In the world of marriage, which couples can t last long?

Quarrel with right and wrong, fight as enemies, etc. The quarrel completely hurts the existence of feelings, and the psychological rupture is completely formed when they become enemies.

The first type is couples who have no feelings, and their lives end quickly. The second type is the couple who quarrel a lot, and the last one is the couple who are unfaithful to their marriage, and I don't think anyone can tolerate the other half who is unfaithful to their marriage. So it's inevitable that these couples will end up in divorce.

Two couples with incompatible personalities and temperaments can't go long, such couples will quarrel in married life many times, and then couples who don't care about each other and don't take care of each other, everyone has their own ideas, and they can't last long.

That is, one of the husband and wife does not like to work, and sits in other people's stores all day to play cards and gamble, if two people sit there to play cards with each other, then no one wants to do things at home, so there will be a lot of quarrels, and there will be a lot of problems in the quarrels that lead to divorce, and there are such people in the countryside.

There are three kinds of couples, which can't last long.

There is no love, only caring for yourself. A marriage without love can endure it for a while. Only cares about his own marriage, and the other half is just a burden.

A marriage must have an emotional foundation to go longer, after all, two people must get married because they love each other to enter the palace of marriage and spend the rest of their lives together.

Marriage is not suitable to be together, we must find someone who will appreciate themselves and tolerate themselves, because if a person does not appreciate himself at all, then no matter how much he does, he will not be recognized, and this kind of life will actually become more and more boring.

Although marriage is originally plain, but at least you have to experience the taste of love, if you have never experienced what it is like to be in love from acquaintance to marriage, then the relationship between the two people in this marriage is even if they get along for decades, I think it can only be respectful.

If the husband and wife have no feelings, then I think that the two people who are strangers are just their respective tenants, that's all, this home can not feel a trace of warmth, especially after giving birth to a child, itself is the need for parents to love and protect the baby, if there is no emotional bond between the husband and wife, it is difficult to protect the baby together.

The most important thing in marriage is to trust and accommodate each other, if there is no affection between two people, then no one will accommodate each other, so that there is not only no love and happiness in marriage, but also face a lot of quarrels, I think this kind of marriage is really meaningless.

Instead of struggling to maintain a loveless marriage, it is better to let yourself live a single life, so that you can live a more leisurely life, why not, don't get married for the sake of getting married, you must feel that this person can be entrusted for life, can go for a lifetime, must have this awareness to get married, this is responsible for yourself and others.

Nowadays, many men and women may often be busy with work and have no time to make friends, so after a certain age, they will face the urging of their parents to marry, and at this time they will choose a suitable person to marry, but marriage is not just a piece of paper, marriage is a common home.

It is difficult for a couple who have no emotional foundation in their marriage to last long, just like a castle in the air, a house without a foundation is not solid.

In marriage, couples who have no emotional foundation will not last long, and once there is a conflict, they will break up unhappily.

It shouldn't last long, because there must be a certain emotional foundation in marriage, and if you get married if you don't have feelings, eventually two people will divorce because they have no feelings.

Yes, the emotional foundation is particularly important in marriage, and it is difficult for two people to get along if they do not have an emotional foundation.

Can't understand each other, can't find each other's strengths, can't tolerate each other, can't communicate well with each other, can't empathize.

Some young people who are preparing to step into the marriage hall have a dispute over whether to buy a wedding dress or rent a wedding dress, and finally part ways. Those who pursue the convergence of the three views have never been to the extreme of asking the other party to think the same as themselves, but at least the views between us can coexist, rather than the peace that can only be obtained by obeying one side, which is called compromise.

Tolerance is smarter than choice; Respect each other's principles of marriage.

It's definitely not like this, I want to get married, that's because I have found someone who can live together, have the same three views, and have the same goals in lifeClause.

First, the three views are very important.

A person's three views are directly linked to his spiritual world, so if your spiritual world can't be the right one, then your three views may be difficult to agree, two people with different views live together, it is very tiring, and marriage will naturally be useless after a long time.

Clause. 2. Life goals.

In marriage, the husband and wife will be able to achieve long-term harmony if they have the same life goals, but if the husband and wife are inconsistent in spirit and ideas, then it will directly affect the goals and structure of the marriage.

