Your in laws treat you badly, your husband is unreliable, do you leave decisively or continue to end

Now there are many women who are reluctant to get married, because there are too many women who are not happy after marriage, no one is favored in their in-laws' house, and they have become guests in their parents' house, so now more and more women have no interest in getting married. For me, marriage is sacred and inviolable, and if there is no love in this marriage, then there is no need to continue. So if it were me, my in-laws would treat me badly, and my husband would not be reliable, I would definitely choose to leave decisively, even if I already had children, I would not bear it.

1. If you compromise because of your children, your in-laws and your husband will only think that you are weak and easy to bully.

Many times women will wronged themselves because of their children, so even if they are unhappy in this marriage, they will not choose to divorce, after all, they still have children. In order to give the child a complete home and a complete childhood, the woman chooses to compromise. But this kind of compromise will not make your in-laws and your husband treat you better, but will only make your in-laws and husbands feel that you are weak and easy to bully, and your status in your in-laws' family will still not improve, so if it were me, I would not compromise, because there is no need, even if you are divorced, you can take good care of your children.

2. A woman's life should not only have a family and children, but should love herself first and then others.

For me, my life is not only about family and children, but about having my own career and hobbies. I want to have children and do what a wife should do, but I also have to have my own job. In my opinion, a woman should love herself first, and then love others, never believe those nonsense words of men, only if you are good enough, you will really have status.

Therefore, if you don't have a little status in your in-law's family, you must not choose to compromise, but be firm and yourself.

It is said that patience is calm for a while, but once you endure it for the first time, there will be countless times, so you must live a good life for yourself. Even if you are gone, you can still love your children.

I think it is definitely necessary to leave decisively. Because I can't be happy in this kind of life, only a happy life is the happiest.

In fact, many people will encounter such a problem, the relationship is not there, and they continue to make do with their children, and this kind of life is torture for themselves. If you feel that there is no possibility of a continuation of the marriage, then take a serious look. If you blindly continue to endure for the sake of your children, it will also be detrimental to your children's growth, because a family without affection and love is also a harm to children.

So, if you don't break apart.

This depends on how you choose, it will be easier to leave you decisively, but the child will be pitiful, and if you continue to endure it for the sake of the child, you will be wronged for a lifetime, this choice is difficult.

1.It means that he doesn't love you that much.

Marriage and love are not the same, maybe you only need two people to like to fall in love, but marriage involves two family things, so there will naturally be more things to test, so it is more important to be suitable at this time. If your husband doesn't protect you, it can only mean that you are his suitable object, not necessarily the person he loves.

2.It shows that he has no sense of responsibility and responsibility.

As your other half, you have the responsibility and obligation to protect the rights and interests of your other half. If he is unwilling to protect you at the critical moment, and he still eats inside and out, it can only show that this man has no sense of responsibility and worry. I can't figure out these people's sophistication, and they don't know how to be people.

Most of these men are also messy when it comes to family issues, because they can't deal with these things, so it's easy to have problems.

3.It means that he didn't take you seriously.

As a man, if he really cares about his wife, he will definitely help his wife say a few words. But he doesn't even have the attitude to help you speak, so it can only be said that he doesn't actually take you in his eyes, and thinks that you are already his, but it is dispensable, anyway, he has already eaten you, and you will not leave him. Naturally, I don't care much about you.

If this is the case, then be careful.

From this incident, it can be seen that your husband cares more about his in-laws, and it also shows that your husband doesn't love you at all, so he doesn't protect you.

My personal opinion is that it is likely that your husband does not want to turn against his mother, after all, your in-laws' family is your husband's own family.

In fact, the main reason is that your husband doesn't love you enough, and your mother will be more important in your husband's heart, so your husband won't protect you.

In this case, the first thing is to choose to communicate first, and then understand the other party's inner thoughts, if there is no way to endure it, then you can choose to divorce.

Husband and wife are cooperative, to complete the task of giving birth to a small pension, under what circumstances is also a husband and wife, mutual respect, mutual understanding, mutual care, timely communication, and common development, if you have to say status, it should be the female number one, regardless of the husband's attitude, under normal circumstances, the female number one is not replaced, the male number one and the female number one perform wonderfully for life, and the supporting roles of parents and parents spend their old age in peace, and children thrive. As long as you continue to perform according to the requirements of the script, you will definitely get applause and praise. My husband thinks that most of the time my mother-in-law is reasonable, and I am usually obedient to my mother-in-law, and I am used to my mother-in-law arranging things at home, and I have listened to her opinions from childhood to adulthood, so as soon as a similar phenomenon occurs, I take it for granted that you have done something wrong and that you should be bullied.

You need to break down what happened and the truth with your husband afterwards, and change your husband's opinion little by little; At the same time, try to win allies, whether it is a father-in-law or a concubine, as long as the family members who can agree with you and understand your experience. When chatting or discussing, it will also slowly affect your husband's thoughts. Sometimes an outsider's opinion may be more useful than what you say.

Respect for elders is also conditional: you respect me a foot, I respect you. But whoever wants to bully you, this girl is not easy to mess with.

Here, there is no mention of whether you have children in your marriage. But no matter what, it can't be a reason to be bullied by others.

Now, first of all, you can ask to live separately from your mother-in-law. If you are not under one roof, your mother-in-law can no longer go to your house to bully you every day. Secondly, if the husband does not agree, you can live in the flat, or rent a house outside by yourself and not live with them.

