Running away will only make you have no way out, let s face it

In her book 0 and 10,000, Geeta Jacob mentions three common ways to cope with negativity: compliance, avoidance, and overcompensation.

Although these three ways of coping are commonly used by us in adulthood, their causes can often be traced back to childhood, and they help us protect ourselves from threats or rejection when we are young, so they are also the most common coping styles we use in adulthood.

Avoidance is not necessarily a bad thing in itself, but if our avoidance behavior hinders our growth, then we should try to avoid it. For example, because they are too tired at work, or a mistake at work, their confidence is hit, and they dare not face employment anymore, so they choose to give up their jobs and can only rely on their parents to support the "gnawing old people".

Just occasionally willful, not going to work for a month or two, before the economic problems, regrouping and fighting in the workplace is not counted, this kind of avoidance is a moderate protection of oneself, but no longer refuse to go to work "gnaw the old people", it is a cavity problem.

Not only do they hinder the achievement of their personal goals, but they also affect their hard-working parents, and although they achieve temporary security through escapism, it is not a long-term solution, because although people can escape reality, they cannot escape life.

If you want to reduce your avoidance behavior, you need to first acknowledge the fact that you have an "avoidance problem" and then make changes gradually.

0 Times and 10,000 Times gives us the following steps: first, try to change yourself in your imagination; Secondly, start from a simple situation that you feel you are relatively sure of, practice it in reality, and stick to it, even if you encounter difficulties, you will not give up easily; Finally, you can wait and meet the self who has successfully broken the "avoidance" behavior!

In fact, to be honest, escaping is not necessarily the most difficult to hide, and facing it is not necessarily the most uncomfortable. Why choose to escape? Escape is a cowardly behavior, a manifestation of weakness, a psychological factor of fear, a helpless failure, escape is a shadow of the soul, there is a bad heart to escape, the more fearful the heart, the more afraid the heart, the reality is always cruel, there is no need to be afraid of things, and escape is not a way, to make yourself strong, to dare to face the problem bravely, only dare to face, everything will pass, just start over, In fact, people who are afraid of danger are 10,000 times more terrible than the danger itself, turning around is not necessarily the weakest, hesitation is not necessarily no choice, just don't want to be wrong, bravely go your own way.

In fact, some things are always sad, get through it, if you are hurt and wipe away the tears you accidentally dripped down, pretend that everything doesn't matter, and then drive it all out of your wounded heart, and if you don't want to bear it, forget about it, as a sad death. Make yourself strong, get out of the shadows, get out of trouble, face bravely, whoever can forgive others, who can save others, who can save yourself, you know, in fact, a second can be all, a tear can also be a lifetime.

There is no right or wrong in love.

If you think it's wrong to love someone, isn't it hard for you to love someone you love? Do you think about this while loving him and her? Even if others think that it is a mistake for you to love him and her, then you must first think about why you loved him and her in the first place, since you love, so don't give up easily, because you really love him and her, love itself is selfish, and the harm is inevitable, if you can't stand these injuries, don't say love.

If you have an awkward relationship with him or her for various reasons, don't say it out of the heat of the moment"Break up"If that's the case, it's a mistake for you to love her because you hurt him and her. There is no right or wrong in love, as long as you love seriously, love with your heart will definitely be good.

It is recommended that you first try to talk to her (him) about your troubles with the person you are most close to, and try to tell her (him) what you are not willing to say to others, so that you will not have too much burden in your heart. Then when facing others, you don't have to force yourself to talk a lot to others, you can try to say hello first, and then listen to what others are saying, if there is something you are interested in, you try to join them, and also express your own opinions, even if it is only one sentence, and try to make yourself fit in with others.

Secondly, you can find a psychiatrist to enlighten your worries and problems. Sometimes when we are facing a difficult situation, it is also important to seek counseling from a psychologist. Listen to soothing TV shows, watch some interpersonal TV shows, and so on.

I hope the above words can help you, and I wish you to get out of the predicament as soon as possible and face your own life!

1. What is facing reality:

1. It is to honestly face the strengths and weaknesses of one's own character, correct one's identity and status, remind oneself of the places that need to be paid attention to, and speak and do things;

2. It is to face the occasion and environment you are in at the time, objectively observe, analyze and judge, and weigh the pros and cons;

3. It is to face the mood, character, status, and identity of others truthfully, no matter what attitude or calculation the other party has, or strong words or ignorance or bad words, you can face it calmly and keep a calm mind.