Therefore, many people do not care about the family background and family background when they get married, thinking that as long as they have feelings, they can overcome the habits brought by these original families.

Clause. 3. Common language.

The most direct manifestation of the spiritual level is whether there is a common language, you are talking to him about the world political situation, but he replies to you trivial, like a chicken and a duck talking, you can never find a topic to chat with, slowly you will be alienated, and the spiritual world will feel very lonely.

Fourth, learn to be understanding others, which is often as difficult to do as demanding of yourself. We are always trying our best to find each other's faults, always feel that the other party can't get along with me, always feel that anyone is making enemies of me, there are many things that are unintentional, but there are those who are cautious and always have to sit in the right seat and find troubles.

will not understand others, often a sentence unintentionally said, the person who has the intention to provoke listen, he sat down, thinking that he was sarcastic and sarcastic, he couldn't get along with himself, and he became troubled. After a long time, once or twice, there may be a general outburst in the end, a fight, and even a person's **. All kinds of social news reports in the newspaper, such as a person who made a person for a few dollars, and a joke caused a tragedy.

Learn to forgive: Learn to forgive your friends and loved ones. The closer people are, because they care too much about each other, they are prone to misunderstandings.

can't explain, can't explain, outsiders can't see jokes, and they can't let go of their dreams. At this time, the only thing that helps is time, time will dilute a lot of things and will melt resentment. One day you will find out that if you are a friend, you will definitely come back.

And the sooner you forget the words you have said or heard in your anger, and forgive each other or yourself one day sooner, the biggest beneficiary is not the other party, but yourself, and you will be happy and sweep away your troubles.

1. Don't ask too much, plainness is the essence of marriage and life. Everyone has ideas, women have extremely strong requirements for material qualities after marriage, but it is not only a beautiful and prosperous life to be considered love, a long-term marriage comes from plainness. There is a classic passage in "Passing by Your World", "I hope to have a person like you, like the refreshing wind in the mountains, like the warm light of the ancient city, from early morning to late, from the mountains to the study."

As long as it's you at the end, that's fine. "Gold, silver and jewelry are love, but if they are as light as water, why not love? Everyone wants to have a better life, but don't go beyond the boundaries and put too much pressure on the other person, maybe you want to go to Paris with your loved one and make a lifelong promise under the blue sky and next to the Eiffel Tower.

However, lovers who hold an umbrella in a small park and do not let go even if it rains heavily are also romantic. Therefore, if you want to have a long-term marriage, you should cherish the purest love between two people, rather than material pursuits. 2. Let go of shrewdness and strength, and be an ordinary personNow there are many women who choose to be a strong man, they strive to move up, and they are invincible.

They can be described as calling for wind and rain in the company, but at home they may see each other one after another, and they don't see each other a few times a month. Men have their own backbone, they always want to be the pillar of the family, and the day of being a wife, women are too strong, which will cause a psychological gap and no self-confidence for men. Moreover, a man marries a wife for a virtuous parent, not a colleague who sees him once a few days.

The most important thing for a woman is not a career, but a happy family. In the Dream of Red Mansions, it is said that women are made of water, so it is better to be a tender wife like water, so that the marriage can last for a long time. 3. Giving each other a space is equivalent to love and insurance, the husband is the pillar of the wife, and the wife brings warmth to the husband.

The intrigue of society is tiring, the sycophants between colleagues are tiring, and when the busy day is over, when you come home, you just want a warm embrace. Home is a warm harbor, and people are a drifting ship. When the ship returns to the harbor, show care for it.

Give him a cup of hot tea, the best meal, a gentle smile, and a warm embrace. The husband is not a bird, he can't be kept in a cage, he has his companions, that's his little forest, give him a private space, even if he flies high and far, he will always remember that you are his land. Fourth, treat you as his point of view, and everyone around him is an independent individual, but a woman will inevitably become "stingy" with her husband after marriage, and she will be a little jealous when her husband is good to others.

The husband also has relatives, and he will miss his parents during the holidays and want to go back to see them. At this time, how can a person who is the most generous wife and is not filial to his parents love his wife? To be an empathetic wife and to be generous to her husband's relatives and friends, this is not only a manifestation of her own good upbringing, but also a necessity for a long-term marriage.

