Please help, what should I do? Parents on one side and lovers on the other?

Please think about the following questions first: whether the two of you are married or your parents are married, whether the two of you have children or your parents have children, whether you are married for your own feelings or to make your parents happy to marry, whether you have children because you love children or have children for the inheritance of your surname, the most important thing is: whether it is your parents or children or your partner who will live with you for the rest of your life???

If you don't understand these truths, there is no need to get married.

Maybe it's a bit selfish to say this, but on the other hand, why aren't the 4 old people above selfish, why can they be selfish with high-sounding reasons, you can't be selfish for your lifelong happiness?

Why should you be bothered by thousands of years of so-called traditions that should not continue to exist?

Let's adopt a compound surname, and each of the two takes one of them, which not only satisfies the old man, but also has a unique style.

It's so nice upstairs. The main thing is that your parents are too selfish, right? Your surname is more important than your happiness!

Also, after getting married, if you have the ability, you can go out and buy a house as soon as possible. Living together, there will be many contradictions in the future Originally, the young couple needed to run in life, and the two old ones were dissatisfied. Live together again, it's over.

Both of you are only children, and you are eligible to have 2 children, so you can have 2 children. There are too many situations to you now, you can follow the example of your neighbors, or you still have to do the work of both parties, just because this breakup is not worth it.

From the traditional concept of Chinese, children are all with their father's surname (and he is still an only child), I personally feel that it should be difficult to persuade his parents, take a step back, even if you find a man who is good to you like him, you can guarantee that the other one can agree that the child does not have his surname!

The best way is to get married first, and then when you have a child, it doesn't matter what your surname is, after saying that, over time, the old people will slowly ignore these things.

If I were you, I would have a serious conversation with my parents to see if they think your happiness is important or your surname is important.

I think as long as the problem isn't with you.

There is no need to sacrifice your love.

I wish you a long and long love.

Have twins, one with your last name and one with his last name.

It's not a question of who marries whom, hehe, it's better to respect the elderly.

A friend of mine's son named "Wang Yangming", his father's surname is Wang, and his mother's surname is Yang, I think this is a good way to add the surnames of both parties, and it is best to take a nickname to be called, such as Wang Yang's name, both call him Yang's name, and he himself is surnamed Wang, I think this will not be a good opinion on both sides.

When encountering such a thing, it is best to collude with both parents, and it is not good to choose which party's opinion is rash.

Right! Agree with the upstairs statement It's wonderful

Height should not be a stumbling block to love, and southern women are not tall, so they can get married and have children. You should figure out the reasons for your mother's opposition, and at the same time cheer yourself and your girlfriend on the right medicine, and don't give up. I believe that one day your mother will be touched by this sincere love of yours!!

Why does height ruin love!! Does your mom want you to find a giraffe back? Your mom shouldn't have said that in the first place.

Your mother doesn't want you to marry a daughter-in-law, it's not that she doesn't want you to marry her, just give her a bachelor and see what she has to say.

Height is not distance, weight is not pressure, money is not ability, what you care about is real feelings. If your love is put to the test, you won't be overwhelmed by this. Talk to your mother and enlighten him.

Sincerely, the gold and stone are open. Bless you!

My family also has relatives who are married to 185 and 155 Their son is also very tall 183 is still a college student with excellent character and learning What can height represent Don't judge people by their appearance What age is this Love can be happy one day Parents will feel that your choice is right, if you love him very much, don't give up, not only hurt her but also hurt yourself, do what you think, I wish you a happy result.

Don't get excited, believe in the beauty you once had, and sincerely wish each other happiness.

This has happened to my family, but my family means that my sister's boyfriend's illness in the family is related to my sister's happiness for the rest of her life. My sister and her boyfriend have been friends for 3 or 4 years, and then they can only follow the advice of the family and break off the relationship. She has always regretted that if she insisted, she might have had children now.

I don't agree with her very much, though, because I haven't seen their ending really happy or my sister is widowed. This is because of the disease, and I can only advise my sister to think about it.

The problem is that the key to this problem you are running into right now is money! I don't agree with being a mother anymore. I have a lot of rich men around me now, who are stingy and have to notarize their property before marriage.

If you have money, you have to spend all day drinking, do you want such a person? Who has a rich person now who hasn't breaded a few women outside? I don't know what your friend wants, but if what she needs is enjoyment then take her mother's advice and find the one behind to marry, maybe you can count the money at home, and he hugs another woman outside!

If what you need is true love, then your friend who has been together for several years should have recognized his character, a lifetime is yours, not your mother's, I have made it very clear, choose the latter You may drag the money all over the world to find happiness in **!

The one upstairs doesn't blush!

If you have a good relationship with your boyfriend. Then there are two paths.

First, find out the relationship, and he will not marry.

Second, deliberately messing up the blind date. so that the man did not dare to ask for it. Destroy your own image.

Forget it, you can also lie about the military situation. Get on the bus first and pay the ticket. Raw rice is ripe rice, and it is more difficult for my mother to oppose it. However, it is best to talk to your mother and let her accept it. In this way, it will be better to go back to my parents' house in the future.

Listen to your mom first. Marry the rich one, then divorce a year later, marry the one you like, and get both rich and beautiful.

Maybe you should really ask your own thoughts, and if it's really hard to choose, you should talk to your mother, because your mother does this because of the greatness of motherly love, and I believe that your mother will understand you and respect your choice.

Make it clear to your boyfriend first.

Blind dates are to go.

But go and make it clear to that person.

Let him bring it up and leave it alone.

