What should I do if my child has a bad personality, has a big temperament, loves to cry, and is timi

It's like my child, and it's four years old now, right? You must pay attention, send the child to the kindergarten must choose a good teacher, and the teacher communicates well, or the child goes to school is a big problem, my child began to send to the kindergarten did not communicate well with the teacher, in the school crying and trouble, but then I transferred to him, told the teacher all his character, the teacher is very careful, the child happily went to school for a year, never cried, but not long ago they replaced a teacher, (our children's class is 2 teachers, a nursery, This semester there was a change of teacher and a nursery) came to the new teacher I didn't communicate with her, (I heard that this teacher has been teaching a large class) I observed a few times that she is using the method of pressure to treat the students, alas, my child has always been a soft and not hard guy, this week I don't love school very much, I always have to call once or twice in the morning before leaving, and the teacher who sent it to the classroom did not come to coax it, (the child saw her and held my legs, how to let me go) as if I would not take the child, It's the same this morning, it's okay, she came to coax it over, I think it turns out that he just needs to go over and it's fine, all I'll go, but it's not even 10 minutes away, the teacher ** came, are you the mother of the xx child, hurry up and pick up the child, he cried and made trouble, and he was so angry. I hurried back to the kindergarten, the teacher said how he was, to see a psychiatrist, at that time in order to give the teacher face, I didn't say anything, but their children still have to know best, we think it's okay to change our minds, I think it's still too late, that's a person's character, not overnight can be changed, anxious children I don't advocate using beating to solve the problem, we need to guide, my idea is not to use beating, yelling to educate children, so he is unconvinced.

Your child is also the kind of sensible earlier, my child is too, I now use the "first to judge, then not messy" method, for example, he used to always go out at night to play when he was happy, how to go home, but also to be angry, strangers are not afraid of scare, now I go out first to say good: "First, go home on time, (no later than how long, my mother will call home to go home) Second, you are not allowed to buy things (that is, if you don't plan to buy things for him that night) Third, ,..."All, now he shouted, Mom, I want to go out and play, I haven't opened my mouth, he said first, Mom:

First. Second. It's still very effective for my kid to do this.

Also, when he gets angry because of something, be sure to point out that he is wrong, because my children always think he is right, in short, I think it is not easy to educate good children, I hope you have any good ways to say it and share it, thank you! Mine may not be of much use to you, I just want to use this space here to talk about it.

It's similar to my sister's child, once when he cried, he didn't pant and his lips were purple, and the angry child first had to be careful in everything, communicate more, and many times you think he doesn't understand the words adults have to tell him how this is in a child's language. Every time you cry, you have to ask him why he is crying and what is the purpose of your crying. Maybe the child feels that he has received too little attention and uses this method to attract your attention, or when he is willful, the parents can reprimand him at the same time, and the adults should do it when the child cries, if you plan to ignore him, you disappear from his sight when he cries, and when he is almost crying, he will appear to educate.

You don't really have to worry about it a lot, it's normal for children to cry, and sometimes they cry for no reason. If you are sensitive to **, you can put on more world famous songs before going to bed, and then cultivate a hobby, such as calligraphy and painting, so as to settle down. The diet is also properly regulated.

Since you know that adults are pampered, then let it be less permissive, knowing that you are more distressed, but you still have to be good for the baby, isn't it If you are timid, take him to participate in some outdoor sports, and often go to parks, playgrounds and other places to go for a walk. Don't always ignore him when he's crying, sometimes it's okay to let him cry.

Parents are their children's best teachers.

Children are also very cunning and cry to get the attention of adults.

Hello, glad for your question.

I don't know how old your child is, and children of different ages have different solutions, so here is a brief explanation for you.

2 to 3 years old: Do not respond positively to your child's vexatious aggression and encourage your child to express his emotions correctly;

7 to 9 years old: Don't restrict your child's freedom, cultivate your child's interest in learning, your child has already learned to think independently, it's time for parents to try to give their autonomy to their children gradually, whether it's at home or their own affairs, you might as well discuss with your children.

12 to 18 years old: Adjust your mentality, blame less, be more considerate, be more patient and tolerant. The best way to build a good relationship with an adolescent child is to be equal and respectful, and parents should strive to stand on the same side as their child and maintain smooth parent-child communication.

Leave a certain amount of space for your child and don't interfere or intrude too much.

This is similar to my children, generally children with bad tempers like to be praised, often praised, a little patience and slow guidance.

First, we should pay attention to appropriate guidance, and we can give some information about motivated children, such as the situation of friends in kindergarten, to persuade and educate.

Second, when necessary, psychological counseling for children can also be carried out through special institutions. When the baby grows to the age of four or five, it is the critical time for the psychological development of the personality, and it is necessary to give appropriate guidance in a timely manner, which is conducive to the healthy development of the baby's mind and body.

For this kind of children, we must first control their emotions very important, sometimes we will be affected, and then follow the tantrum, which will only get worse, the second is to have a sense of identity with the child, to think about the matter of their crying with the child's thinking, empathy, so that you can understand why they lose their temper, with a sense of identity and empathy, we can prescribe the right medicine, can be on the point, and then have patience, slowly wait for the comfort to tell them your thoughts and feelings, but also let the child understand your mood, In this way, there is empathy for children, and they will learn to improve each other and slowly change and cheer.

Let the family work together, set rules for the child, if you do something, give some rewards, if you can't do it, there is no reward, or some material punishment.

For example, tidy up your toys, take some small things that you can carry, eat seriously, etc

When complimenting, you should have something to say, and you can't say that you are smart and beautiful, which is not practical. Say that your child is serious and diligent, and let your child follow the words of your praise to make himself better.

My son was often like this when he was a child, when the child loves to cry and lose his temper is a parent's annoyance to make others more annoying, at that time I and the child's mother felt that this was a way for the child to vent his emotions, and when he was tired of crying, he would stop. However, it is also a headache for children to do this often.

In fact, we should pay attention to the child's negative emotions and give patience and response, so that the child can feel that we are respecting his ideas, so that he will confide in you the reasons behind these dissatisfied behaviors, which is a better solution. Rather than ignoring it, it will reduce the chances of communicating with your child.

I would like to share what I learned in the Heart and Wisdom Parents class, where the teacher gave us advice: when we see a child's emotional flow, don't block it. A smooth release will instead clear the inner depression.

Whether we can accept or bear other people's emotions is a person's emotional discomfort, and this ability is very important.

When many parents see their children crying, they will say something like this: cry what to cry, hold back! Parents with poor emotional tolerance often have a bad temper because they are unable to understand and digest emotions.

In fact, emotions are also a kind of voice in children's hearts, and as parents, they must know how to listen to this "voice" to better dredge the dirt in their hearts.

<>1. Don't be in a hurry to stop it. The worse the child's performance, the greater the psychological pressure, and the parents are eager to stop it, which may have a good effect for a while, but it is easy to suffer endlessly: anger and sadness are only suppressed, but it still exists, it is hidden in a corner of the heart, and it will be vented wildly at a suitable time, which may be puberty.

2. Calm down. We must be calm, children can't control their own business to sell and take Sun Wei, but we can be in the chain. Let the child vent hard, we can quietly accompany him, and when Min Yu has vented enough, he should be tired, and our irritability for a while has calmed down, and we can talk about things well.