If that still doesn't work, you can consider divorce. As a wife, she can not get her husband's understanding and care at home, and she will be bullied by her mother-in-law. In this world, whoever leaves can live well.

There is no need to waste your youth on a person who does not know how to cherish and take care of herself.

The main reason is that you are very filial and protective, and you will always be unreasonable and very troublesome in the family, or it may be because your husband is a mother's boy, or he is more inclined to his original family. That's why this happens.

My husband doesn't protect you, probably because he doesn't treat you as his own family at all, and the husband in the mother-in-law's house is likely to be a mother's boy, so the husband will not protect you, but only his own mother.

It is very likely that it is because your husband doesn't love you, or it is also possible because your husband is a mother's boy, so it will be like this.

Summary. If this is the case, there is no need to stay, the people who have been with them in this life can't earn a position for themselves, and what feelings are there to talk about, it is better to leave.

If it's at the in-law's house. My husband doesn't want you, do you still need to continue living?

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If this is the case, there will be no staying beard, and the people who have been rolling with their white pants in this life will not be able to earn their own heads, and what feelings are there to say, it is better to leave.

My husband is looking forward to my parents, sisters, sisters, sisters, grandchildren, seven aunts, eight aunts, cousins, cousins, uncles, aunts, uncles, aunts, cousins, cousins, and aunts, but I don't have my share.

My wife is always wrong, everyone is perfect, and my position is gone.

yes, it's better to leave early.

This kind of hundred women are unwilling to put the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who are at home towards their parents, and the mother-in-law and sister-in-law towards their sister.

Eat all the dumb losses, men are always helping their parents to cover, I heard that I didn't hear it, I saw it, I didn't see me, so bitter that men didn't help me.

In the family, men and parents unite one line, one line and one line, I am so tormented, I have to get into it.

Yes, it's not easy to be a woman.

1. What is the reason?

It's not easy for my parents, can't you give in more? Every time there is a conflict, the man who stands unconditionally on his parents can't see his wife who works hard for him at home, and only the woman who occasionally talks back to her parents and complains. And in his eyes, even if the parents are wrong, it is just a trivial matter that can be endured with one or two sentences, and there is no need to quarrel at all, so it is your duty to endure and to quarrel is excessive.

Based on this kind of psychological activity, once you have a conflict or dispute with your in-laws, he will protect the people in the family without saying a word, making you the only outsider, and even turning his face with you. <>

Second, what is reflected.

The problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also a more serious problem when getting along with the family, it will be difficult for a man to be caught in the middle, and two women who love themselves, he doesn't want to offend either of them, so he has to do the "angry bag" on both sides to coax you. Because mom, he can't help you blame your mother, and his wife is also his beloved, so he can't hurt his wife because his mother is unhappy. However, when there is a problem with your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the person who directly blames you for protecting his mother has no love for you, and at the critical juncture of the quarrel, he doesn't want to blame you, but he just thinks that he doesn't care if you are sad.

3. Handling methods.

Communication is the only way to solve problems. No matter what kind of problems arise between you and your mother-in-law, you should actively solve them and care more about her. After a long time, your mother-in-law will also rely on you.

Maybe she will be very nagging about you, no matter whether the nagging is useful or not, you should not show impatience, because she only cares about you, maybe in the wrong way, but sincerely. Slowly increase communication and communication with your mother-in-law, so as to increase your feelings for each other and maintain harmony.

I don't like you, or I am afraid that the conflict will be more intense, and I want to sacrifice you in exchange for the harmony of the family, or it may be to provoke you to achieve a certain goal, or it may be to discourage you.

It is very likely that this man is a mother's boy, it may be because he has no voice in the family, no status, or it may be because he feels that you have done something wrong, or it may be because he has no sense of responsibility.

Summary. Dear young lady, good evening, my husband is not at home, and my mother-in-law is good to you, that is because my mother-in-law feels that her son has no way to accompany you, and I feel sorry for you, which means that your mother-in-law is a good mother-in-law.

Why is my husband not at home, and my mother-in-law is good to me.

Dear young lady, good evening, my husband is not at home, and my mother-in-law is good to you, that is because my mother-in-law feels that her son has no way to accompany you, and I feel sorry for you, which means that your mother-in-law is a good mother-in-law.

My mother-in-law doesn't seem to want me to be with her son, and when I am separated from my mother-in-law, my mother-in-law will be good to me.

Little sister, it may be that you think too much, and the mother-in-law who can be good to you should very much want you and his son to be happy.

My husband is good to me, she is jealous and troubles me, but she is afraid that her husband is not good to me, I am speechless, she is good to me, yes, what not to do, why not to do it, she thinks I am lazy, says no, and takes others as examples all day long.

Of course, as a woman, if you stick too much with your husband, it may also make your mother-in-law a little tasteful. After all, it was the son he brought up, and you were too glued together, giving him the feeling that his son didn't care about him anymore. may make him feel that his son forgot his mother when he married his daughter-in-law.

So, young lady, if you can put yourself in his shoes, you will be able to understand his behavior. On the one hand, he hopes that the two of you will be happy, on the other hand, she hopes that her son's heart is not all daughter-in-law, and she also hopes that she has a certain status in her son's heart, so her behavior is a bit contradictory.

Little sister, if you want to get along with your mother-in-law, I have a large number of cases for your reference.

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