Why do people sometimes like to be lonely and sometimes hate loneliness?

People are so contradictory, they like to be lonely for a long time, they like to be lonely for a long time, they are not willing to be lonely, they are not willing to be lonely, they are the biggest problem, they have experienced a setback, they will look forward to loneliness after being hit, but they have been lonely for a long time, and they want to find a partner, just like this again and again.

It is said that eating a trench grows a wisdom, but some people are so contradictory, take me as an example, in my relationship experience before going to college, I talked for a long time and was anxious to break up, I couldn't stand this sense of constraint, I felt uncomfortable.

So I left her, but after a long time, I would feel uncomfortable, I should find a partner, and at that time I hated loneliness and was afraid of loneliness.

Maybe it's because of the immature performance, it's just a play for feelings, and when you're tired of playing, you will rest.

But now I'm different, I feel like I've grown up, my understanding of feelings is no longer the same as before, I've been talking to her for a year, and I've experienced all kinds of quarrels during this period, but no matter what kind of contradictions, I may break up and not contact for a few days, but in the end we reconciled.

Because I've been with her for a long time, I don't have the freshness I had at the beginning, and the longer I talked, the lighter the feeling became, but after being separated for a few days, I felt so uncomfortable alone.

Loneliness is so terrible, I hate it, why should I be cheap, I don't have to be like this.

I'm used to living with her, and I don't feel comfortable when I don't have her, and then I want to go to her, but fortunately she accepts.

It's a lesson, life is like ups and downs, and feelings are no exception.

We're all adults, don't treat feelings as child's play, let's talk about it together, don't like loneliness and hate loneliness.

In this noisy world, many things have passed before they have time to savor them, and we are high-level emotional animals, sometimes very contradictory. Each of us is an individual, we have our own little world, in this small world, there are secrets that belong to you alone, as long as you don't tell it, no one will know. You may be introverted in front of your friends and don't like to talk, but in your inner world you are an emotional person, maybe you are very cheerful and lively in front of outsiders, but in fact you are a little pessimistic or even inferior in your heart.

That's how we exist. Sometimes we like to be lonely, but sometimes we are afraid of loneliness and hate it.

When we like to be alone, we enjoy being alone and find the people around you annoying. I just want to be alone, read quietly, listen to **, and feel uncomfortable in life. I feel that everything I do is full of rituals, I feel that everything can be my own decision, I don't have to care about other people's feelings and thoughts, I can come how I want, and I don't have to deliberately cater to others.

But sometimes we hate loneliness, afraid of being alone, and like to play with friends. When I was alone, I felt uncomfortable and uncomfortable. Especially when we are wronged, I especially hope that there are friends who can comfort you by your side, encourage you, face all the malice of this life with you, and let you feel the warmth that you have not felt for a long time.

When you are sick, your emotions become fragile, you crave someone who can be there for you and take care of you, and when you are alone, you feel very pitiful.

Because our emotions and emotions are not static, they are constantly changing, so our needs for loneliness are also constantly changing. To give a simple example, when we are walking on the road and hear a bird calling, when we are in a good mood, we will feel that the bird is very beautiful and pleasant, and the mood becomes better, and we want to hear the bird again, but when we are in a bad mood, we will feel very irritable when we hear the bird, feel upset about the call, and hope that it will not call again.

Our perception and attitude towards the same thing has changed due to a change in our mood. This simple example can show that our needs are constantly changing, sometimes we want to be alone, sometimes we want to be with others, and we don't want to be alone. These are all very normal, lonely people will also have times when they need others, and people who like to be with others will also have times when they want to be alone and quiet.

Because of the change of mood, our needs are also changing, and everything comes from the ups and downs of the heart.

I like loneliness because I hate noisy scenes, and I hate loneliness because I don't like the loneliness when I'm alone. As far as I'm concerned, I like to be alone a lot of the time, I feel very comfortable when I'm alone, and no one will dissuade you from doing whatever I want to do under the banner of being good for you.

When I am alone, I also have the fun of being alone, I will watch **feel the joys and sorrows of **characters, I will watch my favorite movies alone without catering to other people's preferences, I will eat my favorite things alone without wronging myself according to other people's habits, these times, I enjoy the loneliness of being alone. However, there are times when I hate the feeling of loneliness. When you walk around campus alone, you feel uncomfortable, as if everyone will say:

You see, this girl is alone, and she has no friends. <>

It's also lonely when I go shopping alone, and no one comes to be my other mirror and give me pertinent advice. When I'm alone in the dormitory, I'm most bored, I don't have anyone to talk to, watch funny TV with me, talk about gossip, and at this time, I hate being alone.

