Why is it said that family happiness begins with good talking?

Talking well is also a calm communication, such a family harmony, close relationship between family members, some families quarrel and blame each other as soon as they say it, people feel uncomfortable, and there is no happiness at all.

Because only by talking well and communicating well can the hearts of the two people get closer and closer. If both parties only care about venting their emotions, making insulting remarks or even fighting, then the matter will inevitably not be resolved, so how happy is it?

Husband and wife get along, respect is more important than blame, always blame, complain impatient tone of speech, never consider each other's feelings, over time so that sooner or later there will be cracks and crises in the family, and speak well, not only parents but also children, the way parents speak plays a great role in the education and growth of children, so family happiness and the way of speaking has a great relationship.

A person's way of speaking can often see the level of their own emotional intelligence, "speaking well" is one of the manifestations of high emotional intelligence, but also a person's cultivated behavior, and some people say that the happiness of a family depends on "speaking well". So how do you "speak well"? What are the skills for speaking well?

1. Use "we" more", "We", can quickly close the relationship.

2. Praise the little-known merits of others, and praise the parts that he expects to be praised.

3. See through, but don't break it, leaving a little leeway for others.

4. Don't want to win every conversation, if you win, you may lose your feelings.

5. Polite words should also be just right.

6. Make criticism more pleasant, and pay attention to the occasion.

7. Don't pretend to understand if you don't understand.

8. Read what the other party is not saying.

9. Master the appropriate time for expression.

10. The tone of speech should be equal.

In addition to the above-mentioned speaking skills, there are many speaking skills in life that you need to pay attention to. Many people believe that a family that knows how to "talk well" tends to be happier, so I will share with you the communication skills between family members.

First of all, the understanding between family members is often more important than blame, some people may be more polite to the closer the person, they often send hurtful words to the family, but the close family is not a punching bag, understanding and respect is the right way to treat the family, life will be more and more happy because of mutual understanding.

Secondly, encouragement between family members can motivate the fighting spirit of the family more than blows, and verbal harm is invisible, if parents often treat their children in a "blowing" way of education, the possible results will only be the opposite of the results expected by the parents, bringing negative effects to the children. On the contrary, if parents praise and motivate their children often, such an educational style will give children more positive motivation to perform better.

In the end, gratitude between family members is much more important than complaining. Parents have given life to their children, no matter whether they are poor or rich, as children, they must learn to be grateful and filial, speak well from the perspective of their parents, understand more, and care more.

The above is the content of my introduction to the "speak well" technique, I hope it will be helpful to you. Whether it is with family, friends or strangers, we must learn the skills of speaking and communicate with others with a "good talk" attitude.

Family happiness starts with good talking, how to communicate with children? What to look out for?

1. Use appropriate vocabulary.

It is important to use appropriate vocabulary when communicating with your child, because what Mom and Dad say can help your child understand the talents. It is up to the child to know which words are up to the child, and it is up to the parents to communicate with them from the child's point of view, so that the ability can play the best role. Communicating with your child in civilized language is not only a sign of respect for your child, but also allows parents to tell how much their child knows when they speak.

It is important for parents to remember that children are likely to learn the vocabulary used by adults, so it is important to be mindful of how civilized they are.

2. Use a quiet tone.

In order to communicate effectively with children, it is necessary for mom and dad to use a quiet tone. Anger doesn't work well for communication, it only makes it harder to go on, and mom and dad don't have the means to express themselves calmly and clearly when they're in an emotional situation. Parents should first calm down and tell their children what their problems are, what needs to be corrected, and let them have time to stay awake so that they will have the patience to listen to what Mom and Dad have to say to them.

3. Listen patiently to your child.

When communicating with children, parents should pay attention to what the children are trying to express, and when they find problems, listen to what the children's ideas are and how they understand the matter. After hearing the child's idea, it is more conducive to finding the place of the problem, it may be that the child has a problem with the understanding of things, it may be that the child has a mood in his heart, etc., these can be understood through the child's expression. Parents should also encourage children to express their own ideas, so that children will feel respected, which is more conducive to stimulating their interest in communicating with parents.

In ordinary life, you need to communicate with your child from your child's point of view, and you must also ensure that you communicate with your child once a week, and you must pay attention not to lose your temper with your child when communicating.

You should pay attention to your child's thoughts, but think from your child's point of view, so that you can communicate better with your child, pay attention to your child's expression ability, and pay attention to your child's way of thinking.

To learn to empathize, pay attention to your own way of speaking, pay attention to your own tone, but also pay attention to your child's thoughts, don't be too strong at this time, and don't be too egoistic.

Marriage is a home that two people run together, and it is very important to speak well if you want to run this home well. As the saying goes, good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June. After all, the two have become husband and wife, and they are very close relationships, so such an intimate relationship must talk well and don't embarrass each other, because if the other party is embarrassed, you won't get any benefits.

It will only make the relationship between the two people very strained.

And the husband and wife should be in a relationship of confiding in each other, the other party should also be a relationship of listening, both people should seriously express their views to each other, and the other party should also listen carefully and put forward sincere opinions and ideas, rather than hearing each other's ideas to refute, and then sarcastic, only listen carefully to each other, and give each other enough sincerity, then the relationship between the two people can be very long-term and healthy.

