What is it like to have everyone in your circle who is better than you?

Student dog, the college entrance examination performed exceptionally and came to the imperial capital of 211, the first exam class from the bottom, and did not hold any position in the class. It feels like it's not as good as others in any aspect.

As a newcomer who has just graduated with a master's degree in financial engineering (but is very bad) and entered the quantitative field, I am surrounded by PhDs in mathematics and physics, and they have all worked for at least 5 years. My seniors are not only knowledgeable, with a variety of financial models at their fingertips, but also first-class programming, active thinking, lively and cheerful, rigorous and pragmatic. One thing they have in common is that they are very dark-bellied.

I'm about to change from an academic king to a working person, and my new colleagues with me have started to introduce themselves one by one in the company's Facebook group, which really blinded my eyes! The first one is Hayep's star squash star female player, who also engages in triathlon rallying, and the other international student has won a world science and technology competition since he was a child, and has an asteroid of his own name.

In 2013, I didn't pass the X certificate, they passed the high interpretation and translation certificate, in 2014, they passed the X certificate, they passed the judicial examination, in 2015, they passed the X certificate, they passed the CPA, in 2016, they didn't pass the X certificate, and they applied for other exams that I couldn't understand.

I spent four years in college like this (crying), graduated from high school from a province in the northwest and entered a university in HK, the first year of English was too poor to speak in class, and I couldn't do a good presentation, but I learned subjects with high language requirements (young and ignorant). Most of the classmates around me are very adventurous and self-motivated, but I have a very quiet personality, introverted, and then all kinds of unaccustomed, inferiority, and I can't make any friends, and my boyfriend doesn't have any, so the first year of GPA is only, and although the next four years are improving, I didn't get my grades to 3 after graduation.

Admitted to Peking Medicine, Peking University commissioned training for 2 years, those 2 years, it was really a flock of chickens and cranes, every time I finished class, I wanted to cry, and the teacher basically couldn't understand what the teacher said. I have to make up for it every time.

Both high school and college went to places where most of the people around me were better than me. At first, immersed in the joy of extraordinary play, I will soon be hit by a huge gap and there is no scum left, and then I begin to have a feeling of dying and struggling, every time I see others, the feeling is God, why do they understand everything, why are they so generous and cheerful, why can I say that I am completely engaged in reading, why am I so weak.

When I was in my third year of high school, I went from an ordinary high school to a unified enrollment class of a key high school in the city. The classmates in that class were several levels higher than me in terms of three views, grades, life goals, family background, and understanding of how to behave in the world. What kind of feeling is this, the friends I have made in this class are still friends I keep in touch with, but I still feel a sense of alienation in my heart, and this sense of alienation may be considered "their class is not mine."

When I was in elementary school, whether it was mathematics, Chinese or art, I won the first prize above the school level, and the only person in the town was admitted to the strongest (one) junior high school in the city (this province), and the enrollment ranked 200 + 350 +, the blow was not enough, the head teacher counted the results of the class Olympiad, and as a result, more than half of the class won the first prize in the country, and more than 10 people won the full score award.

Excellent people always come from excellent circles, not because the original distribution of circles is excellent. It's because they can make the circle great.

Our own world is a three-dimensional object (the part that can be perceived so far) and everyone is in this object. There are many people, many dismantling the world, scattered in this generalized world, we are three-dimensional objects, but the different aspects of this three-dimensional body are mixed and intertwined by other people's worlds, and we will also form other people's worlds. However, sometimes, we only have one side to contact with others, or only one side of others, we work hard to make ourselves shine, so that the light can shine on that side, so that he can respect the good person and know your light, slowly, you illuminate yourself at the same time, but also illuminate a point, a line, a corner, a surface of the other world...

In order to make the light better illuminate others, you begin to change your shape, and others also begin to connect and intertwine with the wider world according to your shape in order for your light to shine on them.

The light you emit illuminates other people, it does not consume your energy, but your light is illuminated by the refraction of others.

So you make the rules of society, and you are the rules of society.

And so you became the sun.

But don't worry about being weak, because only those who have gone from weak to strong know how to deal with all beings.

That's why we should be a strong man.

I want to shine, although it is small, but after the reflection and refraction of different worlds, it is a milky way.

I'm a stay-at-home mom with a narrow circle in real life. So I just posted some courses online. Then through these courses, you can meet people who are better than you. Then follow them slowly into different circles.

First of all, we must maintain an optimistic and positive attitude towards life, read more books and learn more, try to make yourself better, and only when you are excellent will you integrate into a better circle.

