Whether Jia Zheng s method of educating his son is appropriate 5

No Jia Zhengqi, what we can see is nothing more than his harshness and indifference to Jia Baoyu and Jia Huan, and he doesn't seem to have any love for his son. In "Dream of Red Mansions", most people always see Jia Zheng's dislike and disgust for Baoyu, but few people see that Jia Zheng is at least angry with Baoyu, for Jia Huan, there is no father's love at all, his father Jia Zheng doesn't like him at all, and even saves his anger with him, which can be said to be ignored to the extreme. "Although Baoyu's various behaviors are a headache for Jia Zheng, in Jia Zheng's heart, what is the image of the two sons, one is 'elegant and beautiful'.

One is 'the characters are trivial and the manners are absurd'. Baoyu's handsome appearance can at least make his father a little less angry, but Jia Huan's expression, words and deeds really make Jia Zheng even more blocked. ”

In the first episode, Jia Huan and Jia Zheng, father and son, finally had a face-to-face dialogue, and this dialogue has always become the most evidence given by critics when criticizing Jia Huan, and it is also used as evidence that Jia Huan's methods are vicious and despicable. And why can this turmoil set off a monstrous wave, so that Jia Zheng ordered "Someone will persuade me today, I will hand over this crown and furniture to him and Baoyu in the past", and Jia's mother wants to "pack up and go back to Jinling's hometown"? This kind of thing is because the object is Baoyu, except for Baoyu, it is impossible to make Jia Zheng so angry.

For example, if you change Jia Huan, you can't teach a lesson or two beatings, and you won't make the whole family restless, why? Because "that treasure jade is like a living dragon". Even if Jia Zheng didn't love this son in his heart, he always hoped that he could take over this hereditary title and carry forward the Jia family, and never set his eyes on Jia Huan.

What makes us ponder is the phrase, "....When Jia Huan saw his father, his bones were soft and crisp, and he hurriedly lowered his head and stood still. It can be seen that Jia Huan has a deep fear of Jia Zheng from the bones, if it is a normal father and son, their relationship will never be like this. Generally speaking, it is only in the face of a person who is extremely stressed about being scared like this.

Jia Zheng is Jia Huan's father, but facing his father is like facing a flood beast, it can be seen that in Jia Huan's heart, his father is undoubtedly in a high, majestic, and powerful position. And he is always worried, for fear of being caught by his father in the wrong place, once he makes a mistake and happens to be bumped into by his father, the panic in his heart, and the shock and fear will naturally manifest itself. Jia Zheng has never given Jia Huan any fatherly love, and usually reprimands and scolds his son, in his eyes, the children of the Jia family should be cautious in words and deeds, Jia Huan's indiscriminate running and collision is undoubtedly not in line with the definition of the children of the Jia family in his heart, in his words, it should be "unorthodox".

Jia Zheng is unsmiling in "Dream of Red Mansions", and he has no slight evaluation of his son, his seriousness casts a shadow on his young son's heart, except for fear or fear, under the shroud of this abnormal relationship, family affection is almost gone. It doesn't seem to be a relationship between two fathers and sons, but like a relationship between superiors and subordinates who are incompatible.

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Objective evaluation in connection with reality.

is very strict in educating children, the TV series Dream of Red Mansions is very good-looking, and I like Lin Daiyu very much in the drama Dream of Red Mansions.

Jia Zheng is the main figure of Jiafu, his children are Jia Yuanchun, Jia Baoyu and Jia Tanchun, Jia Lu rude Zheng educates his children to glorify their ancestors, and everything is based on family interests. Stuffy fiber.

He is very fair, treats all children and grandchildren equally, and he also understands his son's learning situation and his son's strengths, and communicates more with his son's teachers.

A few days ago, I looked through "Dream of Red Mansions" and saw that in the fifty-sixth episode, the housekeeper lady of Jiangnan Zhen Mansion came to ask Jia's mother to say goodbye, saying that there was also a brother similar to Baoyu in their house. Mother Jia asked Baoyu to come and show these housekeepers. After Baoyu came, the four housekeepers were ladies"As he spoke, he came up and took his hand and asked long and short questions"。

Baoyu's response was"Baoyu was busy and smiled and said hello"。

We all know that Baoyu hates these housekeepers very much. Usually these mothers-in-law who do rough work are not allowed to touch his things, let alone hold his hand. But this time, not only did he let these mothers-in-law hold his hand, but he also returned"Say hello with a smile"。

So these mothers-in-law went back to Jia's mother and said"Now it seems that the appearance is the same, according to the old lady, the naughty is the same, and it seems to us that this brother has a better temperament than ours. "Asked why, the mother-in-law returned"Just now we La'er's hands speak, we only say that we are confused, slow to talk about holding hands, we don't move a little bit of his things, and the people we call are girls"。

In fact, when we see this, we will laugh out loud with Li Kun and others in the book. Jia Baoyu and that Zhen Baoyu actually have the same temperament. So now let's take a look at Jia's mother's concept of education.

Jia Mu also smiled:"We have also sent someone to see your Baoyu at this time, and if he takes his hand, he will naturally be reluctant to endure it for a while, but I know that children like you and me, with their tricky and strange problems, when they see outsiders, they will have to pay back the proper courtesy. If he doesn't return the formal etiquette, and he is not allowed to be tricky, it is the adults who dote on, and he is the one who is satisfactory, and the second is that the number of etiquette is better than that of the adults, which makes people cute and pitiful, and he is indulged in a little bit behind his back.

If he just cares about the inside and outside, and does not compete with the adults, he should be killed according to what he lives. "

Seeing this, I was very shocked. Baoyu has always been the heart of Jia's mother. But Jia Mu actually said it"It should also be killed"。

Mother Jia's education for her children is for our society"Quality"。No matter how noisy the child is at home and how unmotivated he is in school, he must behave politely outside.

In other words, such a Xuanhe, a family that can cover the sky with his hand, no matter what kind of behavior the family has, the family will cover it up, and even if he kills someone, there will be a family to settle it for them. But Jia's mother insisted on restraining the child's behavior at this point. For the people of our society, this is very worthy of our learning.

Now there are a lot of them"Bear child", do a lot of amazing things, damage public facilities, endanger others, etc., and many parents just to"He's just a kid"to use it as an excuse to prevaricate.

Jia's mother's concept of education is now very worthy of our learning.