For me, I am the one who sometimes likes to be lonely and sometimes fears loneliness, because everyone is a contradiction in itself, and some things are inexplicable. There's a reason why you like solitude, and there's a reason why you don't like it.

For example, when you see a lot of people going out in groups, or you see pairs of friends having dinner together on the road, or you see that your classmates have a lot of very good friends, you think about yourself, you think of yourself as a lonely person who has no friends, and you hate being lonely at this time. I remember one class meeting, I sat in the corner and looked out of place, because I knew very few people and didn't like to take the initiative to deal with others, so I was very lonely.

At that time, I was very afraid, because I was afraid that others would see my loneliness, see my loneliness, see my fear, and I was very envious of those enthusiastic classmates who had many good friends, and they were surrounded by many friends, and they could play and laugh together. It won't be like me, sitting alone in the corner, not knowing what to do, and being extremely lonely. However, sometimes I hate the feeling of a lot of people being noisy, and I enjoy solitude, and I like to read a book or drink a cup of coffee alone and enjoy the afternoon.

If you often live a noisy life, you will inevitably get a little tired of it, and yearn for that kind of quiet and quiet life.

If one day you are sad, or you encounter something that makes you very sad, even if you have more friends around you at this time, I think it is useless, because at this time you are sad enough, and you no longer need any friends, you just want to stop and think quietly, and think about things quietly.

Loneliness is the nature of human beings, because everyone comes into this world alone, and only after entering a family does they begin to become not alone, and at the same time, human beings have begun to get used to living in groups, so human beings will be afraid of loneliness. This creates a very ambivalent human psyche, sometimes preferring solitude, but at some times fearing the existence of loneliness. This is because people are an independent individual, they need their own independent space, and at the same time, they need the care and companionship of someone to be able to feel the value and warmth of their own existence.

It is undeniable that loneliness is an essential trait of a person, but living in a group can bring great benefits to human beings, such as many things that cannot be done by one person alone, and can only be done through the unity of many people. In some situations, we hate loneliness when it has begun to threaten the current state of our lives, and we crave loneliness when we desperately need peace and solitude. In the face of this fickle psychology of human beings, I can only say that we enjoy loneliness when we like it, and integrate with others when we hate it, so that we can deal with the change of mentality between liking loneliness and hating loneliness.

Some people find it difficult to come out of loneliness after they enter loneliness, and some people find it difficult to accept the loneliness of being alone after getting used to group life. Whatever your situation, the most important thing is a change in your mindset, and I believe that over time you will be able to make a good transition between the two.

Loneliness can't be a general summary of its good and bad, when the element of loneliness is just right, our life will have a taste, but once it is excessive, it may affect our interpersonal relationships and life, and will make us miss many beautiful things in life.

Different scenarios have different needs. After all, people are social animals and can't be alone all the time, but there is always a sense of loneliness in the crowd. When you're alone, you're more able to think better.

With the development of society and the change of personal concepts, singleness has become a new fashion, more and more people choose to be single, and more and more people are willing to remain single for a long time. However, living alone brings us not only freedom and independence, but also feelings of loneliness and helplessness. Although singleness has become a social trend, and some people still feel lonely because they are single, this will happen

1.Because the activation of the single student group without companionship will make you feel lonely, when you encounter difficulties in your single life, you will feel lonely because of the lack of love, and because of the lack of love in your single life, single people will feel lonely in their daily life, which will make them feel lonely. 2.

Although the single life is carefree and has no worries to be disturbed by others, but in the state of living alone, you are unaccompanied and alone, which will make you feel lonely. We need to socialize in daily life, we need to share our feelings and happiness with others, if we are unaccompanied, our feelings will not be released, and we will feel lonely because of this, and people who live alone will encounter difficulties and no one to help, this predicament will make him feel lonely. 3.

In our daily life, when we encounter difficulties, our relatives, friends and loved ones will help us in time, which will make us feel warm. But for a person who lives singlely, when he encounters difficulties, he will face the problem of no one to help him, and this situation will be unbearable for him, and thus he will feel lonely. The greater the difficulties you encounter, the more lonely you will feel, and the lack of love in a single life is the most lonely.

4.When you are with your lover, you will feel full of happiness, and you are the happiest and happiest at this time. But for those who live singlely, they do not have the company of their lovers, and they will not experience the feeling of love, this situation will make him have a strong sense of loneliness, and many people will even choose to give up their single life because of this, to take the initiative to pursue love, so even if singleness becomes a social trend, many people will feel lonely because of singleness, and then take the initiative to fall in love and pursue their own happy love.