First of all, you must strive to make yourself excellent, things are like people, people are grouped, and if you are excellent, you will naturally attract excellent people to make friends with you. Secondly, we must know how to behave and do things, be polite, be a literate person, be able to be a good person, and naturally attract more excellent people.

Some of the better people, or some good circles, they have one thing in common, that is, they will have very politeness and quality, if you are very civilized to greet them, they will also be happy to talk to you, then you can ask them some questions.

If you want to reach out to people who are better than yourself, you must first do the following two things:1Pay attention to your appearance and be polite.

2.Try to make yourself better. Only if you are better, you will shine yourself, attract the attention of others, and others will be willing to associate with you.

As a continuous learner, you often encounter big names who are many times better than yourself, and in their circle, they are crushed into scum every minute. Despite this, you still have no regrets in various elite learning groups, because in such a group, you will be inspired to work harder and live a different life.

When I meet excellent and not arrogant people, I will try my best to find opportunities to contact, for example, if I have any questions I don't understand, I can take the opportunity to ask for advice, after all, people will generally receive them if they ask for advice with an open mind.

If you want to get into a higher circle, you don't necessarily need to be excellent in all aspects, but you must have a very, very prominent highlight, otherwise you are worthless to the circle. If you don't have a specialty that you can get your hands on, you can either train one with your life, or you can still be an ordinary person with peace of mind.

People who are not excellent in life must have the quality of loving a certain aspect of their own excellence, and some people with good qualities will get together and influence each other. Let go of the so-called face, learn and get closer to people like this, and you will become better and better.

Give full play to a sports specialty that you are interested in, you will slowly get to know a lot of people, know a lot of outstanding talents from all walks of life, and only after getting to know will you have the opportunity to contact the circle of those people and meet more excellent people.

Focus on improving your abilities. No matter what kind of work you are engaged in, first improve your personal ability, strive to be the best in the industry, and mention this field to let people know you. In addition to work, there are 1-2 things that you particularly like to do, such as traveling, such as reading, such as sports, etc., and strive to play tricks with your favorite career, at least proficiently.

Go out for a walk more, go out more when you are poor, go home often when you are rich, and develop good habits, such as reading one or two books a week, and develop a habit of reading books, which can make you more self-contained and hierarchical when chatting and discussing things with others, and make more friends, both in life and work. Make more friends, and the more friends you have, the easier the road to go.

After all, this is the Internet era, and there are many ways to socialize, and you can broaden your circle through various channels such as community and circle of friends. Meet people who are better than yourself. Remember, if you want to surround yourself with better people, you must have enough about yourself to attract others.

The environment determines that you can meet excellent talents, and you can improve yourself. If you are not affected by it in a good environment, it is very difficult to improve. Maintain a positive and open mind, a positive lifestyle, release your optimistic emotions from the inside out, get along with others peacefully, and choose people to make friends with.

Be careful and humbly ask for advice, increase your taste, keep learning, let yourself slowly integrate into it, get along with others, is to continue to learn and be learned, learn if you are insufficient, and know more and can not dislike others.

1.By working with the boss, you can get in touch with great people while eating.

2.In a variety of trainings, you will be able to make friends with like-minded and outstanding people and relevant circles.

If your friends are better than yourself, this is your luck, you don't know how to go up and ask them directly, ask politely first, bother you for a few minutes, you have time normally, and then take your questions to ask them, full of harvest.

Based on my experience, I would highly recommend anyone who wants to step out of their circle and join the community. Choose the direction you are interested in, try it, and participate, in this process, you can not only meet a lot of friends with the same frequency, but also meet your mentors and Bole.

That's what I'm thinking at the moment. We should cultivate hobbies. People with the same hobbies get together.

There will definitely be excellent people in this group. It's time to change your appearance. Your appearance includes not only your clothing, hairstyle, figure, and appearance, but also your conversation, temperament, ......Zhang Ailing said:

Talents who don't judge people by their appearance are superficial.

Make yourself excellent first, then you know people, know people, don't always think about knowing excellent people, always want to learn things from him, that other people are stupid and sweet? Just give you benefits, I don't get benefits from you, why do others know you? No matter what the way, the first thing to do is to get out of the house, go to strangers, no matter what industry, what field, what level, talk more about the things around you.

It is only in this conscious communication that you can discover the good people, or the good side of the people. Of course, the Internet is also a quick path, and there are still a lot of people worth getting to know. However, I am afraid that the awareness on the Internet is not enough, and this is a further problem.

Keep your mindset first, be humble to learn from their experience and knowledge, and take some time out every day to learn and improve your abilities. It is said that things gather by like, people by groups, and only when they are excellent, they will contact excellent people.