Why do Chinese funerals cry and what is the point of crying and mourning

There are various reasons to cry at a Chinese funeral, and here are some of the main ones:

1.Showing respect for the deceased: In Chinese funerals, crying is a way to show respect for the deceased. Crying can be seen as a form of mourning and mourning, expressing respect and remembrance for the life of the deceased.

2.Show filial piety: In Chinese culture, filial piety is very important. At funerals, filial sons and virtuous grandchildren will express their filial piety to the deceased by crying. This crying is also seen as a way of expressing filial piety to show respect and remembrance for the deceased.

3.Convey feelings of grief: At funerals, people's crying can also be seen as a natural outpouring of emotion.

When people feel sad or see someone crying at a funeral, this emotion is likely to trigger their crying. This crying is a way for people to express their feelings of grief and to pay homage and remembrance to the life of the deceased.

4.Add to the atmosphere of the funeral: In Chinese funerals, crying can also add a solemn and serious atmosphere to the funeral. This crying allows people to focus more on the atmosphere of mourning and mourning, expressing respect and remembrance for the deceased.

In general, crying at Chinese funerals is out of respect and remembrance for the deceased, a way to express filial piety and convey sad feelings, and an important means to add atmosphere to the funeral.

A small number of them are really crying because they have lost their loved ones; Most of them actually cried to the people around him, which means that he is very filial and reluctant. However, in some places, the elderly do not cry after they die, and the customs are different.

The emphasis on crying and mourning includes: crying when there is mourning, crying when people come, not crying if people don't come, all funeral matters, there must be crying, and you can ask someone to cry on your behalf.

1. Cry when you mourn, cry when you want to cry, this is a big principle

Etiquette - Funeral Rites has the rule of "crying all the time". That is to say, there is a funeral in the family, filial sons, filial grandchildren, filial women, etc., grief and grief, love is deep, and you can cry if you want to cry. There is no time limit, no hour limit, no time point limit, no method limit.

The funeral operator should pay attention not to cry out of the problem, there are people who cry dead at funerals, it is not uncommon, and they are often close relatives, which is very maddening.

2. People cry when they come, but people don't cry if they don't come

Etiquette - Funeral Rites have: "The king makes people hang", "The king makes people hang", "Friends make people hang", "Friends are hanging", etc., and the staff of the main family mourning hall should bow and cry on the ground. After the mourning, the host stopped crying and sent the guests outside the gate.

That is to say, crying is also a hard work, and you can't cry all the time. The ceremonial personnel who guard the spirits and protect the spirits, when someone comes to mourn, cry; The mourner is gone, and there is no one left, so he doesn't cry. It's okay to take a break and slow down.

3. When the mourner cries all the way, the main family should cry all the way

The Book of Rites - Running for Funerals has the requirements of "crying while looking at the hometown" and "crying while looking at the door". That is to say, to run for the funeral, according to their own situation, they need to cry on the road. Looking at the country, hometown, and home are all important nodes that need to cry.

In real life, relatives mourn people and cry when they go to the door, which is caused by emotions and emotions, and it is also the inheritance of standardized funerals. At this time, the host's greeter or other people present should cry all the way to greet him. People cry with feelings and etiquette; You cry with affection, and you return the courtesy.

This is the principle of reciprocity in the liturgy.

4. All matters related to the key instrument of the mourning beam must have a cry

There are many ceremonial and ceremonial matters in the funeral, and the main family members need to cry at this time, and they should also cry. According to the provisions of "Rites" and "Rites", combined with the actual operation of life, funeral rituals include: the beginning and end (crying upside down), Fu (summoning spirits), bathing, rice containment, small burial (wearing), big funeral (into the coffin), morning and evening (hall sacrifice), oak reputation skillfully moving the ancestor (sue the temple), hair introduction (funeral), road laying, sacrificing soil, coffin, crying (back to the spirit), re-hanging, round tomb, etc.

5. You can ask someone to cry on your behalf

Rites - Funeral Rites have: "crying on behalf of others". That is to say, because your body is crying badly, or you can't cry well, or your crying skills are not high enough, etc., you can ask someone to cry on your behalf. Funerals are permitted.

Crying is a sign of funeral activities, and it is also a necessary means to form a funeral atmosphere. Therefore, asking someone to cry on behalf of you is definitely not some feudal dross, but an expression of people's normal feelings and emotions. Just like mourning in real life, it is a means of mourning, and it is also a need for emotions and atmosphere.

Question 1: What should I do if I can't cry at the funeral? If you can't cry, keep your head down, don't look at other people, and if you really need to pretend to be out, you can use mustard.

