Blind date meets lukewarm man Ask for reasons and solutions

Updated on psychology 2024-04-07
30 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    That's right, I go on a blind date less than 10 times a month and only see him once, but the premise is that we met last year and I rejected him, and this year because of fate we have no intention of meeting again, and he eats back grass, so I plan to wait.

    You think you can ask directly, you can say I don't think you are sincere, it's better for us to calm down for a while (this is made by my friend, although I haven't used it, but I think the effect should be good), if he cares about you, he will contact you, or have further development.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Personally, I don't think there's any need to spend any more time and effort on this man, he is purely using you as a spare tire, you have to believe that a man will not have this attitude when he meets a woman he likes, and it is doubtful that you are not the only one who is in contact with him.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    You can directly ask him how he feels about you, the purpose of the blind date is very clear, the goal and general direction of the two is to get married, if you just want to fall in love, in order to fill the loneliness in your heart, there is no need to go on a blind date. You can also take the initiative to ask him out, but don't be too proactive, girl. First of all, when you are friends, you can talk about it from shallow to deep, and after a long time, you can better understand whether the other party is suitable for you.

    Don't talk about the past emotional experience when you go on a blind date, it's too nonsensical, who wants to listen to the emotional stories of the people they like and others?! If he doesn't ask, he won't mention it again, and even if he does, he will try to be as concise as possible. I wish you all success in holding hands!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Keep a calm mind, give him another month, and give up if you still do this, he may not like you that much.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Don't get married for the sake of getting married. A hasty marriage leads to divorce and is even more depressing. It's better to find someone who likes each other!

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    First of all, greetings; Hello landlord! Thank you for speaking my mind, I came to your question and hope it helps you because we have something in common. (The title of lukewarm man is perfect for me).

    There are several reasons for meeting a lukewarm man;

    1. He had never been in contact with girls before, and he was inevitably a little shy when they met for the first time.

    2. There is no common language for the first time you meet, so you don't know what to say in the first sentence of the meeting, and it is easy for outsiders to associate it with lukewarm, and you will really understand him after a long time.

    3. The man has a bad life, he has low self-esteem, and even a month's salary is not as high as the landlord (if a woman is stronger than a man, it is a great shame for a man, so there will be pressure in the man's heart).

    Remember, if others are willing to go on a blind date, it means that half of the agreement has been made, both parties should be humble and understand each other, and should not doubt each other's loyalty from time to time, in the face of love, the IQ of lovers is zero, remember; Know how to cherish to deserve to have! Once an eternal classic love is lost, it can never be returned.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    The first time I went on a blind date, I inadvertently said and?

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    The two of them are also introverted, and one person has to take the initiative to change it, otherwise they will be pulled down together in the future, and they are proud of what age, and if they like it, they will give it a little bit Occasionally, the royal sister is also quite fun.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    800 messages? So itchy? Would a normal person be like this?

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    If the blind date is lukewarm to you, it means that he may be this character, if you like it, you can behave enthusiastically and see how he reacts, if he is still lukewarm, don't date.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    If you like this guy very much, you can post more news in the circle of friends to attract him to interact with you, if this boy sees your circle of friends and ignores you, it means that people are not interesting to you at all, then you are still looking for a new one.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    It may be because your blind date doesn't like you at all and has a bad first impression of you, and secondly, because he is particularly shy, that's why it's like this.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Personally, I feel that if you meet such a blind date, you can walk away as soon as possible, because such a blind date generally does not pay much attention to feelings.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    1.Increase initiative.

    Blind date is an activity that everyone holds the belief of a quick decision and talks about the main elements of the blind date before it can be carried out smoothly. This is not a matter of course when the emotional foundation reaches a certain level, but a friendship that is carried out only when both families, including the parties, have the need to get married.

    Since boys are not active enough now, I want you to create more opportunities. Even if the final result is not suitable, it can only be seen through communication, and then everyone chooses another family as soon as possible, choose the best of the best, and pick the best, after all, blind date is not a matter of getting along.

