When we reach marriageable age, why are we reluctant to go on blind dates?

When we reach marriageable age, we may have been arranged to go on a blind date, but why are we always full of resistance?

Probably because I don't want to turn myself into a commodity for sale, clearly priced. Unwilling to open in a way that parents can arrange and relatives can **.

It lies in the fact that many people pay attention to free love, and everyone feels that blind dates are outdated, but there is nothing they can do about it, because the family is too pressed, and many times they have no choice but to go on a blind date, and they simply do not want to go on a blind date. Because people don't want to date blindly from the bottom of their hearts, many blind dates are unsuccessful. In the blind date process, some people are forced, some are fooled, some are just going through the motions, and few people really want to go on a blind date.

Maybe the reason is that the parents talk privately and date each other without their consent. Maybe it was a relative or friend who went to see the woman at so-and-so's house, and when they asked if the woman was not married, they started talking to each other, saying that when people were bored and embarrassed to refuse, they dated each other. Maybe it's because I'm old and anxious at home, and I'm forced to casually agree to a blind date, so when chatting, the other party is very indifferent.

There is also another possibility, she has a lover, but her parents do not approve and they force her to go on a blind date.

Many things can be solved, but the purpose of the blind date is to get married, how can you continue to settle? The emotional foundation of a blind date is weak, and most people get married after a few months or even a month of contact. Many trivial things after marriage will expose each other's shortcomings, and some of them are really unbearable, which is not conducive to the cultivation of feelings after marriage.

In love, dislike can be slowly run-in, but it is absolutely impossible to settle. The loneliness of one person is not terrible, but the loneliness of two people is. I love the March wind and the April rain, the sun that never sets, and the best of you, so I'm willing to wait until I meet your best side.

There is a saying: I don't want to meet the best of you on a blind date, and I don't want to meet you in an ambivalent attitude. I hope that one day I will meet you in my most natural attitude, and that day we will meet very well.

Because I feel that it is not necessary, I can live well by myself, why should I forcibly find someone to affect my life and become an accessory of others.

Because most of the blind dates are rushing to get married, many times the link of love is omitted, and you can't have enough time to recognize each other's character before getting married, etc.

Everyone's personality is different, not everyone can talk eloquently in the face of a stranger, calmly as if they are nothing.

First of all, there is a generation gap between the two generations, different values, and different views on many things. Therefore, it is difficult for young people to open their hearts to these elders, and their true thoughts will not be confided in them. Because they don't understand it, they are likely to interfere in their own lives.

Therefore, parents and elders are always wishful thinking about their children, and they think about it with their own ideas. The same is true for emotional matters. And this kind of speculation is often inconsistent with the child's real thoughts and actual needs.

You may say that parents have also been young, how can they not understand their children's emotional outlook at all? But in fact, that's how it is twisted. Many times, parents will feel that they have taken some detours and stepped on some pits emotionally when they are young, and they don't want their children to fall into them.

It is precisely because he was young that he had those wrong thoughts and wanted to help his children correct them in time, so he is likely to follow his current age of thinking about feelings, and feel that what kind of person is more suitable for marriage and life, to shoehorn into his children, and also hope that his children will fully accept his emotional values.

In addition, young people are more independent and do not want their privacy to be known by these elders, especially they do not want their parents and elders to pay too much attention to themselves like children. Especially when it comes to emotions, it is likely that they are duplicitous, and what they really want to reveal to them is not their true status quo and true thoughts.

For example, children who have been single may not be able to do so because they like someone, and others are always unable to meet the ideal standard in their hearts. So he waited for the vacancy, and kept looking for what he wanted, or he was simply unwilling to settle and simply single. But he told his parents that because he was too busy at work and his life circle was too narrow, he couldn't know the opposite sex, so he was single.

Then your parents are in the wrong direction, and you don't have time to look for it, so I'll help you find it. In this way, it is inevitable that the search for direction will be in the opposite direction.

Finally, I think that many young people naturally have resistance and negative attitudes towards the blind dates introduced to them by their parents or elder relatives, thinking that they don't know themselves at all, and this kind of blind date is purely to find a partner for the sake of finding a partner, and if they don't pay attention to themselves and don't respect themselves, then they can't find a suitable person. If you go on a blind date with this emotion, the natural success rate will be greatly reduced.

Many school-age young people are reluctant to go on blind dates because:

1.Blind dates are risky. Blind dates are an adventure because you can't be sure that there will be a certain chance of success, what kind of topics you will discuss and how the other person will react.

2.No social experience. If a person doesn't value socializing, they may feel uneasy about a blind date because it requires them to pose properly, do the right thing, and coordinate their eyes and body language together to express their opinions.

3.Fear of disappointment. Many people are reluctant to expect too much for fear of being disappointed and for fear of emotional damage.

1.Social pressures and family expectations.

In Chinese society, marriage is considered a major event, and society and family expectations for marriage are very strong. Therefore, many people will choose to follow the arrangement of their parents and relatives to go on a blind date. They believe that doing so will reduce marital risks and gain more family and social support.

