Is there anything that a woman must understand before graduating from college?

In fact, you have heard these things before graduation, some parents often nag, some teachers often remind, and classmates often talk about them, but you have actually heard these things, but if you take them to heart, there are few things.

I'll just talk about a few things from my point of view, I think it's very useful, the first thing is, you must pay attention to your own safety, no matter what you do, safety is the first, work alone outside, you have to have some vigilance about everything, not because there is no trust between people, the most important thing is that there is no harm in vigilance, this is a guarantee for your own safety, and you often put some anti-bad things in your bag, and you must also prevent opening the door to strangers if you live alone, no matter what you hear, don't open the door, it's best to put a pair of large men's shoes at the door, after all, there are too many means now, go home alone at night, don't go to a black car or a car without safety, it's best to go home with friends, be careful in everything.

There is also a property problem, don't go to a stranger to scan the code or something, or when withdrawing money, he said that because of some problems, the money can't be withdrawn, and it is urgent, so it will be transferred to you, you give him cash, don't believe it, this is the best means, to believe that there is no free lunch in the world, don't pay a greater price because of some small cheapness, and there is a lot of people, pay attention to your own things, be careful of thieves, if you encounter a robbery, you must not be too impulsive, try to stabilize your emotions, give him things, Then memorize his physical features or something, or try to go to a more crowded place.

The rest is the workplace, you must work after graduation, you will definitely suffer a lot of grievances at the beginning of the workplace, a lot of unfairness, but this is all to experience, only let yourself become strong to support, secondly, you also have to make yourself more excellent, capable, so that you will be appreciated, have the opportunity to show your ability, talented, strength to the best will be used. If you are not active, no one will help you find opportunities, and opportunities are won by yourself.

There is one more thing, that is, you have to learn to endure, endure the grievances you usually suffer, endure the coldness you feel, endure loneliness, you will feel lonely and helpless when you go out to work alone, especially in a strange city, it will be even more lonely, at this time you will also become sensitive and vulnerable, but you have to get used to it, because no matter in **, except for being by your parents' side, you will have this feeling, no one will always be with you, even if it is your boyfriend, he can't accompany you all day long and help you solve things, So learn to be independent, be strong, and learn to be mature so that you can stand alone.

Reality! Wake up and face it, girl!

In today's era, how can there be love, stop dreaming!

My boyfriend Xiao Xu and I have been together for nine years, although we have experienced a lot, didn't we finally break up?

In the summer of the third year of junior high school, we officially became boyfriend and girlfriend, in fact, for a long time before, we already liked each other, I remember the second year of junior high school, Xiao Xu confessed to me, saying that he liked me and wanted to be with me. At that time, I didn't have that energy, and my parents were strict, and I was also a girl with a soft personality, so I didn't agree to him, but at that time I already had a good impression of him, and I also promised him, "If you and I are still single in the summer of the third year of junior high school, then we will be together and never separate!" A year has passed, this summer is very beautiful, the flowers are extraordinarily brilliant, the leaves on the trees are surprisingly green, and our love has sprouted.

In the blink of an eye, we walked through three years of high school together. Three springs, summers, autumns and winters, the cherries on campus are ripe three times, and every corner here is our good memory. "It's infuriating!

Obviously there are only three minutes left before school ends, and the math teacher has to continue to talk about a big problem, which is annoying, are you in a hurry? It's okay, it's okay to wait for a while, because it's you, I'm willing to wait as long as I want. "Full of happiness, Xiao Xu has touched me too much.

Soon, it was another summer. We sat in the college entrance examination hall and wished to go to the same university. On the night of the results, we were nestled together on the couch, and the results were a bit disappointing. In the end, I went to a three-school school for him.

In this way, we have been together for four years of university life, and we have experienced too much together. The relationship has always been good.

Four years have passed in the blink of an eye, and it is another summer. In the college graduation season, we took a lot of ** on the playground that day, and went to the beach outside the campus at night, and I went there many times in four years, but this trip at night was sad and even.

I leaned on his shoulder, waiting for the sunset together, he said something out, "In this life, I am the luckiest to meet you, I love you, but, but let's break up, my father arranged a blind date for me, it is the daughter of Mr. Li of Qingfeng Group, well, I decided, let all our good things end here." ”

I didn't speak, I didn't move in his arms, it was getting dark, and the sea breeze was very cool that day. I didn't cry, but my heart was dripping blood, and it was already full of holes.

The eyes are straight and I think about our experiences in the past nine years, there are bitterness, there are joys, there are too many.

No matter how sad and unbearable you are at night, doesn't the sun still rise the next day? At sunrise, I got up from his arms, and there was nothing, and the time from sunset to sunrise was less than twelve hours, and everything changed.

Goodbye Xiao Xu, goodbye to my love, my youth ......

Girl, the girl's nine-year relationship was defeated by the daughter of an unknown group boss, and lost to this cruel society. The real society is hell, and there is no need for us to delusion about the beauty of heaven.

Love is fake, it's an old witch who specializes in deceiving little girls, we understand, we must understand!

One: have taste.

After the girl reaches the age of 20, she will begin to learn to manage herself with her heart, it is reflected in her appearance and cultivation, every girl is special, should have her own unique taste, many girls may feel that taste and fashion or luxury goods are linked, in fact, it is not, taste is a person's attitude when observing things.

