My boyfriend has a baby. How to talk to the family.

Khan....Let's talk to your family slowly first, and see how your family reacts, the ugly daughter-in-law always wants to see her in-laws, stretch out her head and shrink her head, let's say it, and your attitude is also very important.

It seems that his family is preparing for both. This is what your boyfriend did, let him solve it, you love him very much, but your mother will definitely not agree to it, so you can't say it here, so you have to let him solve the matter on their side, and if this can't be solved, then...

It's a good thing, I can have one more child in the future, two children.

It's really hard to say this, so let's not talk about it, depending on your attitude, and I'll talk about it when you get married.

Let's wait a few years. You are too young and have no foundation, and if you say it, you will definitely oppose you.

19Do you want to get married? I don't think I'll talk about it yet. It's still early, and you're still a few years away from getting married.

When the time comes, if he still loves you. Your parents can see it, too. At that time, although the elder is very reluctant to have this episode, he will also take into account his heart and nod his head.

If he changes by then, you don't need to carry the opposition and blame of your family at that time.

19 years old. What kind of love do you know?

Wait until 25.

If I were you, I wouldn't have thought about what to do at all, but just said goodbye to him, don't ask me why, there's no way I can't accept that I am a mother to someone else before I get married, and if he is married and has a child, this is still with him when I know it, he didn't lie to me, the relationship between us was born after I was already clear about his situation when we first met, and it is actually understandable to have children after marriage.

But he lied to me, he told me that he had a child after we fell in love, how to say this, is it just waiting for me to fall in love with him, after I can't leave him, I can only accept that he has a child, people like him can say that he lied to me, now just tell me that he has a child, is he going to tell me in the future that he was not divorced when he was with me, and even told me before marriage that he was not divorced, but the relationship is not compatible.

I can't accept that a boy has children, and he has children before marriage, what does this mean, if he proposes to break up, it means that he is a scumbag, if it is a woman who chooses to leave him after giving birth, then it means that he has done something that makes the woman particularly disappointed People abandon the child and leave him, such a boy, you just think about it, is what you want, I can't let myself be with such a boy anyway.

So if I let me know, I will choose to leave him directly, no matter how he begs me, no matter how he explains, no matter how he says that he loves me, it is useless, because there is no way to solve the problem, maybe he loves me now, but after we get married, we will also have our own children, and I am not ready to be a stepmother, if he is too good to the child I will be psychologically uncomfortable, if he is not good to the child, I will also feel that he is not responsible, not a good father, so I can't do anything.

So why should I embarrass myself, why should I be with such a man, I think he may be more suitable to find someone who can accept this situation.

It's like he's been deceiving you all along, and you've been living a lie all this timeMany people may choose to break up immediately when they encounter this kind of thing, and they are unwilling to stay for a second, on the one hand, they can't accept the other party's deception, and on the other hand, they can't accept the fact that the other party has children. But I think we should figure out what is going on before we make a decision

Being deceived will definitely be unwilling, but if we think about it the other way, the reason why he chose to cheat on you is nothing more than the fear that you will break up with him because of this matter, and even refuse to associate with him. In fact, there are many similar things, from your point of view, your relationship is based on a lie, but in his opinion, this lie is nothing more than trying to get yourself a chance. If you really can't accept this matter, you can choose to break up with him and end this relationship, although you will also be hurt a little, but at least your future life will not be affected.

If you're okay with that, then we should think about the next step. Does the child live with his father or with his mother? If you live with your mother, at least you don't have to take care of one more child, which can reduce a lot of conflicts.

However, your boyfriend will definitely have to pay child support every month, can you accept this monthly payment? If you can't accept it, don't continue the relationship either. And why did your boyfriend choose to divorce in the first place?

This matter also needs to be clarified.

Some men may divorce because of various shortcomings, then you should consider whether you can accept these shortcomings, and the shortcomings may be magnified several times after marriage. Don't expect men to change for you, it's basically impossible. Perhaps figuring out the reasons for his previous divorce can help you make a decision later.

This matter seems to be very complicated, but in fact, it is not so difficult to choose, it mainly depends on your inner thoughts.

This situation is up to you, if you have a very deep relationship with your boyfriend, you can accept this child, you can continue to get along with him, but if you think about it carefully, you can't accept this child, then you don't want to get along with him, and this child will definitely affect your relationship and marriage more or less in your future life [China refuel] [China refuel] [China refuel] [China refuel] [China refuel] [China refuel].

Questions. When I was with my boyfriend, I didn't ask him how old he was because of my negligence Until his ex-girlfriend came to me and told me that he had a child, I couldn't believe it Every time I asked him, he said that it wasn't mine, it was my brother's, you don't believe me, forget it, and then one day he confessed and I didn't say anything more My boyfriend is 26 years old, I was 17 years old, and people thought I was a sugar daddy, the truth is that he didn't have anything, that child was 5 years old, I was 12 years older than that child, and everyone else's family was brother and sister, and the difference was 12 years old, so what ......about me

If this is the case, it means that this man is lying! It is a serious character problem and is not trustworthy.