2.Personal choice and free will.

Blind dates can provide more opportunities for the choice of partners in marriage, but in the process, the individual's choice and free will may also be affected. Sometimes, families may have overly stubborn expectations and ideas, which can make the individual's choice even narrower. This can be uncomfortable and inconsistencious for people with independent personalities and self-awareness.

3.Stability and success of the marriage.

Blind dates can reduce some marital risks because both parties form a stable marital relationship after mutual consent. However, this does not mean that blind dates can necessarily achieve a higher marriage success rate, and differences in personal preferences and interests may lead to conflicts and failures in marriage.

4.Case-by-case analysis.

In the actual situation, whether to follow the family's arrangement to go on a blind date should be considered comprehensively according to the specific situation. Respect this arrangement of the family, but at the same time, we should also consider it according to our own actual situation. People should try to balance family expectations with the freedom of personal choice to keep their marital relationship as healthy as possible.

In short, the arrangement of the family can provide a good opportunity for our marriage choice, but it does not mean that we should completely obey the arrangement of the family, and we should also determine our choice according to our own situation. We should carefully consider all factors before making a decision, ensuring that our choice is based on our own wishes and interests.

The main reasons are as follows: 1. The popularization of the concept of free love. Today's young people are very concerned about personal freedom and independence, and they prefer to find the right partner in their own way, rather than being bound by a fixed pattern of marriage and love.

2. The way of life and the concept of interests are different. With the development of society, people's lifestyles and interests have changed, on the one hand, it is the importance of economic conditions, education, occupation, etc., on the other hand, it is the importance of personality, hobbies, etc., and these factors are interdependent, and it is difficult to solve the problem of transportation through the simple introduction of blind date.

3. Conflict of social pressures and values. Topics such as marriage and having children, young people are now more inclined to laugh at silver for a few more years and not be in a hurry, which is different from the previous public perception, and the pressure brought by this difference makes young people more inclined to choose the time and object of marriage.

In short, compared with the past, young people today have a stronger pursuit and awareness of freedom, independence, and individuality, which is also reflected in the concept of marriage and love, so they are more resistant to the traditional way of marriage on a blind date.

Nowadays, young people are becoming more and more resistant to blind dates, mainly for the following reasons:

1. The popularization of the concept of free love state limbs. Young people who are now selling in the spike pay great attention to personal freedom and independence, and they prefer to find a suitable partner in their own way, rather than being bound by a fixed marriage and love model.

2. Differences in lifestyles and concepts of interests. With the development of society, people's lifestyles and interests have changed, on the one hand, it is the importance of economic conditions, education, occupation, etc., on the other hand, it is the importance of personality, hobbies, etc., and these factors are interdependent, and it is difficult to solve it through the simple introduction of blind date.

3. Conflict of social pressures and values. Topics such as marriage and having children, young people are now more inclined to watch for a few more years and not be in a hurry, which is different from the previous public perception, and the pressure brought by this difference makes young people more inclined to choose the time and object of marriage.

In short, compared with the past, young people now have a stronger pursuit and awareness of freedom, independence and individuality, which is also reflected in the concept of marriage and love, so they are more resistant to the traditional way of marriage on a blind date.

One is inner rejection. Many people are disgusted, rejected, and disgusted with the form of blind date from the heart, and feel that they have become a commodity to be sold at a price, and they are picked and picked at will, and they can't get over that hurdle psychologically. In addition, you may meet the opposite of what you like, and even the boys who combine the points they hate, naturally, disgust and rejection go to the top.

Second, the matching degree is too low. Many people have encountered this situation, the introducer always likes to introduce excellent boys and excellent girls, but often to no avail. It must be affirmed that the boys and girls are really good individually.

However, being good doesn't mean being a match. may like and value each other differently, there is no problem with normal Si's communication, and being friends is also like-minded, but becoming a lover can probably only be a lover who is not satisfied. Thus, the drawbacks of the introduction are revealed.

However, I would like to point out that even if you are in free love, there are cases where you find that each other's trust type is not suitable and you break up peacefully, so why should you be so demanding that the blind date must be fate?

The third is that it is too transparent. Almost all married people admit that when they got married, they were more or less confused, and they didn't think about it deeply, so they went with the flow. And now unmarried people, basically have received higher education, have a certain amount of knowledge and insight, plus in the society for many years, know people and things have formed a set of their own unique opinions, can quickly judge whether this person meets their own preferences, can also be said to be not so easy to deceive and easy to handle.

Fourth, they are unwilling to wronged themselves. This point is the argument of the older unmarried young people who are open-minded. Everyone has been living independently for nearly 30 years, many are still only children, and no one wants to be wronged or even compromise for someone they don't like very much.

I don't like blind dates, mainly because you didn't find the right person, if it's a beautiful boy or a beautiful girl on the other side, they are willing to go on a blind date.

Marriages without an emotional foundation are basically not long-lasting, so people nowadays like to fall in love on their own.