The same thing, different people will appear in different versions, the value of the item itself has nothing to do with the level of taste, the girl has to use her own eyes to appreciate a thing, with a high taste to choose things.

2. Develop the habit of reading books.

When girls reach their twenties, they have begun to slowly get in touch with society, and in the process of interacting with others, conversation and cultivation are the most able to conquer others. I don't believe that a girl who doesn't like to read can be full of wisdom.

When you have nothing to do, go to the bookstore, carefully pick a few books that can improve yourself and buy them to read at home, whether it is a famous book or financial management or motivation, there are places worth learning from us, books can enrich people's lives, but also can make people's minds change, choose to read a good book, better than an excellent counselor.

Choosing the right books can teach people a lot of philosophies and will teach you to face the pain or joy of life with a peaceful mind.

Three: Try to discover the beauty in life.

When a girl reaches her twenties, she has to escape from those gloomy **, it will only make everyone get closer and closer to sadness, and life is not a copy of the plot in **. Don't always remind yourself of the misfortunes you encounter, you must know that there are many people in this world who are more unfortunate than you, as long as you can look up and see the sunshine, you are lucky, and those setbacks in life are just a small episode compared to a person's life.

If you want to gain a foothold in this society, you must have a peaceful mind, in the life of gains and losses, we are always choosing, and we are also chosen by others, we should have the spirit of Ah Q, the life of pain and happiness are our choices, why let yourself indulge in pain?

Some people get themselves into an unfortunate state of mind because of emotional or work setbacks, which leads them to become pessimistic people who are afraid of everything they do, afraid of losing, or feel that they will not succeed. What a person advertises herself as, she can only live in the prison she has set for herself, who is qualified to say that she will not succeed?

Who would dare to say that they will not succeed? People who want to succeed are optimistic people, pessimism is always an obstacle to success, only positive sentiment will make life better, I believe that tomorrow will be better than today, as long as you work hard, the society must be fair, don't complain about life, otherwise it can only prove that you don't really work hard.

Four: Make friends with thoughtful and excellent people.

When a girl reaches her twenties, she must begin to choose friends purposefully, connections in society are very important, and the circle of friends you choose to join will also have a great impact on your life.

Either start a business, find a job, or go to graduate school, the second is the choice of most people. There are only people and machines in the work, and there will be no difference between men and women, so you have to give up the idea of giving priority to women, no one will accommodate you, only if you adapt to the work, no one will take care of your face at work, and no one will spoil you.

For the society, you are no longer a baby, from now on you should have goals, plans, and actions, and if you can't do it, you should correct the direction and go to the black.

Read more, be sure to read more in school.

If the undergraduate school is very ordinary, and you are still majoring in liberal arts, then you must take the postgraduate examination.

Don't decide the direction of your life for anyone.

Interpersonal relationships in society should start to think more about how to deal with them.

There is also a matter of work, whether it is a professional counterpart, and whether there is a relationship to be able to enter a better unit after coming out, this can be considered more.

If you have a boyfriend, think about how you want to go in the future, and think about it more.

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Do you want to continue your education or prepare to work and get married.

Talk about my personal feelings:

First, after graduating from college, you know that even the cleaner is more proud of you because he has at least a sustainable job.

Second, after graduating from college, I realized that my romance was based on my parents' hard-earned money, and I used to be so insatiable, others must have it, if not, it must be the fault of my parents.

Third, after graduating from college, I realized that what does it mean that the four bodies are not diligent and the grains are not divided? In addition to the books, the knowledge of society is almost blank.

Fourth, after graduating from college, I realized that the score was completely useless. My previous red bar was a score, and now the red bar is the boss's smiling face. Because he's in charge of paying you.

Fifth, after graduating from college, I realized that the pride of the sky is a joke. It turns out that everyone has always been equal, even unequal. Those who can make money can always laugh at those who can read.

Sixth, after graduating from college, I realized that the so-called major is all about my own 4 years of self-entertainment, and there is almost no professional counterpart job, just a diploma, giving you a blank starting point, and you have to re-learn.

Seventh, after graduating from college, I realized that the love between students is so fragile. I broke up as soon as I graduated, and I couldn't catch up with my aunt and grandfather who sold wontons, and diligence is a lifetime!

Eighth, after graduating from college, I realized that I needed to cook the rice myself, and I regretted that I had complained about the master in the cafeteria. Now even instant noodles can deal with a day or two, recalling cheap and delicious meals in the university cafeteria.

Ninth, after graduating from college, I realized that there are so many college students in each unit, and everyone is still serving tea and pouring water, but you can't even enter the company's door.

Tenth, after graduating from college, I realized that the classmates who hate each other with you are so sincere and beautiful. Because in the work, people are not uncommon to hate each other, and all they use are small tricks that pull their hind legs.

The deceit in society should only be known after graduation, because most people in society are selfish.

After graduating from university. You know how wonderful those times in college are when you have nothing to do. will understand how tolerant the school and teachers are to you.

It's hard to find a job, and being unemployed after graduation is a problem that we have to face and solve, and it's our parents who carry the weight for us in college.

The relationship during college is still quite fragile, as soon as they graduate, they all returned to their respective cities and started a long-distance relationship, everyone is an adult, and they are all thinking about the future, and the possibility of breaking up is even greater.

During college, you must learn more skills, study more certificates, leave the dormitory more, participate in more activities and learn more things, don't get by, and make your college life meaningful.