What is the psychology of men who don t want to give a bride price?

A friend in the background, he told me in a private message that he is thirty years old this year, and he has talked about a girlfriend, but he has recently been delayed in talking about marriage, that is, the talk is dead, the cause is the 100,000 yuan bride price, because the conditions of the boy's family are not very good, he grew up in a single-parent family, graduated from a bachelor's degree, and has no house for the time being, but he has a car in his hand.

The high-end people in large and medium-sized cities do not have a bride price, and most of the people who want the bride price are low-end people except for the customs of some small places, but the general dowry in Zhejiang, Fujian and the developed coastal areas of the south of the Yangtze River is twice the bride price, and the man will let go of the woman to speak, and the more the woman opens, the more the dowry of the dowry, especially in the coastal areas of Chaoshan, Hong Kong and Macao, and the general bride price is 1---2 months of male income, which means a meaning. In the south, it seems that the bride price is the heaviest in the mountainous areas of Jiangxi, and the more impoverished and backward areas in the country, the more they pay attention to the bride price, and many economically underdeveloped areas do not accompany the bride price as long as the bride price. Therefore, it is very important to be a good person, different habits, different customs, and different cultural levels, which often make one party take things for granted, and in the eyes of the other party, it is a strange vice, just like in the eyes of the nobles, his family can buy a diamond ring of 2 million for the bride, and will not pay a 200,000 dowry.

The history of wedding bride price has a long history. This wedding custom has been practiced in China for hundreds of years. With the development of society to this day, this custom should indeed be completely abandoned. It really doesn't make much sense to think about it.

is really a good marriage, there is no need for a bride price, what is needed is love to the bones, and love is needed to grow old together.

is really a good marriage, not to repay the mother-in-law's heart and daughter's heart, and the man consciously and voluntarily sends it.

In the face of the old guy's bride price, my analysis is:

First, the man's family does have certain difficulties, and he can't come up with so many dowries at once, it's not cheating, it's really not.

Second, the guy did cheat on him, cut the girl first and then play, made the girl into a big belly, and had to marry me if he didn't give a bride price, if he didn't marry me, it would have become a fact.

Third, it is also possible that the guy doesn't love the girl very much, since the two of them have become a boat, the woman's parents have to give the bride price to let the door, no more or less to make a statement, comfort your daughter-in-law and yourself!

Fourth, it may be that the parties did not talk about the wedding bride price at all when they fell in love, and when they were about to get married, they suddenly came out to ask for the bride price, and the guy felt sudden, and he just didn't give it.

Fifth, the guy really doesn't love the girl, and when it comes to this point, the guy just put out that he wants the bride price, how can he love it, the guy takes advantage of this, pushes the boat down the river, and throws away the girl.

Here are my five speculations. The root of the problem depends on the guy himself, if he loves the girl, no matter how difficult it is, he must try to play the bride price, so as not to let the beloved be wronged, enter the marriage hall early, and live the sweetness of the little two. My judgment is that the young man's love for the girl is fake.

That's why we have today's end.

Men don't want to give a bride price because they want to take advantage of it, because it is natural to marry a wife without spending money, and they feel that they are very good, so men will have such thoughts.

Fluke mentality. It's like if you use something for a long time and then you pay for it, you definitely won't want to.

1. From my point of view, the bride price does reflect a man's attitude and the importance of a family. But it shouldn't be a condition.

In ancient times, the bride price was a custom of giving a bride price to each other when the marriage was initially reached. Here I would like to make it clear that it is a mutual gift, not a one-sided.

Moreover, it is not what the woman asks for, it is usually given by the man on his own initiative, nor is it compared with others, but reflects a kind of sincerity.

At the same time, after the woman receives the bride price, she will also add a dowry to her daughter on the basis of the bride price, which will slowly become the property jointly owned by the husband and wife.

