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The best way to do this is to talk less and listen more and observe the details.
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1. Do more things and talk less
Trouble comes from the mouth, and many people just can't control their mouths, which will cause a lot of unnecessary trouble. The meaning of observing words and colors is to let you look at the behavior of others more, and when others express their opinions, do more**.
The more you talk, the more you can see a person's personality traits. From their words, you can see his attitude and so on. When you're fine, you just have to keep your head down and show yourself with your results.
People who talk a lot often expose a lot of their shortcomings, and the more silent you are, the more you will explode.
2. Make friends with sincerity
You have to have the mindset that no matter what others do to you, as long as you don't treat others with a clear conscience. People's hearts are the most important, and when you make friends now, what you value is sincerity. Discerning through the heart, time is the precipitation of everything.
When you get in touch with him, you can feel if he really treats you. The details of life, the details of your relationship, these are the basis for your discernment.
3. Observe carefully
Most people's true inner activities are revealed in their speech and demeanor, consciously or unconsciously. Therefore, if you want to see a person clearly, then learn a little more about psychology, and then carefully observe in the process of interacting with people, there will definitely be unexpected effects. Some people are simpler in heart and more simple and straightforward in character.
Such a person will say something in his speech, and he does not bother to hide it. Even the smile looks genuine. When talking to someone, the glasses will look directly at the person, and the sincerity can be seen in the eyes.
Others may have a more complex heart and are good at hiding their true thoughts. There are some people who do it on purpose, and they are more scheming, in order to achieve their desired goals.
When talking to others, this type of person will have more wandering eyes, and there may be more small movements on the hands or body. That's a knee-jerk cover-up. Therefore, as long as you observe carefully and practice a lot, you can observe words and emotions in life, roughly judge what kind of psychological state the other party is, and respond more appropriately.
4. Empathy
When you don't know how to read words and emotions and figure out the minds of others, the best solution is to put yourself in their shoes. Because it is much easier to know yourself than it is to know others. So when you don't know if you are going to do harm to others.
If you are in someone else's position, you want them to be able to treat you and communicate with you.
If you are the other person, what kind of emotion will you feel when you say such a thing? Usually, you can practice this way of empathy, whether it is right or wrong, and analyze and guess more in your own mind. After you guess the thoughts of others many times, your ability to read words and colors will be greatly improved, and your self-confidence in communicating with others will also be greatly enhanced.
5. Expand your social circle
You have to dare to go out and make friends with people, get to know a little more people, and you will have the opportunity to distinguish others. Otherwise, if you don't have any friends, how can you know people.
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1. Don't talk on your own.
When communicating with anyone, you should not blindly express your own thoughts, or talk about your own nagging or complaining. When you are communicating with anyone, talking to yourself is a big taboo, which will not only make your words become a pile of "garbage", but also make the other party have endless disgust with you as a person. Even if you hope to achieve something about yourself through your narrative, your speech should be in moderation, not verbose, and not dismissive.
02Observe the other person's eye contact.
Of course, people's eyes can be disguised, such as pretending to be affectionate and sincere, but the time of this disguise will be very short, once the time of disguise is short, the words coming out of the eyes are more sincere than the words coming out of the mouth. Therefore, when communicating with others or observing people, remember to observe the message conveyed by the other person's eyes, and many times, you will see a different "world" in the eyes of others.
03 The other party suddenly made some small movements.
Observing words and colors, it is not only the expressions that are observed, but also the actions. No matter how deep a person is, he will use words to cover his heart, or disguise his eyes very incomprehensibly, but there will always be some small actions that allow you to see the true state of his heart. For example, when you communicate with the other party, the other party suddenly starts to tap on the desktop with his hand, or keeps looking at the watch, then you have to quickly end your topic, or change your topic, which is the most important ability to observe words and colors.
04Pay attention to the other person's emotions.
When we communicate with others, if we keep our heads down and only care about expressing our thoughts, such people are called people who have no eyes and cannot see their faces. If you want to learn to read words and colors, you must express your thoughts and look at the subtle changes in the other person's expression. For example, a frown, a yawn, a slight squint, etc., are very revealing.
Either the other party values you very much, or the other party has doubts and dislikes you, etc. Therefore, when communicating, you must pay attention to the other person's expression and subtle emotions.