In fact, between two people really you respect me a foot, I respect you a foot, only respect each other, in order to win each other's respect, speaking represents their most direct attitude, if you respect each other very much, then the other party will also respect you very much, so we should grasp their own attitude in speaking, especially the attitude towards their partners, to do enough respect, so that two people can get along harmoniously, marriage can be happy!

Speaking well is our attitude, and speaking politely is a must-have etiquette for each of us. Not only to outsiders, but also to those close to you, you should also speak well and speak with respect, then you will definitely be able to go further and be happier with her.

We all like people who talk well, and we like people who talk, are polite, and respect themselves. From this to the other, we should be a person who speaks politely and respects others. What's more, we are a country of etiquette, and civilization has been passed down, and it should be reflected in us, so everyone should speak well, especially in marriage.

The essence of marriage is an intimate relationship, it involves many complex aspects, two people have to jointly manage the economy, life and other aspects, after having children, the marriage relationship will produce a qualitative change, so the relationship between two people is easy to be crushed by some life if you don't manage it carefully.

If two people want to support each other in marriage, they must do a good job in communication and communication, and the expression of two people is the most important link in the communication between husband and wife. Some people think that there is no need for husband and wife to pay attention to talking, after all, they are so familiar with each other, but couples often pay more attention to speaking skills.

Some couples actually want to express a positive meaning, but the words they say are very hurtful. Every day together, your words and actions will affect your partner, and in the long run, when you send a negative message, you will also be affected.

The basic thing to talk well is to respect each other, partners must respect each other, know how to listen, communication is two-way, only patient listening can get the opportunity to express, some couples have lost the patience to listen to each other after a long time of marriage, often interrupt each other's speech, just take care of self-expression, so that after the formation of a habit, both parties are unwilling to communicate with each other, obviously husband and wife, but indifferent like strangers.

Second, in marriage, it is important to properly communicate your needs. Sometimes people always like to hold their own hands, and when they encounter problems, they would rather break their heads than communicate with their partners, in fact, sometimes the strength of two people can be easily solved, but they are unwilling to communicate their predicaments and needs well, they think that this may bring trouble to each other, but mutual trouble is also one of the philosophies of marriage. Properly conveying the needs of the former will make the marriage sweeter.

It is a tacit understanding to have a clear heart, but this tacit understanding is not something that every couple can have, and we have the courage to communicate our true selves and seek support from each other when necessary, which is also a way to express love.

Speak well, and you can have a happy marriage

I think it's important to speak well in a marriage, for example, it can effectively maintain the relationship between both parties in the marriage and make the marriage more durable.

It is very important to speak well in marriage, so as to maintain the relationship between two potato people, and it will also make the marriage relationship more harmonious, and the most important thing in marriage is that two people should communicate and exchange.

I think it is very important to speak in the process of marriage, first of all, we must master some speaking skills to achieve a good communication effect.

Talking well with others gives people a feeling that is warmer than cloth; Especially between husband and wife, there is love in the heart, accumulation of virtue in the mouth, good talk, more understanding, less complaining, in order to show the love and warmth between each other, in order to run a good family.

Xiao Liang and his wife went home with their brother and sister-in-law to celebrate their father's birthday, and the four of them discussed early what birthday gifts they wanted to bring to their father.

Early in the morning, I packed my things and drove home together. Halfway through, my brother vaguely felt that he had taken one less gift, so he got out of the car to check.

As a result, his father's favorite drink was really dropped, and his brother was full of anxiety and helplessness at this time.

Xiao Liang's wife, Brother Anwen, said: "It's okay, while we haven't gone far yet, let's go back and get it, and blame me for being in too much of a hurry to leave and not checking." ”

Xiao Liang followed his wife's words and said, "Go back and get it, it's okay." ”

But the sister-in-law on the side spoke: "How can you take it now, let's go, check it next time, you can figure out how to solve it yourself." ”

After saying that, he urged everyone to get in the car quickly, and along the way, my sister-in-law kept complaining.

When I finally got home, my sister-in-law shouted as soon as she entered the door: "I originally brought you wine, but he forgot to take it, and he has to go back halfway to get it, you see what time it is, what else to take, drink it next time." ”

Dad's joy of looking forward to their return was completely gone, and he sat helplessly on the sofa without saying a word.

The elder brother felt very embarrassed, so he began to quarrel with his sister-in-law: "I was happy to celebrate my father's birthday, are you there?" I've put up with you for a long time, can a little thing be so earth-shattering? You can live this day, you can't live it! ”

The sister-in-law was even more angry when she heard this, opened the door and left.

The family could have had a happy meal, but it turned out to be messed up.

Later, Xiao Liang and his wife lived happily ever after, and the two of them discussed and solved everything together.

And my brother couldn't stand the fact that his sister-in-law was always so aggressive and divorced.

No matter who it is, as long as someone in the family does not speak well, the family is not far from being broken.

There are already differences in lifestyles and ways of dealing with people between husband and wife, and it is inevitable that there will be conflicts.

Talking well and communicating well is like a spring breeze, which makes people comfortable; And being vitriol will only shatter the original relationship.

Many times, if you blindly blame, use the other person as a punching bag, and do not consider the other person's feelings, the relationship between husband and wife will get worse and worse.

If you complain less, understand more, and empathize with each other when you do something wrong, you will find that things are not so bad, and the husband and wife can be more harmonious.

Those who have a happy marriage know how to speak well and understand each other.