There s nothing wrong with trying to preserve your marriage, but why doesn t it work?

Because not everyone has the ability.

In a sense, preserving marriage with heart is something that everyone needs to do. But in real life, not everyone has a good enough material foundation and even has no time to take care of the interpersonal relationships around them, and the same is true for marriage relationships. At the same time, not everyone has a high enough level of education, and many people know that their marriage is in trouble, but they don't know how to maintain it.

First, first of all, it is a practical problem.

The reality is very cruel, for most people, many people not only need to maintain their marriage, but also need to worry about daily living expenses. Not all of us have good living conditions, and for most of us ordinary people, we need to run for work or career every day, and it is difficult to have enough energy to maintain the marriage relationship. Because of this, many people's marriages are on the verge of breaking down.

Second, there is the issue of education.

Although many people can realize that there is a problem in their marriage, due to their limited knowledge level and lack of communication, many people can only choose to be forced to endure. It's not that these people don't want to solve problems, it's not that they don't want to preserve the marriage, it's that they don't have the ability. In other words, it also shows the importance of education, which enables us to acquire the ability and methods to solve problems.

Third, the last is the problem of cognition.

In real life, only 5% of people may take the initiative to think about knowledge and cognition, and the remaining 95% of people just live to live like money, and they have no concept and awareness of maintaining marriage at all. Because of this, whenever they encounter marital problems, they are always in a hurry, and sometimes they will make drastic actions. The main reason for this is that these people do not have the cognitive habit of thinking, so that these people are not able to deal with various problems in life.

To sum up, the above 3 points are my understanding of this lead command problem, I hope it will be helpful to you.

Because some people are born with a strong clan that doesn't like to take responsibility and don't like to be tied down, once they have a family that tells them how to do it, and they don't close up and don't achieve anything, they will choose to escape.

Some people are reluctant to maintain this relationship after getting married, because they simply don't have the heart to resist travel. They don't know how to manage filial piety at all, so they don't want to protect this marriage with all their hearts. Because they may also be irresponsible.

A person who has no responsibilities, especially when it comes to feelings. People who are not responsible. I won't use my heart to maintain this marriage.

Some people are unwilling to maintain this marriage after they get married, which means that they don't care too much about this marriage, and they are not very satisfied with the stall hall, he thinks that there are still many palace maids waiting for him, so he doesn't split his socks to run and maintain it.

Some people are unwilling to maintain a marriage after marriage, maybe when he gets married, he is not ready to get married, and he does not love the person who is married with his heart, so he doesn't know how to maintain this marriage in marriage, and it takes two people to run in in marriage.

These people are disrespectful to marriage, and they are indifferent to others, if they don't care to maintain and manage it, this marriage will be ruined sooner or later, and even empty words.

After getting married, people who are unwilling to maintain their marriage with their hearts are likely to be more attentive, as if after getting married, others are better than their self-profaning wives or wives, and I think this kind of person does not want to maintain the marriage with his heart.

Some people just don't know how to cherish it, and they feel that they don't want to be bound by marriage after getting married, so they let their feelings not manage.

Because after getting married, two or two people will encounter different problems, and there will be conflicts on different opinions, which will lead to some coldness in the marriage in this regard.

After getting married, people who are unwilling to use their hearts to protect this marriage are all responsible people who do not accompany Shendou, and they have no sense of responsibility, which is not only irresponsible for the family, but also irresponsible for their children. Such a person is selfish and thinks only about himself.

After the rich get married and return cautiously, they are unwilling to maintain this marriage with their hearts, because they think that what they get is their own, and they know that when they are relieved, their feelings will change the feelings of others.

Why some people are unwilling to maintain this marriage after getting married, it means that he has lost confidence in this marriage, or maybe there are people outside his heart.

Because these people are smoothed out by the pressures of life, they are reluctant to worry about other things.

Some people are unwilling to maintain their burdened marriage after getting married, thinking that everything will be fine after marriage, but in fact, marriage needs to be managed.

Some people are reluctant to maintain this marriage after they get married, because they feel that their partner is still very reliable.

Maybe it's because these people don't want to be responsible after they get married, and they are very casual.

With the continuous development of social economy, in real life, we will encounter all kinds of problems, especially for how to maintain a good marriage, but also make many friends very puzzled about this, in fact, we must know that a good marriage is maintained by two people, if a person just blindly pays, then the relationship will not be very long, these things we must understand, but also must be clear.

First of all, we must understand such a problem, that is, a good marriage is maintained by two people, so in life the husband and wife should follow each other's opinions and each other's personality, when their husband has an idea to start a business, as a wife, do not blindly oppose the husband, but to stand in the husband's perspective to understand, why the husband does this, whether he can do it successfully, when the wife is very hard at home, the husband does not go home, just complains about the hardships of his life, Don't complain about the difficulties you have at work.