2. How to face reality;

1. Don't have illusions about the reality you live in, don't expect fairness; Society is the law of the jungle.

2. Don't have too high requirements for your achievements; What's right for you is the best.

3. Don't hold grudges against other people's mistakes and hurts; In fact, it is myself and myself who can't get along.

4. Don't expect the conscience of others. People are selfish and self-interested.

People live to experience joys and sorrows, birth, old age, sickness and death, in order to understand what people live for? In order to realize their own ideals, pursuits, goals, desires and values. Life is very tiring and hard Because society is very unfair, life is very helpless Sad and sad to cry, find something to do, it is not boring Because life is like this No one's life is smooth sailing As long as you work hard, it will be wonderful!

Be optimistic about anything and keep a normal heart. Just remember: don't give up this second, there will be a miracle in the next second Life is inevitable to fall and wait Be brave to look up The sunshine is always after the wind and rain!

I'll give you advice, can you see it? 1.Look at the world with another eye, not everyone in this world is very smooth, just look at how you solve it, for example, you were hit by someone when you were walking, others apologized to you, sometimes you still feel very angry, but you didn't expect that the person who hit you was actually more uncomfortable than you, or think about the sentence "Happy is also a day, unhappy is also a day, why not be happy every day".

2.If you think that you are in a bad mood, you will be in a bad mood, then you don't need to think about it, if you still want to, then keep yourself busy, let yourself have no time to think about it, let yourself live every minute to the fullest, and then don't fall in love with the bed after waking up in the morning, get up when you wake up, get busy, open the window, breathe in the fresh morning air, relax your whole body, and let yourself imagine a happy little angel ...... 3.Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, undisturbed and free movement, and take a position that you feel comfortable in, standing, sitting or lying down.

4.Move some large joints and muscles of the body, the speed should be even and slow when doing it, and the action does not need to have a certain format, as long as you feel the joints let go and the muscles relax. 5.

Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and exhale slowly, saying "relax" in your mind whenever you exhale. 6.Focus your attention on some everyday objects.

For example, look at a flower, a little candlelight, or anything soft and beautiful, and look closely at its subtleties. Light some spices and inhale the aroma of it. 7.

Close your eyes and try to imagine some tranquil and beautiful scenes, such as blue waters, golden sandy beaches, white clouds, mountains and water. 8.Do activities that you enjoy that have nothing to do with the specific things at hand.

For example, swimming, taking a hot bath, shopping, listening, watching TV, etc. 9.Life is easy, life is easy, life is not easy.

Don't worry, there are a lot of people in this society who are almost like you, but they are all living happily, not everyone can succeed, as long as you work hard to treat everything, take life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, no matter how your life is, I believe it is wonderful. Go for it! Finally, I wish you a happy life!

We are gentlemen, and it is not our style to escape.

cp] received a submission saying that I didn't get into the graduate school entrance examination, I didn't get into the civil service, I wasted four years in college, I didn't cultivate any skills, I didn't learn anything, I didn't understand anything, and I didn't know what I was going to do, what should I do?

In the senior year, there are not a few people who feel that they have wasted four years and will not understand anything, I should say that the vast majority.

The vast majority of these people have a fear of society and a natural panic about job hunting, so in order to deal with this panic and escape, they choose to go to graduate school.

Choosing to go to graduate school because of avoiding employment is not a bad thing, and this motivation will not determine the success or failure of the graduate school entrance examination (after all, the graduate school entrance examination is determined by talent and learning ability), which is an extenuating motivation and very reasonable.

But if you can't escape a thing, and you still want to escape when you have to face it, it's unreasonable.

Most people's avoidance mentality will continue to be maintained.

Even if he failed in the graduate school entrance examination, and even failed in World War II and World War III, he still always maintained it, and he insisted on escaping, but he refused to face the reality.

But that's the reality :

1. Live in a rental house, 2. Eat a boxed lunch, 3. Enter a small company, and be busy every day, as long as you accept such a setting now.

You'll find that even the worst reality doesn't seem so bad.

Because I myself came from this reality, and the vast majority of undergraduates, including master's students, also came from this reality.

Because you must know that large enterprises account for less than 1% of the number of enterprises in the country, and 99% of them are small and medium-sized enterprises.

Since there is no escape, then face it calmly and respond positively.

The sooner this mindset is reversed, the less time you'll waste and the more you'll get results.

After talking about mentality building, let's talk about the practice, but this is actually a cliché:

Even in order for you to directly accumulate your resume and operational skills, we also have an operation officer system.

These are available at station b and Gongzong, so I won't specifically talk about Tan Xiangxun, so as not to be said to be an advertising dog. [/cp]