    2.Look closely.

    In the process of getting along with a boy, you need to check whether he is more attentive to you in doing things and whether he is committed to you in details. For example, when you are on a date together, is he willing to spend money on you, even if it is to buy you a drink. Or, whether he takes good care of you in details, such as driving or taking a taxi to pick you up when you go out on a date.

    From this caring, thoughtful detail, you can see whether he really values you or not.

    3.Relatives beat side drums.

    Judging from your description, his parents are quite happy with you. Then you can ask your parents to help you communicate with the other parent and beat the side drum. For example, let them say:

    My daughter is young and has little experience in relationships, so I hope the boy will take the initiative to talk to her more. In this way, you can also communicate your ideas clearly and put some pressure on the boy to promote your development.

    4.?Elevate yourself.

    Don't neglect to improve your own conditions at any time, if you are really like Lin Chiling.

    Liu Yifei is so good, then he will be more enthusiastic about you even if he is a stuffy gourd. Maintain good posture, elegant and dignified manners, be diligent in makeup and dress, expand your knowledge, etc. When you become sparkling, it will inspire him to you.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    If the guy on the blind date is not enthusiastic, then I will try to liven up the atmosphere, ask some questions that need to be asked, and then slowly bring it to the point.

    If he is still in such a situation, then I feel that it can basically be over, blind date is the process of getting to know each other, so it will be difficult to have a further understanding without enthusiastic chat, and there will be no development basically.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    The blind date man is not enthusiastic, it is obvious that she just doesn't want to go on a blind date, maybe he still has someone hidden in his heart, or it may be that you did not meet his communication requirements. Of course, there is also a possibility that he is not good at words in the first place. If you think it's okay, either try to communicate for another day or two, and then ask him directly what he thinks of you, and get straight to the point.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    If it's really not appropriate, then there's no need to waste time. But if it's the other party's personality, etc., you should find a suitable three ways to avoid misunderstandings and misses.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    It may be that there is no match, there is no need to force it, give up and look for the next opportunity.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    As a girl, I'm more passive. If, the boy doesn't take the initiative. I'm going to be skeptical about the relationship.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    If you believe it for the first time, the boy doesn't take the initiative like this, then it means that the boy's words are a little bit of a desire to get away with it, and if you feel that you can talk about it, you can talk about it, and you can do it without talking about it, so if you feel that you like him, you should take the initiative.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    I think most girls will wait when the blind date man doesn't take the initiative. Because they want to see what the hell this guy means.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    If the blind date boy is not particularly enthusiastic, first of all, you have to feel whether you are willing to continue to communicate, if you don't have what you need to express to each other before, then you don't need to care about other people's thoughts and purposes to communicate, just that.

    I suggest that you can guide through some topics, etc., so as to ensure that there will be more communication in the future, and may compare solutions.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    The blind date is not very enthusiastic.,Maybe it's related to his personality.,He's a chronic person or his personality is the kind of boy who is more introverted.,Because I don't know what to talk about.。 If such a boy is not what he likes, then he may not meet him again in the future.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Sister, you're still too polite, if that's the case, I'll just find an excuse to leave, in this situation, I don't know what the other party is cold, I don't like it very much, it seems that I'm also holding on.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    I think you have too many concerns, and blind date is a thing that attaches great importance to the first feeling, if the first impression of this boy is not good, then it must be cold and unenthusiastic, and it will not be able to develop later. You should pay more attention to your own inner feelings than what the other person thinks.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    The blind date man is not enthusiastic The first may be that you are not her ideal type, and she doesn't like you, or he is more introverted, and he is not the kind of man who is enthusiastic and generous, he.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    1.You have to understand that he is looking at you, he doesn't want to confirm the relationship with you, he just wants to see if you are suitable for marriage, you have to be patient2He doesn't take the initiative to contact you, and you don't take the initiative to contact him, you can tell him that you don't know much about it now, you can understand it first, and then see if it's suitable, if you think it's suitable, you can continue to date, if you don't think it's suitable, then you can be friends, but you don't want to contact again.