Marriage requires patience, or rather, each of us cannot be wanton in this world, and we need to be patient.

But marriage is by no means long-lasting by mere patience, let alone happiness.

Balzac once said that husband and wife should know each other and understand each other, and then tolerate and love each other in order to maintain a happy marriage.

Falling in love is a process of constantly discovering each other's strengths, while marriage is a process of constantly discovering each other's shortcomings.

When two people live together, it is definitely impossible for everything to match, and they will always find that there are some habits and behaviors in each other that they are not used to.

But marriage is not a child's play, and you can't divorce because of whether to put ginger in stir-frying, whether to put ** in stinky socks, watch a ball game or watch a TV series, right?

Since we know that no one is perfect, a little more tolerance and patience for issues that do not involve principles is also a compulsory course for marriage.

Of course, this also requires the participation of both parties, if it is a one-man show, patience becomes meaningless, there is no marriage, only one person can be present to play the whole scene.

For a long-lasting marriage, both parties know how to take a step back, and they know how to tolerate each other and endure each other.

Unilateral forbearance may make a marriage last, but never envy can make a marriage happy.

A marriage is piled up by the trivialities of life.

For those daily unsatisfactory trivial matters, you can endure it for one day and two days, but what about one or two years?

What really destroys the marriage is never the few unwashed dishes, the few quarrels that are not worth mentioning, but the despair of trivial matters that have accumulated for a long time.

The change of an intimate relationship is an adjustment in the direction of the good of both parties, and unilateral compromise and concession will only make the intimate relationship more and more unequal.

At the very least, husband and wife should be honest, tolerant and understanding, respectful, and love and respect each other in order to maintain a long time.

Recently prepared friend, had to divorce her 21-year-old husband. Some people mentioned that they were "husbands". In fact, we will not be happy to tolerate our other friends, but you can't resist your people.

Just like this little color and her husband, I didn't delay the marriage, and the little one was only three years old, so because of her children, Xiaoling quit her original good job. After starting a full-time child, Little Color found that there were more and more conflicts between her and her husband. I can't say a few words for these two days.

Either it will quarrel once. The original little color, which interests the husband the most, will contain all kinds of small seasons, and now I have become a problem for my husband to accept her, to say that she is very common, and even to say that she is unreasonable. In addition to the small color cases, there are many "old husbands and wives" of families, and even in the TV series, there are many cases in the TV series, which can be the owners of the story, and the feelings between them are very good.

Most of them are similar, that is, couples between them often struggle to last.

Older wives" said that the biggest problem between the two may be the "age difference". This is because people who are not in the age group, which leads to the "ditch" between them is difficult to avoid. It is precisely because of the existence of the ditch that the two people are more and more contradictory behind them.

Little Color said that she and her husband were because of the "ditch" problem. She wanted to tell her husband. After her husband listens, she will discuss her from another perspective, leading to the end of each conversation.

Scattered, there are more problems between two people. The marriage of the "old husband and wife" is a long time, and there is a factor that the two "differences in appearance" may just be married, the woman is 20 years old, the man is 40 years old, the two people stand up to each other the same, it is not too big, but over time, the difference between the two people will become more and more.

The psychological difference between men and women will be greater and greater, and that man may think that his wife is too young, and this age is getting older, and he is not optimistic about himself, and even wants to make some special moves. That woman will think, but her husband is not only at an age, but can also love more and more to doubt it, I don't believe in my marriage, what's going on? Due to the difference in appearance, there are more and more problems between husbands and wives, for a long time.

When the contradiction accumulates to a certain extent, it may not go on for a few days.

After all, the "old husband and wife" is a few years, and it is precisely because of this age that it is also large. When you talk about love, you may not feel it, but after your family, these two people get along the eve, especially if there are children, and when it comes to educating children, there are more and more problems. It's like those similar couples who have a conflict between the children and their plants.

After all, the context of growth is different, as well as different cultural differences. When considering the problem, the starting point and the location are different. In this way, it is not surprising that after marriage there are more and more contradictions.