She betrayed you, I m sorry for you, what will you do

It depends on what the situation is.

When I was in school, my best friend betrayed me and said a lot of bad things about me in front of the teacher, and finally the teacher told me about it, and I knew that I was very angry at the time, and I didn't come back with him after that, and regretted that I changed schools, and we both went to another school.

At that time, I was already in high school, we met again, he was looking for me at the time, asking me to forgive him, I didn't talk to him, he then had Lu Qing come to play with me one after another, talk to me, and slowly I also talked to him, he didn't say anything embarrassed or sorry to me, but he slowly forgave him in his heart.

I'm a person who doesn't hurt me before, no matter how deep you hurt me before, as long as you talk to me well later, I will say a soft word, I can forgive you, I know this kind of character is particularly bad, but I can't change it, as if I'm not the kind of person who is particularly ruthless, so sometimes I will always get hurt a lot! No matter how cruel others scold me, how fierce I am, how can I say that I am not good, as long as he comes to me and says a good word to me, I will forgive him with a soft heart, and the result will be in exchange for repeated betrayal, many people say that I am stupid, but this kind of character is particularly difficult to change!

It depends, if you don't mind this kind of thing, and you don't mind betraying again, you have to forgive, and if you can't accept it, let each other go.

No. 1. Don't try and force yourself to forgive someone who betrayed you.

Betrayal is already an established fact, and it is also a tragic result, if you force yourself to forgive, isn't it unprincipled, and there is no distinction between right and wrong?

Betrayal can never be truly forgotten, let alone truly let go. The only thing we can do is to make ourselves more and more peaceful and less concerned.

Trying to heal the pain with the emotion of "forgiveness" is obviously not the best way, but it will make you fall into deep self-blame and remorse, why should you be so cruel to yourself who has been betrayed?

Perhaps many people think that "forgiveness" is the highest state of forgetting, but I would like to say that in the face of betrayal, it is impossible to use "forgiveness" to forget. No one can really forget the fact of being hurt.

But those who want to forgive betrayal are not relieved, but reluctant.

Instead of being a "seemingly saint" who is "fake detached", it is better to face your emotions truthfully and accept the current situation: don't try to forgive, don't try to get rid of it, time has the most wonderful effect on any pain, what about slowing down?

Respecting the principle of emotional dissipation and emotional dilution, and bravely going through these processes at what stage should be experienced is the greatest release for yourself.

2. Don't deliberately understand the reason for the so-called "betrayal".

Why should we recognize and understand the causes of "betrayal"? Isn't this rubbing salt on the wound?

Because any betrayal is destined to be deliberate at the moment it arises, no matter what the reason, it is a human error for the "initiator", so why bother to seek and explore?

Those who often want to get themselves out of the "betrayal" will sigh for themselves while also finding reasons for the "betrayal" behavior of the other party.

I thought this was to show my tolerance and open-mindedness, but I didn't know that this was the biggest punishment for myself!

This process and practice of trying to understand the reasons for "betrayal" is like a total denial of one's past; It is also a "repetition of betrayal" of himself at this moment.

We really don't have to find reasons for those betrayals or things, the reasons are really simple, it's nothing more than that: I don't love anymore, I don't love enough, I give up on you.

3. The real letting go is "forgetting to let go" and remaining insensitive.

Don't deliberately let go if you can't let go, don't force yourself to forgive if you don't want to forgive, and return to the most basic and daily life.

You can vent, scream, and even rebuke the person who betrayed you; You can also drink and indulge for three days and three nights; You can also give yourself a little vacation and do what you once wanted to do but never had the opportunity to do.

In short, you can allow yourself to give yourself an exit and a certain amount of time after being betrayed, and gain relief in the short term, but you must not let yourself fall into the abyss of self-blame and "why".

After all, no matter how much you try to find out the cause or blame yourself, the person you once loved madly no longer belongs to you.

Waiting for the passage of time, you will find that you can really face "that person" without any waves.

This is the highest state of "non-feeling" – letting go.

Betrayal is a very serious thing, and for a person who has been betrayed, some may forgive his or her partner, while others will not. It depends on the individual's situation and feelings.

If you decide to forgive him, consider having an open and honest conversation with him so that she understands her hurt and discuss how you can avoid something similar from happening again in the future. Then, you can work together to restore trust and rebuild your relationship.

However, if you feel that it is impossible to forgive him or her, or you feel that you are not willing to forgive him, then perhaps you should consider ending the relationship. While separation can be painful, if you feel like you can't live with the relationship anymore, or you feel like you can't trust him or her anymore, then terminating the relationship may be a better option.