It won't hurt your mom or your boyfriend.

But only if you're sure you're going to be with your boyfriend.

It's hard to choose, really, there's a lot of this happening around me.

If it's me. I'm going to listen to my mom, no matter what, mom or mom

It's me, I'll still listen to my mother, and I'll see everyone, but I won't marry him... And money is not happy is a life of garbage...

Happiness is one's own, whether you want money or feelings, think about it yourself.

You guys, I damn it, you can do whatever you want, this society is quite realistic.

Your family doesn't like your husband, so it depends on whether you love each other or not! As long as the two of you are willing to work hard, there is nothing to look down on, tell your husband to be more motivated and diligent, and you will help her say good things in front of your family in the middle, and I believe that you will accept your husband soon.

First of all, you first determine your husband's character, because there must be a reason why the family doesn't look down on him, if your family thinks that there is a problem with his character, I advise you to consider your family's feelings, if it is not a character problem, you and your husband will talk to your family and take a practical action to show that it will be okay.

Does the title husband mean that you are married? If you are not married, you are a boyfriend, and if you are married, you are a husband, the meaning of the two titles is different, and the handling methods are also different, please get a good relationship.

Is it true love? The people who have accompanied you through your life ......The choice is yours! Even if you are wrong, you will choose your own ......

Isn't this the trouble of the broad masses of the people?

Both parents have come from the past, and sometimes they listen to their parents.

Your family doesn't look down on your husband and won't let you break up with your husband?

What, the family doesn't look down and won't let you break up with him, what logic?

The relationship is your own grasp, if it is suitable, be together, and talk to your parents.

Will your family let you break up?

If you really love him and have no interest in other men, follow him. If you are interested in other men, you don't have true love for him, so there's no need to follow him. The love for parents can never change, but the love between men and women may change, although it may change, after all, it has not changed yet, so I feel that love is more important, so I run with love.

Parents and career and love are not comparable, they must be looked at separately. However, a stable job is the foundation of survival, and only when you live well in a down-to-earth manner can you pursue a spiritual life and start a family. You can also be separated for a while, and everyone will take care of the work first.

Even couples can get divorced, so let's get to the bottom of the problem of survival. There are also two people who work hard to pay the price to get together, but they don't get along well after they get together, and they don't leave in the end, and it's painful to be together. This matter is very complicated, overcome the mental pain, first be strong and solve the problem of survival, because this is the current solution of both worlds, both to protect the future and to take into account the relationship, although it is the relationship between the two places.

The future will slowly take on the outline.

It's really rare, every parent is good to themselves, loves you, wants your parents to agree, just start from this aspect, crying, crying heartbreakingly, skipping meals, pretending, parents ask you what's the matter? They said that it was nothing, and after a few days they asked, they said, "I can't be with my beloved, I don't have the courage to live."

To be honest, parents are reluctant to let you leave them, but that's not realistic. You're going to get married after all. My advice is to find your boyfriend and live with him.

Or work next to your parents first and spend more time with your parents. But be sure to marry the person you love, that's for sure. It is a must to come back to see your parents more often after getting married.

Tell your parents well, it's hard to find someone who loves you, how can you give up easily. It is possible to obtain the consent of the parents.

I suffer as much as you ... Now I have a big problem ... But I didn't give up on being with my girlfriend...

I hope my girlfriend won't give up either... I believe it will be all right ... What parents really want is for you to be happy.

But it's not just material ... Communicate more with your parents.

It's really tangled, but let me tell you: no one can decide your future, not even your parents or spouse. Your parents are against you going to the big city because they are afraid that your relationship will break down in the future, and it will be difficult for you to continue to survive there.

That's where the root is. So if you want to go to that city with your boyfriend, and want to get the blessing of your parents, from now on, try to prepare for the job change, didn't he say to wait another two years, just use this time to enrich yourself, by the way, also see the change in the attitude of your parents, and when the time comes to find a stable and higher income in that big city, what else do you have to worry about. So let's start fighting, Durala, haha.

Let's talk about a long-distance relationship first, look at your description You may have just graduated, you experience more things in society and then decide whether to go on, I have a friend and her boyfriend have a very good relationship, the family disagrees, my friend fell out with the family for him, when the two people are really together to face life, in the face of firewood, rice, oil and salt, only to find that their love can not withstand the wear and tear of reality, I don't want you to be the same, I chose my boyfriend, and after being together, I found that it was too far from what I thought, and I chose my parents, In the days to come, he was always sad.

In fact, sometimes how to choose is right, how to choose is wrong, it is difficult to really balance, the best of both worlds, so the only principle in the face of this kind of problem is not to regret, as long as you do not regret it, it is right.

In fact, there are many similar questions, how can others give you advice, after all, it is your future path, and you have to choose for yourself. We can only give you an analysis: 1 If you and your boyfriend leave, your parents will definitely not want to, after all, it is just your daughter, although you can go back, then you can go back a few times a year.

2. If you go away with your boyfriend, in case one day he doesn't want you, I think women should have their own independent ability, so that it will be more attractive;

1 If you don't go with your boyfriend, I regret it to you, but I think you will choose which one to live regretfully or regret the tragedy.

2 If you don't go with your boyfriend, your boyfriend really cares that you will come over.

So I agree with your parents!!

Ask your parents to come over or take a look at it yourself.

Isn't this the problem of the daughter-in-law and her mother falling into the water! This question can't be solved for thousands of years!

Personally, I feel that the contradiction comes from the heart, and communicate with my parents and lovers! It can be neutralized! Because they all love you! So let's talk!