Beneficial Question 2: At the funeral, what should I do if my filial son can't cry? 10 points Filial son can't cry and still wants to pretend to cry? Interesting question, think for yourself. If you don't cry, no one will say that you are unfilial.

Question 3: What should I do if I can't cry at the funeral How can I do it if I can't cry at the funeral?

Either you have no feelings for the deceased.

Or rather, the feelings are not deep.

Either you're a person who doesn't love to cry.

It is advisable for you to think about what you are sad about.

If you think about it too much, you will cry.

Question 4: If you want to go to the funeral, what should I do if I can't cry Attending the funeral is to express my farewell to the deceased, not to cry out, just bring your sincerity to the public funeral service platform for a full life.

Question 5: White things, I want to cry but can't cry, there are no props that can cry at the funeral Just about to find out that someone said. Take a small piece of onion and rub the side of your index finger, pretend to wipe your tears when you want to cry, and wait for five seconds.

Question 6: Is it disrespectful to the deceased if you can't cry at the funeral The mood is sad, if you really can't cry, you can't make it difficult for others.

There is no need to blame yourself so much.

Question 7: I want to cry at the funeral but I can't cry Sadness comes from the heart, and I want to cry without tears. It's a sign of grief to the extreme.

Be strong. The deceased is gone. Condolences.

Question 8: What should I do if my grandfather dies and I can't cry because I have no feelings? Can you help me think of a practical solution, okay If you can't cry, you can't cry, why do you have to cry? I didn't cry when my dad died, because I wouldn't cry.

Question 9: My grandmother has a funeral, and I cry when I enter the university, what should I do if I can't cry If it is a woman who has no tears, she has to cry a few times to express her voice, and the man's expression is heavier

The custom of crying mourning when crying and mourning"Sing"The song is called a mourning song, and the Zhuang people are accustomed to inviting two folk singers to sing a mourning song. The two singers pretended to be uncles and nephews, asked and laughed at the spring calendar, sang all night, praised the achievements of their ancestors, and persuaded the younger generations not to forget their ancestors. Many ethnic groups also have mourning and mourning singing and dancing ceremonies.

The Yi people call it"Jumping feet"Four people are holding gossip and dancing beside the corpse, singing filial piety songs while jumping, which is said to smooth the thorny road to the underworld for the deceased. Jingpo people call it"Bulgo", to invite young men and women from nearby villages to dance together and stay up all night. In addition, two men in long robes are also arranged to dance with spears and make stabbing shapes around bamboo flags to ward off evil spirits.

From the point of view of the form of bumping and searching, modern folk mourning songs, that is, elegiac songs, can be divided into three categories: first"Crying";The second is"Pullover";Three for"Warp"。The characteristics of scattered crying are:"Flip as you like", cry whatever you think, sing whatever you want, there is no limit.

Its content is mainly to pour out the feelings of longing for the deceased and blame yourself for the unfilial piety to the elders.

lamenting his own miserable life. As for the pullover, there is a limit to the content. Mainly:"Hug your mother"、"Twelve mother-seekers"、"December flower name"Wait.

When you cry, you cry about the benefits of others and tell your own suffering. "Warp"It is sung in conjunction with funeral rites. After the death of the patient, it is sung by the daughter or daughter-in-law"Buy clothes"、"Dressing Sutra"Wait.

When crying, tears must not fall on the body of the deceased, otherwise the corpse will become a zombie, and if there is no way to rot, it will not be reincarnated. Another theory is that when the king of Yama saw tears on the deceased's body, he turned him away, and the deceased had to suffer beyond the underworld.

In addition,"Dressing Sutra"Sing it at high tide, because"up"The word has the meaning of accumulating wealth. If he cries at this time, his family business will be able to rise like a tide. If the deceased is a woman, the daughter sings to her mother"Comb your hair song"。

In any case, the children and relatives who can sing it at the time of burial must sing it"Mourning songs", pour out his thoughts for the deceased.

And early in the morning of the funeral, the daughter-in-law of the long house has to sing"Open the door"。Because the folk believe that if a person dies, he will be thrown into the eighteen layers of hell, and if he does not cry and open the gate, the deceased will suffer in the underworld.

At the time of the funeral, the daughter or daughter-in-law will sing"Produced by the scriptures"and sing it when you come back"Bed Ritual Sutra"。Sing"Pavilion Sutra"It is to allow the deceased to rest and cool off on the road to the underworld. When there is a mourning platform, sing it"Lingtai Sutra"。

You cry as much as others cry, and you have to cry louder than others.

I cried and looked very sad.