal matter.

Because his parents are indeed in poor health and need to be taken care of, outsiders will definitely think that Shanghai is an international city, and the medical standard is better than that of his hometown, you say that I will be filial to my in-laws, but now I don't want you to serve how to serve, you can't allow the old man to come, of course he will feel that he can't do it now, and what to talk about in the future, your mouth was as sweet as honey before is a lie!

In addition, you also said that your sister-in-law's children go to kindergarten, and when you have a baby, you will know, it is very hard to take care of children, they still have to go to work, you may really worry about taking care of the elderly, and your husband thinks that he has no children for the time being, and he is a son, and now he should do his filial piety if he has the conditions. For him, how many years have you known him? And his sister is related to him by blood, and they have lived together for so many years, so it is right to help each other, and they will not calculate so much "Mom helped you take care of the child for 4 years" and the like.

Let's just say filial piety to parents, but also to do what you can, if you have the ability, bear a little more, if you have difficulties, bear a little less, live a life, between relatives, as long as there is no malice towards each other, it is impossible to draw so clearly with the AA system.

You are going to get married, even if you are very sad and break up with him, you will have to find another man to marry in the future, after marriage, there are a lot of complicated interpersonal relationships, if you want to deal with this relationship, you must consider the position of others before thinking about yourself, whether he is malicious and really wants to be unfavorable to you, whether she really needs your help in difficulty, for you this requirement will really damage your interests is unbearable? In short, the world is not black and white, we must be more tolerant, and marriage especially needs to be win-win.