If you know it when you know it, then there is no need to dwell on it, and if it is in the follow-up, it is best to choose to break up.

Break up, because this matter is very serious, if you don't have children, and he has children, there will be many problems in the future.

If you love him and you can accept his child, then you should marry him, and if you don't love him very much, then you can break up with him.

In the face of this situation, you need to consider the relationship between two people, if you love him very much and don't mind this situation, you can choose to continue with the other person.

In the face of people who are not honest, we should be cautious. If you are rushing to get married, the other party's family history and past experience must be investigated. If Qing Qi filmed him capable and neat, he had been married and had children before, in fact, it was not a big deal, the key was the cultivation of the two!

In such cases, individuals have the following recommendations.

First, if you really can't accept the fact that you can end the relationship cleanly, but I don't think it's the best choice, nor is it a wise choice, your boyfriend finally explained everything he had before with you, indicating that he has completely regarded you as his dearest person and has no reservations about you, so he will tell you what he was going to rot in his stomach before.

Second, life always has to go on, and you will learn to accept this unsatisfactory result if he really loves you, I believe you will not choose to divorce or break up, because you know his feelings for you in the past two years, and at the same time you have to think about the future of self-envy, marriage is a lifelong thing. There will always be some people who choose to be stubborn in such a major life event, which will lead to regret it for a long time to come, regretting why they were so stubborn at that time!

Third, regarding the issue of children, if you accept this fact, discuss with your boyfriend, and reach an agreement, the child can go to see it occasionally, but you can't break the original stable life, wronged yourself and become your boyfriend's child, this is unfair to you! You also have to let your boyfriend know your bottom line, and don't hurt you again and again because of your children, which will eventually lead to irreparable consequences. I hope you can find a balance between your boyfriend, your boyfriend's children and yourself, first of all, you will not disrupt your originally stable life, and secondly, you will not hurt your boyfriend, and then on this basis, you will meet the child's missing father's love!

Now it's mostly up to you. You can take it slowly, think about it yourself seriously, put all the questions out, see what you can accept, what you can't, and say it to your boyfriend if you can't. If it can be solved, it will be solved, and if it can't be solved, then forget it, otherwise there will be many contradictions in the future!

If you feel that you have no way to accept this matter, you need to talk to your boyfriend, and then choose to break up, and if you can accept it, you can consider getting married.

You should break up with him immediately, because your boyfriend Liquid Yuan also has a child, and he must have cheated on you before, so he is also very disloyal to you.

You should break up with each other immediately, because you are not married yet, so you should not waste your youth on each other, this is responsible for yourself.

Hello dear, in this case, there are several ways to say it. First, if the stool has a history of marriage, in this case, you can tell your boyfriend openly and let him tell his parents that he once had a child, but he was not standing by his side. Second, if your boyfriend knows that she has given birth to a child, but her boyfriend doesn't mind if he has a history of marriage, in this case, he can not tell his boyfriend's parents about it.

Three, dear, in this case, if there is a matchmaker who acts as a bridge, you can let your matchmaker tell your boyfriend's parents directly, so that they can be mentally prepared to accept everything you have to travel.

Hello. Tell your boyfriend for example that you have children. You can do that.

First, you record an example. Let's say you watched the news. There is a family with a second marriage, and it is also very happy after marriage.

How to give an example. Then ask your boyfriend what he thinks about it.

Know his opinion, and tell him about your own situation in the future to see if he can accept it.

Is there anything else. Other examples.

Two people who are married for the second time, one party knows that the other party has children, and as a result, the two people separate.

There are only two cases of this happening.

The first is to know that the two people will be together in the future, and the second is to know that the two people will be separated in the future.

How long have you been together? What kind of temperament do you think your boyfriend is?

That is to say, this kind of thing is related to people's temper, some people's temper may be acceptable, but some people can't accept it.

Bad temper Good temper to me.

You can say that you have a friend who is married for the second time.

Your friends also have children, but they are also very happy in the future.

He didn't mean it about it, but he got angry when you didn't tell him the truth in the first place.

Tell him well in this situation, and he will definitely understand you.

Try to make your experience as miserable as possible, right, then it will be more sympathetic to you and can't bear to hurt you. <>

You want to tell your parents that you have a boyfriend, so to speak:"Mom and Dad, I have a boyfriend. He is a nice guy and we had a lot of fun together.

I want to tell you that I love you very much and want you to be happy for your daughter. "Telling your parents about their personal lives can be a cause for concern, but if you approach them with a candid, honest and honest attitude, you shouldn't have too many problems. The most important thing is to be respectful of your parents' feelings and ideas, and try to build trust and communication with them.