2. Marriage is a matter of two people, and at the same time, it is also a matter of two families.

It is a pair of lovers who naturally enter the stage of marriage, one is willing to marry, the other is willing to marry, and form a new family.

Therefore, for the bride price, everyone should look at this matter calmly, and then analyze it objectively. I think it should be discussed together according to the man's family situation, rather than a mouthful of **, how much it must be.

What's the point of having such a marriage go on? Some people may contradict me, what do you get married if you don't have money, and you should be single if you don't have money. Yes, if you don't have money, you should be single, but shouldn't marriage be a matter of two people?

It is impossible for God to shout that Sui is one-sided, which makes me feel that it is a feeling of being willing to marry and a feeling of not wanting to marry.

Here, I would like to reaffirm my point of view that I support the bride price given by the married man. But this kind of giving is not a "clear price" divination, but varies from person to person, depending on each person's family background.

3. Of course, when a man gets married, he is not even willing to pay the bride price, which means that you are not so important in his mind. Especially those with good family conditions can get this money, but they are unwilling to give it.

Let's think about how much energy and effort it takes for the parents of a woman to raise a daughter. And you only think about your own contributions, not about other people's parents. That can only show that the person is very selfish.

On the other hand, the process of a woman getting pregnant and giving birth to a child is quite dangerous, even if medicine is so developed now, there is still a certain risk for a woman to give birth to a child.

Then, as long as the woman is not shouting the sky-high bride price, it is completely within the scope of your family economy, and the man should not care about those bride price.

It's too high, and a lot of it needs to be borrowed, which is beyond the ability to bear, so naturally I don't want to.

Family conditions are often poor.

Xiaocui and her boyfriend got married in a hurry after knowing each other for two months, and her husband's family conditions are very poor, located in a particularly poor small mountain village, and they still live in a tiled house. My parents didn't have a penny of savings, and they raised a dozen cows and were reluctant to sell them. The boyfriend strongly proposed not to give the bride price at the beginning.

But he still listened to his parents' advice and asked for a bride price of 70,000 or 80,000 yuan, all of which were handed over to his parents and not brought back. My boyfriend had to borrow money from everywhere to subsidize it, plus all kinds of expenses for wine and entertainment, it is estimated that he owes more than 200,000 yuan after getting married, and he has no money to buy a better wardrobe after marriage.

In fact, for such a man, the initiative not to give the bride price is mainly because the family is poor, and it also means that the man has no ability and cannot be self-reliant and self-reliant to start a family. So much so that when he reached the age of marriage, he still had an empty money bag and lived by borrowing money. Although she borrowed money and got married, if she wants to have children and provide for her elderly parents, life will inevitably be tight, so women should think long-term before getting married.

Afraid of women swallowing it privately.

The bride price given by the man and the dowry by the woman are all funds for the young couple's new home. However, many men who take the initiative not to give the bride price are afraid that the woman will not intend to hand it over after receiving the bride price, and will subsidize the woman's parents and siblings after embezzling it. In this way, the money is equivalent to being lost, and there is no return.

But then again, the woman's parents raised their daughter from a young age and spent a lot of money, and when they reached the good age of earning money to repay their parents, they married into the man's family to have children and honor their in-laws. Therefore, there is nothing wrong with the man giving a certain bride price when getting married, and the man should not always be "vigilant" for fear of the woman embezzling it.

The man thinks that you are not very valuable, he just wants to borrow you to have a child, and he wants you to take care of the housework, in this case he is not willing to give the bride price.

feels that the other party is not worthy of the bride price, feels that the other party has already eaten the other party, even if he does not give the bride price, the other party will not leave him, he feels that the other party has been with him for a long time, and he does not have a lot of feelings for the other party, and he feels that there is no freshness, so he does not want to give the bride price.

They want the white wolf with empty gloves, they feel that you are not worthy of his bride price, they are afraid that the father-in-law and mother-in-law will not bring back the daughter after getting the bride price, and the man's parents do not approve of each other, so they are not willing to spend the bride price.