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Maintain your true colors, learn to be silent and respond, this is called the soldier to block, the water to cover is, it seems to be the most secondary method, but it is also the most practical way, especially for honest people, if you can't see through, we will pretend to be confused, anyway, I won't do it if you damage my interests, you have a thousand plans, I have old ideas, this stupid method is suitable for those who really can't change themselves, honest people for a lifetime, this is called stupid people have stupid blessings.
This is called preconceived, in fact, people need this process to interact with each other, at the beginning, the only way to not let yourself be passive is to talk about your own property first, things first to do your own, we show sincerity, so that others feel that you are wholeheartedly making friends, rather than playing with the eyes of the heart, in this way, it will give others an invisible pressure on their hearts, if you develop this habit, other people's reactions can quickly observe their character and conduct.
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To observe words and colors is to observe the words and expressions of others, and then figure out the minds of others. Everyone's thoughts and thoughts will be unconsciously revealed on their faces, and everyone will have their own essence, which will be reflected in the tone of speech and voice, and through this method, you can make a rough judgment on a person very quickly and help you gain insight into people's hearts.
Learn to observe words and colors, in order to do what they like.
People with high emotional intelligence generally look at words and emotions and know the true intentions of others. And honest people are simple-hearted and easily deceived. Guiguzi proposed ten mantras to teach you to easily see through the other party's heart.
Observation. Those who are rude-hearted and rude-hearted will have a deep voice.
A person with a rough heart, his voice is often heavy, loose, and loose. Such a person cannot be entrusted with great things.
Those who are cautious in their hearts will have their voices and knots.
A person with a detailed and cautious heart, his voice tends to be gentle and rhythmic, and it sounds very organized. This kind of person often speaks only after deep thought in his heart.
Those who are angry and despicable have a rough voice.
A person who is very disdainful and angry, his voice is often very rough. If you are not educated, you must be careful when interacting with this kind of person, and do not provoke it.
Those who are soft-hearted have a warm voice.
A person with a very tolerant and gentle heart, his voice is often as warm as jade, and it sounds very comfortable. This kind of person treats people gently and makes people feel like a spring breeze.
Look. Sincerity and wisdom must have the color of understanding.
Wise and intelligent people often have a clear and frank look on their faces. Because the brain spins fast, it reacts quickly.
Sincerity and benevolence must have a gentle color.
People who are benevolent and generous often have a gentle and loving look on their faces. The face is born from the heart, and the mercy is kind.
Sincerity and courage must have the color of perseverance.
Brave and fearless people often have an uplifting, arrogant and conceited look on their faces. Confident and fearless, with an empty eye.
Honesty and loyalty, there must be considerable color.
Loyal and reliable people often have an intriguing look on their faces, are resolute and resolute, and do not look back when they recognize a thing.
Sincerity will have a difficult color.
A person of noble temperament and otherworldliness often has a look on his face that cannot be defiled or approached at will. It can be viewed from a distance and not blasphemed!
Honesty must be credible.
People who have integrity and maintain discipline often have a convincing and trustworthy look on their faces. It's worth entrusting.
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Step 1: Adjust your mindset and increase your vigilance. If you want to learn to observe words and colors, you must first cultivate your own character to be steady, your heart sinks, whatever others say is born from your heart, every sentence must have a reason just the difference between big and small, we only need to do the following thinking to slowly cultivate ourselves:
1. Why did he say this to me?
2. What angle or position does he stand on in this sentence?
3. The background of this sentence.
Fourth, what is the personality of this person and how to answer appropriately. Thinking like this can cultivate our observation of words and feelings, but before thinking like this, we also need two changes in mentality, keep the mentality calm, and improve the vigilant mentality, which refers to the vigilant mentality is not sensitive to everything, and it is a kind of resistance and prevention psychology to some strange, hostile or ** social figures.
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In order to observe words and colors, we must learn from one expression and one mouth. frowned and saw what people meant. Or be able to understand what people are saying.
This usually requires understanding some psychology, and learning more knowledge, and having knowledge to do skills, so that you can understand the actual thoughts of others.
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There are only four words in the eyes In fact, there is a lot of knowledge in it, you have to learn a lot of things, you only need to do yourself well in the early stage, and then watch and listen more, this needs to be accumulated.
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