Husband and wife must use some more intimate ways to enhance their feelings with each other, such as saying good morning every morning, or good night, or sending a bouquet of flowers to each other every day, these methods can promote the feelings between the two parties, and can maintain a good marriage. It is very important for each of us, and the code of a good marriage is actually in the hands of each of us.

To sum up, we can obviously know that if we want to maintain a good marriage, we can maintain it through the above methods, and the marriage maintained through these methods will definitely become very beautiful, and can make the relationship between both parties more harmonious, which is very important for us.

In order to maintain a good marriage, both spouses should understand each other and respect each other. Support each other. Respect each other like guests. Work together for the family. Don't make conflicts because of some trivial things.

The husband and wife must have effective communication in the marriage, and there must be a deep sense of ritual after marriage, which can increase the relationship between the two people and maintain a good marriage.

In order to maintain a good marriage, husband and wife should work together, with the wife fulfilling the duties of the wife and the husband doing the duties of the husband.

You should work hard to improve yourself and achieve financial independence, and you need to care more about the performance of your other half in your daily life and communicate the unhappiness in your heart.

In order to maintain a good marriage, you must trust each other. Build trust, and then work together to develop in a better direction. Do not betray the family, take responsibility for the family, understand each other, communicate frequently, and maintain a good family together.

Some marriages are always bound by external forces, and it is understandable that they want to divorce but dare not divorce. And some marriages can make their own decisions, obviously the marriage has come to an end, and it should be divorced, but it has been dragging on, not daring to divorce, and then the pain is caused by themselves. The women mentioned in the previous article think that men are good men without judgment, and even if there are problems in the marriage, they blindly get married, only to find that they can't stand it after they get married, and finally want to divorce but dare not divorce.

She's not the only one like that. Many of the people I've met who are struggling with divorce have this common problem. The most fundamental reason for this problem is my initial wishful thinking.

The same goes for the readers below. Although the form of marriage is different from that of the readers mentioned in the previous article, the essence of the problem is the same. Let's take a look at her story.

I want to talk to you about my story. I was thirty-five years old. My current husband and I are married for the second time and he is married for the third time.

The first marriage did not have a marriage certificate. Introduced by the family. Marriage is marriage.

I didn't want to or like it, so I got divorced. Later, I met my current husband through a blind date, and it was love at first sight with him, and it felt very much like the type I liked. It's me who chases him, it's that special pursuit.

After half a year together, we got married. As soon as we got married, we had children.

After living with him, I learned that he had a bad temper, because he was angry with me for a little thing, and we beat him when he returned his mouth. He was stingy and told me about the AA system. I asked him to bring me some fruit and he asked me to send him red envelopes.

And my mother-in-law is strong and loud. I quarreled with him, my mother-in-law reprimanded me, and then went downstairs to comfort my husband. He is still Ma Baonan and has no brains.

He never talked to me about anything in his house.

After giving birth, my mother-in-law scolded me for leaving, and my father-in-law argued with me, saying that I would not let you in if I knew you were like this. My husband scolded me and threw things, and I gradually stopped loving him. I don't feel his love.

I won't cover him in his house. Everything in his house can be distinguished from me. One day my husband said:

If you want to live well, get out! "I'm so cold, I'm really gone.

Now that we've been apart for half a year, I've always wanted to get a divorce, but their family keeps saying it. I'm torn between a rock and a hard place. My family advised me to give him a chance to see if he could change.

However, he had no brains, no feelings for me, and I didn't want to see his family, I didn't want to go back to that home. I didn't have the courage to get a divorce, but now my life and death are uncertain. Please help me.

If a woman marries the wrong person herself, end the marriage by herself, and don't expect someone to help you. ”

: To put it rudely: it's sad that this reader lived to be 35 years old and behaved like a child!

The words she expressed could feel her simplicity from beginning to end, with the same tone as a child's complaint. Although she is talking about this marriage, she has pointed out a lot of problems with men and in-laws, but her own problems are not small, I don't know if she has reflected on it.

There are not many people who get married hastily or in flashes, and whether they want to maintain it depends on whether the other party is compatible with themselves. The two have a common language, and if they can discuss everything, they can maintain it; If the personality and the three views do not match, then there is no need.

I think there is room for persistence, and we should continue to persevere, after all, we must be responsible for what we do, and if we really can't hold on, then we should gather and disperse with each other without delay.

If you feel that this marriage is not happy and has been tormented, then there is no need for this marriage to last.

You can ask yourself, are you happy, are you happy? At the same time, your husband, whether he really loves you and is good to you. If your husband doesn't love you anymore, he treats you badly, and at the same time, you don't need to maintain it if you don't have children.