    3.If he has a crush on you, he will reach out to you if he doesn't have a crush on you at all.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    Summary. The first case: not enthusiastic because you like you not crazy enough.

    The second case: due to personality, many men like to be a little stream. The third case:

    It is not convenient for him to show enthusiasm, because you are not very familiar with each other, and I am afraid that you will think that he is rude or reckless. But in combination with the situation you mentioned, taking the initiative, meeting your parents, looking forward to your future life, etc., should belong to the third situation. Remember, a man who doesn't like you will never offer to take you home or meet your parents.

    The reason why the blind date man is tepid.

    The first case: not enthusiastic because you like you not crazy enough. The second scenario:

    Due to personality, many men like to go through the long stream. The third case: it is inconvenient for him to show enthusiasm, because you are not very familiar with each other, and I am afraid that you will think that he is rude or reckless.

    But in combination with the situation you mentioned, taking the initiative, meeting your parents, looking forward to your future life, etc., should belong to the third situation. Remember, a man who doesn't like you will never offer to take you home or meet your parents.

    You can try to develop it further and ask him about his attitude. See what his attitude is. Remember, marriage that is not intended for love is a hooligan.

    You can try to take the initiative to ask him, we have lived for so long, and now that we know each other, can you see if we are considering getting married? See what he has to say.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    Now men and women blind dates are first added to WeChat chat, and then make an appointment to meet, everyone is more common to be that boys are very active in talking to girls, but if the blind date man is lukewarm, so that you feel uncomfortable, it is indeed possible to pick it out, if you are sure that both parties are not interesting, then there is no need to continue.

    In fact, boys sometimes want to go further in the relationship, but the woman reacts slowly, so the whole rhythm will slow down! Sometimes, the woman will not feel what is in her heart, so the boy does not know how to continue, I personally feel that if I want to go forward, I will show it, there is a good saying: as long as the girl takes one step forward, the boy can take ninety-nine steps forward!

    In today's society, it doesn't matter who chases whom, the woman is bold and dares to be clear, but she can be subtle!

    I think there are two possibilities:

    1. If you want to get away with it, he is afraid that he will be looked down upon by you too actively, so he will reject him. This is very likely, many men are very good at using this trick and have tried it repeatedly.

    2. He is not interested in you, and he only contacts you after thinking of you for a long time. It is very likely that he has a crush or is having an affair, which means that you are actually a spare tire for him.

    He only thinks of you when he is frustrated, or when he is lost.

    For the above two reasons, I would like to give you two suggestions:

    1. If he is interested in you (recall the state he felt every time he contacted you), and it was just a means to get away with it, then it depends on whether you have feelings for him, and if you do, tell him openly or secretly, and you can be happy together.

    2, give up this kind of thing, tell him clearly that you are not interested in him, break it off quickly, and find a new love.

    There are two kinds, one will not express, one is that I really don't like you, if it is the first, I think it is acceptable, if it is the second, I don't think there is a need to develop, you can try it, for example, you directly say where to play tomorrow (it is better that he goes to a little difficult, either the time is difficult, or the distance is difficult), if the reason is prevarication, it is the second kind, if there is difficulty and customer service, I guess he is the first type, but he will not express it.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    Several situations, the first one, the most direct point is that I don't have much interest in you, but I don't want to give up, a bit of riding a donkey to read the record book, if there is still a good one, your only possibility is to be dumped. The second is the sullen mentioned above, plus the work is really busy, and I don't know how to express the love in my heart, so there is no way to say it. Third, you may be too good and beautiful, which puts a lot of pressure on him, and you say that it is an entrepreneurial period, and it is a long place, so he feels that he may not be able to be together in the future, so he is very hesitant.

    The last one is personality reasons, and they don't know each other.

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